I am Not Keen On Sex!
Q. My problem is I have never liked sex very much. Its not an age thing Ive always been the same-Ive had a few relationships but they have always gone pear shape for that reasons. Whilst I realise sex is important to most men and women - I w...
A. 20 October 2012: Joyce: I believe that there is some chance that you might encounter such a guy who, like you, is not very interested in s*x.
HOWEVER, there is always the risk that he will believe that there IS going to be a sexual component to a budding friendsh... (read in full...)
Should I take what he says when he's drunk seriously?
Q. hi im 27 his 41 i love him so much he once told me that he wants to marry me but he was drunk when he told me. his a person who live a private life. i dont know if i should trust him on that i got one kid and his got six not seing the mommys ...
A. 20 October 2012: My response is two-tiered:
1. NEVER believe anything that a guy says, the FIRST time.... and be wary in all subsequent repeats by him...
2. NEVER, NEVER believe anything that a guy says when he has been drinking alcohol.... and continue not... (read in full...)
Should I have Had An Invitation?
Q. I had a platonic friend whom I had many holidays to many places-basically not sure if he fancied me but I didnt fancy him but were good friends. This was over many years so he must have had girl friends as well. He went on the internet and emt...
A. 20 October 2012: "Sounds" to me like you're trying to hold on to "something" that has long since passed.... and you needn't spend your feelings on the matter of this man any more....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
We have been secretly dating for 6 months and our anniversary is coming up?
Q. He and I have been a couple for 6 months now, none of our friends, family members, acquaintances, teachers or anybody knowing. We have kept it a secret between the two of us because his friends would NEVER approve of me and our relationship. If you ...
A. 20 October 2012: Look at these three bits in your submittal... and consider the questions which I'd ask you....
"his friends aren't racist but they don't approve of interracial relationships or whatever..." They AREN'T racist? Sez WHO????
"...We don't ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong for me to finally object? His binge drinking and his obstinant attitude to trying to address his eczema has me fed up.
Q. Hi, I need a bit of advice regarding my ex partner and his skin condition please - he had very bad exzema that flares up when he binge drinks. Despite the fact that this guy treated me really, really badly for nearly two decades - after more tha...
A. 20 October 2012: I only got through the first three paragraphs before I "concluded": WHO would want to be friends with - or have anything to do with - a guy like the one you described??????
Good luck..... ... (read in full...)
He's not interested in providing for me if he passes away. Is he being selfish?
Q. Hi I remarried in May this year, we both have grown up kids,I have 4 he has 2, He owns our house,and is buying another house to rent out, we have no life insurance, and Im worried that if he dies before me, I will have nothing,he always said his...
A. 16 October 2012: Go "up" in the list of submittals (by 11 submittals).... and commisserate with that girl, who has the opposite problem......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Had a messy break up with my ex and he won't talk to me. What can I do?
Q. Hello, I'm hoping someone could please provide me with some advice. I was recently in a relationship with my boyfriend for seven years - we got together when we were 15. The first couple of years were amazing, and we were very much in love. Mo...
A. 16 October 2012: THIS phrase is the key to your submittal: "What we had was very special and I'll always remember it..."
Life has a crazy way of going on and on, no matter how much one of this planet's inhabitants is broken hearted, distressed and/or devastat... (read in full...)
B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?
Q. Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what ...
A. 16 October 2012: Without even reading your missive, I knew the answer:
Take up darts, yourself.... and, when your competitor comes within range, plug her with your dart(s)!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a sex pest?
Q. Is my boyfriend a sex pest or am I just uninterested? I am a 42 year old divorced mother of two kids. I've been told I look young for my age and I think I do too. I waited two years before I "let down my walls" and just jumped head first into a r...
A. 16 October 2012: Caring guy is correct... You and your guy-friend have 'way different sexual desires and expectations.....
Don't spend a lot of time mulling this over. TELL him of this mismatch..... and ASK him if he would like to re-consider his uber-lib... (read in full...)
Why am I never wet during sex?
Q. when having sex i've never been 'wet' and this makes sex VERY difficult and uncomfortable. Is this common or is something wrong here? ...
A. 16 October 2012: It's not all that uncommon... and that's why there are products like K-Y and Astroglide that you can apply to assure lubrication when you and your friend are fooling around........ (read in full...)
Will the religion I broke away from also ruin my relationship with my wife? We still get along, laugh, hangout, and are friends. But I fear for the future of us.
Q. I grew up in a particular religion in very religiously conservative family. I got married and had kids very young. I find myself now in my early 30's and married 12 years. About 5 years ago, I started changing my viewpoints considerably. I ...
A. 9 October 2012: Don't 'cha just LOVE "religion"????? It's supposed to be the basis of love, warmth, caring, getting along, cooperation.....and - in large part - some of them use their dogma/teachings/precepts as reasons to get people to close their minds to ... (read in full...)
Is this bad? "Virgin" girlfriend has kissed 80 guys!! What does this say about her?
Q. Is it bad that my girlfriend is only just turned 20 and has kissed around 80 guys. She says it's nothing bad because she's still a virgin, so it's not like she slept around, but that kissing was harmless fun. But what do you guys think? I find it...
A. 9 October 2012: WHERE has she been kissing these guys???? ... (read in full...)
Where do the single women in their 30s hang out? I've not dated for 2years. How do I maximise my chances of success with women?
Q. So, been single for 3 years after a 9-yr LTR. Am now 38. And I have not been on a date in 2 years. I tried online dating for 18 months and got 2 dates out of it. Am a member of many clubs and have many hobbies. Meeting people is not an...
A. 9 October 2012: One of the best places to look for hot babes in that age group is your local library!!!! (Seriously!!!!)........ (read in full...)
Am I being selfish or am I right about breaking up?
Q. I met this woman with four children when she was still married and we emailed each other for a month before we finally met. On our first date she took me back home and after a short conversation she basically offered her body. Somehow I turned down ...
A. 9 October 2012: Been there/done that.....
When the sex dries up, then so has the "relationship." Two people can't have a "relationship" in which one partner wants (craves, in some cases) a sexual aspect in it, and the other doesn't.....
Don't give it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend impregnanted another girl, but I still love him!
Q. I am a young lady aged 20 and have been dating my first boyfriend since July 2011. We were so happy but just like any other couple we also had our share of ups and downs of which mostly were about his unfaithfulness, i would see texts messages from ...
A. 9 October 2012: He cheats??.... he's knocked up another girl???? .... and you say you "... still love him"???????
Figure out if those three concepts make any sense, when tied together... then decide how long you want to wait before you walk away from this cad... (read in full...)
I'm worried about socializing before the booze kicks in. I need a pep talk!
Q. Hi. I’ve been invited out tonight by a group of people I went on a field trip with earlier this year. I’d like to go and feel that I should, but I’m missing the confidence to go out and do it. I know everyone but I’m not particularly good friends ...
A. 9 October 2012: Ah, liquor. It's been making ugly girls look better.... and it's been making guys believe they can dance (when they really CAN'T....), since it was first discovered those oh-so many years ago.... when people were hunter-gatherers, and they got all ... (read in full...)
If he can get amazing looking girls, then what is he doing with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months We were having a conversation about exs - when he was describing one he said some features and I go so she was a full hot girl? Then he goes I would t describe her as hot, she was cute. Then I g...
A. 9 October 2012: EVERY red-blooded American man wants to bed down EVERY blisterin' hot babe that comes within his perview... it is one of the most important "laws of nature"..... (Actually, we men think it is the ONLY "law of nature"!!!!)...
It is not necessar... (read in full...)
How do I get over my affair with a married man?
Q. Hello, I really need some help and dont know where else to go. My ex was sent to prison for a while over 5 years ago, we split a few months of him being inside. I found help online to help me understand what he was going through in there, there was ...
A. 9 October 2012: This guy is good.... VERY good.
He TOLD you that he had had numerous affairs. YOU decided that YOU would be the affair that would change him from his philandering ways.... so you took it to its logical conclusion (he had to dump you!!!).... (read in full...)
Is he being mean because he's hurt and wants attention? How do I get him back?
Q. Hey everyone, Really in need of some advice on this one. I've been seeing this guy, for a while now, and how we started seeing eachother wasn't very good, i cheated on my boyfriend of the time with him, i know thats terrible, and trust me i felt s...
A. 9 October 2012: This one is easy.....
You came to him on flimsy pretenses (you were tired of your B/F of the time.. and the weak relationship that you two had...).....
NOW, the future has set in ... and you (both) need to try to understand just what it was... (read in full...)
Have the wife and kids, but still dreaming about the chance I never took with my soul mate.
Q. I have been dealing with confusion and pain for about a year and a half now. I am at a point that I need to make a decision to leave my wife or continue to try to be in love with her. I am 35 and have been married for the last 10 years with tw...
A. 9 October 2012: Ah, yes.... isn't adulthood a bitch?????
You are acting just about EXACTLY as you should.... if you are a guy in his early 30s. That is when we guys go goofy, and try to ressurrect our teenage years.... like, by dating and having s*x with tha... (read in full...)
How do I get my prude girlfriend to do sexual things with me?!
Q. How do I get my prude girlfriend to do shit with me?! We have been dating for a few weeks and we have only made out. I try to feel her up and she just stops me. how can i seduce/persuade her to let me finger her or give me dome!? ...
A. 8 October 2012: Cripes!!!! When I was your age I was still awaiting the next day's installment of "Spin & Marty" on the Mickey Mouse Club.... WHAT has happened in the intervening 50-odd years????????
I trust you WILL let this girl get away without being one of y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 8 October 2012: I'll bet that he told the other 99 that he ".... was going to stop at (them)..."... too!!!!
Why bother being just another notch in this character's headboard??? There are OODLES of nice guys available... and THIS surely isn't one of them!!!!... (read in full...)
People find me intense and intimidating. How can I can get them to relax around me?
Q. This is kind of an odd post...for me anyway... But I have a tough time getting people to get comfortable around me. Everytime I meet someone for the 1st time, they are so cagey and quiet and stiff. They have a hard time making eye contact with ...
A. 8 October 2012: Are you, in fact, Mitt Romney.... and this submittal is your attempt to learn a bit more about "normal" and "the little" people, prior to this next Presidential debate????... (read in full...)
We've been togetehr a year and still havnt slept at his house?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we still havent slept over at his house, He's stayed at mine atleast 30+ times, whenever ive even hinted at it i get stuff back. His parents werent comfy over it because im the first female to ...
A. 8 October 2012: Many guys don't prefer to have their girlfriends stay overnight at their (his) home because THEIR WIVES OBJECT TO IT!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex but g/f doesn't want to take my virginity
Q. Hello everyone, I've been with this special girl for 3.5 months now. I'm crazy about her and really love her. I'm a virgin, she's not (3 previous sex partners). I told her i was ready for the next step. She said I dont have to look forward to it no...
A. 8 October 2012: If I had a nickel for every girl (woman) who said to me:
"Oh, (my name here), it's so terrific that you're still a virgin.... haven't compromised your sexual integrity to those women who simply wants to use you.... and I won't do that eith... (read in full...)
Will attending college ruin my new relationship?
Q. Hi everyone, thanks in advance for taking the time to read! Now, down to business... I just started dating this guy. We had been sort of at an in between, kind of dating phase for a few weeks and then we finally decided to officially get together...
A. 8 October 2012: I think that prioritization is your most important detail...
At your age and phase of life... you need to attend to YOUR education and YOUR future (as opposed to "your's and a boyfriend's future")....
Take the approach that you and this guy you... (read in full...)
Does lack of sex has something to do with me being so strong?
Q. I haven't been sexually active in ten years I am still a young woman. I was wondering if not having sex could that be the reason I feel like superwoman? I have so much strength I can lift heavy things that most women would need help with. To...
A. 8 October 2012: You could put together a case for your not being sexually active stemming from a lack of desire based on low estrogen.... AND, if you also have somewhat higher-than-normal testosterone, then you development (body mass/strength... for example) may be ... (read in full...)
He blatantly stares at other women in front of me. How do I handle this situation?
Q. We've been around and around this issue of his staring. It's blatant, it's bad and I'm getting tired of it. We took a mini-vacation together. Just the other day he looked at the bum of a young woman as she turned to the cash register at a ga...
A. 6 October 2012: IF his eye-contacts with other women are flagrant and "over the top" then you have a reasonable gripe about him.... and he needs to be chastised and learn to understand that it is not only irritable (to you!).... but a sign of disrespect and lack of ... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend rather spend time with his friends than with me?
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for one year now,I have known him for 4 years and things have been great until this point. We are both full time college students and we both have part time jobs so when the semester starts we probably ...
A. 6 October 2012: P.S. Is it possible that his "friends" always have a refrigerator-full of beer on-hand in their apartment.... and you DON'T????? Maybe THAT has something to do with it....... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend rather spend time with his friends than with me?
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for one year now,I have known him for 4 years and things have been great until this point. We are both full time college students and we both have part time jobs so when the semester starts we probably ...
A. 6 October 2012: There can be ONLY ONE CLEAR "answer" to your query...
He's gay....
Or, he has a bunch of guys that he prefers hanging out with them, rather than you....
Or, he has one or more lady friends who he prefers hanging out with (them), rather than... (read in full...)
How can I safely cut my addiction to (well known brand) coffee and become healthier?
Q. I attend university classes 4 days a week. On those days I wake up at about 8:30am. I always grab a tall cup of X Brand Coffee. I have always limited myself to the "tall" size and I only drink latte, mocha, frappuccino, or black tea latte, all of w...
A. 6 October 2012: Damn, Cally!!!.... Would it be OK with you if I come by and rubbed your old, used, cooled-down coffee grounds on your legs??????
(sign me),
The Leg man....... (read in full...)
Marriage problems. So should I look for my long lost friend or seek out my brother's friend?
Q. so im 22 years old and married for almost 5 years and with 2 kids(girls). Back when i was in the 8th grade i had a crush on this guy who was my best friend Everyone though that we were going out, but that never happened. The last time i saw him w...
A. 6 October 2012: A friend of mine once told me this: "You shouldn't jump from ship to ship. You have to JUMP IN THE WATER, and swim to the second ship, then go aboard."
You ARE MARRIED.... so what you are considering should be off-limits to you... LOOK at ... (read in full...)
I feel if he becomes a part of my life that I will also have to support him due to his large existing debts. How could this work?
Q. Hi, i want to have an opportunity to have a relationship with my friend. He is a good guy, but i try to tell him he needs to take care of himself and not depending on his family. He got a job and his boss (sister's husband) doesnt pay him on time....
A. 6 October 2012: Rather than focus solely on this man's outstanding debts, how about re-focusing on his approach to life - in general - and whether or not he can mature in to an adult...
Most of what you write about him is a description of a young man who has foun... (read in full...)
How can I safely cut my addiction to (well known brand) coffee and become healthier?
Q. I attend university classes 4 days a week. On those days I wake up at about 8:30am. I always grab a tall cup of X Brand Coffee. I have always limited myself to the "tall" size and I only drink latte, mocha, frappuccino, or black tea latte, all of w...
A. 6 October 2012: My Mother... who enjoyed a healthy life for 94 years... had a smart belief in how one should determine what they put in to their body..... She said, "All things in moderation...."
Having lived, now, for quite some few years, myself... I can assu... (read in full...)
She masturbates in a less usual way, crossing her legs. Which is better? Her way or sex with a partner?
Q. Hey all I appreciate any advice. I have been with my gf for 10 months I'm 21. So this is why I'm posting: Basically she masturbates using the method of crossing her leg and squeezing. She never masturbates with fingers. When I ask what she prefe...
A. 6 October 2012: dylan: Just a bit of a hint from an old guy who really has been close to (one or more) women in the past.....
You write: "Also quite selfishly I don't know if I'd want a girl who can give herself much better orgasms than I can."
HINT: ... (read in full...)
Am I stuck? Still in love with him, but not happy with him. What to do about my long term Bf ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been with each other since I was 16 and he was 17. We are now 20 and 21. Our whole relationship has been long distance. We've been flying back and forth to make things work. Since he has a fulltime job I hvae done most o...
A. 5 October 2012: I think that you and your LDR B/F need to define - and contrast - "in love" and "not happy with".....
Once you've done that, I PROMISE that the "answer" to your question will, magically, appear........ (read in full...)
I want another baby, but I suffer from anxiety and depression.
Q. i just wanted to write I'm 20 with a 21month old girl and I've been talking to my partner for awhile that we want another one and i really want to have another baby but i suffer extreme anxiety and my pregnancy with my daughter wasn't the best i ...
A. 5 October 2012: I just read your submittal of about 200 words.... and note that it does NOT contain the words, "Father", "husband," "married," or "family"....
I don't think you're really giving us much to go on, in order to give you our sage advice..... (read in full...)
How to deal with a guy who is unsure of how to move the relationship forward
Q. Is it ok for a guy you are trying to get back with to tell you things like "If we end back together, two months before the wedding he wants to be sure he impregnated you" of even use "If" in the context of serious conversation about our ...
A. 5 October 2012: His, is a childish game that you needn't participate in... providing that YOU have matured to "adult".... and find it (his game) offensive.....
There really ARE nice guys "out there".... and you can find one without really looking too hard....... (read in full...)
`Do you think he really did love me and regrets things?
Q. Hi. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend of a year cheated on me with the girl that lives next door to him. And I moved away soon as I found out he was cheating and lying to me for a year, so I left. And people tell me he has been nothing but ...
A. 5 October 2012: Don't fall for his childish blackmail.... and let him stay DUMPED........ (read in full...)
Unprotected sex - how safe is it?
Q. I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a while now. During this time I've been paying close attention to my monthly cycle and we avoided having sex during the danger-zone (even with protection, I didn't want to risk it). I feel now that I know ...
A. 5 October 2012: There are oodles of Catholic couples who practice this form of pregnancy-prevention. Many of them have become what we call "parents"........ (read in full...)
Should I have just said nothing at all? Her erratic behaviour on the vacation was too much for me
Q. should i just not say anything at all I went on a vacation with one of my husbands former co worker. Its not like she was my friend or anything like that. I just knew her and because we saw each other very seldom, she seemed ok for me to travel...
A. 4 October 2012: You answered your own question. To wit: "Its too high of a price to pay to be accompanied by someone like her."
Next time, go with someone else, or alone....
Have fun....... (read in full...)
She masturbates in a less usual way, crossing her legs. Which is better? Her way or sex with a partner?
Q. Hey all I appreciate any advice. I have been with my gf for 10 months I'm 21. So this is why I'm posting: Basically she masturbates using the method of crossing her leg and squeezing. She never masturbates with fingers. When I ask what she prefe...
A. 2 October 2012: If I had a nickel for every time I learned that a girl did something/anything else to avoid having sex with me.... I'd be a VERY WELL-TO-DO man.....
P.S. Tell your girl that crossing her legs may lead to vericose veins!!!.....
P.P.S. It wi... (read in full...)
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