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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we have been friends for years before this. The relationship is excellent and I really love him and I know he feels the same. 3 months ago P started his job and I started my placement year (he has finished uni, I have a placement year then another year at uni to go) I met 2 of his friends (another couple), the guy had been friends with P through school and his girlfriend is friends with P also. The couple have been together for number of years ago. It was a brief meeting and the guy (A) suggested to P a double date sometime. This never occurred however Tuesday of last week instead I ended up out with 3 other couples, all of bens friends from school, it wasn’t fun as I felt really left out as I had nothing in common with them all and they didn’t really talk to me even when I tried. I didn’t really want to go as I don’t like to be out too late on a work night as I commute to London everyday so I leave the house at quarter to 7, however Tuesday I had had to travel to Manchester so had had a much longer day than normal and was exhausted but I still went, even though the next day I was leaving the house at 5.30am for another site visit. I didn’t want to disappoint P so I went but I really didn’t like it as I tried to talk to people but it was no success. I have had a really bad week this week, we had plans to go out for a walk, then dinner out then meet a friend of mine for a drink on sat. However, my friend has pulled out and parents are now insisting I go to a family bbq. P has now suggested that we could drop it for a bit then go to the beach or something for the evening and he also said he could see if A and his girlfriend want to come. I had nothing in common with the girlfriend and we didn’t click, A I couldn’t really talk to as his girlfriend can be a bit possessive and when I have spoken to him I get the impression he is a bit of an arse. Going to the beach with P would be lovely, however going with this couple is the last thing I actually want to do this weekend. Any ideas how to politely tell him this? Or should I just suck it up and go? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2011):
Just tell him exactly what you've said here. You've have a bad week, and you just want to spend some time alone with him. Be clear. Then he has no excuse to misunderstand, and if he tries to convince you otherwise you can just decide not to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): I think your boyfriend is just trying to be social and include everyone, that's understandable. But obviously you need to spend some quality time alone as well, I think maybe the best compromise is to go along with the other couple this time, and at the next opportunity, plan a romantic date/trip/outing for just you and your boyfriend, to ensure that no one else tags along this time
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