Why did my teacher only invite me and none of the other students to his birthday party? He's 24 Does he love me?.
Q. I've have been in the big trouble! I have fallen in love with my teacher, and I wonder if he loves me too. The way he looks at me and he also looks at me a lot! My friends already thought I'm crazy. They said it's impossible to love the teacher ...
A. 26 November 2012: This is the third such "I'm in love with my teacher, and I think he/she is in love with me...." submittal that we've seen in the last couple of days.
Is it just me? .... or do some of you other Aunts and Uncles also find it most curious that the... (read in full...)
Why would a girl cheat on her boyfriend after telling him they should wait to have sex?
Q. My friend started dating a girl at the beginning of the relationship they both agreed to wait until they have sex. However, the girl did a 180 and had sex with a lot of other guys behind his back while seemingly being chaste. I want to know why...
A. 26 November 2012: Sometimes, girls get that special "itch".... and can't resist having it scratched.... It's just a "fact of life."... (read in full...)
His ex attends the holiday gatherings with his family, isn't this disrespectful to me?
Q. So I began a relationship with a guy that ive known for many years.Early in the relationship we moved in together and I started having second thoughts.So I told him him we were done.I regret it but I spent the weekend with my ex and yes I had sex ...
A. 26 November 2012: Yes, it is unfair and stupid for his family to invite his ex- to holiday affairs...
The "problem" ... as I see it, however .... is that this ex- won't STAY an "ex-"!!!!!!
YOU can handle this best by packing all of this cad's "things" in to b... (read in full...)
What am I dealing with? His drinking problem or something else?
Q. please help, my husband of 14 years has had a drink problem for years which has got worse over the past 3 years [he has been drinking 3/4 of a liter bottle of vodka a night and gets "out of it" does stupid things like texting/messaging girls/wo...
A. 26 November 2012: You write: ".... I am absolutely heartbroken, i am so shocked and hurt and angry."
I was surprised that you did not write - instead - "... I am absolutely ecstatic (not, heartbroken), i was (am) so shocked and hurt and angry... but then realized... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship after the "where are we going" conversation! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in an exclusive relationship for almost three years (both of us over 45). We see each other five times a week, taking turns sleeping at each other's home. My home is a lot for me to take care of (large yard and pool), n...
A. 26 November 2012: You write: "I love him but I am starting to feel resentment and used for sex. I ended our relationship and I'm writing hoping someone can offer some words to make me feel better and that this was the right decision. "
Here's what you're dying to... (read in full...)
Do you think he contacted me because he wanted to move on and close this door for good?
Q. I met this man over a year ago after chatting online. We hit it off. He lives in another state but he flew in to meet with me and have dinner. We had a great time and he went home. He contacted me the next day to say he wanted to come back again ...
A. 26 November 2012: I suggest that you give this guy "the benefit of the doubt" that his birthday greeting to you was simply a genuine, meaningful way for him to make a contact with you.... but do NOT take it as a "reopener" to the relationship that has soured.....
... (read in full...)
How do I show more respect to my boyfriend?
Q. Hello there, I need help, I'm 21 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for over three years now and we've our ups and downs. To cut a long story short he has been telling me he's lacking respect from me and that I don't treat him as the man he ...
A. 26 November 2012: P.P.S. Have your boyfriend read them, too!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I show more respect to my boyfriend?
Q. Hello there, I need help, I'm 21 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for over three years now and we've our ups and downs. To cut a long story short he has been telling me he's lacking respect from me and that I don't treat him as the man he ...
A. 26 November 2012: I suggest that you get a copy of Dale Carnegie's book "How to win friends and influence people" and read it. This book is a staple of how to get along with others. It's an oldie - to be sure - (was written in the 1950s).... but its message is ... (read in full...)
Does this relationship have any kind of future?
Q. I have been dating an older man exclusively for a little over 3 months now. We have been going slowly on the emotional aspect, which I understand b/c we were both still healing from previous relationships. But there are a few things that have...
A. 26 November 2012: From reading your submittal, I'd estimate that your 3 months "thing" with this guy has had about 30 YEARS-worth of drama in it.....
IF drama is what turns you on.... then you and this guy (and this "relationship") are just the ticket for a happy ... (read in full...)
I don't want any contact with my "boyfriend", what Do I Do Now?
Q. I met my boyfriend 11 years ago during vacation and it was instant connection, we hit it off right away. We are in long distance relationship, YES believe it or not, we are and we kept in touch all those years. I am sure some people out there will ...
A. 26 November 2012: This... for 11 years?????
I believe you belong in the Guiness Book of World Records, under the heading: "Girl who has allowed herself to be foot-wipe for an uncaring, unfeeling guy for the longest of anyone in the world."
C'mon... open... (read in full...)
How do I keep my new friend separated from the rest of my friends?
Q. i recently made a friend she's really sweet and caring and i want to keep her in my life because i like going to eat with her, go shopping and watch movies and stuff but i don't want to go to parties with her. she's not very fun and exciting. i ...
A. 26 November 2012: I don't think it would be RUDE to try to keep this new (girl) friend separate from some of your OTHER friends.... BUT, I do think it will, ultimately, prove to be stressful, if not impossible....
I expect you'll find there's simply no way you can ... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling in love with a teacher at my school.
Q. There is this teacher at my school. I don't take him but his class is next door to my first period class and my locker. He's young (28) and im 13 .. I see him in the hallways during lunch, in the mornings and i often stare at him. I think he's ...
A. 26 November 2012: You back off and spend lots more time with your books than in your fantasy about this teacher....
Good luck..... Study hard....... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would leave me if I didn't stop seeing my friend.
Q. Back in May of this year my wife and I had new neighbors move in after being introduced to each other we came to find out he was from England and I grew up in Ireland we instantly hit it off seeing as we both had so much in common as far as sports ...
A. 26 November 2012: If you really do spend 70% of your available time with this friend - instead of your wife - then that IS out of proportion, by my reckoning.....
How about dialing back a little on that time (with your friend) and see if you can find the balance ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my mother is still super strict.
Q. I'm 19 and my mother is extremely strict what should I do?...okay so here's the deal. I'm 19 and living at home. But don't worry I pay for my food and my rent. I depend only on myself. I'm responsible and really mature. But unfortunately my mother ...
A. 26 November 2012: "The rules" are, that, if you live under your folks' roof then you have to abide by their rules.....
IF you want things to be otherwise, then you have to take a different address....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does she want to come back to me?
Q. My wife suddenly walked out on me 4 years ago without notice. She had her reasons and I was relieved after a year without her anger and her insanity after feeling incredibly hurt by her.My daughters think she's nuts and lived with me until 1 married ...
A. 26 November 2012: After reading your submittal, only one question comes to my mind: Why would you consider spending ANY time with this woman??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I tell the friend to stop the stares and the compliments? My husband is becoming uneasy with what is happening
Q. What to do? Here is the situation. I know this guy for probably 12-13 years. He is a friend of a friend. He doesn't live in a same city, but comes to spend week end at his vacation house here once a month. He has a wife, and 2 young children. I ...
A. 25 November 2012:
OP: You can scold me ad infinitum, if you wish. I have no stake in this matter. You do.....
Good luck......... (read in full...)
How do I deal or forget her past sexual experience? Because I really love this girl and don't want to lose her
Q. Okay well I have been dating this girl for 2 months and i have really started to love her she is the first girl i have ever wanted to say i love you to but when i start to think about her past with all of the men she has slept with it really ...
A. 25 November 2012: Contrary to what you might have heard from Mitt Romney,.... life is NOT exactly like an "Etch-a-Sketch" that you can turn over and refresh......
YOU have to decide if you prefer to spend your time judging your potential G/F's PAST..... or if you w... (read in full...)
Family dinner with the guy I'm dating. How do I make it less awkward?
Q. I would like feedback and advice to my issue because I seem to be stressing over this more than I need to. I am a 25 year old female and about to graduate with my Masters. I have been dating this man who is hardworking and has a big heart becaus...
A. 25 November 2012: Here's what I would like to know:
HOW would your folks feel about this guy if he were 3' 6" tall..... and a multi-zillionaire??????
Forget your folks' opinion, and live YOUR life as you wish.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Advise please: experiencing strong attraction to a married teacher!
Q. I am 16 years old and I have really strong feelings for one of my teachers... I've had these feelings for almost 4 years now. He taught my 8th grade science class and then I had him again for 9th grade bio. His wife also teaches in my school but ...
A. 25 November 2012: You're now going to see a ZILLION responses that are going to reveal to you that your's is a common, youthful infatuation which has NO FUTURE... and which you should chalk up to a pleasant fantasy.....and forget!!!
Good luck.....
P.S. Spend m... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable over his ex...
Q. Hi and thank you I've been with someone for 7 months we are exclusive. He's good to me, treats me well except when it comes to his ex which he claims there "just friends". I have been trying hard to believe it BUT my intuition is telling me other...
A. 25 November 2012: The nice thing about being a woman.... and having "woman's intuition" is that it helps clear a path through the fog that we guys hope you ladies will find yourselves in whilest we are acting like guys.....
Follow your instincts.... and tell thi... (read in full...)
What am I supose to do here ? Don't want to be a part time girlfriend.
Q. So im having some problems lately with my boyfriend that have escalated from his new job. Needless to say at the moment i am currently and unfortunatly unemployed something iv never experienced before as ive worked since i was 15. this is a trying...
A. 25 November 2012: The "choice" is clearly your's. You may continue to be this guy's foot-wiping mat.... OR you can grab hold of your self-esteem and respect and tell him that he needs to find another girl (or guy) to be his personal assistant.
After all,... ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the friend to stop the stares and the compliments? My husband is becoming uneasy with what is happening
Q. What to do? Here is the situation. I know this guy for probably 12-13 years. He is a friend of a friend. He doesn't live in a same city, but comes to spend week end at his vacation house here once a month. He has a wife, and 2 young children. I ...
A. 25 November 2012: I think that your having been SO ACUTELY AWARE of this guy's presence and actions TELLS ME that YOU are "interested" in him.... and NOT (only) that he has given evidence of interest in YOU!!!!!
IF you are dis-interested in this man.... then you... (read in full...)
I am in love but he doesn't want to commit!
Q. I'm in love with someone who at the moment doesn't to commit to a relationship. Right now, we both are good friends, we help each other, hang out, text and call each other regularly. We have grown to trust each other and have each others'backs. When ...
A. 24 November 2012: My "guy" point of view is that the two responders before me have given you the "straight scoop".... and that only YOU can control YOUR reaction(s) if and as this friendship continues.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
The much younger man denied flirting with me but I cant seem to get over him!
Q. I am 45 years of age divorced, I met this most wonderful young man but he is 22 years of age although he looks like about 30 he is very mature and intelligent much more than some men my age ,he started flirting with me at work which was very ...
A. 24 November 2012: I think your choice of "handle" ("desparatelylonely") is key to your infatuation with this young man.....
Sure, you are single, divorced and by yourself... AND receiving attentions from a hunky young guy is flattering... but please balance ... (read in full...)
What would you consider this relationship?
Q. Hi all, ... A couple of months ago (after lots of flirting and confusion about whether the signals were there or not) I met up with a work colleague. Cliche but one thing lead to another and we ended up having sex. I went over a coupe more times...
A. 23 November 2012: He's got you coming over for s*x..... and staying the night. Your relationship is a peculiar hybrid of "FWB" and "Sleep Buddy".... I'll call it "Sleep Buddy with Benefits".
He's got (and continues getting) what he wants.... so don't expect h... (read in full...)
She won't break up with me but isn't talking to me. What should I do?
Q. I've hurt my girlfriend really, really badly and she has given me the silent treatment ever since (2 months now). The first 3 weeks she was extremely angry and now she is depressed and avoiding me. I know she doesn't want to end this but she doesn't ...
A. 23 November 2012: This reminds me of a sage bit of advice that my Dad gave to me:
"When a woman isn't speaking to you, DON'T INTERRUPT HER!!!!"
He was a VERY sage man........ (read in full...)
Inspiration to keep me motivated???
Q. Hey everyone, I have my final exam in december and I'm looking for inspiration quotes I could hang around the bedroom, that would keep me motivated and it would encourage me to study harder.. Thank you.. Ps:I know this is a not a relationship que...
A. 20 November 2012: Here's a couple:
"Study hard and get good grades, or I'll kick your a*s." Your father.
"You damn well better get good grades and a good job... because your student loans come due, regardless." Your banker
Good luck.... and STUDY HARD!... (read in full...)
I want him to tell me about his past relationships, but I don't want to appear paranoid
Q. I worry a lot. I've never been in a relationship before and I've been dating a guy for some weeks now and we both have feelings for each other, he's tried to kiss me but I didn't go for it and I don't really want to till I know more about him. I ...
A. 20 November 2012: You list all sorts of paranoid/nosey behaviour, then ask "How can I NOT appear paranoid?"
Best I can suggest is that you have someone ELSE look at you. This guy you are "seeing" can't miss it....... (read in full...)
He makes me jealous on purpose and then when I talk about it he says I'm nagging! How do I stop letting him bother me and act unconcerned?
Q. Anytime my boyfriend gets me jealous and I talk he says am nagging and complaining..I feel hurt whenever he says that to me..I want to stop asking him for explanation for the things he does to piss me,Pls how do I act like I don't care about what he ...
A. 20 November 2012: Great "boyfriend" you've got there. Why don't you trade him in on a new one????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a well-dressed man to find an average dressed woman attractive?
Q. I see this guy every day and every time we pass each other the flirting is intense. This guy is gorgeous and I love his mannerisms and find him intriguing, and would love to get to know him further. The only issue I have is that he very well ...
A. 20 November 2012: No self-respecting guy-flirt pays even a whit of attention to a woman's clothes....
After all.... what we "see" when we "look at" a woman is her, naked..... and - as for her clothing - the most you can expect is that we imagine them in a heap, on... (read in full...)
What is going on with the married man I'm involved with?
Q. I am involved with a married man who came on strongly via email and text. He has a very stressful time consuming job, but found time to spend with me on the phone, and write long romantic letters. We have seen each other twice. At the beginning, he ...
A. 19 November 2012: His "message" to you is clear.... and it has NOTHING to do with "hurting" you. He's "saying":
I know that I have you on the hook and can have s*x with you.... BUT, I've been rudely awakened to the fact that, if/when we do that, my wifey will hav... (read in full...)
I finally met a great guy - but he's so selfish in bed!
Q. After being single for over 2 years and meeting a string of losers, I decided to give internet dating a go and met a wonderful guy about 6 weeks ago. He makes me laugh, he seems to care about me and he has told all his friends and family about me...
A. 19 November 2012: The only "issue" that I detect in your submittal is that this guy is a LOUSY "lover." His concept of what is "lovemaking" is right out of a 12-year-old's diary....
I suggest that - if you are going to continue to see him (and, probably, be intim... (read in full...)
How do I get him to try harder to know me?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this guy for almost 1 1/2 month and known him for alsmot 3 months. We started dating after we slept together, after a party where we both were a bit drunk. Anyhow, I know he has a busy schedule with work, studies and trai...
A. 19 November 2012: The crux of your submittal is found in this: "...I do want a relationship at some point soon - but he needs to know me better before he even wants to concider it ... but as I said - he is so busy all the time, so I don't really get to see him ... (read in full...)
Am I being manipulated by my live in boyfriend?
Q. I met this guy through my ex n we were seeing one another and things were going good. My kids adored him n he always had time of day for my kids....the moment i moved in he stopped sleeping in the same bed had nothing to do with my kids n we have ...
A. 19 November 2012: Ditto, what oldbag said.
The only "question" - as I see it - is how long you will endure in this untenable situation....
This is classical "guy acts nice to woo girl until he's gotten her to move in with him, after which he can ignore her (... (read in full...)
My room mate doesn't understand why I don't want her to walk around naked in front of my boyfriend
Q. I asked a question awhile back, and now things have progressed and I need HELP! This is the link to my first question... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-female-room-mate-who-has-a-crush.html (RECAP: My female roommate has, on multipl...
A. 19 November 2012: You're caught in a power struggle, and can only "win" it when you tell your roommate to leave. If that means a month or two of tight money - until you locate another roommate - then that will, ultimately, prove to be a small price to put an end to ... (read in full...)
He says one thing, but does another and then other people say something even different! I'm so confused!
Q. I have been down and depressed for the past couple of days because I fell in love with a guy who obviously is still hooked on his ex whom he still lives with and has a child with. But here's my story. I met him at work. He was my supervisor and told ...
A. 19 November 2012: You ask: "I just need to understand why?" Here's why.....
When it comes to matters of enjoying s*x with a - or several - woman/women, men will say or do whatever it takes to get and keep (interested) as many as he deems that he wants...... (read in full...)
Why did he break up with me? No one can figure it out!
Q. Background:keep in mind during this that my boyfriend is 22, a county cop, and raised really well off( his mom is seriously loaded). PRIOR to me he dated a girl for 3 yrs, they were having problems so he ended up getting engaged still had ...
A. 19 November 2012: I read your complete submittal... and all along a little voice kept whispering to me: "What is this girl doing spending even another minute with this creep".....
Listen to the voice in my head....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
How can you feel good about yourself when others are better than you?
Q. How do you feel good about yourself when so many people you know are better than you? and how do you not lose hope when your whole and honest efforts keep amounting to naught?...
A. 18 November 2012: You can START by understanding that a note like this one is inappropriate.... and that NOBODY is "better than (you)" unless you let them be so......
C'mon... puff out your chest and say to yourself (and anyone else who will listen): "I am a ter... (read in full...)
After dating he said he wanted to be friends but he ignores me. Why?
Q. I am so confused by this mans actions and hoping someone can shed some light on it. I was in a relationship with a man for 9 months, we mutually decided we could not be together long term but he was adamant he wanted to stay friends. I couldn't...
A. 18 November 2012: In my opinion, he was testing to see if you would be a SE*UAL friend with him... and when you wavered sufficiently, he felt that it was time to cut short the charade and get on to his "next" prospective conquest.
YOU may count your blessing... (read in full...)
He went from wanting to date me to not wanting me at all in just a few days??
Q. I am just so confused at the moment. I met this guy a few weeks ago while at an event I was working at and he was attending. We got talking and at the end he gave me his phone number as in his words if I was interested I could contact him and he ...
A. 18 November 2012: May I go directly to your real question?.... which is:
". And what do I do now, just walk away and forget him??"
Yes.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He told me I may not be the one he wants but I'm the one he needs!
Q. The title says it all. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and we've been recently having fights about the direction of our relationship. He always tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and is in love with ...
A. 18 November 2012: I'm afraid that your B/F came up a bit short on the TOTAL meaning(s) of "want" and "need". So, let me help you....
He "wants" you to be his arm-candy so that he can show you off to his guy-friends... AND he won't have to sit home on Friday a... (read in full...)
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