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writes:To make a long story short, I met this girl, She's just about one of the hottest girls I've met, and we started talking about 4 weeks ago when she added me and we have been talking on the phone a lot lately. Yesterday was the day we got in a relationship. The state that she lives in is California and I live in Missouri and she is 100 percent real because I know you guys are probably thinking people you meet on the internet are not always real and I was skeptical about this girl before we got on the webcam together and I got to admit it was awkward seeing a model-like girl on video chat.So we are in this relationship, we know each other really well and she is really open with conversation to where I can talk about anything with her.The first thing I need some answers on, is why do I keep getting boners while talking to this girl? And she told me a lot in her past relationships all guys want from her is sex! She is really stunning, and is this a sign that I want sex from her? I keep getting boners when I talk to her!? How can I prevent her from thinking that I just want sex?Another thing that I need advice on is, how can I keep her happy, we can't physically have sex because we cant touch each other but I know this girl really likes me, when we're on the webcam I just get this instinct feeling that its true, I really do like this girl, how can I keep her with me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2013):
 DEAR OP,
until you two meet in person and find out if your chemistry is there offline there is not much you can do....
1. getting hard ons is normal for a young man your age who sees an attractive woman and YES your body wants to have sex with her.. that's what we do as adults.
2. YOU can't keep her happy. YOU are never responsible for another person's happiness.
IF you really like her that much, you must figure out how to meet in person soon. LDRS where you have NOT met yet do not stand a good chance of lasting very long.
It's a long drive so start checking air fares for a long weekend... also you must plan to stay in a hotel if she requests that to prove you are not out to just have sex with her.
I have done LDRs.. only the one that we made the effort to be together regularly and planned to end the gap ASAP (it was a year into the relationship) worked.
There are things LDRS need:
1. trust
2. honesty
3. communication
4. regularly scheduled visits (quarterly visits is the bare minimum I would suggest... every other weekend is more in line with making this really work)
5. MONEY... LOTS OF MONEY.... plane fare is expensive, hotels are expensive (you can't stay with her the first visit it's not appropriate)
and MOST importantly
6. A PLAN TO END THE DISTANCE... within a year or two since you are in school... ONE OF YOU or both of you will have to move to be with the other...
but we are getting ahead of ourselves...for all you know when you meet her, you will find you don't like what you have in real life... that sadly happens often with LDRS where you met ONLINE... it's very different if you've met in person and have to go back to real life
CA TO MO is too long to drive (over a day) air fare when I check is going to be around 300 per trip (I think that's One way) Can you AFFORD this relationship?
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