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*rokenbridge
writes:im rlly feeling bad ... i just broke up with my boyfriend ..i loved him to death but i think he cheated ... our relation was within distance ...and one day we were talking on msn and i told him im going out with friends ..he agreed and he asked me to ask friends for something ...i went out and i late little bit ... when i back home internet wasnt working .. i called him and he answer soo late on phone ...but we talked .. i told him dont worry im at home and they are repairing internet ... finally internet is bk ... i went on msn ..i was happy screaming his name ...i was happy cuz i did what he asked me to do out and cuz internet bk ... and cuz dad will not cut internet at midnight like everyday ... on msn i was type and send but he answer so late after 4 lines ... i typed again and same.. but this time he didnt answer ... i got mad and i told him i see u r busy so brb ... here he answer so fast and he said "ok bye" ... i got mad and i told him i think u r busy cheating me .. sudenly he went ofline ...when i was blaming him and telling him i think u cheated cuz u answer phone late on msn u answer late and u ignore and u push me to leave by saying "ok bye" ..and by leaving msn while i was talking ..here instead of explain to me .. he throw back the blame saying i did cheated him when i went out .. i explained that i went out with girls ... but he keep making a projection as if im the one who cheated .. without explaining why he was answer late on phone and msn and why he ignored me and why he push me to leave ...i have my reasons to think he cheated... i asked him to say his reason why he think i cheated but he didnt answer... i explained that i was with girls and i didnt cheat ... but he never explained why he was answer late ... ignore and push me to leave .. and when i didnt leave he left ...plz anyone can tell me who had really the bihavior of cheater ... the one who came happy but got rejected even that explained all the blames or the one who was cold answering late ignoring .. pushing the other to leave by saying "bye" and leaving msn without explain till this moment ....i need ur opinion please ...
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reader, brokenbridge +, writes (1 October 2011):
brokenbridge is verified as being by the original poster of the question youwish thnx for the answer...i want tell u its been days now withouit he explain or say why he did that ...he was just throwing bk the blame that im cheater instead of telling the reason why he answer late why he was busy why he was cold why he was ignoring why he told me bye when i said brb and why he went offline without explain...if he just be clear ...thats why i still think he is cheating..it was like i came online in bad time cuz he was busy ... he answer late he ignore he told me bye provoke the fight he left when i didnt leave ... cuz he was rlly need me to go i get it too ...for me when he said im cheating himi explained i said i was with girls .. but he didnt do anything to calm me down ... im the younger and i act clear he is older and he act blur ...weird!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 October 2011):
 Tell me you didn't break up with him on MSN messenger??
Personally, I don't think either one of you showed "cheater behavior". Just because it's late and he's a little less enthusiastic and quick about answering emails does not make him a cheater.
Also, you can't break up with someone as a weapon to get attention. If you break up, you shouldn't intend to do so unless you're absolutely done with the relationship.
What you should have done in this case is wait until the light of day and talked it out with the guy in person. If you say that the relationship is long distance, then you could have used the phone. What I think this is is a misunderstanding that you blew way out of proportion, coupled by your insecurity at the distance of this relationship. You jumped to the conclusion that if he wasn't being hyper-attentive to you, then surely his feelings were fading, and he must be cheating.
I get it, but you handled this wrong.
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reader, brokenbridge +, writes (1 October 2011):
brokenbridge is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi .. thnx for the answer...but do u think if it's the first time he did it i would publish that on a blog?we did that almost when we dont find solution for some prob that we try to solve it by ourself but we fail and we need help so.. last days he used to answer late everytime i come on msn .. and i had the feeling he is planing to leave me for any trivial reason ...he is used to spend all the day on internet close to his computers ...anyway for me 1 answer late on phone2 answer late on msn 3 being cold and ignoring me4 pushing me to leave by saying "bye" when we just talked5 going ofline without explain or answer 6 making a project that im the cheater when he have no prooffor me all of that looks like cheater's behavior ...i want make sure ... if u can help plz
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (1 October 2011):
This is just one chat that he didn't respond too? One time? If it is, you are over-reacting. He could have been talking to someone else. Busy. Distracted etc
if this is a one time thing - let it go. If there are other reasons to not trust him - well then you need to reevaluate.
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