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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm an average sized 15 yr. old girl- 5'6", 130lbs, ect.. and I model on the side. But guys at my school have never showed interest in me. I'm outgoing and athletic and generally easy to get along with, but they find me unattractive! My brother is 18 and is always warning me about how his friends from college find me attractive and I need to be careful, but I don't see it!Why are guys at my school not interested like older guys?What can I do to make the guys at my school interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (4 October 2011):
 just be yourself, have self respect,and don't be easy.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (1 October 2011):
If you are attractive enough to model it may be that the boys are a bit intimidated by your looks- the 'We Are Not Worthy' syndrome. This sometimes means you'll be passed over by the nice guys but targeted by the annoying, louder types. It could be an age thing; the average 15 year old girl is far more mature than the average 15 year old boy. As your brother has pointed out his own contemporaries, being older and more mature have noticed you, so there's certainly nothing wrong with you. Just keep up with your schoolwork and activities, keep modeling and things will sort themselves out.
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reader, Batterytea  +, writes (1 October 2011):
 Your description of yourself sounds like me (excluding the fact that you model on the side). I'm thinking you're still young, so don't rush it. I've got friends my age and even older who've never been in a relationship or kissed.Schools are a bit like countries; they have their own culture and people and ways of doing things. One of those things are the guys and what kind of girls they're interested in. The culture of your bro's college and your school are probably pretty different. It's just like how guys in my old school weren't attracted to me but now guys at my new school are.But like I said, don't rush it. Give it time and don't try to MAKE guys be attracted to you. Physical looks definitely aren't everything when it comes to guys liking you. It means that he doesn't like you because of your personality, so if he sees someone prettier than you, he'd dump you in a heartbeat.I actually recently discovered that looks aren't the only thing that makes a guy sexy. One guy in my chemistry class is a total geek but he can do complicated questions in a snap, and it's actually the hottest thing. So maybe you should find something you're really good at, and embrace it :)
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