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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 27 November 2013: YOU need to learn that as an adult you can do things your mom does not approve of.
My husband is estranged from his mom totally I doubt she's be pleased with me as his wife. He does not care.
My younger son and his father and stepmother are f... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: so then tell me what is their concern.. what kind of taking care of her is needed?... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: UM OP BIRTH CONTROL pills ARE NOT STEROIDS
and she can have the hair on her lip and chin waxed. I have mine done... and it's the hypothyroidism that causes the hair not the steroids.
if your fiancee is her own payee there is no need for... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: why isn't she on birth control and your dad is not your copayee... you dad is your payee... can you not handle your own funds?... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: LIGHT BULB.... ok NOW I get it... I not only have a child on SSI who is older than you and who I would also be fighting tooth and nail if this was his plan but I work for the AGENCY that administers the program.
ARE yoru parents your REP Pay... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: "they don't want to take care of another person"
are they taking care of you? are you not pulling your own weight...are you not paying rent?
what does taking care of you involve?
what would taking care of her involve?
can you two... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 25 November 2013: OP your fiancee has a seizure disorder. I understand that and since it was not well controlled till recently her mother has been overprotective I understand that.
I want to ask you a personal question. I sense that there is some inabilit... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't approve of the man that I love
Q. Hi, I am marsha. I am 25 year old graduated last year. I love someone who is younger than me. WE were friends before. I know him past 3 year now. We got close like best friend the end of 3year. Then one fine day he asked me out .. not just dating b...
A. 25 November 2013: so you mom wants you to dump this guy you love and meet and marry someone RIGHT AWAY? does she not realize it will be at least a year after meeting a new fellow that you will decide to marry or not?
IGNORE your mother... do not live your li... (read in full...)
Don't want to miss out on the opportunity but afraid I'll develop feelings for him
Q. Hi, just asking for your opinion. There is this 50's plus amazing guy at work. He is one of those rare types who attract young girls, more than guys their own age! At work, every and I mean literally every girl would do anything to go out with him(I ...
A. 25 November 2013: OP you talk of missed opportunities. What do you think would happen? Here’s what would happen, you are in lust and you would sleep with him and fall more in lust and limerence and he WOULD NOT CARE because he got to stick is dick in yet another ... (read in full...)
How do I keep an older man interested?
Q. I really like this guy who is around 8 years older than me. Hes a great guy, has all the qualities I'm looking for but IDK how to keep his interest. I feel like he's losing interest even though he says hes not he's just been a little busy with work, ...
A. 25 November 2013: OP, early on in any relationship daily contact is not needed.
When I met my husband who is much younger than I am, he was not a daily contact kind of person and we lived 2 hours apart and it was hard for me, AFTER we got serious I told him I ne... (read in full...)
Advice With Long Distance Relationship.
Q. To make a long story short, I met this girl, She's just about one of the hottest girls I've met, and we started talking about 4 weeks ago when she added me and we have been talking on the phone a lot lately. Yesterday was the day we got in a ...
A. 23 November 2013: DEAR OP,
until you two meet in person and find out if your chemistry is there offline there is not much you can do....
1. getting hard ons is normal for a young man your age who sees an attractive woman and YES your body wants to have sex wi... (read in full...)
How do I keep an older man interested?
Q. I really like this guy who is around 8 years older than me. Hes a great guy, has all the qualities I'm looking for but IDK how to keep his interest. I feel like he's losing interest even though he says hes not he's just been a little busy with work, ...
A. 23 November 2013: You must be true to yourself... to do anything else would be phoney.
IN fact, being yourself is the only way to go. If he's not interesting int he real you why would you want him?
You aren't dating you don't really know him, you think you w... (read in full...)
Am I not good enough? Boyfriend didn't get turned having a shower with me.
Q. My boyfriend and I just showered together and through out that whole time he didn't get hard. He didn't even touch me (which is unusual). And then like 2 hours later I was fully dressed and he cracked a boner and when I asked what over he replied ...
A. 23 November 2013: just because he was naked and wet with you does not mean he wanted sex... besides trust me sex in the shower is over rated.
what you need to do is stop over thinking this.
... (read in full...)
Why is fiancee's mother so against us living together?
Q. Due to my circumstances to save money for a wedding. Her mother doesn't care if we make it or not. Is that fair? My fiancée is afraid to come out of her room to be around her mom. Because her mother caresses her face behind her back like a baby. My ...
A. 23 November 2013: No BrentLIves her MOTHER is NOT the one making this difficult it's your fiancee not willing to stand up to her that's making it difficult.
You have posted before about this and it appears your fiancee is not really ready to be an adult.
Yo... (read in full...)
I accidentally missed a call from a guy I'm interested in. What should I do?
Q. This guy tried to call me late last night. What should I say to him? I met this guy last weekend, and we have been texting each other quite a lot this week. I texted him last night, asking him what he was doing, and he said he was going playing ...
A. 22 November 2013: a call at 11:45 at night is a booty call... be glad you missed it.
the fact that he said he didn't mean to call you and is not making an effort to contact you or ask you out during "normal" hours does not bode well for how he feels about you.
... (read in full...)
Co-worker using son for excuses to get out of work and he's not sick!
Q. I'm really annoyed at the fact that my colleague uses her son to get out of work early and have time off by saying he's ill when he's not!! She called in on a Friday once saying that her son had a really high temperature and could barely wal...
A. 22 November 2013: Karma has a way of paying back people in Kind.
I am pretty sure you need to just sit back and wait for the train wreck.... (read in full...)
Three days ago I suffered a miscarriage. Do I tell my ex bf/good friend I miscarried his baby?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I are 11 years a part, Im 18. We dated secretly to avoid the scandel as we knew he was moving away in december. Last week he ended it early and we are still on really good terms. Its tricky when we both are attracted to eac...
A. 22 November 2013: If you plan to stay in touch or are still in touch I think telling him is the right thing to do.
Men are entitled to know they are fertile.
But I also agree a trip to the doctor is warranted.
IF you were using protection then how do... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 22 November 2013: Take them very slow... I fear he is telling you what you want to hear so he can get what he wants which is IN YOUR PANTIES.... (read in full...)
My instincts tell me he's not one for a FWB
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles I have recently started what is supposed to be a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy who's almost 20 years older than me. He's an incredibly attractive man and we've liked each other for a few weeks and we fin...
A. 22 November 2013: Yeah there's FWB sex and there's NSA sex. they often get confused.
Cindy makes good points.. he may be saying what he knows is expected of a guy (back when he was your age FWB was not really acceptable for young ladies) who is sleeping cas... (read in full...)
Its great that he's a good dad, but I want to feel important too!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 2 year old daughter. I have changed myself to accept this situation and moved past it. But now, when he invites me to hang out with them, i usually don't bc i don't like how it makes me feel around them. And i don't ...
A. 22 November 2013: It's once a week he sees his TWO YEAR OLD CHILD and you are jealous that he focuses his attention on her for that SHORT period of time. ONE day out of 7 he gets to see her... that's not much at all.
I think your expectations of having his 100%... (read in full...)
Is my husband happy that I asked for the divorce?
Q. After 11 years of marriage I found out that my husband was completely diferent of the one I though he was.He always had female friends which he always helped,send some gifts...but since a while he was connecting a lot with them and I was feeling ...
A. 21 November 2013: yep he did what my ex did.. set it up so you look like the bad guy.
clearly he wanted out but wanted you to ask...... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancée's mother bribing me with gas cards?
Q. Why is my fiancee's mother bribing me with gas cards, when I've put on 6300 miles in the last two months? My fiancee can't drive because of her seizure disorder (though it has been getting more under control recently). We currently live 45 minutes ...
A. 21 November 2013: OH the follow up helps... I GET IT NOW...
the "bribe" of gas cards is to prevent "living in sin"
does fiancee want to move with you? you are both adults you can do what you want. so move in together...
so solve this:
go to the c... (read in full...)
How can I help my son financially without it causing further tension?
Q. 21 November 2013: My 29 year old son has just got himself a good job but he is on 6 months probation before his position is confirmed. He needs a car to get to and from work and has no money to fund the purchase himself. He is unlikely to be able to ...
A. 21 November 2013: You can offer to buy him a car. Since it's your money you can control the type of car.
HE has the right to refuse your gift.
I would say "son I am willing to buy you abc car but I cannot in good conscious buy or allow you to buy with my mone... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancée's mother bribing me with gas cards?
Q. Why is my fiancee's mother bribing me with gas cards, when I've put on 6300 miles in the last two months? My fiancee can't drive because of her seizure disorder (though it has been getting more under control recently). We currently live 45 minutes ...
A. 21 November 2013: How is she trying to bribe you with gas cards?
if your fiancee can't drive and you are doing all the driving the gas cards are her way of saying thank you and pulling her weight...
... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for us? Should I contact him again within a few months? Or should I just forget about him?
Q. I'll keep it short since our 'relationship' was short too. I met this guy at a party 3 weeks ago. We had an instant click and an amazing evening. He told me he came just out of a long relationship and was single for just 1 month. He's 23, i'm 26 ...
A. 21 November 2013: Your English was awesome... I understood exactly what you are asking...
I would not contact him. I would just assume he's really NOT ready for a relationship but he thought he was so he tried.
YOU like him so you were intimate with him and tha... (read in full...)
Does my B/f still miss his ex? How often do they talk? Was their relationship better than ours? Am I a rebound to him?
Q. Dear cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and we were friends/talking for 2 months before we got together. When him and I first met and were in the friends/talking kind of stage, he still had feelings for his ex and they talked ofte...
A. 21 November 2013: they had a three year relationship and are apart 8 months.. it's hard to let go of things.
I have found with my ex partners if we ended because it was just not a good fit we would stay in touch more at first and as time went on less and less.
... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend had drinks with male friends at her place late at night. Is that acceptable?
Q. My ldgf was having some drinks with her female roomate and a couple of guys until 3 am at her place. is it acceptable? Here's the story: when we skyped she said she was going to bed and we were about to end our converstation when her phone rang and ...
A. 21 November 2013: I also do not think she did anything wrong. I was LDR with my husband for a year. I get LDRs. I get insecurity but you are over the top.
1. She told you the next day what happened. HER responses seem reasonable and plausible to me.
2. Your ins... (read in full...)
My ex and I are back together but he was dating another girl during our break and I wonder things like if he "loved" her and how serious they were
Q. so my ex and i have started to rekindle things a bit. we have been broken up for about 4 months and i know through friends that he had a brief girlfriend sometime during the time we were broken up. i cant help but think about that other relationship ...
A. 21 November 2013: Cerberus is correct if he did not leave you for her and she was just filler it was rebound and you are better off letting it go and NOT worrying about it.
... (read in full...)
My husband won't have sex with me!!
Q. My husband won't have sex with me. Been together 8 years, married for almost 1, he's 9 years older than me (I'm in my 20s, he's in his 30s). Our lives and relationship is pretty good EXCEPT this damn problem. About a year before the marriage our...
A. 21 November 2013: Welcome to my world... only I'm 53 and like a horny 18 yr old boy and my hubby of a year is 40...
I thought it was me... that i had gained weight... but guess what HE DOES NOT FEEL SEXY because HE'S GAINED weight... so it's NOT ME... it's him... (read in full...)
Should I just wait until he's in a space where he wants to contact me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met this cool guy through a friend. Im 21, he's 23. She sort of hooked us up, we hadn't seen each other in person but we saw pictures of one another (she showed me), and she got us two talking as I thought he was good looking (in...
A. 21 November 2013: WAIT HIM OUT.
He told you several times he was busy with family issues that it was not you and yet you continued to contact him and demand to know what was going on... two dates do not give you that closeness yet.
HE TOLD YOU... it's NOT YOU ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to comments about my weight?
Q. I think I might have over reacted. I was texting back and forwards with this guy I had not dated yet. Everything was going well until he made this comment ~i don't usually date girls like you, but you look decent~ when i asked him what did he mean ...
A. 21 November 2013: I agree with Honeypie. Weed him out.
YOUR reaction was not over the top but his was. His lecture to you on self-esteem is out of line for a casual "friend"
and it bodes poorly for his ability to be decent date material IMO.
... (read in full...)
If he's happy then why is he still on dating sites?
Q. Hi everyone, I am hoping someone (preferably with experience of this) could shed some light on my problem. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a bit more than three years. He says he is happy. If he is happy, then why does he keep going to dating ...
A. 21 November 2013: OH I was married to a man just like your guy... NOTE I WAS married to him... we are divorced now.
He loved me... but NOT the right way and NOT ENOUGH.
he was always lying and cheating on me behind my back and to my face.. and he WANTED TO GET... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 21 November 2013: OP do not be surprised when the texting and talking on the phone dries up too... once he is 100% sure you will not put out for him as FWB he will disappear....... (read in full...)
How do I find out if my crush is interested without jeopardizing our work?
Q. Hi aunts, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read this question. I've been dating somebody that is completely 'my type' from the way he looks, to his hobbies and dress sense for around the last 5 months, everything has been great. H...
A. 21 November 2013: Well what about the fellow you have been dating for 5 months.. where does he fall into this? Have you left him yet? Are you going to leave him? If not, then why does it matter what happens with the guy at work?
First thing you must do is brea... (read in full...)
How can I be friends with an ex lover ????
Q. I am unhappily married, live under the same roof as husband but we each have our own bedrooms. I have been having an affair with a man in his mid 40's for 3.5 years. He also is married but separated, he lives very close to me ( within 5 minutes...
A. 21 November 2013: Well he's right you are both married and neither of you are in a position to be together with the other properly.
Personally I see no need or reason for us to be friends with ex lovers when it causes pain.
You are in pain when you see him, yo... (read in full...)
Never been in a relationship and don't know how to start
Q. I am 20 and am in med school. And till now i have never been in a serious a relationshir its not like am afraid or anything its just that am afraid of commitment. And since i was 17 my the longest relationship is string of one night stands. But this ...
A. 20 November 2013: Being in a relationship means you are
honest with yourself and your partner 100%
you are committed and do not CHEAT on your partner either emotionally or physically
you make time to be with them and care about them and their wants and nee... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: If you always find a certain type of woman, then it's because for some reason you are drawn to them or seek them out... as to why... well therapy can help there.
My aunt and her wife are both in the social worker field and own a home and are love... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my mother's illness?
Q. My mother recently fell ill un-expectedly 3months ago and it has all just hit me all at once in the last few days and I feel really low at the moment and don't know how to deal with it. Any ideas? Thanks for reading. ...
A. 20 November 2013: Hugs...
I lost my mom to cancer when I was 35 years old. I had less than a year from diagnosis till her death to process all of this. That was 18 years ago.
NOT a day goes by I do not miss my mother.
YOU are so young to have an ill ... (read in full...)
New man that is too protective? Or ex who left me?
Q. Please help,I have a child by my first boyfriend. He cheated and left me when I got pregnant. After a year, he came back and we got back together. After six months together,I left him for because he did not call me for weeks. I have a new boyfriend ...
A. 20 November 2013: I vote for NONE OF THE ABOVE...
An older man who is controlling is NOT a good idea... if you marry you will eventually become a prisoner.. and he will probably mandate what you wear and keep you away from your disapproving family.... I... (read in full...)
Am I silly that I don't want to settle for a man I don't love/he doesn't love me but we get along well?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. hope can get your opinion or help with this problem. I am with my boyfriend for 8 years now, he is my first relationship, only man I've ever been with. I feel I stayed with him a few years too long. He is not from m...
A. 20 November 2013: what do you think love is? what do you think is missing.
you have sex
sex is good
you have fun together
you have a lot in common
he's your best friend?
wow.... I just think that maybe your expectation of what long term true love ... (read in full...)
Went through boyfriends phone and found messages to other girls. Is this cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been going out for almost 7 months now. I've never gone through his stuff before but he left his phone behind today and I got curious. I honestly wasn't expecting anything, maybe just a couple messges from his girl-friends. Wha...
A. 20 November 2013: Pinkbunni3xz you said “I know at the certain point in a relationship, guys start to get bored and then starts messaging girls or looks at girls for whatever reason.”
UMMM… NO that’s not how adult relationships work. My husband may look at ... (read in full...)
Will my friend feel like I am pressuring him if I tell him my feelings?
Q. I have a guy friend who I hang out with. He has been so busy with work lately and the last time I saw him was in the beginning of October. We keep in touch by texting. He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I ...
A. 20 November 2013: OP what caught my eye was this comment you made in the very first paragraph:
“He revealed to me that he is attracted to me and he kissed me the last time I saw him. Recently, I tried to ask him to hang out again and he was telling me how tough re... (read in full...)
Not close to anyone in my family and hate feeling so alone
Q. Hey everyone. I first want to say I appreciate everyone taking their time to read this and give their advice. This is truly a great site. I'm not trying to have a pity party here but this is something I want to get off my chest and maybe even s...
A. 20 November 2013: I'm not close to my blood relatives. My husband is not even in touch with his... we still have "family".
Family to me is the people you choose to be around... you can create a family with a group of friends...
... (read in full...)
Haven't seen him for years but I want him to see me now
Q. Hey everyone, When I was 18 I met this guy on a social networking site we spoke for 6 months day in day out and he came to my city to meet,we just kissed nothing else happened..but I must add however superficial this might sound I wasn't a pretty t...
A. 20 November 2013: You say he didn't make the effort because you were not appealing... are you SURE that's why he didn't make the effort... you may find out it was something that didn't change that turned him off and that would burst your bubble.
I think you wa... (read in full...)
Do other people have frenenemies? Or just friends?
Q. I have friends but I am quite sure that they are mostly frenemies. Things have happened and they have behaved in certain ways and done things that have proven they are not a true friend. Does anybody else feel this way? Is this normal?...
A. 20 November 2013: I have no frenimes... just folks I know as acquaintances that I do not trust.. I do not call them friends.
If people do not support you 100% they are not friends...
sometimes support does not mean being kind however.. if a true friend is to ... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 20 November 2013: OP I have a question for you.
WHAT will happen if you find out that she did lie on purpose and has kept things from you... are you prepared to leave her after 31 years of marriage?
If not, what will change?... (read in full...)
Help with insecure GF who wants a break
Q. My GF has really low self esteem and she's really anxious and insecure. She does not love herself and she has had a hard life. She was almost raped and she had to have an abortion amongst other things. She didn't want to get into a relationship but ...
A. 20 November 2013: She's playing head games OP... she wants you to want her.. she wants you to beg her to come back as an ego stroke.
I think it's for the best that you tell her it's too painful for you to continue to be friendly if you are not dating.
I also ... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't approve of the man that I love
Q. Hi, I am marsha. I am 25 year old graduated last year. I love someone who is younger than me. WE were friends before. I know him past 3 year now. We got close like best friend the end of 3year. Then one fine day he asked me out .. not just dating b...
A. 19 November 2013: Well I can tell you that my son is age 27 and having similar problems with his father and stepmom. THEY do not approve of his choice of girlfriend due to her religion.
His choice: cut them out of his life. And I don't blame him.
As an a... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 19 November 2013: OP,
As I have aged I have refined my idea of what love is and/or was... so folks I THOUGHT I loved back in the day I now realize I did not love them.
with maturity and age comes wisdom.
She's revamped her ideas of the past.
This was TH... (read in full...)
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