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writes: Hi there. I have a crush on my soccer coach, who is also a relief teacher at my school. He took quite a few of my classes last year, and i knew the first time i saw him that i liked him. Now, Im 16, and he is about 24. (i asked him last year). I know that i shouldn't act on anything physically, but i can't help but think he may feel slightly the same way towards me, as we always say hi around school, and if looks at me and smiles at me all the time during training. This one time, when my mate was telling him that she couldn't make it to next training, we looked at each other before he walked away, and we looked at each other really deeply, and it was a moment longer than we should have, know what i mean? So really, now you know the situation, please help with advice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 OP said "and it was a moment longer than we should have, know what i mean?"
I know what YOU want it to mean. It doesn't mean that. It means you have a crush and you will see ANYTHING he does or says in your direction as a hint or a clue that he wants more than just being your teacher... he doesn't.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 My boyfriend is a young teacher (he is 29) and he says hi to a lot of his students, he likes to be friendly and if he sees them outside his classes he will smile and say hi. These ARE NOT signs that a teacher is interested in that child, it simply means he is a friendly young teacher who is nice to the students. You are reading WAY too much into this!
And putting his feelings and your feelings aside, you need a bit of a wake up call! You know that student/teacher relationships are illegal, anyone child still in school regardless of their age is legally under the care of the school and the teachers who work in it. That means he as your teacher is legally responsible for your well-being and he must not abuse that position of responsibility.
So if anything ever happened between you and him he would first of all lose his job immediately, he would also be reported to the police who would promptly arrest him. He would then have to go to a trial and most likely would be sentenced to a long term in prison. When he gets out of prison he would have a permanent criminal record meaning he would probably never be able to find another job ever again.
Because of his crimes his family and friends would disown him, leaving him with no job, no family, no friends.....no life basically. Is that really what you want for a man you claim to care about?
If you do genuinely like this man and care about him then DO NOT pursue your crush any further. You could easily ruin his life all because of a teenage crush, so admire him from afar and never act on your feelings.
It is fine to crush on a teacher, a lot of teenagers experience this and it is normal. It is not normal to act on this crush though, it is not normal to want to risk a man's life all for the sake of a crush.
So leave him alone, be friendly but nothing more - your feelings will fade in time.
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