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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So, I found this cute guy on okcupid. I messaged him, he messaged back, with clear enthusiasm. We wrote back and forth for three weeks, sometimes essay-grade responses, from his part and mine. I am on vacation abroad, due back in October. He knew this. He is a foreigner Russian physics nerd doing his postdoc in Chicago, set to be in the US for the next few years at least, perhaps permanently. Then, in his last message, he complained about some things about the US (I asked him about his impressions). Well, I thought it would be nice thing to introduce him to one of my best guy friends in town, who's an excellent guide to the city. I sent him a message suggesting this. Never heard from him again. That was a month ago. I'm disappointed.Yesterday I checked his profile and he took it off the site completely. A few days ago he'd already taken off most of the info on it, like in the about me section, he just wrote that people die of old age reading it. With my internet stalking skills I managed to find his name and facebook. The question: should I message him? Or should I just let it go? Part of my really wants to know what happened, have a date with this guy. But his lack of response and removal of profile probably suggests no desire on his part....thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2014): Thanks a lot guys! I'm going to take your advice and just let it go. 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2014): Are you sure he was a real person. Maybe he even wasn't in Chicago and when you suggested to meet your friend he vanished!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 July 2014):
It sounds like he met someone else. No point in contacting him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 July 2014):
 Let it go.
If he was interested he would be in contact.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 July 2014):
 Nope, don't contact him on FB. Not sure why he stopped wanting to talk, but I would respect it and look elsewhere for a new penpal/friends/ potential date.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 July 2014):
 Sunds like ou are thonly one that wants to retain contact(even though it's only via electronic B.S. The thing is; if he's bored or otherwise "unavailable" perhaps you should seek oter fake relationships online. OR, you might try finding a real person face-to-face. Stay off FB, it's a fake relatinship also. Good luck.
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