Is he just being stubborn or does he just want to remain friends?
Q. I was seeing a guy for a good two months and we were fab together. Always laughing, had loadz fun together, both felt the same, couldnt get enough of each other. I started to get really strong feelings for him to which he reciprocated by telling me ...
A. 16 December 2013: romantic: Your re-submittal is oh-so telling.... and makes me want to repeat to you, again and again,... in CAPITAL LETTERS.... THAT THIS GUY "SEES" YOU AS NOTHING MORE THAN A CONVENIENT SEX PARTNER....
Do NOT fool yourself with the likes of... (read in full...)
What is she hoping for here?
Q. My wife is doing something a bit "unusual" lately in bed and I am trying to figure it out. When I am on top, she holds 2 fingers together like a penis and starts sucking and licking them. (great so far :-)) Then she pulls my face down...
A. 14 December 2013: dannio: You're getting laid, regularly.... and you are asking questions on here????? Damn, Man... get a grip. There are oodles of us, on here, who have likely forgotten what our "Mr Happy" is even supposed to be used for. Count your ... (read in full...)
Does this guy even care? Is he upset? Did I do something wrong here?
Q. I need some advice. I have been talking (texting) to this guy who I met through a friend for about a month now. He seems interested in me, but I have been very caution about him. The thing that I hate about him is that if I text him, he doesn't ...
A. 14 December 2013: You and he WERE on a "collision course" that might have lead to a friendship/relationship.... but that damn cold/cough of your's changed YOUR course.... and he adjusted his (course), and, now, it looks like the two of you aren't likely to intersect, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is friends with this girl who sleeps around with almost everyone and I'm scared that he might cheat on me
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend is friends with this girl who sleeps around with almost everyone !! He cheated on me before, although that was a year ago. We broke up and got back together, and now I'm afraid that he has or will do somethin...
A. 14 December 2013: If your "relationship" is so fragile that you can write this submittal... then you need to maintain adequate distance between yourself and "B/F" ... such that you need not give a darn if he sleeps with/had sex with/performs oral for... this ... (read in full...)
I'm about to break up with my B/f and I feel nothing during sex..no physical or emotional connection. Does this mean that sex is all about how you feel for that person?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. I am in the process of leaving a 3 year relationship,it been tough,and volitile,but I.m finding it a bit difficult to let go of the last bit. It.s literally on it.s last legs. My question is this. The last few times I had sex ...
A. 14 December 2013: So.... what you're "saying" is that you have made a mental separation from this guy... and it shows up if/when you and he try to be intimate.....
There's no "gray area" here..... Your (and his) relationship is "over".... so go on with your lif... (read in full...)
Is he just being stubborn or does he just want to remain friends?
Q. I was seeing a guy for a good two months and we were fab together. Always laughing, had loadz fun together, both felt the same, couldnt get enough of each other. I started to get really strong feelings for him to which he reciprocated by telling me ...
A. 14 December 2013: Here's the key phrase in your submittal: "....I begged and pleaded for him to reconsider and give me another chance...."
The moment you did that..... your were DUMPED. No man wants a girl who is so desperate that she will do that. We believe ... (read in full...)
In an unhappy relationship. Should I pursue things with the other man?
Q. Looking for some advise, I've been with my partner for 23 years. 6 years ago we split up for two years, in that time I met someone else and was with them for seven months. When that finished a while after I got back with my long term partner. Thi...
A. 13 December 2013: You've really put a gem of information, right here in your submittal. To wit: "...I'm scared he just wants me for sex."
You are correct. So, armed with THAT important detail, how do you intend to proceed?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He said he still loves me - but did he mean it?
Q. If you ask a guy if he still loves you and he says "yes", is he telling the truth? I mean, I know none of you know for sure, but is it likely that if a man says he still loves a woman, during a break in the relationship, that it's true? The reaso...
A. 13 December 2013: Men and women "say" widely varying things when they say "I love you."
When a woman sez it, it refers to a warm, loving, caring relationship that she believes that she and the person who she is saying it to are experiencing together....
When a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he would feel uncomfortable around my gay friend!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now and I want him to meet my friends. He hasn't met them already yet as there hasn't been an opportunity for him to. So I asked him the other day if he would like to come and watch one of my friends ...
A. 13 December 2013: I know EXACTLY how your B/F feels. Once, when I was walking along Duval Street, in Key West, I saw a man who I thought "appeared to be" gay.... When he got closer, I felt stirrings in my brain, and - don't you know - I immediately turned to my ... (read in full...)
Long term relationship and no engagement!
Q. I need advice on what I should do with my dating situation. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 1/2 years, He is 40 years old now and i am 26, he was married before and has two boys one's 18 years old and the other 16. I tell my boyfriend ...
A. 12 December 2013: ".. he says he's not ready..."
Do you actually BELIEVE him when he says that? And, moreover, do YOU believe that there will EVER be a time when he is "ready????"
After 7-1/2 years hanging together, you know all you need to know about this ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to platonically get to know my crush more, or does he already assume that I'm interested in more than that? Also, what should I do about the current situation with my boyfriend?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about 2 years, and we've been best friends for 3 or 4 years prior to that. We get along great for the most part, and it's really hard to picture what my life would be like without him since we know each ...
A. 12 December 2013: You've given us all we need to know to give you a complete answer. To wit:
"..he doesn't really treat me like a girlfriend, but more like a friend with occasional sex..."
THIS (the above quote) makes it perfectly clear that, to him, you are ... (read in full...)
Is this a new type of double standard?
Q. I hear quite often that when a girl meets boy in a bar or other way, and she says she only wants cuddling etc. and no sex, it is a deal breaker and he leaves. Of course I am not talking about having a long term relationship. What about if the shoe ...
A. 12 December 2013: I think it's inappropriate for either party who has "just met" to seek to hurry in to an intimate bed-situation....
Sign me,
"Old Fuddy-duddy"... (read in full...)
She is always in the same clothes! I'm getting fed up!
Q. I have been in an relationship for 8minths going strong but I am getting fed up about certain things. My girlfriend lives with her mum and doesn't have much money. She has two outfits, and all she has worn since we been together. I offered to b...
A. 12 December 2013: I think that you're searching for - and "finding" - ways to "take control" of your situation with this girl, such that you hope to be in total control....
My question: WHAT would she be doing if she never met you? IF that is "what she is doing... (read in full...)
I'm so scared that this 4 week break so early on in our relationship is going to ruin us.
Q. I've been seeing my boyf since the summer and been official for the last 2 months. Everything is going great. So far he seems my perfect man and I'm so happy. But here's the thing, last week he went home for xmas, he'll be gone 3-4 weeks. He's ...
A. 12 December 2013: If your's (and his) budding relationship can't endure a four week separation - for the reasons that you've described - then it isn't much of a relationship, after all, and you and he will be better off going your separate ways.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he's forgotten my birthday..
Q. My birthday is today. I've been dating a man for 7 months. He knows when my birthday is and we've already celebrated his birthday in August. He has a VERY demanding job and is currently out of the country working. He emailed me last night and ...
A. 12 December 2013: If you are quite certain that he knew - some time recently - what was the date of your birthday..... then he is sending you a very clear message ("I don't much care if you have a birthday, and when it is....").... and YOU are making excuses for ... (read in full...)
I feel unwanted and our relationship feels broken!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year. We recently had a one week break as we were arguing a lot. We are now back together but I feel Im treading on egg shells and cant be myself. He hasnt said he loves me and I said I was worried things arent right ...
A. 12 December 2013: Did he actually SAY that "... he's not using you (me)?"
'Cuz, if'n he DID (say that) then you can be pretty sure that he IS "using you..."
All the rest of your excuses about why he's acting boorish.... "He's not sleeping well and has a big pr... (read in full...)
Four weeks later, has he lost interest already?
Q. Hi there I met a guy online we met and instantly hit it off... had a great time met at my local... saw him once a week since then so had x4 dates... he used to text me everyday or send a late goodnite sms too the sms have stopped... I did send him a ...
A. 12 December 2013: You've left out an important detail. i.e.: Did you and he have sex?????
If "yes," then you are enduring the logical result of putting out for a guy too soon after meeting him....
If "no," then he ain't interested.... so turn your focus elsew... (read in full...)
I feel like more of a sulky teen than an adult!
Q. hello, hope you can help am living with my boyfriend and we are really happy things are going great, am in danger of sounding like a spoilt brat so please bear with me... my boyfriends ex (a girl he really liked who he dated for a while) is due to ...
A. 12 December 2013: I suggest that you re-read this submittal... again and again... paying close attention to the top line, which shows a British flag, and gives your age as "36-40".... then, say to yourself: "This (the submittal) is no way for a woman of 36-40 to ... (read in full...)
I have a 'thing' with a guy but he wants to keep it secret.
Q. So I have a thing with this guy, and my bestfriend over heard him telling his friend that he doesn't want anyone to know about us. I believe my bestfriend and he's the type of guy to say something like that too, what does all that mean and what ...
A. 12 December 2013: It "means" that this guy who has caught your eye wants to keep his options open and available... such that he can pursue you (hoepfully, to put out for him)... whilest HE stays "free" to do as he pleases....
It doesn't bode well for a great fu... (read in full...)
Should I expect an official invite or am I just creating drama?
Q. I've been in a long term relationship with my bf and we have been living together for 2 years. His nieces birthday is coming up and I've been uncomfortable to attend because I haven't received an invite however my bf feels that it makes no ...
A. 12 December 2013: My first reaction is that you and B/F are "an item"... such that an invitation to HIM is - understandably - taken as an invitation for the both of you... HOWEVER.....
..... bit that you added about his Mother... and her saying that YOU weren't ... (read in full...)
We were in a relationship but now we are just FWB!
Q. I need help please. I recently got back with my ex- we broke up at the end of october but then started talking again and things are the same as if we had been dating. he had referred to us as friends with benefits-something we were a few years back ...
A. 12 December 2013: THIS is the only question in your submittal:
Q. "Whats the difference between being friends with benefits and in a relationship?"
A. In FWB, HE gets all he wants (sex) whilest not having to give a darn about you. In a relationship, he... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's job and her smoking are jeopardizing our relationship
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for little under a year and we get along really well. There are two unfortunate issues that arise that cause all of our problems. These are two things that bug me and make me question how much she actually ...
A. 12 December 2013: If you find smoking offensive... then why did you ever take a "first date" with this girl? SHE isn't going to quit smoking on your behalf.... and the statistics "say" that she isn't going to quit smoking until she realizes what a dumb addiction it ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy seeing me if he's had better?
Q. I'm having a childish issue. I'm seeing a new guy. We were friends before we started dating... I actually saw him as a friend, well, for all the time he was trying to win me over (which was MONTHS), and I actually started things out with him as a ...
A. 12 December 2013: I perceive TWO issues in your submittal....
First... early on, you tell us that you and this guy "...started things out (with him) as a "no strings attached" deal..." Unfortunately, that put you in the precarious postition of having only a REMOTE... (read in full...)
Should I change my look to attract a better man?
Q. What am I doing wrong in dating? I want to preface by saying that I was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship for five years until I walked away. A big reason why I walked away was because after enough was enough I also fell for so...
A. 12 December 2013: I think your submittal gives us a substantial picture of who YOU are. Specifically, you write: "...someone that can see past my blond hair and big boobs and can value me for the kind person that I believe I am."
I think that the most-imp... (read in full...)
My Gf's phone background is a picture of a half naked guy. How can I deal with this?
Q. I'm kind of disgusted and mad that my girlfriend has a picture of a half naked guy... with a puppy on her phone... The thing is, I see her on the phone all the time. It annoys me and I said something and she was like well you had a girl on your phon...
A. 12 December 2013: Half the people in this World go to bed hungry each night.... and THIS is what you have to worry about????
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Should I continue or not? He swears they are just friends, now. But will his wandering eyes cause me a broken heart?
Q. I am 63 and have been in a committed relationship since May, 2013. We've had a lot of fun together, get along pretty good, and have even talked about the possibility of moving in together. I lost my husband 4 years ago and he has lost his wife 3 ...
A. 11 December 2013: Anyone have an opinion?
Yes.... this guy "is not that "in" to you, enough for YOU to believe that you and he can have a "relationship." HE needs more time to "play the field"... maybe, FOREVER!!!
Don't let yourself get trapped in to tr... (read in full...)
I want him to help with our children. But can I trust him? Should I trust him?
Q. Ok so here's the situation! I've been with my man going on three years and 2 months! It's been a heck of roller coaster I'll tell you this! Although I should have seen all the signs and signals to leave him in the beginning but being in "love" a...
A. 11 December 2013: Your's is a gut-wrenching story..... A man who is exquisite at playing you... and you craving to "make" him your man and have a REAL "family."
Unfortunately, while YOU are participating in HIS charade; he isn't even paying lip service to your's..... (read in full...)
I really want him back. Was it wrong to say what I said, especially as I did not mean it?
Q. I previously wrote here and took some advice on tactics to win my ex back. We only dated 2 months but I fell for him hard. I started pressuring him to put a title on the relationship which ultimately pushed him away. We broke up a little over a m...
A. 11 December 2013: You and he seem to have invented a game which is variously fun/flirty then painful and frustrating......
The "question" that I would pose is: Do you wish to continue in a flimsy, insincere, and vague game, wherein YOU are willing to ante-up ... (read in full...)
He lost his friend. Now he's yelling at me, about how it's my fault. Is it?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago, but he says that we're on break. But we're still intimate. I have a jealousy of girls because all my boyfriends (except this one) has cheated on me. Naturally, I don't like girls now. So, my ex ...
A. 11 December 2013: "...we're on break.... But we're still intimate.."
ALERT: HE is on a "permanent" break... since he still has you for sex..... YOU seem to believe that this "break" is a temporary condition. IT'S NOT!!!!!!!
Just about everything in yo... (read in full...)
I was expecting another chance for us
Q. I have been hanging out with my ex boyfriend this past month, after being broken up for about 5 months. Yes we are sleeping together, hanging out, acting like a couple. But he tells me today that he is not ready to get back into a relationship. He ...
A. 11 December 2013: Here's the key ingredient to your disdain: "... I appreciate his honesty...."
This guy isn't being HONEST with you, at all. You have admitted that you and he are having sex, again.... SOooo, his lovely (and "honest") words are so much B/S.... ... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for underwear?
Q. I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...
A. 10 December 2013: I can't speak for ALL guys... but I like to have a pair of my girl's undies so that I can put them in my pillowcase and smell them (her) all night when she isn't here....
P.S. When I CAN convince her to stay the night.. it's less importan... (read in full...)
My negativity is hindering my happiness
Q. I am having a REALLY difficult time. I have found myself over the last couple of years becoming more and more disillusioned with life and society. It really worries me but everything about society gets me down. I won't go into too many details...
A. 10 December 2013: P.S. If this submittal is typical of what you "think life is all about"... then, "Yes," your negativity is hindering your happiness......... (read in full...)
My negativity is hindering my happiness
Q. I am having a REALLY difficult time. I have found myself over the last couple of years becoming more and more disillusioned with life and society. It really worries me but everything about society gets me down. I won't go into too many details...
A. 10 December 2013: If you lived here in the Colonies... I'd imagine that you listened to Rush Limbaugh, 24/7 ... and had been influenced by him and Marc Levin.... both of whom seem to believe - and bloviate - that there is NOTHING "right" with the world... and that ... (read in full...)
I just discovered my boyfriend is giving his ex secret guitar lessons
Q. I went to my boyfriend's house a couple of days ago and I saw the photo of us was face down. He went over to put music on and suddenly it was upright again. There were playing cards on the coffee table and empty glasses. I asked who had been playing ...
A. 10 December 2013: Perhaps he's not cheating... but he's sure being suspiciously aloof and non-forthcoming about what is going on, relative to this new "student" who is under his tutelage.....
Trust, but verify, and see what is really going on in his life... ... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 10 December 2013: I think that you are personalizing a whole bunch of the details that ALL OF US must address.... regardless whether we are straight or gay,... seeking to make contact/friendship with a woman or man.....
What I think I detect in your submitta... (read in full...)
She keeps backing out of our dates, but agrees to arrange more
Q. So i met this girl at school a few weeks ago and she always acted really shy around me and when i caught her staring she's turn her head away and not look at me. One day i decided to ask her out and she agreed and we later set the date for next...
A. 10 December 2013: She's not sufficiently interested in you to even be POLITE to you about plans that you (and she) make!!!! What does that tell you????
Don't waste your time with her. Find a girl who is polite (and respectful enough of your time and attentio... (read in full...)
How do we mend our relationship once the trust has been broken?
Q. I met this guy a year ago, We dated but he cheated on me with this girl who hated me( his ex). I know he cared for her but I also know she did it to break us up. I didn't want to give her the satisfaction so I tried to work it out with him, but she ...
A. 10 December 2013: Is this guy REALLY worth the drama that you will have to endure to hang out with - or hold a relationship with - him???
(I wouldn't waste my time....)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What does my ex want? Is he playing mind games?
Q. Hello dear cupid. I need help figuring out what my ex boyfriend is doing. We met and after a month he said he wasn't ready to be in relationship. And I accepted it and told him not to contact me. He didn't stop he kept contacting me. I didn't spoke ...
A. 9 December 2013: Don't be dumb enough to take part in his game. You (and he) have "broken up." Now, STAY broken up... and that means, don't waste your time/energy/attention contacting him.... It's up to YOU to make this happen.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I've got it all and done it all, so what next!
Q. I am faced with a strange dilemma. I am 31 years old, I made all my childhood dreams come true already, I am recently divorced, have no kids because I never wanted them, men fall all over me, I have a healthy lifestyle, steady job, car, a cat, I am ...
A. 9 December 2013: How about "giving back?".....
Volunteer at a homeless shelter, or a soup kitchen. Mentor a girl whose Mother is a drug addict. Feed the animals and clean cages at a dog/cat shelter....
"Life" consists of more than accumulating "th... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or was it a harmless joke?
Q. Last night at a party, I overheard my boyfriend of 7 years tell his friend that they should go to some town because the "chicks will like them better there." He didn't know I ha just walked in the room at the time. I confronted him about it as ...
A. 9 December 2013: It's amazing how many "harmless jokes" (or, "harmless comments") take on a life of their own.... prove, ultimately, to not be harmless at all, and usher in the end of a relationship or marriage..... Think twice, and trust your instincts...
Good ... (read in full...)
Seven months full on flirting, and now he has just disappeared!
Q. This guy has been flirting with me for 7 months now, he is a nurse at the place where my gram lives. All his coworkers know he likes me they watch him watching me, my relatives know he likes me he would always ask them about me.months of talking, ...
A. 9 December 2013: "Any thought why he won't call just disappeared???"
Yes.... He's not sufficiently interested to make the effort. Don't waste your time throwing yourself at him.... it will just lead to more disappointment...
Good luck...
... (read in full...)
Usually men like me but this one is not helping my self esteem.
Q. I have been seeing this man a long time now. He rejects me a lot, he insults my independence and he tells me that I will never have a boyfriend. I can t lie I have said some mean things to him before too. He told me I was not a normal girl and ...
A. 9 December 2013: He treats you this way - pretty crappy, in my opinion - because YOU ALLOW IT!!!!!
IF you don't like the way he acts toward and around you... then part ways with him and don't look back.....
You "sound" like a delightful and interesting woma... (read in full...)
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