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writes:I am 20 and am in med school. And till now i have never been in a serious a relationshir its not like am afraid or anything its just that am afraid of commitment. And since i was 17 my the longest relationship is string of one night stands. But this year i met this girl she is sweet, fun and cute we became really good friends and i really realy like her so much which is a feeling i have never felt before. The problem is i dont know the first thing about being in a relation ship and am afraid to admit my feelings. And i dont know how to make the first move(with other girl i just tell them some bullshit) but with this one i really want to be different but i dont know how to start the relationship or how to have the talk. Should i tell or how i feel or do what ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 November 2013):
 Being in a relationship means you are
honest with yourself and your partner 100%
you are committed and do not CHEAT on your partner either emotionally or physically
you make time to be with them and care about them and their wants and needs....
it's not all about you any more.
Relationships need nurturing but if you like her and she likes you it will be easy and natural.
I would wait to approach her about being physically intimate so that she knows you care the way you do but it's time for you to say something like:
"sally I'd like us to get to know each other better would you care to have dinner with me Saturday night?"
don't call her sally though... user he name.. and if dinner is too much (please pay for dinner do not go dutch the first date) then maybe lunch or a coffee at a local shop...
anything where you ask her to go and you pay for it...that's a DATE.. your first... and you go from there.
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reader, shna  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 If you like her then i guess your already showing her the real side of you which your usual string of girls haven't seen.
And its a big step for you and its exciting !!
The fact that you were a little bit of a man whore will help you out in getting this girl !!!
Whats the status between you and this girl?
Do you talk on a regular basis ?
Facebook/ txting ?
Meeting in public / private
In large groups or just the two of you?
You need to give this girl attention that may she may see you as a possible suitor if she does not already have feelings for you?
Get her number talk with her make her laugh ask her how her day was!
Simple small talk will lead to exciting conversations and with both of you getting to know one another and each others interests
Take it slow but dont worry or stress
If you do like this girl your worrys about commitment will fade and everything will come naturally to you !
Just dont make any stupid mistakes of you do begin a relationship ... In other words STAY FAITHFUL & DONT PLAY GAMES
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