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writes:My problem is I have never liked sex very much. Its not an age thing Ive always been the same-Ive had a few relationships but they have always gone pear shape for that reasons. Whilst I realise sex is important to most men and women - I wonder is it possible that there are men who are straight and not interested but not into bonking too much???? I am straight and have had sex with a few men but its not enough to keep a relationship going as quite frankly I dont like it and yes I can go without - unlike most people.Are there other women like me around ? (I am not gay) Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 I will have sex when my partner asks... I don't care if we have intercourse or not... to be honest I would rather have intimacy with hugging, and kissing and cuddling... we do that daily... he never asks for sex either... neither of us misses it...
so what I can say is... if you would have sex with a partner occasionally and you find a man who is on the same page you are sexually you will be fine.
do you not want any touching or is it just the actual sex act?
many years ago Ann Landers (an advice columnist here in the states) did a poll and found that some outrageous number (like 80%) of the responding women said they would give up the sex act and just have the "foreplay" the hugging the kissing, the affection.... I wish I could find that information.
IF you don't like to be touched at all... well then I wonder if you have Aspergers or any of the disorders on the autistic spectrum?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): My sister will be 40 next year and she has had sex once in her life. She has been with her boyfriend for 6 years and they have never had sex. They just enjoy meeting up and going out to places. She says sex is not important to her and never will be. She's happy with her lot.
I think there are lots of men and women to whom sex is not the be all and end all.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 October 2012):
 Joyce: I believe that there is some chance that you might encounter such a guy who, like you, is not very interested in s*x.
HOWEVER, there is always the risk that he will believe that there IS going to be a sexual component to a budding friendship.... of that "friendship" going to a "romantic" partnership. It will be compassionate of you if you always make this clear if/when you meet a man who expresses "interest" in you....
I spent 7 years in a "relationship" with a woman who was delighful in so many ways... but who just wasn't much interested in s*x..... and the last four years were excruciating.... as I tried to justify staying with someone (a woman) who - like you - exhibited no interest in s*x.... (... though there WAS s*x in the beginning. In retrospect, I am suspect that that earlier s*x was more for trapping than for furthering intimacy.....)
Good luck....
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