Am I a total pervert for being turned on by the idea of a cute boy masturbating to a picture of me?
Q. Not long ago I had an embarrassing moment at my school where I was wearing a thin black spaghetti strap top with just a thin camisole underneath but no bra when someone conveniently decided to snap a picture and thanks to the flash you could totally ...
A. 29 October 2013: Is there some sort of problem with being a pervert??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Can you have a serious relationship with a man 7-8 years younger than yourself?
Q. What if a man is younger by 7-8 years than the woman , can they give each other a secure relationship? Specially if they purpose it to marry not just time pass . How do a woman know he is really serious to marry inspite of age gap and not taking her ...
A. 29 October 2013: My G/F (She's eleven years my senior) sez: "Yes...."
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My jealousy and insecurities are ruining my relationship
Q. I create drama in my relationship because I'm insecure and jealous. And I'm on the last leg with my boyfriend because he hates being treated like he's done something wrong just because I feel insecure and paranoid. Any advice on how I can get past ...
A. 29 October 2013: Let me repeat what I just read.... "I KNOW that I am jealous and insecure.... and, thereby, am subverting my current relationship.... as I have subverted my past relationships.... Do you (all) suppose that I might ever grow up and get past ... (read in full...)
Does this man's mother feel I am competition?
Q. I am with a man 16 yrs my senior. His mother is in her 80s and is so jealous of our relationship. She gets mad at how much time we spend together. She tells him alot of negative things about me and says he ignores her. I have never heard of this ...
A. 29 October 2013:
If - or, when - you are "in competition" with his Mother, for a guy's attention and affections.... YOU, Dear Lady, are destined to LOSE!!!!!
Talk to your "man".... learn if he sees things as you do.... IF'n he thinks his Mother is first in his... (read in full...)
When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...
A. 28 October 2013: Sooooooo, get yourself a copy of the Tolstoy novel "War and Peace" It is a monsterous tome.... and takes a couple of weeks to read. Do that.... and, once you have finished it.... come back on here and give us a report of what is going on with ... (read in full...)
Past love haunts me to this day... and now he's engaged...
Q. I was in a strange relationship for a few years... I was living with someone else but trying to get out of the abusive relationship and started seeing someone else... I fell pretty hard until he cheated then things pretty much went from hard core ...
A. 28 October 2013: You ask: "How do I get over this horrible feeling?"
Answer: By thanking your lucky stars that you aren't the unfortunate girl who will have to put up with this boorish and unfaithful creep in the future!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
FWB wants to meet up but hes dating someone. Is it moral?
Q. my fwb just asked me to meet up even though I thought it was over because he apparently had a girlfriend, he then explained that she wasn't his girlfriend and it wouldn't be cheating because they haven't defined the relationship. is it moral to ...
A. 28 October 2013: You will find plenty of people who will suggest that "FWB" and "moral" don't really belong in the same sentence or submittal....... (read in full...)
I feel unappreciated by my boyfriend!
Q. I do everything for my boyfriend but he never says he loves me and I feel unappreciated. I have taken him on business trips across the country, expensive sporting events, weekend trips paid for by me, and drive him everywhere when we are together. I ...
A. 28 October 2013: Of course you feel unappreciated....That's because you ARE (unappreciated)!!!!!!!!
You've described a classic case of a guy "using" a woman.... in your case... not ONLY for s*x (the usual) but also, for financial purposes..... Do you not recogniz... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks I cheated and I never have. How do I convince him?
Q. My boyfriend of four years thinks that I have betrayed him with infidelity (cheated on him), I did not commit such a act, I'm innocent but he will not listen to the truth, he also wont express his reasons why he is so sure about his accusations. ...
A. 28 October 2013: Why should YOU bother trying to convince HIM that you have been faithful????????
This is a classic "guy" ploy, wherein there are two motives.
One, is that WE (the guy) have been unfaithful... and want to get, and keep, YOU off-balance unti... (read in full...)
Can he learn from this and remain faithful or am I dealing with a ticking time bomb?
Q. I found nasty texts on my boyfriend's phone to a friend of his about his pursuit of trying to find a woman to have sex with while I was out of town. He found a girl he was interested in while he was at a bar and proceeded to hit on her and relay the ...
A. 28 October 2013: Time bomb, Schmime bomb!!!! Your "boyfriend" is, obviously, an unfaithful a%%hole.... and the only question you should be asking is: "Do you think I got away from him quickly enough?????"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
No closure because of the way things ended, and my mother making it worse
Q. Hi all, any advice given will be appreciated greatly. I had been with my boyfriend for nearly four years, (four years in December). Most of those years were happy, loving years. However around 10 months ago MY feelings started to change. I ju...
A. 28 October 2013: Both this guy and your Mother are living, rent-free, in your brain.....
You can't go on with your life until and unless you evict them.... The sooner, the better.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
What can I do about this controlling guy?
Q. i been with my significant other for 6 years and hes always been the jealous type, always in my business, wanting to know my facebook password, my email password my phone code to unlock my phone etc, doesnt want me to have friends and i have lost ...
A. 27 October 2013: You can get away from him... now.. before his "controlling" turns to "abusing" and "injuring"......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from?
Q. Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from? I'm going to be 21 soon and haven't even been kissed. My best guy friend who's a man whore tells me virginity sucks and romance is dead. He said he'd sleep with me ...
A. 26 October 2013: What a generous and thoughtful guy you have there. He is VOLUNTEERING to save you from the scourge of virginity!!!!!
Some immature creeps seem to believe that if THEY "deflower" a girl that that will make them more of a man.....
You can... (read in full...)
My boyfriend no longer wants to wait
Q. hi Am 16 and still a virgin. I have been boyfriend since I was 12 but now he is getting impatient and no longer wants to wait I don't want to be a clique (lost virginity at 16) and it's also against my believes, and now he has brought a lesbian ...
A. 26 October 2013: The best advice is to "listen" to those voices in your head... And NOT to this so-called "boyfriend".... who has begun to have that intense itch between his knees.... which itch occurs whence our (guys') testosterone starts to flow (i.e. puberty ... (read in full...)
Does being civil with an ex for the children's sake ever work?
Q. do you think following a break up, a nasty break up, with someone you have children with, that you can eventually be civil to one another or even be friends? Or will that anger and hate stay?...
A. 25 October 2013: It really makes no difference. You have seen on this site - many times - that there is nothing that can - or should - be done "for the childrens' sake"....
YOU can and should be a good Mother - "FOR THE CHILDRENS' SAKE"!!!! But, beyond that, an... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back after I had a miscarriage?
Q. Hi. I am doing no contact with my ex but he keeps coming into my work. I am so mad with him for what he did to me I don't think I can ever forgive him. We have split up once before and he would not stop ringing my fone for weeks and then eventua...
A. 25 October 2013: This sperm-donor.. who has proven to be a real JERK, over time,.... is not worth one WHIT of your time or attention.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My fiancee's mother hates me!
Q. Okay, I know this is quick. so I have only been with my fiance for 10 months, he asked me to marry him after 5 months we got a ring after 9 months. We met online and I love him so much (success story) we are absolutely besotted with eachother, but ...
A. 25 October 2013: I think the "issue" of which you speak... is with your B/F... NOT with his Mother.....
Once you sort out THAT, then you can proceed....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My vagina is very wet and it makes an irritating sound!
Q. I have a problem with my vagina,everytime when i have sex it becomes too wet and makes an irritating sound which makes me not to enjoy...
A. 25 October 2013: Count your blessings. 50 years from now.... when you're spending half your Social Security check on K-Y jelly... you'll look back at this submittal and say to yourself: "WHAT was I thinking?????"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this what love is?
Q. What is Love? I have been with my girlfriend for just over a year now. I do care about her, have fun with her, find her funny, clever, beautiful etc. But is that what love is? I'm there for her whenever she needs, we never fight but do have the ...
A. 25 October 2013: It's not possible for a guy to love a girl who is wearing clothes...... HOWEVER,....
... once you get her clothes OFF of her... THEN you can determine, better, if you really ARE experiencing "love"...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Does FWB never lead to a relationship?
Q. If a man only wants friends with benefits, does that mean he will never want a relationship? I was wondering if it's possible for a man to change his mind and want a relationship with you?. I know a man who wanted friends with benefits with me...
A. 25 October 2013: He "likes you" as a prospective s*x partner. He "tipped his hand" a long time ago. You'll be wise to remember what he suggested... AND to assume that THAT (FWB) is really what he wants.... Keep looking for a REAL "boyfriend"..... 'cuz this guy ... (read in full...)
Is it usual for guy 1 to ask about other dates?
Q. Hi, another internet dating question. If you are talking to more than one guy, is it usual for guy 1 to ask you if you've got any other dates lined up? Basically guy 1 chatted to me for ages, and when I asked to meey.him he ssid he would if he w...
A. 25 October 2013: Guy No 1 KNOWS that he could have "struck while the iron was hot"... and didn't do so....
You owe him not a whit of an explanation of every-/anything else that is going on in your life..... He snoozed, he loozed....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What can I do to supress my feelings, to avoid these emotional pains?
Q. Dear community, there is a big problem that is really really bothering me. First of all, my girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 6 months now, and from all I can tell we're both pretty happy with each other. Everything s...
A. 24 October 2013: You write: "Here's the question. Am I a stupid and jealous boyfriend that should simply accept the fact that she wants to meet her ex and build up the contact again or is my situation and reaction understandable"
Your Rx is understa... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the silent treatment?
Q. How should I deal with a known narcissists "silent treatment"? He is my boyfriend. This is the second time he has done this in a six month period. He cursed at me about two weeks ago and I couldn't take the abuse anymore and let him know how I ...
A. 24 October 2013: The "silent treatment" is the ultimate passive-aggressive form of behaviour. It ranks No 2 to verbal and/or physical abuse as the dumbest thing girl could put up with.... Ergo: WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING SPENDING EVEN ANOTHER MINUTE OF YOUR ... (read in full...)
Do I owe a family member because she allowed me to park my car at her place?
Q. I need advice so I bought my very first car by myself. I'm so happy. When I look at my car I just smile and just glow because I did it all working 2 part time jobs. Taking up to 4/6 buses a day. So I worked hard for my car. Now here's what I need ...
A. 24 October 2013: Yes... after a fashion, you really DO have a "debt of gratitude" to Tina. Best way to "pay it off" is to secure a gift card at her favorite restaurant.... I suggest that it be for $50....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He's become distant, can I make him interested again?
Q. I've known this guy for a few months and been very flirty, to the point of sending flirty texts etc. We both admitted to liking each other - however there were a few complications in our way. Anyway these complications got sorted. We started dating ...
A. 24 October 2013: No. Once a girl has thrown herself at a guy, she cannot "unthrow" herself at him... Same concept as you can't "unring" a bell.... Sorry....... (read in full...)
How do I explain my time off?
Q. So I decided to take this year off due to complete exhaustion and stress. I've been in school for several years now, and I needed a break. I haven't told any of my friends yet, because in my past experience they have asked nosy questions. I di...
A. 24 October 2013: You hardly should feel the need to "explain yourself" to ANYBODY!!!! (.... EXCEPT your wife,... when she catches you with your girlfriend.....!!!).... (read in full...)
If he is who he says he is then I'm definitely interested
Q. I'm a smart, successful, attractive woman in my 30s, and, even though I have very progressive, healthy attitudes towards dating and sex, I can't help but feel a bit like an idiot. I went out with a man I met online last weekend who was new to the ...
A. 24 October 2013: When a woman makes herself available for s*x too quickly, after meeting a guy.... she, basically, gives him the clear picture that she is prepared to let him use her for s*x, only,.... and THAT is what we guys know as "Nirvana."
The only way to b... (read in full...)
Anxiety after losing my virginity to my cousin. Please help!
Q. About 2 years ago, i lost my virginity to my cousin, and just a few days ago, i got baked with some friends and i went home and was laying in my bed and just thought about my life and what have i done with it, and the topic came up in my head and it ...
A. 24 October 2013: I suggest that you have yourself hypnotized, and that the hypnotist "tell you" that you had sex with Mylie Cyrus, NOT your cousin.... That should take care of the "problem" post-haste!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!
Q. There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...
A. 24 October 2013: I think you need to read my pamphlet entitled: "Damn, if she's throwing hints at you, like you throw popcorn to the Minah birds in the zoo.... then take her up on it and GET A LITTLE"
You will find it VEEErrrrry interesting....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
It's like he's stringing the baby-momma along
Q. hey I am 21 years old who is dating a 40 years old man we been together for over 2years when we really got serious I found out he got a girl pregnant who is pretty young also I asked him about it and he lied, saying he didn't get anyone pregnant...
A. 23 October 2013: You've found a 40 year old dog.... and don't want to set him back out on the street????? Why not??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
She doesn't turn me on any more.
Q. Help! I don't find my girlfriend sexually attractive anymore. We've been dating about 1 and half years. We do get along really well, I do enjoy spending time with her. She's funny, weird, quirky, clever but I come to the point where I fantasize ...
A. 23 October 2013: You know how marathon runners have a phenomenon known as the "brick wall?" It happens near the end of their long races... when one's head just seems to go dormant... and doesn't tell the body to keep going to finish the race. The best marathoners ... (read in full...)
My heart says give him another chance. My gut says run.
Q. I broke up with my boyf of near two years about a month ago. I wanted to do this for a while, our relationship was far from perfect, i'll explain this quickly just so you have the entire story: he drunkenly cheated on me in our own bed and I walked ...
A. 23 October 2013: You write: "...Can people change? If I took a risk and followed my heart and got back with my ex, would that be a huge mistake?..."
No, and Yes.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Confused by my FWB
Q. So guys I need your opinion on something I previously gotten into this friends with benefits relationship and I'm Soo confused.. He comes down every other weekend and we have a great time and then when we talk he always says we need to stop Bc he's ...
A. 23 October 2013: Anonymous is spot-on. YOU are totally in control of WHATEVER has - or is - going to happen....
This "FWB" has all any guy would ever want....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can be really rude when he's stressed
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating since last august. I noticed that about a few months ago, he started to take his stress out on me in a very hurtful way. Basically whenever he is stressed out, he is just not very loving and is rude to me. He ...
A. 22 October 2013: You write: "Basically whenever he is stressed out, he is just not very loving and is rude to me."
I suggest that you remove the "Basically whenever he is stressed out..." from this, and figure out that your "B/F" is just plain rude to you........ (read in full...)
When a guy says he wont get married as it's just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a losing battle?
Q. This is for the guys on here if you don't mind helping. When a guy says he wont get married as its just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a loosing battle? I love him so m...
A. 22 October 2013: Here's the straight scoop on guys and marriage.....
To guys, "being married" means that you get s*x whenever you want... heck, your "partner" lives with you!.... and not much else is demanded/expected of you....
HOWEVER, we DO KNOW that girls ... (read in full...)
My ex told me she still loves me.... What do I do?
Q. Hey Everyone! So this morning I was totally blown away. I wrote on here a few days ago about how I just couldn't get over my ex. She is everything to me. I've tried everything to get over her. I've kept myself busy, gym, work, even dated othe...
A. 21 October 2013: Been there/done that...
What happened was... .she was writing you that lovey-dovey, sincere letter (text) when her hubby came in to the room (Yes, at 4 AM!).... so she had to try to justify that - and why - she was making a text to you... and so s... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble on how to ask this girl out on a date.
Q. I'm having trouble on how to ask this girl out on a date. We've been talking for about 4 months now and I her friends seem to think she likes me too. I'm just not sure how to ask without looking stupid if I get rejected. Thanks...
A. 21 October 2013: Get used to it (looking stupid if/when you are rejected).... because THAT is what you will be "risking" every time - from now 'til the end of your life - when you approach a girl/woman who catches your eye.
The SECRET to "manhood" is to develop ... (read in full...)
Is it rude to not acknowledge a thank you?
Q. If you recieve a gift for a birthday from someone. Is it rude not to say thank you? A did it rude not to respond to the thank you....even if you don't really like the person? My son's birthday, and he got a gift from his grandparents (on...
A. 21 October 2013: What "sounds" out-of-kilter here... is that YOU sent a note to HIS Grandparents for a gift that your SON received....
Discounting the remainder of your submittal... (the "thank you for thanking me", B/S)...
You teach your SON to write a "Than... (read in full...)
How do I organize a nice evening at home?
Q. Hi, I have met 2 females whose company I really enjoy. One, we have agrees to remain friends and have started sharing many secrets with eachother, the other I am very interested in. Now both have started coming over my house to hang out but both...
A. 21 October 2013: I can't begin to help you ... because any time I have two women who interest me, within 50 feet of each other, a CAT-FIGHT breaks out... and I end up having to referee THAT!!!
Then, again, I guess you COULD serve plates of tuna fish and bowls of... (read in full...)
What kind of costumes or looks would you recommend? Because the manager's demands seem unreasonable.
Q. I'm a restaurant server and our manager just sent out a ridiculous memo. We have to wear costumes for the week of Halloween or we do not get our tips. I feel this is unethical and illegal. I also learned that if we order through the catalog ...
A. 21 October 2013: He can't keep your tips from you. Remind him that THAT will get him strung-up in front of the fair-labor practices people....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
He hasn't made a move in 6 months, why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I'm very much in love with him, I've had many boyfriends before but none that I felt so much love for like I do for him. I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship a couple years ...
A. 21 October 2013: Your guy is carrying the "four date" rule to its most extreme. I suggest that you proceed with EXTREME caution!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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