We've been tested but my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms and it worries me!
Q. Hi,I'm a 23yr old female n my boyfriend is 26,we decided to go for an HIV test before we can ingage in sex n the results came back negative,we've been having unprotected sex ever since because even when I suggest we use a condom he tells me he ...
A. 14 November 2013: I understand his problem.... as I, too, can't find condoms large enough for my generous manhood..... (Why don't the manufacturers make them large enough for us "real men"???)
You might suggest that he do what I do.... and use those plastic ... (read in full...)
Drug dealer boyfriend. Advice needed!
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We're the same age, don't live together, and spend weekends together. We've had a serious relationship where we've talked about getting married in the future and having kids. When I met him he tri...
A. 13 November 2013: How can you convince yourself to spend even another MINUTE with a guy who you KNOW is mixed up in the drug culture????
Do you know why drug cartels don't offer retirement benefits???? It's because most of their "employees" are dead by the age ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of paying for her daughter's clothes!
Q. Ok, my girlfriend and I have been with each other for 10 months but are not living together. She has a 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage living with her. When she takes her daughter with us shopping I'm expected to pay. When I complain ...
A. 13 November 2013: You write: (Question) "I'm tired of paying for their clothes! what do I do?"
(Answer): STOP paying for her (their?) clothes....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does reading books improve personality and boost confidence? Which books should I read?
Q. hey i am 17 and i am from india and i am a college student well i told you all previously that i am shy and feel nervous to talk to girls and i don't have confidence . So basically my brother is opposite of me he is smart he has confidence and girls ...
A. 13 November 2013: To you, or anyone else who poses this - or a similar - question about such books.... I always suggest that the ONE book that fits this description is "How to Win Friends and Influence People"... by Dale Carnegie. It is timeless....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with sex, but still need it to be meaningful
Q. Hello everyone, I am deeply concerned with my obsession with sex, it has interfered with my ability to concentrate and focus. I recently broke up with my boyfriend so I do not know how I can get rid of my horniness! I do not want a one night stand ...
A. 11 November 2013: "Sex".... or "making love".... How you approach and enjoy it is in YOUR hands.... It's NOT an "either/or" proposition... Right there in your submittal, you say that you wish to have the romantic (love) connection... Soooo, I don't see why you ... (read in full...)
My first date and he's 8 years older. How do I handle it?
Q. I'm going on a date with a guy who is 8 years older than me. He's 26 and I'm 18. People keep telling me to be more careful and to watch out because he's a lot smoother at manipulation and it'll be easier for him to persuade me to do things. But I...
A. 11 November 2013: You write: "But I don't think he's that kind of guy."
Please note, that the people in Germany, in the 1930's, didn't think that Adolph Hitler was "... that kind of guy.."
Keep your eyes open and your sensibilities on-guard. A guy this much ... (read in full...)
All I want is someone to love me! I need some advice!
Q. Here we go, I am going to try and do this without breaking down into tears . I have only been divorced since May of 2012 however my husband left in 2008 I met this man and started seeing him and at the time i didnt know he was married because he ...
A. 11 November 2013: You write: "I want to find Happiness again but for some reason I dont think it is going to be with him." CORRECT!!!!!
Soooo, puff out your chest, take a deep breath, and say to yourself: "O.K. so THAT dog is out of my life.... NOW, I'll jus... (read in full...)
He forgot my birthday! Is this normal for a boyfriend to do this?
Q. Boyfriend of 4 years forgot to wish me happy birthday despite having texting the whole time. I was giving him the benefit of doubt and waited. When I confronted, he said he's busy rushing some work. I know what all of you would say but really, ...
A. 10 November 2013: He IS "taking you from granted".... and you'll be wise to part ways with him....
Really???? He "forgot" your birthday???? ..... and then offered some whimpy excuse (for which YOU gave him a "pass".... silly girl!!!!)....
This guy isn't "in" t... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who is not interested in sex?
Q. I have very little interest in sex and it has become a huge problem in my marriage(understandably). I honestly do not care if I ever have sex again... it's just not important to me and I really don't get much out of it. I really have never had an ...
A. 10 November 2013: "Sexual" is one of the compatibilities which is critical to a long-term relationship or marriage.... (The others are: energy, education, political, inquisitiveness, and I suppose there are others....)....
IF two people prove - over the long ter... (read in full...)
I can't get over my husband cheating with this awful woman!
Q. I had marital problems last year, long story short my husband was cheating on me with an actual whore and when I mean who're I mean this nasty person cheated on her x-husband for the 17 years of Thier marriage she found my husband and found him to ...
A. 8 November 2013: I believe you'll be much happier when you dump HIM (your hubby) AND his whore.... and get on with your life as a SINGLE woman!!!!!! Try that for a while!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I said a terrible thing, and now it's over. What can I do to get him back?
Q. I said a terrible thing but I think the reaction of my long time boyfriend is way too much. We live together for 7 years and have 1 child together, our daughter is 6.5. We are young professionals, love each other or so I thought, and we are overa...
A. 8 November 2013: I'm going to focus on this portion of your submittal:
".... love each other or so I thought, and we are overall a very well functioning family, or so I thought. ..."
You know what you failed to "think" about???? It's that living together ... (read in full...)
FWB: why hasn't he contacted me?
Q. Do fwb's suddenly go silent? I've been friends with benefits with a guy on and off (mostly on) for nearly a year. He is sexy as hell, I approached him, but at the time was going through a rocky patch with my then-boyfriend. I was open with him ...
A. 8 November 2013: He's GOT YOU!!!..... so much so that you are willing to make a fool of yourself on his behalf.....
How long do you intend to let this go on?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My daughter is pregnant by a bum and refuses to let him go why?
Q. Dear Cupid ,my troubled child now a mom to be is very pregnant now she has a job but her boyfriend waits on her check every pay day he doesn't work she supplies him with money to keep him high but she walks around looking thrown away her feet are ...
A. 8 November 2013: Sometimes, you just have to let a loved one "hit bottom"... such that THEY can learn, ON THEIR OWN, just what life is all about....
Stay on the sidelines - ready to care for your future granddaughter - but don't believe, for a minute, that you... (read in full...)
Is my friend toxic?
Q. How do you know if a friend is toxic? whenever I spend time with a male friend of mine i come home feeling down and stripped of confidence. He lies a lot so I never really know what is real/not, and he always makes jokes at my expense - he says ...
A. 8 November 2013: A "joke" that hurts is NOT a joke, at all..... Maybe, you can give a guy a "pass" for ONE such transgression.... BUT.... on the occasion of a second - or subsequent - such missive.... you are looking at an abusive person.... AND you will do ... (read in full...)
Can't deal with my husband's anger and negativity, but leaving him means leaving the U.S.
Q. I am marriaged to an American for more then 12 years now. I went to USA to work and study with a scholarship in Arts. We met through a friend from my Master´s Degree University. He is an Artist too,but from another University,but doesnt have a Mast...
A. 7 November 2013: Returning to Uruguay sounds like a "small price" to pay to get away from such an a$$ as you married.....
Via con Dios....
... (read in full...)
Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? And what do they prefer-natural or make-up?
Q. I was wondering what your opinion is on this question. Do guys really mean it when they call a girl beautiful, sexy, pretty, and hot? Because I think I am attractive but when I look at myself in the mirror I don't like my stomach,(have a few inch...
A. 7 November 2013: Most any red-blooded man will say ANYTHING to a woman - regardless of accuracy or sincerity - if we think it will aid and abet our getting that woman to bed.....
Hope that helps...
Good luck.....
P.S. The "make-up" thing doesn't really mak... (read in full...)
My friend and my husband are flrting and texting. Please help!
Q. My friend and my husband have been flirting with each other for some time. Texting each other a lot. Her son is also a friend of my son so the situation is very delicate. I noticed my husband watching her if we were in company and following her ...
A. 6 November 2013: Whilest I'm inclined to pooh-pooh jealousy... what you describe seems to go a little further than that....Soooo...
Sit hubby down, and say to him: "Hunchy-bunchy, it sure looks like you have the hots for (friend's name, here). DO YOU???? ... (read in full...)
Disastrous haircut! How do I deal with it?
Q. I know this may seem the silliest of issues and I feel very stupid asking for help over such trivial matter. So, I've had my hair cut super super super short yesterday. I thought I'd look good but... I don't!!! I look awful!!! Even my colleagues and ...
A. 6 November 2013: Please reconcile to yourself that you will look OUTSTANDING in four months.... Then....
Come back on here, on March 6, 2014, and tell us how your life has been!!!!
Good luck... and, thank goodness that hair grows.. even if we fail to water an... (read in full...)
We have some obstacles in our sex life, what's the best way to deal with them?
Q. I am a 45 year old male who has a disabled female partner. At the moment, our matress is very soft. We feel that I am far to heavy wwhen it comes to sex. Also, we are cuddling and kissing, but not having much genital sex. What is the best way to ...
A. 6 November 2013: Cripes!!! .... this is simple. You and she go to all sorts of places to copulate.... and decide which is the best/preferred place for the two of you... THEN, get a bed which most-closely mimics that (place)!!!!!
Good luck. I hope it's NOT in t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been Facebook stalking his exes
Q. my boyfriend is so loving and affectionate and happy, he always says he just wants me to be happy too and we have good physical attraction. We laugh a lot and have fun and spend most of our free time together as we live together (his choice). I...
A. 5 November 2013: You can solicite and read all the advice you want about "calming (your) nerves..."
However, the "bottom line" is that you are dating (and LIVING WITH!) a man-child who has not yet reached adulthood. The behaviour you've described is 'way out of p... (read in full...)
How can anyone up and leave their kids?
Q. Why would a man or a woman walk away from their kids? I am a little upset right now. I am settled in a relationship and happy. I have two wonderful kids from a pervious relationship. My ex texted me before and said that he can't stand me, ...
A. 4 November 2013: My Mother seemed to not have any problem doing what you ask...... She up and left (5) kids, ages 12 - 19....
What I "learned", over time, was that my Dad was an outstanding Father.. my Mom was a less-than-dedicated Mother... and (that) we kids ... (read in full...)
Feel guilty spending Christmas away from my mum
Q. Hello, I'm hoping to get some advice to what might sound like a really trivial problem - I know it sounds silly but I can hardly sleep over it so hope someone will offer advice. I am married and pregnant. Every Christmas day I spend with my pa...
A. 4 November 2013: You can't coddle your Mum forever. You have a life of your own, you know....
I'm willing to wager that,... if you bring this subject up with your Mum.... she will understand exactly what you are planning to do....and will say to you: "Oh, for... (read in full...)
Never had much luck with boys so wondering how to proceed with this one?
Q. I am seventeen years of age and have had much boy luck! I really like this boy in school and because of my luck with boys i am really not confident at all to do anything about it!He does come across as that confident around girls either. I talk to ...
A. 4 November 2013: Be yourself!!!! Say a polite "Hi" whenever you encounter him... See if there are things you and he have in-common that can be conversation "openers".... For example; do you take a class together? ... or, participate in some extra-curricula ... (read in full...)
Is my husband picking up vibes between me and another man?
Q. The other day, my husband and I got together with a couple for dinner. I know the couple well enough, and my husband was meeting them officially for the first time. To make a long story short, I have shared a "look" with the husband of this other ...
A. 3 November 2013: Hubby's "guy radar" picked up that this (other) guy wants to bed you... and YOU seem disturbingly interested in him.
What more could there be, to your "question"????
P.S. ARE YOU going to let this guy bed you?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Need advice on a connection I made online that's got messy please.
Q. This may be long but please bear with me I really need some insight from everyone. So I'll start with I'm a 28 y/o lesbian and about four months ago I did the whole online dating profile thing and found a young lady who seemed more or less interest...
A. 3 November 2013: So you've written a lengthy, and well-thought-out submittal that details ooodles of reasons why you should have no contact with this woman....
WHAT IS YOUR QUESTION??????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I explain my birth defect to girls?
Q. Hey everyone So heres my situation...I was born with a birth defect of my hands where a few of my fingers are shorter and honestly I'm comfortable enough with myself where I can admit it's weird and not a turn on for girls...it's gotten me denied b...
A. 3 November 2013: As I began reading your submittal, I started answering to you: "What kind... and how shallow.... of a girl would discard you as a prospect because you have some fingers that are not as long as "typical" (fingers)"....
Then, when I read, later, t... (read in full...)
How can I remain strong once my lying cheating ex begins his apologetic stage?
Q. Hello and thanks I just broke up with my bf yesterday and I'm feeling saddened that it had to come to this. We were together on and off for 3 yrs. We had issues yrs ago when I caught him cheating with two different women online one woman was hi...
A. 3 November 2013: You ask: "How can I remain strong once he begins his apologetic stage?...."
Answer: You think to yourself: "This is the unfaithful dog that broke my heart on several occasions....and I'd be an idiot to let me guard down and let him get close to... (read in full...)
Why Do I Constantly Want To Have Sex! Please Help
Q. To make a long story short. Im 19 years of age and im in college and i know it's natural for males to sometimes glance at a females ass and such, i do that sometimes when i see these college junior girls. I get boners in awkward times. like when...
A. 3 November 2013: Welcome to the world of testosterone!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 1 November 2013: You write: "....I'm spoiled and no longer live in reality so to speak...."
So to speak, schmo to speak. You, Brother, had Nirvana.... but abused it... and now will simply have to seek Nirvana again.
Unfortunately, it's now five years i... (read in full...)
Thin or curvy?
Q. I am in my late 20 s and have a 5 year old son. I was very thin when I got married 112 lb with 5.4 height. I was always getting attention from guys, though was called skinny sometimes. Now after divorce and my pregnancy I gained 25 lb. I am not o...
A. 1 November 2013: WE guys often repeat that old cliche: "The closer to the bone, the sweeter the meat"....
HOWEVER.... when it comes down to actually getting a little, we are surprisingly flexible... as long as there is a pu$*y involved.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I find true happiness within myself. Without needing another human to help provide that happiness?
Q. How can you find true happiness within yourself without needing a man or anyone else to make you happy? I'm finding happiness through men that eventually hurt me because they see my lack of confidence and unhappiness. I want to be in a relation...
A. 1 November 2013: PJ: At the risk of sounding cliche..... remember that old saw: "I was sad because I had no shoes; ... then, I saw a man who had NO FEET"!!!!!!
I suggest that you spend more time and mental energy looking for GOOD things in your life... and scre... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets easily irritated at me regarding how I work and I don't know what to do? I am walking on egg shells anymore
Q. We live together. He is divorced with a couple adult children. We talk about getting married. We share the same office. I have a home based business. I have a separate work space from the office in the home. He tells me to be myself around hi...
A. 1 November 2013: I see this phrase as the most important in your submittal:
"After he yelled at me, he told me he is only trying to help me."
Suuuuuure, it starts with a little yelling... THEN, he "helps" you by shaking you by the shoulders..... ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?
Q. I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded ...
A. 1 November 2013: If you don't care about keeping your job.... go ahead and have sex with the guy....
IF you DO like your job, and want to keep it.... then forget it (sex with this guy)....
Your choice....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
The last convo we had he said I was acting like a psycho and wants me to leave him alone. How do I fix all this?
Q. I've been dating this guy for aboyt 2 months. He has his own business and works crazy hours and gets stressed about it. In the beginning we spent a lot of time together. We went out and did enjoyable things together. Then he started a really huge ...
A. 31 October 2013: Sorry... but that ship only sails once.... and NOW, it's out of the harbor and YOU are stuck having to look for a NEW ship....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
No experience with players. How do you know if a guy is one?
Q. I need advice on dating. So, I haven't gone on dates for over 12 years. My ex-fiance and I were together 11 years and we did not even dated we were collage buddies. We have been separated for over a year now. I recently signed up for online ...
A. 31 October 2013: You start by ASSUMING - regardless of whatever else he says - that he is one (a player)..... (because most of us ARE!!!)
Anything that comes out better than that.... you count your Blessings....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I've become extremely needy and emotional, since I'm used to have her around my finger.
Q. Hey, I recently dumped my girlfriend of 4 years. I did it because I haven't lived my life and I was feeling that I wanted to meet other people. My girlfriend was wonderful but we wasn't on the same level, she was very responsible and ...
A. 31 October 2013: I suggest you get a copy of the pamplet:
"Well, now you've f**ked up the best thing you ever had... AND she's come to her senses and doesn't want anything to do with you (since you acted like such an a$$).... so I guess you'll have to revert t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's adult son is driving me to despair!
Q. My boyfriend is in his 45 and we have been very hapoy for 12 months. We had plans to rent our places and to buy a place together. Then his 20 year son moved back in with him. Everything has changed. My 24 year old son has moved out and is very happy ...
A. 31 October 2013: I think the key phrase in your submittal is this one:
" I cant win :( "
My reply: Why bother? Dump B/F and let HIM decide how to survive his good-for-nothing son. (After all... HE "produced" him!!!!).
Good luck...... (read in full...)
After 5 years he tells me he never loved me and was just using me for sex
Q. after 5yrs the guy i was seeing told me he had meet someone else. Now discover that he never loved me and he only kept seeing me for sex. I feel so used and cheap. Im finding it hard to deal with as i loved this guy. how do i move on? jo ...
A. 31 October 2013: What you do is puff out your chest... take a deep breath... and say to yourself: "WHEW, I am one lucky girl. I wasted five years.... and almost married that deceiving basta*d"!!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents about this much older guy in prison?
Q. I am in love with a man that's 24 years older than me seems to really feel the same about me he is wanting to become a pastor really soon he knows slot about the Bible and he is devoted to God he is 53 I'm 29 he is currently in prison and has only ...
A. 31 October 2013: I suggest that you approach your parents and say to them something like this:
" Mom.... Dad.... I have to confess that I was recently damn-near hoodwinked by an older guy who I "met" when he was in prison... and - like so many others of his ilk ... (read in full...)
He's a great guy, except for his sex drive
Q. I am frustrated beyond belief and the worst part is, I will NEVER EVER cheat. My boyfriend (who is, admittedly, a very good guy) and I have been together almost 3.5 years. No engagement ring yet and he always claims it's money which I get because ...
A. 31 October 2013: "Sounds" to me like your man has read - and become expert - from the "guy" book titled: "How to be a total flop in bed.... but give JUST ENOUGH to her (your squeeze) to keep her, not only interested, but also, so damned frustrated that she'll give ... (read in full...)
Am I a total pervert for being turned on by the idea of a cute boy masturbating to a picture of me?
Q. Not long ago I had an embarrassing moment at my school where I was wearing a thin black spaghetti strap top with just a thin camisole underneath but no bra when someone conveniently decided to snap a picture and thanks to the flash you could totally ...
A. 29 October 2013: Is there some sort of problem with being a pervert??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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