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writes:I really like this guy who is around 8 years older than me. Hes a great guy, has all the qualities I'm looking for but IDK how to keep his interest. I feel like he's losing interest even though he says hes not he's just been a little busy with work, and the holidays and a family member passed away so I understand. I really like him and although he's busy a lot, the little time we do have together, I want to be memorable and interesting so how do I?We aren't dating, I haven't known him that long, so sex or any sexual activities are out of the question, plus we both don't want that right now soo...any ideas?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 November 2013):
 OP, early on in any relationship daily contact is not needed.
When I met my husband who is much younger than I am, he was not a daily contact kind of person and we lived 2 hours apart and it was hard for me, AFTER we got serious I told him I needed more contact than he did and we were able to hash out a plan whereby he did not feel smothered I did not feel ignored.
Daily contact is nice but some folks don't need it and his not contacting you daily may or may not mean anything.
If he goes days on end without contact, that says something but to skip a day here or there means nothing.
Also if the contact is just texting or email and not phone calls or plans to get together, you may be more into him than he is into you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks anon,
But although you are busy do you still take time out of each day to at least text her, or do you go a day or two without talking to her?
We've only been friends for a short amount of time, like a month and a half, He isn't obligated to talk to me everyday but If he liked me like he said, wouldn't he want to? I just really don't want to lose his interest. may I be overthinking the situation ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2013): It's true that with the age difference you are both at different stages of your lives. Not to say that things couldn't work out, just that it is a factor.A full time job does eat up a lot of time unfortunately and is just a completely different lifestyle than college for instance (not sure what your case may be).Speaking from the opposite perspective of your situation, I can say that I am in a very similar situation. I went back to college at an older age and met a really great young woman who happens to be seven years younger than me. She is as smart as she is beautiful and very mature compared to other women her age. Unfortunately work has been a bigger factor, among others, which can limit time in my life. It doesn't mean I'm any less interested in the possibility of developing our friendship into something more though.Be memorable by being yourself. He must see something interesting in you if he is wanting to spend time together. At this point it doesn't sound like you can conclude that he is or is not interested with any certainty.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 November 2013):
Exactly what SVC said. Aside from date ideas, you really should do this on your own. If he really does lose interest it may hurt, but it really is just an issue of compatibility.
For now just assume that he is busy so you don't feel insecure.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2013):
You must be true to yourself... to do anything else would be phoney.
IN fact, being yourself is the only way to go. If he's not interesting int he real you why would you want him?
You aren't dating you don't really know him, you think you want to know him... are you SURE he's interested in a romantic relationship with you?
My son at age 26 would not have wanted to date an 18 yr old...
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