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writes:My boyfriend and I just showered together and through out that whole time he didn't get hard. He didn't even touch me (which is unusual). And then like 2 hours later I was fully dressed and he cracked a boner and when I asked what over he replied 'just thinking about you.' What should I do? If anything? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 November 2013):
Robin Williams said it best:
Men have two brains, but only enough blood to go to one or the other.
i.e. he was probably focused on the shower and not slipping up or something, and not on the sex!
Don't take it personally, and don't worry. You don't need to do anything, and nothing is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2013): I agree with everything said here. Definitely not a reflection of you.I think person12345 is onto something there. Completely understandable that he may want to show you that he WASN'T sexually excited at a time when he thought you maybe wanted to be close but not have sex. Kind of like showing you that he doesn't just want you for the sole purpose of sex.Nervousness is also a definite possibility too.I've grown to hate subtlety sometimes. There's nothing wrong with women initiating sex and being overt about it. You don't have to come out and say "I wish to have sex with you at this time"; that's not romantic at all obviously. But do something to make it obvious that you are trying to turn him on other than him just seeing you naked in a place where he would expect someone to be naked, like in the shower.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 I agree. Nothing to be done here and saying anything would, in my opinion, make an issue where one doesn't exist.
Showering together can be nice, but it can also plain awkward. It's difficult to get caught up in the excitement while simultaneously trying not to fall and break your neck in a slippery, confined space.
This is not a reflection of you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 just because he was naked and wet with you does not mean he wanted sex... besides trust me sex in the shower is over rated.
what you need to do is stop over thinking this.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 November 2013):
 He may have been shy/uncomfortable in the situation. A younger guy like that may have been trying very very hard to show that he WASN'T excited, because it's something he has been taught to be embarrassed by. I don't think you need to do anything.
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