What's the difference between sexual attraction and love?
Q. Hi, Anybody out there that can tell me What the difference is between sexual attraction And love? And doesn't it go hand in hand? Thanks...
A. 5 December 2012: OP: How about you stop this "beating around the bush" and post your REAL question, either in this or in another, new submittal??????... (read in full...)
Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?
Q. I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended ...
A. 4 December 2012: You write: "...Why did she want me back just to end up like this again? ..."
The short answer is: "because she could.." (YOU let her get away with it!!!)
Hope your next girlfriend is much nicer and more loyal....... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on having an extemely self-centered, selfish, hypocritical friend?
Q. Z and I started hanging out with each other (met her through my close friend Y) at college, and at first I thought she was a very fun, talkative, and easy-going person. She just has that charm when she first meets new friends. Z and I would spent ...
A. 4 December 2012: Some "friend". You should be able to find plenty of better ones (friends). Start looking....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
After 3 years he still wont move in with me.....
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He says he loves me and i love him too. Even though weve been through rough patches etc we have always tried to keep strong and make things work. But after 3 years of him being in...
A. 4 December 2012: You write: "....im not asking for marriage or anything like that. I just want us to be together in a proper relationship..."
Many people are of the opinion that those two sentences are contradictory. Is your boyfriend one of them?
Good lu... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he settled for me against his apparent "type"?
Q. My boyfriend looks at porn. This is fine. Although he tends to look at girls who are the seem like the exact opposite of me. They, for example, have tattoos, have edge, and are usually brunette. His favorite girl buddies also look this way.I have ...
A. 4 December 2012: Here's an interesting detail about guys, which might help you make heads-or-tails of this:
The only real "type" that guys seek are those who will provide s**ual pleasures to them. After all, those pleasures can - and often do - take place in... (read in full...)
My husband is spending Christmas in Australia without me!
Q. My husband of a year and 9 months decided to go on hols to Australia for 6 weeks (he only works at peak seasonal times) - i couldn't get off work. He rang at weekend saying he was gonna stay with his mates over christmas and new year. I am totally ...
A. 3 December 2012: It sounds pretty silly to me.... perhaps it's the "straw that will break the camel's back"..... and you can make it as painless as possible by asking him to just get a one-way ticket.... because YOU DON'T WANT HIM BACK!!!!!!
Good luck, mate!!!!... (read in full...)
Since we moved in together he is a different person, I've tried talking to him but it doesn't work! Help!
Q. Why do people change to the worst. I've been dating my boyfriend for years and he was romantic an caring. Since we live in together his now a total different person, he doesn't want to do anything in the house. I have come from work cook, clean and ...
A. 3 December 2012: What you are finding is that your "man" has morphed in to a "boy" who is happy to have his MOTHER living with him, and tending to him..... (Yet, having S*X with him!!!!).... which is what "living together" really is!!!!
You.... and a great nu... (read in full...)
How long do women need foreplay before being turned on?
Q. Hello I've read an artice on internet which showed something different what I've knew until now. In this article is mentioned that to turn a woman on needs at least 15 minutes foreplay and sometimes even more( I thout 5 to 10 minutes its enough) ...
A. 2 December 2012: It sometimes takes a woman as long as 4 to 5 minutes after she first sees me.... to get a craving to be intimate with me..... tho' one, once, held out for the duration of the dinner that we were enjoying........ (read in full...)
He's always needing money, always questioning my feelings for him, and never wants to go out or do anything.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months, I love his personality and sense of humor...but seems like he never has any money and he makes more than i. he asked me a couple of weeks ago to make his house payment for him because he was three ...
A. 2 December 2012: The sooner you get away from this irresponsible child, the sooner you can get on with an ADULT life.... with an ADULT man....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to have sex and puts his friends before me. Why?
Q. After ending a 10 year relationship i begun a relationship with a friend who i really love. He is 43 years old and appears to be a commitment phobic! We have always had a good sex life....in the 8 months we have been together. Recently he does not ...
A. 2 December 2012:
Yes. You can do better....... (read in full...)
Why is my ex talking to me again?
Q. My ex, now married, is talking to me on a regular basis and telling me what's going on in his life. Is he interested in me again or just want someone to talk to???...
A. 1 December 2012: He wants to see if he can get you back in to bed.
Case closed....... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and it's embarrassing. Should I get a male prostitute so I can get the first time out of the way?
Q. Probably the most humiliating thread to post. So anon for obvious reasons. Well, basically I'm a virgin girl 21, and for the past year or so I have been teased by literally everyone who found out I was a virgin. It hasn't at all been for lack of ...
A. 1 December 2012: You "sound" like a delightful girl who has been hoodwinked - by "media" - in to believing that there's some magic in being a tart....
Note: There isn't (any such magic)!!!!!
Hold on to your chastity.... and hold out for a guy.... that ONE... (read in full...)
What are my chances? I thought it was mutual love from the start. But is she having doubts?
Q. I met this girl a few months ago love at first site on both sides. She is still married and has a kid with this Guy. He lives in another state so I'm not worries but they saw each other a few weeks ago at their daughter's birthday party a...
A. 30 November 2012: Yes. My "ides" is for you to go to the sidelines and wait until "something" happens in her life, such that she is available to you....
Short of that, stay away from her....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What would you think if your other half seeks emotional support from the opposite sex?
Q. I have a boyfriend (tgt about 3 years) and everything seems to work out ok between us. I don't know about other ppl, but I always need to feel "connected" to the one I love by having deep conversations, I love sharing deep thoughts, ideas......
A. 30 November 2012: I think your submittal "goes to" the need to have a good match, with a partner, relative to the intensity of how you view/talk about/think about various subjects.... That is a NECESSARY compatibility in order for two people to have a successful ... (read in full...)
He keeps me hidden from all aspects of his life but I still love him, should I stay or go?
Q. I have been with my bf for 1 and 1/2 years. He keeps me hidden from all aspects of his life. He doesnt want me to be around his friends, co-workers or his family. I have only met 3 of his friends and recently met some of his co-workers only because ...
A. 30 November 2012: Maybe he is being cautious that you might run in to his WIFE if he lets you get "too close"........ (read in full...)
What's the difference between sexual attraction and love?
Q. Hi, Anybody out there that can tell me What the difference is between sexual attraction And love? And doesn't it go hand in hand? Thanks...
A. 30 November 2012: One of life's ironies is that WOMEN think that it DOES "go hand-in-hand"...... but, MEN think that there is little or no relation between the two concepts.....
Figure that out and you'll be much better prepared to spend time with (and have a "... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is respectful and caring but indifferent about love, what's the story?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Whilst he behaves is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, in fact he tells me he doesn't. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or I should be a little patient with him? He ...
A. 30 November 2012: Q.A. I have "been there" relative to what you describe...
Your best way to handle this is to ask your "boyfriend" if, in fact, he really does or doesn't love you..... AND, if he is flagrant enough to repeat what you report in this submitta... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 29 November 2012: In the second line of your submittal, it sez "really angry"..... change that to "shoot them to death" and see if you think your submittal is still OK.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I can’t choose between two guys!
Q. I am 14, and can’t chose between two guys, they are both my age. i have been going to the same school as one of the guys for about 13 years, and we know each other pretty well. We had a ‘thing’ in 5th grade, then he left for a year. He came back ...
A. 29 November 2012: It doesn't get any better..... For example, I am now 62 years old.... and I'm aware that there are some 3.6 BILLION women on this Earth.... AND I CAN'T MAKE UP MY MIND WHICH ONE TO SELECT FOR MY "GIRLFRIEND".....
(But, I keep looking!... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure he cheated on me but he wont admit it, what do I do now?
Q. I am married 24 years, and recently found out that my husband cheated on me, but he won't admit it. I have been going through treatments because I have cancer and he started a new job. Because of the chemo I was very sick and not thinking clearly so ...
A. 29 November 2012: I can give you a personal reflection on this. To wit:
TWICE, the lady I was dating was diagnosed with breast cancer.... and both had surgery, chemotherapy... and emerged in as best a shape as one can, under the circumstances.....
IT NEVER OCCU... (read in full...)
I feel that I am not the best lover for my wife
Q. First of all, I give my excuses for my English. I am from Argentina. I got married 3 years ago when I was 44 and my wife was 42. We met each other one year before our marriage. The thing is that I am extremely jealous of her sexual past. She insis...
A. 29 November 2012: IF you choose to let her past define your relationship.... THEN, I assure you that you can scuttle anything good that might have happened.....
Why not try to forget what you know about her past?.... and get on with your's and her's future??... (read in full...)
I'm so confused. I feel so bad for his son and wish he cared about him more but I don't want to be unsympathetic to my boyfriend.
Q. Hi. I wrote before about my boyfriend who has no contact with his son and there was a pretty clear response from you counties and uncles, that his behaviour is no good. Especially moving were responses from those of you whose fathers were absent. ...
A. 29 November 2012: WHY would you give a moment's thought to this?
Your "Boyfriend" is a dog.... his ex is a lying bitch... and YOU are a wiping mat for your "man".....
Sorry.... but I can't seem to conjur up much sympathy for you........ (read in full...)
Orgasms out of sync with ejaculation?
Q. I have a question about an issue I've been having. Basically, it seems like my ejaculation and orgasms have gotten out of sync. This has only happened in the past 5 years or so, previously they happened at exactly the same time. I'll try to ...
A. 29 November 2012: I have a suspicion that you are not acquainted with the word "cunnilimgus".....
IF you ever find out what that means (Google it, please) THEN you will/might learn what turns on your G/F.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My husband seems to prefer watching porn over having sex with me.
Q. My husband and I got married within a year of knowing each other and we have only been married for 6 months. Since I've had our daughter he seems to prefer watching porn to having sex. we only have sex if i basically tell him to have sex with me. a ...
A. 29 November 2012: YOu tell him to choose to be with YOU, or with his ex- (which is, obviously, his alternative to "you")......
Once you do that, and get his reaction, you will know just where you stand....
IF the rat chooses HER.... then make sure he pays ple... (read in full...)
There's always rumors going around that my man is cheating
Q. Am in a relationship fo 5years with th guy of th same age,we hav a 4year old baby gal and am nw 2months pregnant.the problem is thre always rumours of him n otha gals evn wen i caught him redhanded he said its bcoz he jst likes jokes..nw he insults ...
A. 28 November 2012: ... and you're satisfied to have this DOG in your life????... and you're BREEDING with him????
Good thing you're not my Sister.... or I'd box your ears and say, "Wake up!!!!!"... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a relationship that's going nowhere?
Q. I met a guy online, we chatted for a couple of years on and off and eventually we met up and started dating. Before we met I was never really interested in him romantically but in person he was charming and kinda grew on me. We've been together for ...
A. 28 November 2012: It's not "wrong".... but it's kind of "stupid"........ (read in full...)
Which one do I choose?
Q. I have a question.. Ok so there this guy. He says he's completely in love with me and I'm his soul mate etc. *D* Then there's my ex, *A* he also says the same stuff as *D* but. I think *A* actually means it. Because me and *A* have dated for 5...
A. 28 November 2012: I suggest that you get a can of "Alphabet Soup" ... heat it up, and pour it in a bowl for lunch.....
Whilest indulging in it..... look to see WHICH of the letters "A" or "D" shows up first. Then, pick that guy.
THAT will be at least as valid a... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has been fantasizing about a co-worker for some time.
Q. Hi, just wondering can anyone give me some advice or input into something I an dealing with. I think my boyfriend has been fantasizing about a co-worker for some time. I think when he was in bed with me he was also fantasizing about her. I am now ...
A. 28 November 2012: I think you need to print out a copy of this submittal, show it to your B/F and ask him, "What do you think about this????"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I feel like I am competing with my boyfriend's own mom. She is insanely jealous of me. What's going on!? Help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like his relationship with his mother is unusual (mostly on her part). When I first met his mother I thought she was very nice and apparently she thought the same of me. I am a very ...
A. 28 November 2012: IF you "compete" with a guy's Mother, for his affections, you DON'T HAVE A CHANCE TO WIN.... so cut off the/this "competition" early and save yourself a lot of heartache/heartbreak.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated...should I take him back?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs has cheated on me with another woman that he said he knows for many years. He said is nothing serious, he helps her out when she needs him and he can count on one hand how many times he had sex with her while we been ...
A. 28 November 2012: IF I had a nickel for every time I asked a woman to "take me at my word"..... I would be a VERY well-to-do man....
Don't give him even a bit of slack... and tell him that it's OVER between the two of you.... then get on with your life....... (read in full...)
I have so many questions and so many concerns about whether or not I can trust him.
Q. part of my boyfriends job is to drag women into traps. he makes them think he loves them so they fall in his love and then he tests their real emotions towards some stuff. he promised to stop this job in a week, after the last file he is deali...
A. 28 November 2012: How stupid would you have to be to spend even another MINUTE with this jerk?????
Good luck..... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend wants nothing t do with me.. What do you think??
Q. So i haven't talked to my boyfriend in about 3 weeks.. and i feel as if he's ignoring me.. i don't know what to do.. this isn't the first time. He usually dosen't talk to me for a week or two then just calls or texts me and acts like nothings ...
A. 28 November 2012: 3 WEEKS????? Honey, if you have EVER put out for this guy... then YOU are strictly a "booty call".... and nothing else......
How long will it REALLY take for you to see that this dog isn't "in to" you.... and relegate him to the trash bin of y... (read in full...)
My daughters are jealous of the time I spend with my boyfriend.
Q. Ok, here is one for ya. Been in a serious relationship with a wonderful man and things are great except for my two girls (ages 19 and 20) from a previous marriage. I thought it would be his 11 year old daughter that would be a problem, but no... My ...
A. 28 November 2012: How ironic! HIS daughter (age 11 YO) is acting like an adult.... and YOUR's (ages 19 and 20) are acting like young children....
There's really no "question" here.... IF your girls continue to behave like jerks, you ignore them.... and, if neces... (read in full...)
What do I say to my ex when she comes to see me to get her back?
Q. My girlfriend of a year ended our relationship over things I've done. I feel like a part of my soul has been taken. She has given me chance after chance, and I've blown it each time. All I need is for a fresh start, and one more chance to prove that ...
A. 28 November 2012: I think you are asking us to validate your feelings about being an honest and trustworthy companion/lover with this woman.....
Myself????? If she were my Sister, I would tell her: "Dump this guy until and unless he proves himself to be worthy o... (read in full...)
Am I rushing the wedding bells?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship for 10 months with a wonderful man. We see each other every day and spend weekends together. Our families have intertwined and everything is going great. When should I be expecting a marriage proposal? I'm 43 ...
A. 28 November 2012: I'm with SVC on this. If you and he have been "seeing" each other for 10 months.... you probably have a pretty good handle on whether or not you and he could/should make a "permanent" committment to spending the next (put number here) years ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money and she hasn't paid a penny back
Q. My boyfrind of just over 2 years has just lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money. This was 6 weeks ago now and she hasn't paid a penny back. I reluctantly agreed to this because my boyfrind tells me's a good man and she is now just a friend ...
A. 27 November 2012: "Sounds" to me like you and your "B/F" are not married... but are co-mingling your "household" income....
Do you understand just what a predicament you have enlisted in????
Frankly, I'd chalk up the 200-lbs to a lousy decision made by... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me!
Q. I am concerned my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have had suspicions before as in our first year of University I heard him talking, drunkenly, to one of his other flat mates about how he would love to sleep with this other girl he lived with and ...
A. 27 November 2012: Why waste another minute with a guy who behaves like this?
EVEN if he weren't (isn't) doing s*x with this girl.... all the other "stuff" that you describe about his behaviour is plenty-enough to decide that you REALLY don't want to play whatever... (read in full...)
What did my G/f mean when she said this?
Q. My girlfriend told me this: "I sometimes love you and sometimes not, when you're with me I don't but when I'm with you I really want you to be with me" I have no idea what to do, we broke up a week or two ago but we both want to be back, but she ...
A. 27 November 2012: The hidden message in what you describe is that SHE wants to control the agenda..... and she's even been bold enough to tell you so.....
YOU'RE "question" is: Do you want to spend time with a woman who has already told you that she (and only she... (read in full...)
Is our relationship doomed? He, (45) verbally abused me (19) when I queried his actions.
Q. I found out my partner has been lying to me. It's been going on for months until last week when I asked him why he has been lying to me (iv'e been honest, not cheated nor played around) Instead of him explaining he just verbally abused me a...
A. 26 November 2012: Yes. the relationship is, indeed, "doomed".... AND it's all for the better.
Remember this wise advice that I got from my Father, many years ago: "When someone isn't talking to you... DON'T INTERRUPT THEM!!!!!" Apply that to your situatio... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 26 November 2012: You ask: " Is there any hope of turning this relationship around?"
Probably not. AND (here's some "good" news).... you'll feel much better when this relationship DOESN'T "turn around".... and you can resume your life with a REAL "girlfri... (read in full...)
I have refused to do this. So why is my Bf obsessed with wanting to see me do oral with another guy. What else can I say to him?
Q. hi i am in a long term relationship since my teen years and the last 4 years long distance. but late 1 year my guy has been obsessed about seeimg me doing oral with another guy. i have always said no. but he has kept on asking for this.. i dont kn...
A. 26 November 2012: You write: "..but this problem is creating distance between us please help.. Why does he want this?"
In reaction to your first phrase, I'd say: "You can't put ENOUGH distance between you and this cad.... but give it your best shot."
As to y... (read in full...)
Why did my teacher only invite me and none of the other students to his birthday party? He's 24 Does he love me?.
Q. I've have been in the big trouble! I have fallen in love with my teacher, and I wonder if he loves me too. The way he looks at me and he also looks at me a lot! My friends already thought I'm crazy. They said it's impossible to love the teacher ...
A. 26 November 2012: This is the third such "I'm in love with my teacher, and I think he/she is in love with me...." submittal that we've seen in the last couple of days.
Is it just me? .... or do some of you other Aunts and Uncles also find it most curious that the... (read in full...)
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