I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: OP: Thanks for the update. I didn't know that morals had hit "rock bottom"..... Good luck........ (read in full...)
I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: OP: Thanks for the update. I didn't know that morals had hit "rock bottom"..... Good luck........ (read in full...)
She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!
Q. Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read h...
A. 4 November 2012: What happened in the past is HER past.... and you are naive to expect her to reveal it all to you... and you are pompous to reveal that you believe you are ENTITLED to look in to her past..... AND... if she sees this, she ought to give you a ... (read in full...)
I'd like my gay friends as bridesmaids but my boyfriend is against gays
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, almost two years. We've had our fights, but never anything bad, we always make up, we know we love each other very much and would never intentionally try to hurt each other. He wants to get married after ...
A. 4 November 2012: You say you ".. love him to death"... but the rest of your submittal describes a pontificating religious freak who points out - rather flagrantly - just what a sinner you (and your friends) are.... Is that REALLY the kind of person that you ... (read in full...)
I've been too easy. Is it time to use the "hard to get" method?
Q. Hi everyone. On Wednesday i got with a guy at a halloween party and (drunkenly) let him finger me. I don't usually act like this but i liked the guy and to be honest was a bit drunk. The next day he invited me to a party last night where we got ...
A. 4 November 2012: When a guy meets a girl, for the first time, at some party... and fingers her that same night.... SHE IS "TOO EASY!!!!"... (read in full...)
Should I mention on first date that I'm trying to quit smoking?
Q. Ok so here goes. I'm a 31 year old virgin. I've asked out a girl from work. She said she doesn't date smokers but would like to go out for a drink. We are going for a pint tomorrow and I'm starting to get anxious. Ive never dated so I'm worried ...
A. 2 November 2012: Believe me... if you've been smoking tobacco, she will detect it.....
Your best bet is to "come clean"... and reveal to her that you have been smoking and are trying to stop..... IF she gives you a pass.... you damn well better STOP, STOP NOW and ... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating wants to borrow 20,000.00. How do I tell him no nicely?
Q. Hello, The man with whom I'm in love has been offered a contract worth $ 270 000. He is so thrilled about this new opportunity. However, to be able to execute the contract, he has to show proof that he has $50 000 in his bank account. He only hav...
A. 2 November 2012: I recommend that you say to him something like this:
"ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR F**KING MIND? YOU THINK I'VE GOT MONEY TO BURN AND ALLOW YOU TO PUT AT-RISK????? SERIOUSLY.... JUST HOW DUMB DO YOU THINK I AM???????"
That should get the message acro... (read in full...)
What does a wink from a married man mean? Friendly or flirtatious?
Q. What does a wink from a married man mean? While I was at a friend's house, her (friendly) husband winked at me while I was leaving. We were talking at the door and he winked. Previous to that, I always felt he would be happy to bump into me in ...
A. 2 November 2012: A wink is an all-purpose test balloon.
IF you "react" and give him any reason to believe that you are interested in a little extra-curricula activity with him... then this is a good start....
IF you exhibit no interest in anything more th... (read in full...)
I don't trust my husband, he uses my words against me
Q. I dont trust my husband. Not that I think he cheats, just that when I open up, he uses my words against me. We've been together 20yrs off and on since I was 14. This has always been the case. Now we have 3 kids and Im affraid this is how I will live ...
A. 1 November 2012: I suggest you print out this submittal.... Hand the copy to your hubby and say, "I wrote this. Now, I'm sharing it with you. It SHOULD trigger you to say, "Geesh, I never knew you felt this way."... and "Do you suppose we could consider ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has given up on giving me oral sex!
Q. Even thought I still enjoy it, I can't orgasm through sex, and my boyfriend isn't very good at stimulating me manually. At the beginning I put it down to lack of experience and I didn't want to offend him by making a big deal out of it, hoping he'd ...
A. 1 November 2012: I think that the title that was put on your submittal may be misleading. Is it?
I THINK you are telling us that B/F is not doing NEARLY ENOUGH foreplay (of any kind)... AND that you are not ready for - or reacting well to - intercou... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was raped and I'm not sure what is the best way to deal with her?
Q. I am 20 yr old and have been dating my girlfriend Meg (who is 18) for almost a year. I have two very important questions regarding our relationship. 4 months ago she was attacked, raped and beaten. When she was found she was so badly beaten tha...
A. 1 November 2012: If you and she have a really rock-solid relationship.... then I suggest that you and she take some counselling together.... so that you can get a good perspective on just the questions that you posed herein..... AND, you and she have those ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't last more than a few minutes during sex. Is that normal at his age?
Q. My boyfriend recently told me that when he has sex with me, he's good for a couple minutes but then he has to start thinking about something else otherwise he will cum too soon. He said that it sucks that he can't be in the moment because he has to ...
A. 1 November 2012: I believe that some men can/will extend intercourse by masturbating several hours before they are likely to engage in sex with their partner.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend tease me with foreplay and then fall asleep?
Q. need advice on sex vs sleep, please! i'm finding it hard to understand why my bf will tease me with foreplay and then fall asleep:( We've been together 1yr, don't live together, both work full time and 11 hour shifts (sometimes nights, sometime...
A. 1 November 2012: The story you told leads me to ask if this happens most often - or always - at night, when you are retiring to bed.
IF SO... then I suggest that he is "running out of gas".... actually being quite tired when you and he start... then "hits the wall... (read in full...)
We broke up and I didn't say what I wanted to say. Should I go tell her now?
Q. Me and my gf split up this January after 5 years together. Her reason was; it wasnt working out. Well that was not surprising as she kept me a secret all that time from her family and friends because i am 17 years older than her. Id had enough of ...
A. 1 November 2012: Rather than say it in-person, I suggest that you write her a letter which includes all you wanted to say.....
Then, take the letter and put it in a desk drawer overnight... and, the next morning, burn it.....
That should help you get your "cl... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 years never has time for me.
Q. Dear Cupid I don't know whether I'm making big deal out of it or not. My bf of 2 years never has time for me. Whenever I call or send message he never responds. If he is busy can't he just send me a simple text so I wont call or wait for his call...
A. 1 November 2012: Sounds like a delightful "boyfriend"....
Why have you spent two years trying to be his "girlfriend"? and why bother spending even another minute trying to be his "girlfriend"?... when all you really are, to him, is a convenient s*x partner?... (read in full...)
When do you know it's the right time to break up?
Q. When do you know when to break up? Me and my boyfriend have been together about 6 months, which might not sound very long, but its by far my most serious and long term relationship. Most of the time I'm so happy with him, but sometimes I feel like ...
A. 31 October 2012: I've "been there" DOZENS of times... so can tell you this:
When she (he) slams the door in your face and says, "Get the f**k AWAY from me... and DON'T COME BACK, OR ELSE I'LL CALL THE POLICE"..... OR, when she (he) says: "Don't call, don't wr... (read in full...)
2 children, a 3rd on the way. I fee blessed but overwhelmed. How do I cope?
Q. Hi, I could really use some advice and someone to talk to in general. Some backround, Im 23, my fiance is 26 in nov. We have two young children (ages1 and 2) we both work and alternate our schedules around e/o, except sunday, the day my mom ...
A. 31 October 2012: I note that you refer to the man who is breeding you as your "fiance."
Any chance of some nuptials in the very near future????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
B/f broke up because of my good looks and what his friend said??
Q. Hi everyone, It took me two days to even talk about this,cause I'm unable to wrap around what happened to me.. My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me yesterday for a reason sooo silly and immatur'ish' if I can say.. When he first met me,he was very...
A. 31 October 2012: Sister, I KNOW "where you're coming from".... as I am "ohmigosh" handsome, and the girls can't keep their eyes and, thankfully, their HANDS off of me......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I don't think my ex will ever let me move on
Q. its been 20 days i broke up with my verbally abusive ex, but he still keeps on messaging me goodnight and good morning text, he is saying that he has realised his mistake , now he can understand my importance. he keeps on calling me all of the ...
A. 31 October 2012: ... Same here.....
Sorry if that seems like "piling on".... but you need to "hear" it....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this ...
A. 31 October 2012: Do you know how an automobile engine works?
There are THREE necessary components which must come together at the correct times in the correct quantities:
1. Fuel (gasoline or diesel), 2. Air (oxygen), and 3. A spark or other source of ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend be watching porn because he's depressed?
Q. My partner watches porn and says he does it because he feels depressed. So, to the men... Is this just an excuse or could he be telling the truth? Also, how could looking at pictures of naked women help him to feel better without masturbating...
A. 31 October 2012: 1. We (men) watch porn because we're horny!!... and,
2. It's a condition that he masturbate in order to feel good about looking at those enticing images of ladies.... IF he tells you otherwise, you can be CERTAIN that he is fibbing.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend say "I love you" to me in person?
Q. my boyfriend said he loved me only two months into the relationship over a message. He then said it over the phone and then said it a few times in person. Now he doesn't say it in person but only over messages. Before when I used to leave him in ...
A. 29 October 2012: Once we guys get a girl hooked... we believe that we can slack off on those little things that we had to do to get her (your) interest in the first place..
As long as we are getting s*x.... we're OK with things. If you want to hear those th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said I smelled bad during oral sex. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend went to eat me out and he said that I "smelled bad" he didn't say it was fishy, just smelled bad. What can I do to fix this? I know I don't have any infections. Is there any soaps, cleansing pads, etc. I could use to fix this? Thanks!...
A. 29 October 2012: Cerebus has nailed it .... AND, if your B/F finds the aroma of your vagina to be offensive.... THEN, I guess he'd better get himself some corrective lenses AND some of those glucosamine pills that will help with his "tennis elbow".... because he's ... (read in full...)
I can't stay wet during sex
Q. I have a problem, I can't stay wet when I have sex. I get really wet before hand then after 5 minutes I get really dry. Help?!...
A. 29 October 2012: There are great lubrication products (K-Y jelly and "Astroglide" are two brand names)..... and using them, when necessary, will make it so that you can forget about having to post this.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How to earn my wifes love back?
Q. my wife and i have been together since she was seventeen and she is now 21. we had a very passionate realationship before our marriage and before our son was born. i lost my career before marriage and went into the marriage depressed. i have not ...
A. 29 October 2012: I'm reading about a young men who ran in to some rough times in his life.... chose to run away from his manhood obligation and act like a child (under the guise of "depression").... and is now facing the results of his childish behaviour.
You c... (read in full...)
What is the best way to support and deal with an emotionally damaged boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We met online and before I got into this relationship I knew he was damaged. All I know that one or more past girlfriends have cheated on him other than that I don't know a lot. He is very gua...
A. 28 October 2012: This submittal SCREAMS to me of yet another woman imagining that she can "fix" a guy who has piqued her curiosity.... and who has an interesting - but tainted - background....
After - and only after - you learn that you CANNOT "fix" a man - ANY MA... (read in full...)
Do you think my guitar playing can play a role in attracting a woman who will love me, into my life?
Q. Hello ladies and gentlemen I have a weird question. How much does guitar playing affect in attracting females? I am a guitarist and I can shred, strum, sing and play ANY song. I compose my own music and cover many rock songs. I have been singl...
A. 28 October 2012: Back when I was in my late teens and early 20s, I was a mechanic at a Chevy dealership.... Whilest there, I often pondered to myself: "Does my ability to do a great tune-up on a Chevy 327 V-8 engine play a role in attracting a woman who will love ... (read in full...)
Does he actually not like me and is he showing me that by pretty much ignoring me?
Q. I dated a guy for several months, we broke up for 6 months and I saw him again and we reconnected. It was what seemed a fresh start where we talked about how we hoped to have a future together. But he is in the military and got stationed on the...
A. 28 October 2012: The most important detail of/in your question is missing. Would you care to provide it?
It is: Did you and he do s*x?
Response can be offered upon receipt of this detail....... (read in full...)
Why is it that black men or Indian men or Chinese men NEVER approach me to date me?
Q. I'm of Indian origin but don't look stereotypically Indian. Most people find me too light skinned to be Indian and always think I'm half Indian. I'm pretty tall and have done ballet for years, so I'd say I have a pretty good figure. I'm quite skin...
A. 28 October 2012: Of course, one "answer" is to ask those about whom you're questioning.....
BUT,... and I think this is more important.... WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE???????... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm telling lies. So many misunderstandings. How do I convince her that I am the one telling the truth?
Q. i posted a question a couple weeks back and got some good feedback. i wanted to see if i couldn't get a few more opinions and elaborate on the most recent happenings. about six weeks ago, my girlfriend had asked to use my phone to look something u...
A. 28 October 2012: One of you can take the "high road" and become adult, and that person (whichever one it is) will have the satisfaction of knowing that he - or, she - will never have to think of this awful situation again.....
I suggest that YOU be that adult...... (read in full...)
My husband sides with his sister not me. How do I end this argurment and not feel aggrieved?
Q. I really need some help here as I am going round in circles. I have had a massive falling out with my sister in law and we have had nothing to do with each other for about 18 months. My husband sided with her in the argument so naturally things h...
A. 28 October 2012: I think you should emulate your sister-in-law (as you described her current status).... and put this whole matter behind you...
Oh....and while you are at it.... trade in your husband for another who is a little more loyal to you!!!!.... (read in full...)
My friend/partner took advantage of us while they were housesitting!
Q. My husband, son and I went on holiday last month for 2 weeks to a family wedding abroad. Usually when we go away my mum has a spare set of keys and comes to check on the house etc... However this time she was coming with us so my friend and her ...
A. 28 October 2012: Yes. Chalk this up to a lesson to never have this/these people "housesit" for you, ever, again, in the future. Then.... get on with your life........ (read in full...)
I'm planning on taking my 15 year old car on a 4 hour trip. What concerns should I have?
Q. This isnt a quetsion about sex or a relationship, its just a common worry. My car is a 98 ford, and im planning on taking it on a 4 hour trip, and im kind of antsy. ive never taken it more then 20 miles, but i dont have any problems with it. I ta...
A. 28 October 2012: the only thing you need to worry about is whether or not you will be passing through any toll booths... and - if you are - to have enough money for those tolls....
Good luck. Have fun....
... (read in full...)
Does he find my lack of experience a turn off?
Q. I've been seeing a lovely guy for a few months - we've known each other for ages and we get on really well and there is that "spark" between us. We've started to have sex and its seems to be really good for both of us (well it is for me, he seems...
A. 28 October 2012: If'n you told me that you were inexperienced, then it would affect me for about - say - 5 seconds.... THEN, we could resume from where we were when you squealed on yourself....
OF COURSE NOT!!!!......... (read in full...)
We can't get married as we are two different religions... help!
Q. I met my partner in 2005, we were both in relationships, we shared every problem we encountered in our then relationships. In December 2010 I ended my relationship with my partner because he was jealous and abusive, then I got saved (born again)in ...
A. 27 October 2012: Aren't religions just the GREATEST when it comes to interpersonal relationships????
I can't help but imagine Jesus and Mohammad and L Ron Hubbard sitting at a table at an outdoor cafe in Paris... watching the girls go by and saying to one-anot... (read in full...)
Why no call after weekend if he enjoyed it so?
Q. My guy was interested in me several months before I knew. Finally he was able to tell me. I am 44 but don't look it and he is 26, very mature and level headed. We have officially been together over a month. Spent my birthday weekend together in ...
A. 27 October 2012: ... because ONCE WE CATCH THE CAR, there's no need to chase it any more!!!!!!... (read in full...)
He is a player and a liar, and I had sex with him!
Q. I met this guy on a dating app. He came over in the weekend we drank some ciroc the biggest bottle between me and him we finished it, we was in my kitchen and he was trying to take my pants off and I looked at him and I said no, so he let me be. I ...
A. 27 October 2012: I suggest that you not be too hard on yourself for falling for this cad's lines....
JUST consider it a learning experience and don't repeat it...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I have the hots for my sister's husband!
Q. I am 36 F. I know what I think is wrong. but it is difficult for me to stand this. I think it is due to I am Pisces and he is Scorpio by Sun sign. I am interested in my younger sister's husband. We flirts and he calls me to talk personally. I feel h...
A. 27 October 2012: It's easy to understand the attraction between you and your brother-in-law, considering the signs that you've revealed.... What's MISSING is the THIRD important bit of data.... and that is YOUR SISTER'S SIGN....
Once we have that, we can give... (read in full...)
Do you think he wants me just for sex? He admits he had a STD test recently. Could he be a player?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy and we've been on three dates. He initiated everything from asking me for my number, to arranging for our dates, to paying for each one of them. Yesterday he invited me for drinks with his friends. They were mostly ...
A. 27 October 2012: EVERY GUY in your age range wants girls "just for sex."
It's only a lucky roll of the dice that will put you in the presence of a decent guy who WON'T want you "just for sex,"..... and you will detect that right away... because he will not sugg... (read in full...)
What's the best way to approach money issues in a relationship in a sensitive way?
Q. what's the best way to approach money issues in a relationship in a sensitive way? my bf and i have been together 2 years, he proposed a few months ago to my surprise and we're now buying a house. we live separately right now. i rent a flat so am in ...
A. 27 October 2012: Put it in writing, Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in writing,Put it in ... (read in full...)
What kind of a move do you meake when you know a girl is checking you out?
Q. Hi There, I need some advise on what to do if a girl is checking you out and you are checking her out. It seems girls don't make the first move but guys should. I went into a shop earlier and the girl behind the till was very attractive and...
A. 27 October 2012: Perhaps you could say to her something like this:
"Damn, Pretty Lady, I see you checking me out.... probably because your estrogen is bubbling over - much like my testosterone is.... so, what's say we get together after your shift, and see what... (read in full...)
My ex is pleading for me to come back. How do I tell him I've fallen in love with another?
Q. Ok so I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years about a month ago. I just didn't feel like I was in love anymore and I want to feel this way and be happy/not miserable for the rest of my life. We had two dogs and lived together in a fairly ...
A. 26 October 2012: Look at this paragraph:
"So what should I do? How do I explain why love changed? Does love usually stop like that anyway? Am i in some kind of detachment phase where I've latched on to someone else to help buffer the pain? "
At this point, you ... (read in full...)
She belittles me in public. Should I stay friends with her?
Q. My girl friend is from a richer home than me. i'm broke she can't assist me financially. When ever we are out for an outing and we happen to get into one dissagreement or the other,she tends to talk too recklessly and shout at me on the top of he...
A. 26 October 2012: ... Why bother?........ (read in full...)
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