She belittles me in public. Should I stay friends with her?
Q. My girl friend is from a richer home than me. i'm broke she can't assist me financially. When ever we are out for an outing and we happen to get into one dissagreement or the other,she tends to talk too recklessly and shout at me on the top of he...
A. 26 October 2012: ... Why bother?........ (read in full...)
I didn't cheat. How do I convince her? She will not talk to me, so what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend of two years left me because she thinks I cheated on her But I didn't ... I tried to talk to her, to tell her the truth, but she will not talk to me at all. Seh has blocked me from her phone ... I'm soo. Soo in love with her my hear...
A. 26 October 2012: Sometimes, you just have to let go and put a friendship/relationship behind you.... This is one of those times...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He makes racist inappropriate comments. Now it seems he may have been seeing a local prostitute of the same race he vilifies. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is nearly 40. He makes comments all the time if we are out and see an oriental woman with a man he immediately says "oh look it's bought your wife". He even said that my friend who was 27 and going out with a 42 year old was going ou...
A. 26 October 2012: Here's the key phrase of your submittal: "...And I can't trust anything he says..."
So???? .... why not just dump him and get on with your life??.... probably with a guy who you CAN trust...
P.S. Don't forget that - if this creep is patroni... (read in full...)
Co-worker who I can't avoid. Why is she manipulative and cold with me?
Q. I need help with a woman that I come into contact with in relation to my work. We're not co-workers exactly, but she now teaches in the college where I am currently researching - she dropped out of PhD research to become a tutor whilst I carried ...
A. 26 October 2012: Remember this word: POLITE.
When there is someone who you have come to dislike... and/or a person who evidently/(or) clearly dislikes you.... then, when you must be in their company you behave POLITELY, and CORDIALLY.... and that will put an e... (read in full...)
What is the exact way to deal with people who are egotistical but don't express their emotions easily?
Q. Okay, it seems that Guys who have the following characteristics are Egotistical to the max. Characteristics: Intelligent, Sophisticated, Reserved, Frank, Straightforward, Don't express emotions easily. Ive seen that such people are not chest-bea...
A. 26 October 2012: I would say that you are being 'way too "broad-brushed" in trying to label and pigeon-hole guys based on information or attributes that are not clearly related to your conclusions.....
Rather than spend your time and mental energy trying to find ... (read in full...)
Torn by family loyalties...
Q. I would like to get advice on something family and money related. I have a job working full time with a decent salary. My family has a small business which they are struggling with. They have asked me for money several times in the last 2 years. I ...
A. 25 October 2012: It's always important to keep separate family and business...
IF you don't have funds available to invest in your family's business, then you have to take the same position that you would take if anyone ELSE asked you to invest with them....... (read in full...)
Should I Trust My Husband? Am I Wrong For FeelingThis Way?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I have always trusted him because and have never suspected him cheating on me. Lately he has upset me because of some of the things he has done. One example occurred several years ago when s...
A. 25 October 2012: Here's the key phrase in your submittal: "...I feel he would rather have fun than to consider what I think."
IF you think he's fooling around.... then your "sixth sense" is likely correct (We men learn to HATE THAT about you women!!!... (read in full...)
Is my friend enabling her son? Should she talk to a professional?
Q. I have a friend whose adult son is having a lot of issues. Basically he is living on the streets and has troubles with his family, etc. My friend is sending her son money to help him out. I think it sounds like she's enabling his bad behavior, so...
A. 25 October 2012: If that friend were Bob Newhart she'd be getting the best advice available - ANYWHERE.
HOWEVER, if it's not Bob.... then you are correct....... (read in full...)
I'm scared for my best friend. How can I stop her boy friend from pressuring her to have sex?
Q. My best friend is being convinced by her boyfriend to have sex. I have cried every day trying to convince her the consequences. Her boyfriend says he knows what he is doing but he is only 13. I really need help to try to convince her boyfriend no...
A. 25 October 2012: There are two "responses" to this:
1. This guy who is COERCING her to do sex is NOT MUCH OF A "BOYFRIEND" after all... is he? Point that out to her... and,
2. Remind your friend that SHE is in control... and there are good reasons for her ... (read in full...)
Girls if a guy asks you out and you say no, then is it awkward for ever after between him and you?
Q. I have never dated very much. My one and only girlfriend, with her, things just happened as if I didn't have control. I said things I wouldn't normally have said, I was forward and thats why things worked out. I was assertive. Usually though,...
A. 25 October 2012: IMHO, the nature of your question goes to the form of your asking and her replying.....
IF you ask a girl to make a date with you.... and she just doesn't find you "dating material".... isn't it best if she declines... BUT WITH AN EXPLANAT... (read in full...)
He blocks me out. Yet I do everything for him and his children. Is it time to stop being so giving? or break up?
Q. I met him about 4 years ago. 2 years ago we finally got together after both being in love with each other for about a year. He is about 10 years older than me and has a few kids. At the start things were perfect. He was so in love with...
A. 25 October 2012: Is it the case that his behaviour started changing when you and he became closer and closer.... and did s*x?
If "yes," then you have the complete "answer" to your question. Guys act like real angels/sweethearts in our quest to get women to put o... (read in full...)
With our different bodies, what positions would work the best?
Q. I have a question about my boyfriend and I with sex. He is 5'5 with a long torso and short legs while I am 5'4 with a short torso and long legs. The sex is amazing, but I want to know what positions can we do for me to get more penetration and to ...
A. 24 October 2012: I suggest the "inverted torso/pretzel position" for your body types and proportions..... Should work...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I could have had her, didn't want her. Now I can't have her and I want her!
Q. I saw this girl out who i used to always meet up with on nights out and we'd always chat and get with each other most of the night. We never slept together or pursued it to anything more, i knew she wanted more as in a relationship, but i suppose i ...
A. 24 October 2012: What you've described is the old "grass is always greener" syndrome. If you are like most men, you will fall for this AT LEAST a half dozen times in your life....
By the time you figure out how futile and dismal it is, you're likely to be an ol... (read in full...)
Psycho girlfriend treats me so badly ever since she thought I was cheating
Q. What can I do to cover my own butt? My girlfriend of 2 years has anger issues. It all started a year ago at a friend's wedding in New York. my phone died and when I got back into our hometown she refused to pick me up from the airport. she was ...
A. 24 October 2012: Why did you post this "question"???? Did you think that somebody/anybody would tell you to try to keep things going with this woman who you describe???? You sure aren't oging to hear that from me. I say,.... get as far away from this woman as you ... (read in full...)
Shuold I stick it out with my marriage hoping things will get better?
Q. My husband is moody and we bicker all the time about things like who turn is it to do the washing up. He says he's moody because hes stressed at work, but he has been like this for the last 18 months. It is really getting me down. We never have ...
A. 23 October 2012: Let's look at this part of your submittal:
"...they just say your married sometimes relationships are hard work.
Is this true, should I stick it out in the hope things will get better or should i just call it quits and move on."
When a r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going to marry someone else to please his parents!
Q. I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Two years ago I met my current boyfriend(?) He wanted us to get married and for me to live with him and his parents. I agreed but when I met his parents they were horrible to me and my family. Basically they w...
A. 23 October 2012: If'n I were you... I would count my Blessings that I didn't go any further in my "romance/marriage" with this guy....
Perhaps this drama is a result of something like culture/religion (as the first responder said).... or, maybe, it's come about be... (read in full...)
Should I trust my LDR girlfriend? She grinds with other guys
Q. I recently started dating a girl at the school I just graduated from. It's a semi-long distance relationship; thus far we've been able to see each other at least once a month, if not more. However, there are times when we are apart. I trust her ...
A. 23 October 2012: Cerebus: Great response!!!!... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".
Q. My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relations...
A. 23 October 2012: Have you ever read the book "Passages"? I recommend it. It won't "solve" the problems that you have experienced... but it WILL help you to understand why we guys act like the a*sholes that we sometimes do (act).....
Sorry to read of your travails... (read in full...)
Why do I keep on wanting what I can't have, namely: married men? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?
Q. Why do I go for married men? Even though I know it never works! I really like this guy, who is quite a lot older than I am; and married! He confessed he had fallen for me, I tried to convince him he hadn't because he was married, but I knew that ...
A. 23 October 2012: I think that you fall for married men because you haven't learned that it is a losing proposition for you... and you haven't banged your head against that wall enough times so that you can PREDICT that it will hurt (YOU'LL usually be the one who ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf implying that he's a virgin? He changed the subject when I asked.
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I were speaking about sex when he said "I can't compare my performance to anything? When I asked what he meant he changed the subject? So peeps my question is what are your thoughts on this? I automatically thought ...
A. 23 October 2012: When a girl asks me if I am a virgin, I, too, change the subject.....
It's not because I'm concerned that she'll find that I am inexperienced (because, I'm NOT.... by a LONG shot!!!).... but it's because she might bear down and learn about th... (read in full...)
I tell him what I want when we make love, but he always reverts to his basic style. How do I convince him to be more adventurous in bed?
Q. My boyfriend is my best friend and I love him dearly. That's why it seems soo ridiculous that I fantasize about breaking up with him so I can have sex with other men. When we first got together, things were hot and heavy. The sex was pretty basic...
A. 23 October 2012: Find a guy who you know is a careful and caring lover... and who handles you "just right" whilest in the lead-up to, and completion of, coitus.... Get your "B/F" to sit by and watch what this other guy does.... then ask him if HE is prepared to do ... (read in full...)
Lingerie decisions...
Q. hiya ive just turned 16 ive got a boyfrend im thinking of buying my first thong any advice on what lingerie styles and types thanks,...
A. 23 October 2012: If a young guy can get you to remove your undies... he won't give it a single moment's concern what style they are..... You could be wearing those Mormon undies, like Mitt and Ann Romney wear, for all he'll care........ (read in full...)
I'm so good looking, its annoying! How can I approach a guy for sex without getting into anything serious?
Q. I am good looking to the limit of annoyance, it caused me a great deal of trouble looking the way I do. I had major psychological issues because of my looks, I isolated my self thinking everyone interested in me because I am pretty I felt li...
A. 22 October 2012: Sister, I can identify with you. I, too, am so handsome that women are intimidated by me.....
Darndest thing is.... even when I tell them that I am humble and interested in them, they usually say, "Yeah, buster, fat chance that YOU'LL ever get... (read in full...)
Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?
Q. Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday...
A. 22 October 2012: I STILL fantasize about that woman who worked in the office building across the street, when I started work, just after graduating college....
I often saw her in the lunchroom/cafeteria... and couldn't hide my lust for her.... and my office-m... (read in full...)
How do you people handle loved ones with OCD?? It's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a live in relationship for the past 2 years. He is a kind,loving man but I have major issues with his OCD and its driving me nuts. 1)We are not allowed to have house parties because he doesn't want the place to get...
A. 22 October 2012: I've dated women who I, lightly, called "OCD"..... but none was as extreme as the guy you are with....
My Rx to him - or a woman like him - would be to put a few miles between us..... having wished him/her luck as I set out the door....... (read in full...)
We've been together four years, have a child, but I think he still loves his ex
Q. hi my boyfriend n I have been together for the pass 4 yrs and we have a 11 month old son together.but recently he started back talking to his ex and i think they started going out wen they were 14 and my boyfriend is 33 so yes they have known each ...
A. 22 October 2012: You're describing a guy who has no loyalty/fidelity to you... What a great partner!!!!!
Give it a little more time and you'll find that he is having s*x with the ex- and then you will get to feel even worst about things....
WHY put up with such... (read in full...)
How do I contain the jealousy I feel towards others?
Q. I really envy some of my cousins. One is a spoilt brat who gets everything she wants. My other cousins had kids before they got engaged and their parents always baby sit them. But If I had kids out wedlock my parents would call me nasty names. ...
A. 21 October 2012: Here's a suggestion: Remember that jealousy is like a cancer that is inside you.... and if FEEDS on your jealous feelings.... and can survive ONLY if you feed it those jealous feelings.....
Then, forget about your cousins and STOP feeding ... (read in full...)
He is obsessed with the bodies of women. Other women. I am wrong to feel so insecure?
Q. Ive always been the type of girl who hasnt been really insecure. I knew i turned heads when i walked in the room until my current bf of 5 months and then it was like i became so insecure about my body. I guess i should start by saying I am his firs...
A. 21 October 2012: Great "boyfriend" you've got there. He was able to convert you from a confident, self-assured woman in to one who would write this submittal......
What you have described is known as "abusive"..... and he is a controller, and should NOT be trust... (read in full...)
His Russian friend is very interested in him. Am I wasting my time with him?
Q. I've been seeing a guy since March. He's 33 and I'm 20. He's a master student and is going to graduate this semester and go back to his country. Unless he gets a job here. Our relationship is private as we agreed since the beginning, and we start...
A. 21 October 2012: Yes... you're wasting your time. See if you can't find a REALLY "available" guy to be your boyfriend..... This one isn't him!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why can't he love me anymore like he did before? How do I accept his decision?
Q. hi there my friend my boyfried is ignoring me what to do , we have been in love ,a year, just only when i send him a text sms he write me or call me , he said that he want to stay just like a friend but for a while, why has this happened? ...
A. 21 October 2012: Isn't your submittal a perfect description of "he's just not that in to you"?????
Give him up and find a REAL loving boyfriend....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My culture is uncompromising about virginity before marriage. BUT I am not a virgin. What can I do? I cannot tell him, as the shame is too much.
Q. hi..i had a relationship with an boy i was loved him deeply... Nearly 14 months back only once i had sex with him.. he was not loving with me just wanted to enjoy sex with me we broke up... i was really hurt at that time.. i met with a boy...
A. 21 October 2012:
Great "religion" you've got, there.... What happens... do you have to have a medical exam to confirm your virginity prior to the nuptials????
Cripes.... give this a rest.... and enjoy your time with this new guy....... (read in full...)
He does not want to be exclusive. I do want to be exclusive. Shall I wait until he is ready?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks. I really like him and we have fun together. The thing is, we've done some sexual stuff and I sort of feel weird that I did that with someone who isn't my boyfriend. He just got out of a long-term relati...
A. 21 October 2012: You can wait as long as you wish for you and "new B/F" to become exclusive....
HOWEVER, until/unless you and "new B/F" discuss this issue, all specific details are off...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
She has a Major Crush on my boyfriend. We are both fed up with her. How do we get her to leave us alone for good
Q. My boyfriend works with a girl who loves my boyfriend. When her boyfriend broke up with her she was crying and my boyfriend listened to her and helped her. Everything was fine at that moment. But since then she has developed a major crush on my ...
A. 21 October 2012: You, and your B/F, say to her, very politely: "You know, (her name here), (boyfirend's name here) has dumped your a*s.... and WE have taken up a relationship.... and there is NO PLACE for YOU in that relationship..... Sooo, please don't come by.... ... (read in full...)
Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?
Q. I had a passionate love story with a girl for 3 months. Infact 2 months where great but the last I could feel things where slowing down. She started witholding sex which made me really angry so I asked her if she wanted to break up or continue ...
A. 21 October 2012:
... yes....... (read in full...)
I've started taking the pill but the doctor gave no advice at all!
Q. so i went to my doctor and got the pill but she was no help at all with what to do. So i had to research and ask my friends, basically I started my period this monday, but i started taking the pill today. My friends said this is fine, because ...
A. 21 October 2012: P.S. Is this what we should expect - here in the Colonies - if we have "nationalized" health care?????... (read in full...)
I've started taking the pill but the doctor gave no advice at all!
Q. so i went to my doctor and got the pill but she was no help at all with what to do. So i had to research and ask my friends, basically I started my period this monday, but i started taking the pill today. My friends said this is fine, because ...
A. 21 October 2012: Great "Doctor" you've found, there. NOW, go BACK TO HER and INSIST that she do her job.... and give you specific and detailed instructions in just how to take the pills, and what you should expect........ (read in full...)
I'm worried about making noise during sex
Q. Now that Ive got used to a condom since 1st time sex I'm finding intercourse with my boyfriend more and more enjoyable.I think I'm now ready to go a bit vocal with the pleasure but I'm young and a bit nervous about starting.It's so quiet in the ...
A. 21 October 2012: I once dated a girl who SCREAMED out the aria from "Carmen" whilest we were consummating our friendship..
It helped that she had her own home, and none of her neighbors was any closer than about 50 feet......
Let it fly........ (read in full...)
He said the condom I gave him was too small ...
Q. The other day I lent a condom to my friend who was going to have intercourse for the first time and when he came back he said it was too small and had to buy a larger one. I know it shouldn't affect me but it seems to bother me. The condom fits ok ...
A. 21 October 2012: If I had a nickel for every time I lent one of my condos to a buddy.... and he told me that the darn thing was too small for his manhood.... I'd be one very well-to-do man!!!... (read in full...)
When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?
Q. Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is be...
A. 21 October 2012: It'sd definitely a sign of dominance if she is NOT wearing panties, and removes the undies from the guy before she sits down!!!!!!!
Otherwise, it's pretty innocent....
P.S. Unless she does it whilest your wife is sitting nearby.... and g... (read in full...)
Do guys who are unemployed really have a hard time dating?
Q. I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. One thing, he is unemployed but actively looking for work. He doesn't have much money which is not a deal breaker for me and I am not looking for money, just companionship. Well, this economy is ...
A. 20 October 2012: Being unemployed CAN affect a guy's interest in dating IF HE LETS IT... especially considering these two issues:
1. He's almost-certainly on a tight budget.... so the expenses that may be incurred in entertaining yourselves can be difficul... (read in full...)
I am Not Keen On Sex!
Q. My problem is I have never liked sex very much. Its not an age thing Ive always been the same-Ive had a few relationships but they have always gone pear shape for that reasons. Whilst I realise sex is important to most men and women - I w...
A. 20 October 2012: Joyce: I believe that there is some chance that you might encounter such a guy who, like you, is not very interested in s*x.
HOWEVER, there is always the risk that he will believe that there IS going to be a sexual component to a budding friendsh... (read in full...)
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