Should I let go and move on or fight for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. He is an Anglican while I am a Catholic. Met his parents on three occasions and they looked forward to having family lunch/dinner with me to also get to know me better and more. The problem is ...
A. 27 September 2012: "The subject" is your boy's being tied to his parents' apron strings. The "clouding" comes from trying to decide if it's important (or, if it makes any difference) how it happened that he (your boy) attended another house of worship and whether ... (read in full...)
Should I let go and move on or fight for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. He is an Anglican while I am a Catholic. Met his parents on three occasions and they looked forward to having family lunch/dinner with me to also get to know me better and more. The problem is ...
A. 26 September 2012: OP: You're clouding your own issue by picking out details to dispute...... IF you stick to the subject, maybe you can get a grip on the "answer" to your query........ (read in full...)
How to figure out men in their late 50's?
Q. I've been seeing someone in his late 50's and I have no idea what sort of mind games he is playing. Sometimes when I tell him I miss him, he would reply my text with a smile icon. Sometimes even though he read my "I miss you" text, he wouldn't reply ...
A. 26 September 2012: As a guy who has recently left his "late 50s" for his "early 60s" I believe that I can shed some light on this issue.....
IN his "late 50s" a man is beginning to understand that he is NOT the young stud that he once believed that he was.... ... (read in full...)
My married lover has moved on to another girl and I am so hurt, what should I do now?
Q. I have been cheated by my married Lover, he has moved on to a "new girl"(another victim).he has completely removed me from his life,We both are in the same office, spend 8 hrs together, sitting besides each other, but we dont speak at all. he cut ...
A. 26 September 2012: Let's look at just one "question" which is bugging you:
"Do cheaters always get away with what they have done?"
The short answer is that Yes, cheaters DO "get away" with using women... WHEN THOSE WOMEN ALLOW THEM TO DO SO!!!!
That last ph... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend think I'm with him for his money?
Q. Hey everyone,I'v been dating a guy for 3 years now and I love to death,he means the world to me but he is a well known businessman of the city and I'm happy for him,he is constantly busy and whenever he can't make it he would send me these really ...
A. 26 September 2012: I think that you and he are dancing around the same subject/topic, but viewing it quite differently. Here's my take:
HE initiated the "money" thing when he chose to shower you with "things" in substitution for his being available. (You were pas... (read in full...)
Sweet comment from this cutie! What did it mean, though?
Q. I have a general inquiry about something this cutie told me. She's in her Mid-40's, slim, and is very cute. At any rate, yesterday, she told me that she enjoys having discussions with me about her stewardess job. I wonder if she’s slipped a...
A. 26 September 2012: I'd guess that she fancies you in some manner... and uses the excuse of discussing her job as a way to keep you engaged...
Go "with the flow" and see if the flow goes somewhere that you would like to be, with her....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I let go and move on or fight for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year now. He is an Anglican while I am a Catholic. Met his parents on three occasions and they looked forward to having family lunch/dinner with me to also get to know me better and more. The problem is ...
A. 25 September 2012: It's difficult to understand the intensity of feelings that some people have about their religion if YOU don't share that intensity relative to YOUR religion....
I'd interpret that this guy's parents see their son's attending a service at another ... (read in full...)
I want to be less overbearing, less insecure, and more easy going with my girlfriend
Q. Kudos to those who actually read the whole thing. Any advice would be great, be as harsh as needed. I really would like to make an effort to change, and stop being an overbearing, insecure boyfriend... I feel like I may be overbearing and ...
A. 24 September 2012: The real crux of your submittal is this: "Consequently it leads to me over analyzing everything. I know I just need to occupy myself, but I don't know how."
Consider: Studying more, taking a part-time job, volunteering somewhere on or off-camp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend warms my heart and she's possibly the coolest girl ever, but there's this lingering "what if" about the other girl who I've had a crush on
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. She is pretty amazing. We had a bit of a rocky start, but things have smoothed out and we have a lot of fun together now. My problem is that there is a girl I've known for many years, an old friend at...
A. 24 September 2012: Please consider only this phrase from your submittal:
"...Everything is good, but the other girl is just so beautiful... "
Then, decide if you are considering buying a new best-selling book, or a new automobile..... or mulling over a decision ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see him or write him off?
Q. I met a guy one night that I really liked and we arranged to meet up again. The date went well until he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and he came on a little strong so I rejected him as I didn't feel ready to take such a step. I ...
A. 24 September 2012: You need to reconcile to yourself if you will be happy to be this guy's "fall back" girl.... the one he turns to when his other/new flame or attachment doesn't work out to his satisfaction.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should we let our friend make the same mistake or bring our concerns to her attention?
Q. My sister in law and best friend was previously married to her high school sweetheart, but she had given him an ultimatum before he proposed and he asked for a divorce eighteen months later. No one liked him, friends or family, the unanimous ...
A. 24 September 2012: I think that you and this girl's other "friends" and family should consider taking up hobbies..... You (all) need something to divert you from trying to run this girl's life........ (read in full...)
Guys, would you have reacted in the same way as my boyfriend to the fact that I am a virgin at 20?
Q. So this guy i'm seeing we were getting really close and things were intense, I wanted to go the whole way but I stopped him and said I can't i'm still a virgin, but told him I want to, just not yet. I'm ready, i'm just not sure yet if I want to...
A. 23 September 2012: I think he made it clear to you that HE's a jerk... and I can't imagine WHY you'd spend any more time with him, beyond that required to show him the door.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriends disrespectful past is stopping me from moving on with our future?
Q. My boyfriend has been terrible in the past, staring at other women in public, buying disgusting mens magazines and putting them in plain sight where i could see them and thinking nothing of it, flirting with other girls behind my back and thinking ...
A. 23 September 2012: If you have valid suspicions that he hasn't changed a whit.... then don't let your "relationship" progress .... EXCEPT to the "dumping" stage.....
WHY would you harbor these expectations/beliefs but keep hanging on with this guy who hasn't e... (read in full...)
What should I do about this resentment that he won't try to lose the weight he has gained?
Q. In March, I started dating a guy I've known for 4-5 years. In may, I decided that I wanted to lose weight and since then, I've lost about 25 pounds, but here's the problem. My boyfriend was about 20 pounds overweight when we made it official, but ...
A. 23 September 2012: How ironic izzit that we - collectively - agree that we "can't change anybody".... only that THEY can change, THEMSELVES..... BUT when that somebody chooses to become large and obese (hence, less attractive and enticing) we are willing to give them ... (read in full...)
Could this mean he loves me but is too shy to say so?
Q. Hi, I've currently been with my boyfriend for 9 months I love him dearly but haven't told him nor as he told me,but recently his been calling me "my love" and when play fighting said he would take his love elsewhere. We only see one another week...
A. 23 September 2012: I spent 7 years in a relationship with a woman who NEVER said "I love you"...... It was excruciating because - as I ultimately learned - she DIDN'T love me.... and is incapable of loving.... ANYBODY.
Only when I realized that I was wasting ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like this only want us for sex?
Q. I like a guy, but I'm not entirely sure what his motives are. He definately likes me back in some way or form - he watches me quite a lot, comes over to me a lot, has kissed me on the cheek a few times... But my friend says he just wants me for sex....
A. 22 September 2012: P.S. Actually, that applies at ANY age. Sorry it that caused any confusion!!!........ (read in full...)
Why do guys like this only want us for sex?
Q. I like a guy, but I'm not entirely sure what his motives are. He definately likes me back in some way or form - he watches me quite a lot, comes over to me a lot, has kissed me on the cheek a few times... But my friend says he just wants me for sex....
A. 22 September 2012: AT your age.... listen to your friend...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I think I've fallen in love with my teacher!
Q. I've had feelings for my teacher for over three years and they've only gotten stronger. I think I'm in love with him and I know I can't do anything about it (I'm clever enough to figure that out). But it's become harder and harder to keep it in, ...
A. 22 September 2012: Here's what a read in your submittal:
"I've had feelings for my teacher for over three years..." then Blah, blah blah.... etc..... up to: "I mean I don't want to fall out of love with him, I just need advice to stop me wanting to faint whenever... (read in full...)
Why does my married ex give me his schedule and tells me to call him?
Q. My ex who now is married, talks to me often. My question is why does he not call me but says it's alright to call him??? He gives me his schedule so i know when to call. Why doesn't he just call me?? i have a bf and it's just nice to talk to an old ...
A. 22 September 2012: He won't call you because we guys KNOW that if we call you (girls) we cede a certain amount of power to you.... Soooo, we have YOU call US... and THAT is an indication that WE are still in control!!!!!
P.S. When a real nice guy takes up a relati... (read in full...)
Do you think he is playing me? My friend says he is. But if he's playing me, would he go to so much trouble for me?
Q. I guy I have been seeing for the past month and I have been dating. We havent gone very far and I heard that he kissed another girl on a night he got drunk. A few days ago I asked him what we were, and he said he hadn't thought about it. Two days...
A. 22 September 2012: Yes. He's doing a great job of the "slow play" scheme, wherein the guy dawdles about his interest in a girl until SHE brings up the issue of "where (we) are...".... and then he knows that he has sufficient interest, from her, that he can start ... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 20 September 2012: Look at these two segments of your submittal:
"I love her to death, I will do anything for her. She truly is my sole mate. I can not imagine life without her, to me she is the best person in the entire world." and,
"...basically... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my boyfriend of 2.5 years is gay
Q. I'm worried that my boyfriend may be gay. We have been together for 2.5 years. The first time he took me to his house, I thought it was odd that he had 2 teddy bears on his bed, and a large image of scooby doo in his living room. In addition, He is ...
A. 20 September 2012: I wouldn't spend much time with the "is he gay" thing.... and, instead, would focus on the appearance of his having become bored with you and the relationship that you (and he) had had....
"Sounds" to me like that "relationship" has run its cour... (read in full...)
What colour scheme for a room of a 20 year old would look nice?
Q. this isn't a relationship question, just more so of a question. I'm decorating my room and I wondered what colour scheme is nicest to have, it's a plain room with cream walls. I don't know whether red, dark gold and some black or green would look ...
A. 19 September 2012: I'd say that the most important thing is to have a television in your ceiling so that you can watch CNN whilest you and you favorite boy are enjoying one-another!!!
Good luck...
P.S. I'm partial to wallpaper, myself!!!!!... (read in full...)
Can you break your hymen during masturbation?
Q. Im a 19year old virgin girl who has become quite addicted to porn and mustarbation..thing is i want o wait till marriage so if anyone can answer me truthfully if its possible to push back or break the hymen after mustarbating by opening my legs high ...
A. 19 September 2012: Do you remember that old song by Paul Simon..... "50 ways to leave your lover?"....
Well, OP, there are also "50 ways to break your hymen".... too....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do you make someone fall back in love with you? There has to be a way!
Q. Lots of people say once the love has gone it can never come back. Yet so many people get back together and even remarry each other after a divorce. So people obviously can fall back in love. My question though, is how? I'm desperate for my husband ...
A. 19 September 2012: What were the circumstances under which you and he parted ways?... (read in full...)
Are we allowing this to move forward too quickly? My 42 year old school teacher from the past and I have just started dating. Is this a good idea or not?
Q. Hey everybody my name is katie and i am 24 years old. And i am currently dating my former high school science teacher. You see 3 weeks ago i bumped into him waiting in line for coffee at starbucks. And we exchanged number as a way to catch up. And...
A. 19 September 2012: Former teacher/former student "things" have their own list of awkwardness details..... which you, clearly, understand.
I'd focus on THIS phrase: "...like after we have sex the magic could be gone. Do i really want to do that to myself?.... (read in full...)
What if she doesn't call? Should I still attempt to talk to her if she does not call, or leave her alone?
Q. Hi, sorry this is so long. I met this girl. We started talking recently, since we started talking she offered to buy me lunch once and gave me her e-mail address. She is extremely nice to me and she always smiles at me. Recently she mentioned sh...
A. 19 September 2012: It wouldn't hurt to ring her up and ask how things are going... After all, she confided in you that she's got some turmoil in her life - even asked your advice/opinion - what's wrong with "following up?"
From that (call) you should get the "ans... (read in full...)
How can I fix this? My husband speaks badly about me and flirts with other women.
Q. My husband talks bad about me with other people about me. At first, he would let his friends make disrespectful comments about me. Then it went to him telling his relatives bad stuff about me whenever we differed, and some of his relatives would also...
A. 19 September 2012: Terrific "husband" you've got there....
You can start improving your lot in life by leaving him....
What do you have to lose????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to use pornography to unwind?
Q. Hey everyone, I am in my final year of university,life has become just too stressful I have practically no social life anymore..and I use porn when I am stressed,more like when I studied one full day and then I need to de stress..is it bad?...
A. 18 September 2012: It's NOBODY ELSE'S DARN BUSINESS what you do in/on your private time....
IF you find pornography relaxing (by viewing or, whatever)... then have at it... and you needn't ask anybody else's approval or validation of your enjoying it....
Good lu... (read in full...)
Is lack of physical attraction a valid reason to break up with someone?
Q. My boyfriend isn't attractive to me. I'm not implying that he's ugly or that other people might not find him good looking but I don't. He's a good person and treats me well and we're getting to that age where we're thinking about serious commitme...
A. 18 September 2012: Do NOT believe that you (or anybody else!) can endure a "relationship" which has a serious libido mismatch.... and that's REALLY what you're "telling" us, here....
IF you don't get turned on by him (don't find him sufficiently enticing) such tha... (read in full...)
My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.
Q. I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the ...
A. 17 September 2012: He's been having affairs - with several different women - over 12 of your 14 years??????? ...and you wonder if you should end things???? I believe that you are a couple of years late..... but, better late than never....
DON'T hold out hope tha... (read in full...)
Should I be talking to my husband's disrespectful family?
Q. I had to set boundary with my husbands family. They convinced my husband that our daughter was not raped when she was. On top of the rape, this was so bad!! They have been verbally abusive to my son. They have yelled at me, threatened me, and have ...
A. 17 September 2012: It might be a little extreme to leave hubby over this matter, only....
HOWEVER, you DO need to pursue, with hubby, WHY he acts such as he does when he's around his family and (apparently) during times near the time(s) when he's with his family..... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and he's 18! I've never seen myself dating a younger guy with such a significant age gap!
Q. So I have a bad situation. Me and this guy met at a party and we really hit it off right away. We have a lot in common, he's adorably cute and has great style. Well eventually right when I really start liking this guy, he reveals his age to me. He ...
A. 17 September 2012: Some age gap. I've gone longer than that between doing loads of laundry!!!........ (read in full...)
How long is too long to go without sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I a still a young woman but I stop having sex a longtime ago it's not that I don't want sex in my life it's who the sex is coming from I make bad choices when it comes down to men.So I chose to let love find me.I will be 41next month and ...
A. 17 September 2012: I went six days, once.... but - by the end (of those six days) I was like a blithering idiot.....
P.S. Over the weeks that followed, I injured my elbow and rotator cuff significantly doing you-know-what!!!!!... (read in full...)
The fighting is consuming us. But I love him and so I really don't know what to do. What can you suggest?
Q. i love him so much and ive never felt this way about anyone I'm not the type to take chances with long relationships, actually it's my first real relationship. He's truly my best friend he knows everything about me and i know everything about hi...
A. 17 September 2012: Here's the key phrase in your submittal:
"...i feel like we are constantly fighting and cant stand each other but still love each other at the same time..."
THAT (statement) is paradoxic (can't be completely true because one half of it contr... (read in full...)
He broke it off, but wants to see me again, what is this guy's motive?
Q. a guy i was seeing 2 months ago has got back in contact, he broke it off. reason being he did not have enough time for me. when we started seeing eachother 6 months ago i was not wanting anything serious, i am not ready for a relationship. then...
A. 17 September 2012: His "motive" is/was to get you back in bed.
Your call......... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that when I finish university I want to take up the guitar professionally? They will have to pay $40,000 a year for me to do so.....
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question but I'd really like some outside opinions on this problem. I am currently attending university, studying criminology and going into my 3rd year. However back when I started 1st year I had started to play ...
A. 17 September 2012: WHAT makes you think that your folks are going to cough up $40K for you to attend Berklee?????
IF they're gullible (and well-off enough) to do so... then I say "have at it.... it's THEIR MONEY"
If they say, "What are you.... CRAZY????" then ... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with this guy, but should I settle for a FWB for now?
Q. Well, I have asked for advice about a guy I have been absolutely in love with for 2 years a few times now. How I didn't think I even existed to him and then he messages me on facebook on a drunk night and wants me to head over, then says he doesnt ...
A. 17 September 2012: It would be considered "piling on" if any other Aunts or Uncles submitted any more after Honeypie.....
Read her reply, again and again, until it sinks in and you conclude that your soul is far to precious to exchange for an "FWB" arrangem... (read in full...)
For the guys: Why does a perfectly nice guy stop talking to you suddenly for no reason?
Q. Hey, this is more one for the guys, as I would love to know why a perfectly (or what seems a perfectly) nice guy can just stop talking to a woman suddenly and that will be it! So the short of the suturation- met a lovely guy, in a bar about 3 we...
A. 17 September 2012: WE guys are interesting - but not very complex - creatures.
What's most important for you to know is that we do virtually ALL of our thinking with our "lower" brain... AND, that brain only "works" whilest in the warm, soft environment of a woman'... (read in full...)
Dating 2 guys but I want to stop, how do I choose which one to keep dating?
Q. I'm a complete idiot and that girl I didn't want to be. I know guys and girls do this and maybe to some it's no problem, but i'm treading very thin ice now. I met two guys who I went on a date with, only because I liked them both. That and m...
A. 17 September 2012: If you were my Sister (a much YOUNGER Sister, to be sure!) I'd suggest you do this:
1. Ask each guy to give you a copy of his last bank statement,
2. Ask each to give you a list of his assets.
Total each guys' 1. and 2. Whichever's is l... (read in full...)
I am left feeling like a nagging girlfriend!
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. My sister has told me she got some amazing advice on here, so I'm hoping you can help me too... My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. He has always been a bit selfish (with things like what films to wa...
A. 17 September 2012: When you and B/F are going along nicely... do you and he "go Dutch" (split expenses) some of the time? OR, do you "let" him pick up ALL the expenses of your dating?
If the former.... then the "answer" to your query is that he is a cheap SOB and ... (read in full...)
Husband is obsessed with his penis size. How can I help him to get over his obsession? I think he's perfect.
Q. My husband is obsessed with his penis. He thinks it's small, because he heard how big a man I slept with was. How can I tell him to knock it off, and that he is perfect for me? I do but he thinks I'm just trying to make him feel good. He doesn't...
A. 15 September 2012: Sorry to learn that your hubby is such an injit....
Best you can do is continue to try to convince him that he's OK.... and, bear with him until/unless he finally comes to his senses.....
(Those darn guys in those porm flicks - with their Maga-... (read in full...)
Should I text him or do nothing?
Q. This guy texted me about two weeks ago, wishing me a belated Happy Birthday. He had previously invited me out to lunch, so in this text he said he would be in touch soon to see when we can both get together for said "lunch". We are both very bu...
A. 15 September 2012: P.S. All that "means" the answer to your question is: Do nothing........ (read in full...)
Should I text him or do nothing?
Q. This guy texted me about two weeks ago, wishing me a belated Happy Birthday. He had previously invited me out to lunch, so in this text he said he would be in touch soon to see when we can both get together for said "lunch". We are both very bu...
A. 15 September 2012: Here's a lesson in guy-talk:
"Be in-touch soon"... really means: "I find you interesting, and would be quite OK with joining you in bed.... BUT, you don't make my blood boil enough so that I'm actually going to give you that "hot pursuit"... (read in full...)
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