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male
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30-35,
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writes:Dear Readers,I am in a kind of difficult situation. my Girlfriend of one year suddenly got self absorbed for the last three months. she stopped texting me or calling me, and when i told her that we should talk, she said she has many things on her mind right now, that she is planning to do her masters in the US so busy with her works and is not bothered about the future of us right now. i told her "we should talk" after giving her ample amount of space, 3 months. i said ok fine if you dont have time for the relationship lets breakup (had to say this because the same thing happened twice before) she said, she doesnt mean to breakup but dont have time to talk to me. I wondered if at all there is a single minute to spare in her life, me being a doctor, i make time for the relationship to work.if i dont text her she leaves me texts wondering where i am and asking me to reply when i see the texts. if i text her she is like all bitchy, reads the text but doesnt reply, ignores my calls and says she is on a call on her land phone. I genuinely have trust issues, i Dont know, it might also be because i was cheated on, by an ex gf, and it just keeps stinging my gut saying she is cheating on me. i just dont know how to handle this. Chip in a word of advice dear readers, on handling this situation.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (8 July 2014):
 I strongly suspect SVC is right, but I'll throw out another possibility -- that somehow she doesn't understand what acceptable behaviour is in a relationship. If so, you have to make it clear that being in a relationship means making quality time for each other. A busy week or two here or there is understandable, but three months is not. So tell her that things have to change or you cannot stay in the relationship. And then stick to your guns. If she really is just clueless you'll find out.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 July 2014):
 I'm sorry OP but she's trying to phase you out the chicken way IMO...
if she is too busy to see you or spend time with you then there is no relationship.
does she make time for you in person? or is this all LONG DISTANCE.
if it's long distance then end it.
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