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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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15 year age gap is my concern
Q. I met this guy. He is now 56 and I am 41. Both of us have never been married and no children. He has asked me for a commitment to a relationship and I think he will look for marriage later. This is not a short term relationship. He is a smart,...
A. 27 September 2014: At 56 he's slowing down and wanting to retire... kids make that impossible.
also how fair is it to a child to have a parent old enough to be the grandparent...
kids make a big difference.... does he even WANT a child now?... (read in full...)
15 year age gap is my concern
Q. I met this guy. He is now 56 and I am 41. Both of us have never been married and no children. He has asked me for a commitment to a relationship and I think he will look for marriage later. This is not a short term relationship. He is a smart,...
A. 13 August 2014: Of course your concerns are valid.
and you need to express these concerns to him.
Usually it's the older partner that is concerned that the younger partner is with them and will be cheated out of a full experience. I know I worry about lea... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 30 July 2014: It's a tough struggle OP but keep walking the walk.
ONE day you will wake up and he will not be the first thing on your mind.
and then slowly day by day you won't even realize it... till one day you don't think about him till you are g... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 17 July 2014: I had a dream last night too.. that i did my own nails.
NEITHER YOUR DREAM OR MINE is coming true.
hang in there OP... you are at the absolute worst time of the break up.... you need to get over this hump. I am betting the weekend will suc... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 14 July 2014: Don't even look at the texts.. just delete them without reading them...
he's really an idiot... and not worth your time.
stay strong.... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 11 July 2014: OP do you see in the span of the original post and two answers you have gone from NOT having SEX at all until marriage till not even sure you can wait 3 visits with him before you have sex.
I think you are kidding yourself that you will "withhol... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 10 July 2014: why have you not blocked him from contacting you?... (read in full...)
15 year age gap is my concern
Q. I met this guy. He is now 56 and I am 41. Both of us have never been married and no children. He has asked me for a commitment to a relationship and I think he will look for marriage later. This is not a short term relationship. He is a smart,...
A. 10 July 2014: life is a crapshoot.
My mom died at 58.
My dad will be 80 this year and still plays golf 3 times a week and works out daily and travels extensively with his current partner.
I could die next week. My husband could die next week or get s... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 10 July 2014: OP for you I would strongly urge you to go with at least 3 long visits before you engage in sexual activity.
IF he tries to pressure you into activity and you are not ready, realize this means that his personality is such that he will probabl... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 9 July 2014: I've done LDRs but I am very open sexually and never wanted to wait. My husband and I when we were LDR the first two visits were not very sexual... and I was confused.
He's just not got a high drive... Now I know better.
I realize you a... (read in full...)
What do women think about men, fitness and fights?
Q. So, I'm a pretty peaceful guy. I'm going to school for biochemistry (which I love), and spend most of my life in the lab or library. I study hard, get good grades and generally enjoy prefer mental work as opposed to anything physical -- except for ...
A. 9 July 2014: I think the turn on is not the fact that you could but the fact that you would defend her honor sort of thing...
I want to suggest that your newfound success with women is NOT from the new body but RATHER the confidence that taking care of your... (read in full...)
LDR - so why doesn't he tell his family and friends that we're dating?
Q. I've been dating someone, long distance, for about a year though I've been talking to him and we've been good friends for around 5. I met him through another friend. I love him and think he's absolutely amazing, so my entire family and close...
A. 9 July 2014: If you have been dating a year and his family and friends don't know about it, then while his words may say he's serious you are right to be concerned in my opinion.
I can see not telling family if they are going to be difficult about it and wait... (read in full...)
Am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hey me and my boyfriend were having fun kissing and stuff so we got to this point were we were taking off our clothes,he wanted to put his penis in but it was so sore so he tried to put half of his penis in I didn't experience any bleeding but my ...
A. 9 July 2014: ANY penile penetration of your vagina means you are no longer a virgin... so even if he just got the tip in you are no longer technically a virgin.
... (read in full...)
15 year age gap is my concern
Q. I met this guy. He is now 56 and I am 41. Both of us have never been married and no children. He has asked me for a commitment to a relationship and I think he will look for marriage later. This is not a short term relationship. He is a smart,...
A. 9 July 2014: If you are going to end it (and to be honest I would not end it if I were you) then do it soon.
just say "I'm sorry but I am not comfortable with the age difference"\
I understand your concerns, I am at 54, 13 yrs older than my husban... (read in full...)
Is any man excited by an average looking female body after watching porn?
Q. I am concerned that my bfs constant access to a never ending stream of physically perfect women in porn to look at and masturbate to is causing him to get bored with my appearance. He simply doesn't seem excited by the sight of me anymore yet if h...
A. 9 July 2014: Are you saying that you are not having sex with him. That he never wants to have relations with you? If he NEVER wants to have sex with you and prefers porn then there's an issue.
If you have been together a long enough time that you are out ... (read in full...)
My co-worker is exploiting our goodness, is a slacker and is forever making excuses. I feel like complaining to my boss but will that make me a gossip?
Q. I have a dilemma. I work with this guy for a small 6 people company including owners. Company is doing Farely well being so small. Other 3 people started working there long before me, and I work there 4 years. For a small company like this we all...
A. 9 July 2014: I agree that if it was a bigger company and you had a chain of command I would go that way but
Yes go to the boss
Yes keep it 100% professional
you can even say you had a concern about bringing this to his attention but you feel he has a ri... (read in full...)
His lack of response and removal of profile probably suggests no desire on his part. Should I still contact him on facebook?
Q. So, I found this cute guy on okcupid. I messaged him, he messaged back, with clear enthusiasm. We wrote back and forth for three weeks, sometimes essay-grade responses, from his part and mine. I am on vacation abroad, due back in October. He knew ...
A. 9 July 2014: Let it go.
If he was interested he would be in contact.
... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 8 July 2014: Sadly you should be 12 days no contact since that's when you broke up.
YOUR feelings of up and down and back and forth are normal.
stay strong and just say NO to him.
time heals... 12 days is not a lot of time... give it 4 more weeks ... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: Houseguests like fish start to smell after three days.
they have SO overstayed their welcome.
and yes if you can afford it take the baby and go get some rest... HOW RUDE OF THEM.
... (read in full...)
My B/f waits for me to fall asleep after sex and then proceeds to masturbate!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a one year long distance relationship with my boyfriend we love about six hours away and we see each other about once every two months. Whenever we have sex he later waits for me to fall asleep and then proceeds to mastu...
A. 8 July 2014: So because he masturbates he doesn't love you?
Is that what you think love is?
I think Cerberus and YouWish have both made very valid points.
I love being intimate with my husband but I am unable to orgasm during our relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 7 July 2014: But you are NOT "perfectly happy"
you are perfectly happy with the idea of this man learning to be what you want. He's not romantic and he will never be. YOU have TOLD him what you want... and he has said NO...
You want to see gifts... (read in full...)
For the last three months she hasn't had time for me
Q. Dear Readers, I am in a kind of difficult situation. my Girlfriend of one year suddenly got self absorbed for the last three months. she stopped texting me or calling me, and when i told her that we should talk, she said she has many things on her m...
A. 7 July 2014: I'm sorry OP but she's trying to phase you out the chicken way IMO...
if she is too busy to see you or spend time with you then there is no relationship.
does she make time for you in person? or is this all LONG DISTANCE.
if it's long di... (read in full...)
I am wondering if my partner has mild autism or Aspergers - does anyone have any experience please?
Q. I am worried about my partner's wellbeing and am wondering if he has a mild form of autism or Aspergers. He recently split up with me on a complete whim (we were very happy until two hours before) as he thought our relationship was what was making ...
A. 7 July 2014: Nope it does not in any way shape or form sound like Autism or Aspergers.
I would make him getting a professional evaluation and treatment for his depression and anxiety part of getting back together.... (read in full...)
Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person?
Q. Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person? My husband barely makes enough to support us. We don't even have children. We have talked about adoption in the future when we are better off. We're in our mid twenties. I ofte...
A. 7 July 2014: With no children at home I think you should be working and contributing to the household financially as well.
Since you would rather stay home and not work what about becoming a house cleaner for others....
there are even firms that woul... (read in full...)
Self conscious about my little belly. How can I hide that part of my body during sex?
Q. We have been together for six month and had not sex yet. He is my firstboyfriend and I really like him. Few days ago we almost had sex but I wasn't ready because I feel very self-consious because I hav a little belly. how can you hide belly du...
A. 7 July 2014: well you could
wear a cami all the time
do it in the dark doggy style only...
OR you could accept that WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE A BELLY.
women need 12% body fat or higher to have menstrual periods. That's how we survive as a race. ... (read in full...)
I found out he was an uncle by marriage of a friend of mine and now she hasn't really spoken to me a whole lot.
Q. I am 29. Recently out of a 7 year relationship ending in him cheating on me, met a pretty decent guy online and have been dating him for 5 months now. He and I have so much in common, cheated on, faithful in previous relationships, love the same ...
A. 7 July 2014: one of you is overthinking it...
he's not related to her.. he was married to her deceased aunt and he's entitled to be happy.
after a certain age, a gap like yours is very workable.
I would say she's not your bestie... respect her... (read in full...)
Her Aunt may disaprove because my Gf is 2 years older. How do I gain acceptance by her family?
Q. My gf and I have been dating for almost a year. Though my Gf is 2 years older than me. Now I need to introduce myself to her family. Please, how do I deal with the age difference, because my gf said her Aunty won't agree with this relation...
A. 3 July 2014: if you are both over 18 then it's no problem what others think.
why won't her aunt agree? because you are two years younger than she is? but I bet it would be ok if you were two years older right?
is the aunt going to say "how old a... (read in full...)
My dad is pushing his girlfriend down my throat
Q. hi. I have a problem with my dads girlfriend. I barley know her and my dad keeps pushing her down my throat(not literally). just a month ago he told me they were engaged. it seems like now she is taking him away from everything he once held dear. ...
A. 3 July 2014: So she's trying. she wanted her name on the birthday card to wish you a happy birthday and SHE felt invisible and excluded from your relationship with your dad when he did that.
Have you told your dad how you feel invisible and ignored?
... (read in full...)
My dad is pushing his girlfriend down my throat
Q. hi. I have a problem with my dads girlfriend. I barley know her and my dad keeps pushing her down my throat(not literally). just a month ago he told me they were engaged. it seems like now she is taking him away from everything he once held dear. ...
A. 3 July 2014: Oh dear.... the fact that you think you had the right to tell your parents it was ok to get a divorce is part of the issue. that was their marriage and you had no say in it.
As for now, this woman is NOT your father's girlfriend, she is his F... (read in full...)
What do you think of this married man who gets attracted to all beautiful woman he finds?
Q. At my workplace, there is a handsome man but he is married. He is of the cheating type. He is a player. At one moment he would be attracted to a particular woman and then when he sees another more appealing woman, he will be attracted to this woman. ...
A. 2 July 2014: OP I have been a 48DDD...and I can and will say things about large breasted women who are not properly covered up in the work place.. .maybe not to their face but I will think it.
CLEAVAGE does not belong in the work place unless you are on the p... (read in full...)
Who shall I choose? My long term partner? Or the married guy from work whose wife treats him badly?
Q. I've been engaged for 6 months to a man who has doted on me for the last 4 years. He literally would do absolutely anything for me. We have a wonderful life together...we always cuddle, text, call, miss each other and go travelling lots, his hous...
A. 2 July 2014: well ask both of them if it's ok that you have the other to fulfill needs they can't give you... the best of both worlds.
once you come clean and get permission then your problem is solved.
... (read in full...)
Why does a mature woman resort to immature behavior during an argument?
Q. What kind of personality profile does this? The woman in question is in her late forties, and whenever there's a heated argument or disagreement going on, she resorts to "no contact" and shutting me off completely! She jumps to conclusions and ...
A. 2 July 2014: OP I would strongly suggest you realize that it's not her.. it's you... seriously. YOU are not that important to her.
She has tried to end it several times:
"I thought I lost her on several occasions, but she always comes back around ev... (read in full...)
Questions for females, does this happen to anybody else?
Q. weird question coming your way - mostly aimed at women. i started my period about 5 years ago and it's still unreliable timing-wise so i always wear sanitary towels (yes literally ALWAYS and i find tampons uncomfortable so don't use them) but that's ...
A. 2 July 2014: if the discharge is not smelly or thick and lumpy like cottage cheese... and you do not have itch or burn with it... it sounds like normal discharge.
itch, burn, smell.... thick white lumpy discharge.. that could be a yeast infection and those ar... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 1 July 2014: nope you are not missing anything... and you are not over reacting.
in two years he will have some other excuse.
a ring for engagement purposes IMO only works if you SET a date within a few weeks of getting engaged and book the venue.
... (read in full...)
I am not trying to be a jerk but I have questions for the ladies here
Q. Why do I read about so many girls who flirt when they don't mean nothing by it and get confused why a guy ends up liking them? Do I have to be official and ask her on a date and flat say it's a date in order for her to know that? Do I ha...
A. 1 July 2014: Hello OP,
You ask some interesting and valid questions. I fear the answers will be confusing.
I’m old. I dated before cell phones and the internet and cable tv.
To me flirting is fun and games and I never flirt to get asked out. Flir... (read in full...)
My wife flirts with guys. Which type of flirting is more of a threat to our relationship? A stranger or an ex?
Q. I know this is a weird topic, but bear with me here. Over the years I have caught my wife flirting with strangers. I would not say it happens often, but maybe once every couple of years. I don't think anything has come of these momentary obses...
A. 1 July 2014: I sometimes want to ask what folks define as "flirting"
I don't flirt online when I'm partnered... it can be easily misconstrued and it takes effort.
In real life, on the other hand (IRL, OTOH) I flirt like I breathe... it's part of my life.... (read in full...)
My parents are so strict I am getting teased about it!
Q. OK, so I need some advice. My parents are really, really strict and I've NEVER been on a date before. Even when I hang out with friends, I'm not allowed to do it unless they drive us there and back and they're really strict on the amount of time. ...
A. 1 July 2014: The boy doesn't like you as much as you think if he's making fun of you and allowing your "friends" to do so as well.
13 is too young for one on one dating... 15 is group dating IMO.... not till past 16 should one on one dating happen...
... (read in full...)
What do you think of this married man who gets attracted to all beautiful woman he finds?
Q. At my workplace, there is a handsome man but he is married. He is of the cheating type. He is a player. At one moment he would be attracted to a particular woman and then when he sees another more appealing woman, he will be attracted to this woman. ...
A. 1 July 2014: "If a woman he is attracted to approahes him., he would go and have sex with her for his pleasure."
so you know for a fact he is having sex with women he is not married to..... because you still have not indicated that you have proof of thi... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? My mother in law and sister in law chose to get my son's hair cut without our permission. Am I over-reacting? It will grow. It's the disrespect that irritates me
Q. Hello Agony aunts, I have a major issue that I need advice on. My husband and I have a 2yr old son. He is currently in our hometown visiting family. My mother n law and sister n law decided to get my son hair cut( this was his 2nd cut) without...
A. 30 June 2014: is anyone else wondering why a 2 yr old is on a vacation without his parents?
unless it was the FIRST haircut I think it's NO BIG DEAL.
hair grows.. just wait till he cuts it himself the first time.... (read in full...)
How do I fake it and carry on for our baby, when I'm bored and feel we're incompatible?
Q. Looking for advice on how to try and make my relationship work even though I am so bored! Met 4 years ago, at the time I was happily single, living alone and enjoying my own space. We used to meet 3-4 tines per week and were very happy together...
A. 30 June 2014: You may "love him" but you don't LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE him ( I hate the difference love vs i n love)
the issue is that your child will pick up on your unhappiness.
I think you settled for this guy and you will never be happy and content.
when... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont take responsibility for his actions!
Q. Hi all. When my boyfriend has had too much to drink he can be very argumentative, he misunderstands things I say. Last week he asked a stupid question and I gave a stupid answer, he got angry, when I tried to explain he said he never said that. Then ...
A. 30 June 2014: You still must hold him accountable.
Since you say "when my boyfriend has had too much to drink"
I'm going to assume he drinks frequently enough that this was not a one time thing.
My advice as the wife of an active alcoholic is to not both... (read in full...)
What do you think of this married man who gets attracted to all beautiful woman he finds?
Q. At my workplace, there is a handsome man but he is married. He is of the cheating type. He is a player. At one moment he would be attracted to a particular woman and then when he sees another more appealing woman, he will be attracted to this woman. ...
A. 30 June 2014: didn't you also ask about the woman who thinks she can have all the men she wants?
what is it about human nature you are trying to figure out?
you say he is a player.
you say he is "of the cheating type"
so you know FOR A FACT he i... (read in full...)
Just discovered my boyfriend lied about having a child
Q. I APOLOGIZE THIS IS LONG BUT I'M BEGGING FOR INPUT ON THE SITUATION My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and he is an ex army militant. In our early days I noticed he had a tattoo with a female name followed by a date which whe...
A. 30 June 2014: I'm sorry but NOT owning up to your own children is a deal breaker for me on any level. I do not care if he was afraid you would leave.
the fact that he could lie to you about something so important means he's not trustworthy.... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend shouts at me and hangs up, but I am lonely without him
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy. We came to know each other through online dating website. It's been 1 year we have still not meet each other. In the initial 2-3 months he was very loving. He made me feel true love. He has been going through ...
A. 30 June 2014: just don't call him
and when he calls you say "darling I'm sorry I can no longer pay any of your bills"
then get back to me and tell me what he said and did. I am betting it will be a big eye opener for you.
if you do not call him, h... (read in full...)
How can I best cope with my insomnia? Is it that my kindle addictive?
Q. Basic problem. Im staying up late, until about 1:00 am on my kindle. It's ruining my sleep schedule. Why can't I get off of this device and go to sleep? Help? Such a small issue, and I'm too tired to figure it out on my own. I know it's ...
A. 30 June 2014: there is a study that shows that electronic equipment... computers, smart phones, tablets even tvs can really mess with your sleep.
keep them out of the bedroom.
I love my kindle and it goes everywhere with me. I use it so much that some... (read in full...)
When ever I have sex with my husband I feel dirty!
Q. I love my husband and I am attracted to him, but every time we have sex I feel dirty and cheap afterwards. We only have sex about once a month and it's lights out him on top. I still feel dirty and horrible afterwards. It's affecting our marriage, ...
A. 30 June 2014: I think that your feelings are way beyond any help we can give you on this site.
I strongly urge you to find a therapist and work with a professional to work on your self-esteem and self-loathing.
... (read in full...)
I lied about my age by one year. Now we're getting really serious. What do I do?
Q. HELP, I met this guy online and he was really awesome. No we are not dating but I lied about my age when we met. And I'm scared he will be mad if I tell him but It will be weird if he finds out later on. We have a three year age difference h...
A. 30 June 2014: I agree just tell him...
it's only one year it should be fixable if you have not lied about anything else and you explain to him why.
but you must come clean with him ASAP... (read in full...)
He's 18. It feels right but wrong. How should I handle this considering that I live in a very closed community?
Q. Hi i really need advice on this,i feel so confused.. I recently met my best friend's cousin and i knew the minute i saw him that i liked him,i feel so attracted to him It's like nothing i have ever experienced.. The problem is he is 18!! A Also i...
A. 30 June 2014: well 18 is legally an adult so there's no issue there.
if you are 25 then you are 7 years older than he is and at 18/25 that's a biggie.... now at 25/32 it's not so bad.
would your friend be upset because it's her cousin or his age?
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He wants a baby but doesn't want to get married
Q. I've been with my bf for two and half years. I'm 23 and he is 40. He was married and it ended with a nasty divorce (before we met). I honestly see him as the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with but there is a huge problem. He doesn't want ...
A. 30 June 2014: I would not consider a baby with a man who was not willing to marry me.
should you? that's up to you but since you have always wanted to do it in the right order.. marriage then babies, I think you need to stand your ground.
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This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: In all honesty what matters and what will make men want her is her attitude.
if she thinks that she can have any many she wants she probably can because confidence is sexy.
what about this woman pushes your buttons so badly that yo... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 6 June 2014: I think you are doing the right thing. My 40 yr old hubby and I (age 54) just refinanced the house and will be selling and buying a new house in a few years...
he's making excuses because he likes it the way it is and he wants what he wants (... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!
Q. You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...
A. 8 May 2014: I would not get a mortgage with him.
I also would not sit around and wait for him to leave his wife... if he's not getting a divorce after 7 years separated then he's not serious about ending the marriage.
I will tell you that my first husban... (read in full...)
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