My girlfriend broke up with me for interfering with her job
Q. Hi There, I wanted to get your advice about a bad breakup I’m currently going through. I started dating my co-worker after I resigned from the company. Even before I resigned her work schedule bothered me. Our manager would call, text, and IM her...
A. 12 November 2012: Rich: Your foray in to this girl's life was - or, at least, BECAME - inappropriate.... and you went over the edge of what she would tolerate... so she decided to let you go....
NOW, you really need to "let go" of her, and get on with your lif... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children?
Q. My husband has violent outbursts about 3 -4 times a year. Something small will usually set him off, but everyone in the family knows to run for cover. I have three children (8,11,13) who have witnessed him exploding in a rage. The last time it ...
A. 12 November 2012: You write: "..but I will stay for the sake of my children if they will be better off. Is it better for the kids to see this a few times a year, or break up the family."
I think you will find that the consensus is that the worst thing you can do i... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend's desire to have sex with another guy?
Q. My boyfriend is a wonderful guy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. He isn't gay or even bisexual, guys themselves make him uncomfortable sexually, but he's really attracted to penises. Which probably seems weird. I know he's ...
A. 12 November 2012: I think your submittal reveals a childish fascination and curiousity about both your budding sexualities....
In that regard, you and he should feel free to explore whatever you (and he) wish to try....
The most overriding factor that both... (read in full...)
Would it be a good idea to speak to my Mum about the things I've learned since my father's death?
Q. I have just moved back home after 12 years abroad. My Dad died 12 years ago, and I have found out recently he had 3 other children, from affairs after another. With my Mom, who he was married to, he had 3 of us. I was aware of 1 other from an af...
A. 12 November 2012: I believe there are two parts to "answering" your questions.
1. Don't bring up the subject of your Father to your Mother.... Even though your anger toward your Father has a "curiosity" component to it.... this is an appropriate time to keep tha... (read in full...)
Should I respect my parents or try to make my boyfriend happy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we've had a few major hiccups along the way but we've always weathered through. One of our main arguments is that I don't sleep over at his house unless my parents are away. My parents are a...
A. 12 November 2012: This "boyfriend" sounds totally self-centered and uninterested in you and the adult world outside his world... It doesn't bode well for much of a future with him... and, quite frankly, I'm surprised that you haven't noticed that....
HE'S tapping ... (read in full...)
If you can relate then please let me know. I am in love with my sister in law
Q. I am in love with my sister in law. I know that this is wrong but I am struggling against my feelings every day. I also know that nothing could ever happen between us. The devastation that that would bring to our families is too great. So why am...
A. 11 November 2012: Most of what you've written seems to be so much "fluff"... words that LOOK like you're writing a legitimate "question" on this site..... but which you and I (and everyone else who reads this) KNOW is so much B/S...
So... what to do????/ Do not a... (read in full...)
Help!!!! My confidence and self esteem are at an all time low...
Q. My self esteem and confidence was shattered by my ex boyfriend, he would always call me fat and make nasty comments about the way i looked and my weight. In the bedroom he would constantly tell me how crap i was at some things and how sometimes i ...
A. 11 November 2012: Here's a threepart answer to your dilemma...
1. Your "boyfriend" is, clearly, an as*hole. Dump him, forget him, and forget anything/everything he ever said to you....
2. Your Father isn't far behind....
3. If your Mother parted from ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed! During sex... Thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend proposed to me during sex. he called it making love and he asked me to marry him while his **** was inside me. i said yes but thought the whole time if he was joking and how could he ever think that this was a cool idea of proposin...
A. 11 November 2012: You've hit on an interesting phenomenon....
You see.... when a man's penis is inside a woman's vagina, ALL cranial/neural activity, which might have otherwise guided what his mouth was saying, is TOTALLY short-circuited.... and the mouth is... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my cousin. How can I take things to the next level?
Q. im 24 and my cousin is 37, i cant stop thinking about her. i sent her a dirty text meassage and i said i made a mistake. but she said at first she thought i was drunk lol but then i was sure you sent it to me by mistake. is she interested in me? how ...
A. 9 November 2012: You write: " how can i take this to the next level?"
You can't.... at least, not by yourself. IF you've "put your oar in the water"..... but weren't able to advance the canoe.... then it's time to go to the beach and reconsider wha'ssup... (read in full...)
Hooked on an ex that was no good....
Q. I'm really hooked on my ex and cannot stop thinking about him. He was just horrible to me, very jealous, possessive and would flip out over the smallest of things. He smoked weed, lived with his mother and he is 40 years old. I'm 12 years younger ...
A. 9 November 2012: Here's my prescription for extricating yourself from this guy and starting your life anew and in healthy relationship(s)....
Go to a game store - or a thrift store, if you want to save some $$$ - and get several "1000 piece" puzzles... the more... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: This reminds me of an interesting story from my college days.....
The guy who lived in the dorm room next to mine was intimate with his G/F, and - like you - was too embarrassed to purchase condoms....
HOWEVER, he has a great car (a nice Pont... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pulling away from me! please help!
Q. My BF and I have been together for over a year and at first he was attentive by ways of calling me a couple times a days to say hi, sending sweet messages, spending the entire weekend with me, and trying new things with me that he knew I would ...
A. 9 November 2012: Wow... I can't believe my good fortune! Just before seeing this submittal, I responded to the one above it ("I feel uneasy about my boyfriend!")... and this submittal takes the very same reply.... repeated herein:
(Quote) Here's the key phrase i... (read in full...)
I feel uneasy about my boyfriend!
Q. So I need boyfriend help. I know I am probably over reacting or over thinking but here we go... I'm 19 and like my boyfriend turned 19 this past tuesday.He lives in Florida and I live in New Jersey but he is planning on moving back up here soon. So...
A. 9 November 2012: Here's the key phrase in your submittal:
"...he loves me back, least that's what everyone including him tells me."
It is SO SIMPLE to say "I love you".... but oh-so-difficult to back it up with the appropriate actions...
YOU have descri... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, advice please?
Q. There is this guy I like. We have had a fling in the past n it stopped due to his mates not liking me. Recently he has started to txt every now and again. We meet back up and he started bringing up the past, and asking me how my love life is? Also ...
A. 9 November 2012: The two responders ahead of me have this just right...
YOU have the choice of being a s*x toy.... or, declining that indignity and looking for a reasonable B/F.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I settle down or just go out and have fun?
Q. Since breaking up with an old boyfriend I've kinda been off the rails, getting with random guys. I've since settled down with someone who says he loves me and been together for 6 months and I feel like I love him too. I can't help thinking of other ...
A. 9 November 2012: It's easy to diagnose that you have "KCS syndrome." That's "Kid in a Candy Store".....
The symptoms are exactly as you describe your's.... thinking only about those treats that you think you would like to partake of.... and limiting you time-fra... (read in full...)
My wife is in her mid 40's, she doesn't want sex and says her body has changed and menopause is kicking in. Should I buy that crap?
Q. I have a little problem, my wife is a hard working woman and does alot for our household but for the past few months she has been dead in the bed if you know what I mean. I have tried many things to bring our sex life back into action but shes ...
A. 9 November 2012: I think your choice of language is at least as "telling" as the details given in your submittal...
To that end, I believe you are revealing yourself to be quite self-centered in your intimate times with wifey... AND, consequently, you are not ... (read in full...)
Is it because I looked depressed that I can't get a girl?
Q. Before I was depressed people said I was cute and fun to be around. People would tell me I could get any girl I wanted. When I hit 15 I got acne and got depressed for NO reason. I think hormones screwed me up or something. Now I'm 18 and still no ...
A. 9 November 2012: When I was your age, and in high school, there was a classmate of mine who had TERRIBLE acne.... and he was tall and gangly and awkward......
BUT.... he ALWAYS had a good-looking, hot girl on his arm. How did he do it? Darned if I know....... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of taking him away from his girlfriend?
Q. Me and a guy at my job has been having a secret relationship for about a year during this time the relationship is a secret everyone knows. He has a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend(me and my boyfriend broke up for un-related reasons) now im singlr ...
A. 9 November 2012: Here's my take on this:
" My question is do I have a chance of taking him away from his girlfriend? Do you think that he has feelings for me?"
You have little or no chance of "taking him away from his girlfriend." After all, you are inferrin... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to meet guys? Tried hobbies, gym and bars with no success.
Q. I absolutely don't know where to meet guys. At work most of guys are married or involved or much older, plus it's not a good idea to date anyone from work. In Gym where I go to, there is never any interaction. I just work out there 3 times a week a...
A. 8 November 2012: If it's so that all sorts of people go there... I'd say that going to a LIBRARY is a great way to expose yourself to good prospects.....
I volunteer at my local library.... and the people who come in include OOOOODLES of beautiful and interest... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend's husband and I don't want it to end
Q. Last few months my best friend's husband and I have been sleeping together, last night he tells me he loves her and wants to break it off with me, I got mad and told him I don't want to end our relationship. What do I do? how do I keep him from ...
A. 8 November 2012: You have a choice to handle this in one of two ways:
1. Throw yourself at him more,.... do whatever it takes to make this whole situation as messy as possible... I.E: Contact the wife and reveal her hubby's tryst with you...
2. Take the ... (read in full...)
My wife wears jewelry another man bought her and it makes me uncomfortable
Q. My wife made a new business acquaintance whose family owns a jewelry store. As part of celebrating a milestone he gave her a silver and amethyst necklace and an amethyst ring, which she sometimes wears. To be fair, he also gave a gift to my wife'...
A. 7 November 2012: I like SVC's balancing opinion... and would like to endorse it....
Whilest YOU may be "overreacting" to the "business gift" aspect of this jewelry... it is AT LEAST equally important that a partner/mate/spouse be considerate of their partner/... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with my rich celebrity brother? Have the drugs affected him so badly that he has lost his ability to be rational?
Q. Its ridiculous the way my brother lies. He has become a complete lying machine. He is extremely rich, handsome and a celebrity. His marriage with his wife is utterly awful. Since they dated, he cheated on her openly. He did drugs and weed and his ...
A. 7 November 2012: "Sounds" to me like you're spending 'way too much time thinking about your brother's life.... I can only assume that you are ignoring your own (life)....
I'm sure it's difficult being Charley Sheen's sister.... but, honey, you have simply GOT to l... (read in full...)
Housemate politics
Q. Me and my housemate are about to fall out. Basically - our front door lock broke and 3 out of 5 housemates got new keys for the new lock. 2 of us didn't. We had got back door keys cut before this (foresight) for ourselves just in case. So we weren...
A. 7 November 2012: If the bunch of you can do this much quibbling about a buck-and-a-half price of a key.... AND who does and/or doesn't have them (keys)... then I predict that the bunch of you will explode and go your separate ways very soon...... (read in full...)
Should I bother with him anymore?
Q. Is there any point bothering with this guy. He always texts me days after we seen each other, sometimes i'll have to wait a week to even receive a text. And then when I happen to take a while to reply, I noticed that he also takes ages himself, it's ...
A. 7 November 2012: No. There's no point to it. He's playing you....... (read in full...)
Menopause Questions
Q. Does a woman in menopause orgasm? Does her sexdrive diminish during or after menopause? I'm at the age where women in my age bracket are menopausal and find it difficult to find women over 50 interested in sex. I'm a very attractable guy for 52 and ...
A. 7 November 2012: Brother: menopausal and post-menopausal women constitute the greatest group of wonderful/enjoyable/sensual and sexual/ and all-around GREAT friends and partners that you are EVER going to find!!!!!!
IF you are in the 51 to 59 age bracket - as you... (read in full...)
While my wife and I were seperated she slept with someone else, how do I let this go?
Q. I'm having a hard time getting rid of the past. My wife and I split for almost two month quite a few years ago. During this time she had a fling with another man. This man was a disgusting excuse for a man. He's a drunk and almost 15 years older ...
A. 7 November 2012: You say that this happened "quite a few years ago..." and that it has, just recently, resurfaced as something that is "getting to you." From your submittal header, I'm guessing that your age is about 35. THAT is a "passage" year/time. Get Gail ... (read in full...)
Why has he suddenly gone cold?
Q. Hello For 10 days ago I talked to a guy on a dating site and he became interested directly. He said it many times and complemented me a lot and he said that he talked to a lot girls on the dating site but didnt like them he did only for fun and...
A. 6 November 2012: Remember: Until you meet him in the flesh.. who you are communicating with, electronically, could be ANYBODY. This "person" sounds like an experienced player... so I suggest that you proceed with caution, if at all....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm so embarrassed of my past and am afraid it will ruin my relationship...
Q. So, i have been with my boyfriend for several years and we are so in love, thinking of getting married in the near future. The problem is, the past few months i've been thinking about my past constantly and feel so embarrased. The thing is, ...
A. 6 November 2012: Just as you can't "unring" a bell..... you can't change your past...
If you think it appropriate, you might raise this issue with your B/F and see how HE feels about it... IF he has misgivings... then better to learn of them now, rather than lat... (read in full...)
Parents are stopping me seeing my boyfriend, what can I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months and everything was perfect (we're both 17, nearly 18). But now my parents have decided they don't want me to see him anymore and I don't know what to do. I really don't want to split up with him ...
A. 5 November 2012: Tula: Great advice!!! I hope the OP reads it... takes it in - in the spirit it was offered - and tries to follow it...
OP: See where your parents are in all this... and work "with" them....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What does my boyfriend's behaviour mean? He's still in touch with his ex and he didn't seem keen to see me after my ten day holiday.
Q. I've just been away on holiday with 3 other female friends for the last 10 days. Spoke and texted my BF the whole time I was away, he said how much he missed me etc. Tonight is my first night back and I've missed him like crazy, I wanted to see him ...
A. 5 November 2012: I'd say that the only "plumbing job" in your submittal is the HOSING that he is expecting you to believe!!!!!... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 5 November 2012: Let's look at your submittal in the order that you presented it:
1. "I felt bad for kicking him out and in all honesty probably wanted an excuse to get in touch with him so the following day I sent him a message apologising for my part in what ... (read in full...)
His friends come before me
Q. I have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have had difficulties with a couple whom my boyfriend knew before me: I had a sexual remark made to me by the couples husband. I made this know to the wife of this man. She severed communications with me. ...
A. 4 November 2012: Here's some logical advice: Get a more-loyal boyfriend and a nicer circle of "friends".....
That should do it....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My baby daddy calls me up for sex and money.
Q. My ex-husband/ baby daddy has been taking advantage of me. We started back talking hanging out, and sexing. he got hired at one of the big three. I gave him the hiring number, paid for his birth certificate and moneys for his lights and gas back and ...
A. 4 November 2012: "Sounds" to me like he knows how to take advantage of YOU.... and you are powerless to resist him....
Good luck..... (you'll need it!!!!)........ (read in full...)
I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: OP: Thanks for the update. I didn't know that morals had hit "rock bottom"..... Good luck........ (read in full...)
I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: OP: Thanks for the update. I didn't know that morals had hit "rock bottom"..... Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he acknowledge me in front of my husband?
Q. I want to know why a married man who I occasionally bump into and who talks to me would panick and walk away as I was about to say hi to him in front of my husband. We have a neighbourly relationship. When he saw me walking toward him, he starred ...
A. 4 November 2012: I suspect that he had a "woody" in his trousers.... and was concerned that your "Mr" would see it,.... and see that this guy has the "hots" for you.... so he had to get out of "Mr's" line of vision.......
After that... this was really a "non-iss... (read in full...)
Already spent 1000 dollars to help the man I love to come to visit me and now he's asking me to take a big loan for him
Q. Hello to all, When I went to china recently for a training course, I met a guy. I thought that our relationship would be only brief but he told me that he wants me to know that it was not only about getting some fun for him but he has feelings...
A. 4 November 2012: Please look closely at my mouth as I speak these words very clearly and distinctly:
This... is ..... a ..... SCAM!!!! Do .... not .... fall .... for .... this .... SCAM!!! Do .... not .... offer ..... even.... a... FARTHING.... to this sca... (read in full...)
What does "seeing each other" mean?
Q. What does seeing each other mean, does it only reference to dating? This girl and I have been texting for nearly 2 months and i see her every saturday evening when she'll happen to be on a night out with her friends just like i will. But we always ...
A. 4 November 2012: IN my parlance.... "seeing each other" MUST mean that you see ALL of one-another.... i.e.: That you "see" one another WITHOUT any clothes on!!!!!!
BUT.... that may be just me and MY definition of "seeing each other"........ (read in full...)
He is a teenage dad, does drugs, repeating 10th grade and I don't get any bad vibes at all!
Q. Hello. I apologize in advance for this post being long. Please just bear with me, I really need some good answers. To start off, let me tell you a bit about myself. I am a fifteen year old girl and am in the tenth grade. In school i'm kind of shy ...
A. 4 November 2012: To the OP: I read you entire submittal, AND your follow-up.
After you wrote, ".... my voice of reason isn't telling me stay away from him at all. I don't want to miss this oppurtunity to miss out on getting to know this interesting person."... (read in full...)
I want to tell her I need more sex without seeming needy!
Q. My girlfriend doesn't seem to be into sex anymore and says we have been dating long enough that we don't need to do it very often anymore. How can I get her to be into it and want to do without having to ask and sound super needy about it?...
A. 4 November 2012: You can't "get her in to it..." since she has now put out for you often enough that she believes that she has hooked you... and you are sufficiently dedicated to her that she can discontinue the s*x... which, incidentally, was one of YOUR important ... (read in full...)
She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!
Q. Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read h...
A. 4 November 2012: What happened in the past is HER past.... and you are naive to expect her to reveal it all to you... and you are pompous to reveal that you believe you are ENTITLED to look in to her past..... AND... if she sees this, she ought to give you a ... (read in full...)
I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: When a guy meets a girl, for the first time, at some party... and fingers her that same night.... SHE IS "TOO EASY!!!!"... (read in full...)
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