The show is over before it even begins! Any tips on handling this problem?
Q. We are both virgins, happy relationship, ready to have sex. Care about each other a lot, he's lovely. Everything else - oral, manual, foreplay - is great. But when we go to have sex, he cums immediately. Like, within a split second of going to ...
A. 10 January 2014: I'm surprised that none of the Aunts or Uncles has suggested that he masturbate a couple of hours before you and he are - or will - share intimacies. Seems that that orgasm can have the effect of slightly de-sensitizing the penis, and can allow ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lot of female friends and I just can't deal with it
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I am currently in a new relationship (my first relationship) with a great guy. He is kind and attentative and so far we mesh well. We are pretty different types of people in some ways. One of the biggest differences came...
A. 10 January 2014: IF he has so many/too many "gal" friends.... to the point that he makes and advances those friendships 'way out of proportion to "guy" friends.... AND he compromises his time spent with you.... then you have to face it that you and he are not ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my parents' divorce?
Q. My parents are getting a divorce, and it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life so far. How do I deal with this? Both of them have used me, and I have been the messenger, and while one of them has tried to keep being a pa...
A. 10 January 2014: Let your parents live their lives; you live your's....
Try to stay out of their going-on. If you favor one over the other.... that's OK... and natural. But, try not to let if be so extreme that you shun the other.... UNLESS you are sufficie... (read in full...)
Reached a crossroads in my career and am worried I made the wrong decision
Q. Career decision: I am a young lady with a GS 14 position in the Federal Government. I'm barely in this position for a year when the deputy director approached me with an offer. The offer is to transfer to another branch to help out with this lousy ...
A. 9 January 2014: Making one's way in the "real world" can be compared to being a TURTLE. After all, a turtle can only go places WHEN HE STICKS HIS NECK OUT!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What do I need to do about the fact that I seem to attract verbally abusive men?
Q. This evening I ended my relationship with a guy who was becoming more and more verbally abusive towards me. I told him I couldn't take any more. He got into the habit of calling me names and making personal put downs about my appearance and ...
A. 9 January 2014: The "amateur psychologist" in me sees these important details in your re-submittal to Honeypie:
1. This guy (recent break-up).... you describe that he "...despises his mother (saying she is rude and sarcastic)..." I'll conjecture that he LEARN... (read in full...)
Brother's best friend wants to marry me but I don't feel that way!
Q. My brothers best friend loves me and wants to marry me....i just like him but dnt have feelings for him...now am bewildered cos i have a bf currently,what should i do?...
A. 7 January 2014: Tell your brother and his friend: ".... i have a bf currently..." (and, he isn't YOU (brother's friend))....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman?
Q. Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman? I have been married for 7 years and from the beginning I have expressed to my husband how I feel about this subject after reading a conversation between him and another women about how ...
A. 7 January 2014: You ask: "Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman?.."
Yes... it IS "OK" as long as that "other woman" is, either:
1. his Mother,
2. his Sister,
3. his Aunt,
4. his daughter,
5. his tax accountant, or,
6. Heck, I... (read in full...)
Why can I give a one night stand oral sex but not to someone I am in a relationship with?
Q. I don't know why I am like this but in the past I have not been able to give a guy a blowjob who I am in a serious relationship with - which included my ex husband. Yet I have had no problem doing that with a couple of one night stands since. The ...
A. 7 January 2014: I'd guess that you feel that fellatio is "sex" with an asterisk.... and, so, you don't feel that you really are being as intimate as you SHOULD BE.... with a REAL special guy-friend.... while - ironically - you are willing to partake of this ... (read in full...)
Why is it bad to send ex a hate letter?
Q. I wrote a 3 page letter telling my ex how much I hate him. He had records of cheating and every time I forgave him and took him back. He's a liar and never changed. I'm so pissed and don't deserve after what I've done for him. So people said don't ...
A. 7 January 2014: When a person takes to "hating" someone/something... then whatever it is that he/she "hates" now has free rent in his/her head.... THAT is why it's not useful to make a "hate" letter to an ex-.
What such a letter REALLY sez is: "I've still go... (read in full...)
Would she be offended if I asked her to wear a wig during sex?
Q. I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years, we're both divorced and not rushing into marriage. she lives with me weekdays being I'm very close to where she works. We have a good relationship and I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig. ...
A. 7 January 2014: To eyeswideopen: I think that qualifies as a "50/50" deal!!!!... (read in full...)
Would she be offended if I asked her to wear a wig during sex?
Q. I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years, we're both divorced and not rushing into marriage. she lives with me weekdays being I'm very close to where she works. We have a good relationship and I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig. ...
A. 7 January 2014: I always feel a little uncomfortable making a reply to a submittal on here... when the submittal says (approximately): "My partner is perfect. I love him/her EXCEPT for (this one little thing/detail)...."
It makes me wonder just how the rest... (read in full...)
Doesn't a guy usually try to grab a girl's boob while kissing if he likes her?
Q. this new guy ive been hanging out, is really nice to me, and comes to see me everytime i ask.. and helps me out with anything i need. He also said he likes me, but everytime were together he wont reallly iniciate the first move even tho we kissed ...
A. 7 January 2014: You ask: "...if a guy likes a girl doesnt he usually try to grab a boob or something while kissing passionately?"
Depends upon where you are when you "kiss passionately."
IF it happens in the back row of a dark movie theater, you can be darn-... (read in full...)
Do I ignore married co-worker? I know I shouldn't act on my feelings!
Q. Hi. Well..I am in a strange situation and I'm not sure how to deal with it..I am in a long therm relationship but started to develop feelings for a married colleague and he has feelings for me for more than an year...we never talked about it ...
A. 7 January 2014: The "gift" was a sort of "prepayment" for the $ex that he is more than 1/2 way to getting from you....
You KNOW the "answer" to your "question"..... Give the jewelry back to him... and tell him that you'll accept it - and any of his (romanti... (read in full...)
Is he potentially an abuser?
Q. dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that h...
A. 7 January 2014: You've described a guy who I wouldn't want MY sister hanging around with.....
... (read in full...)
Why do girls break up with me?
Q. Two weeks ago I met a widowed woman. she is so beautiful that I fell in love of her. after 3 or 4 times of meeting many sms's suddenly yesterday she asked me to separate. I don't know why? she just said we are from two different worlds. I had thi...
A. 3 January 2014: I think that THIS is key to your submittal:
"...she is so beautiful that I fell in love of her."
What I suspect is that you are enamored of a woman's beauty (looks), and, when it comes time to get to know her (and her to know you) that that i... (read in full...)
Why didn't he mention his girlfriend ?
Q. Hey :) I met a guy a year ago, we "dated" briefly a month but nothing happened between us. Indeed, I want to build friendship with a guy before dating him. The consequence is that he thought I was disinterested so he faded away. Two weeks late...
A. 3 January 2014: He added you.... and didn't mention his REAL G/F ... because he wants to keep you available as his "back up girl" (You already knew that, no?).
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Was he just trying to get laid, or did he like me?
Q. I went to a huge party at a hotel in the city last night and this guy comes up to me and my friend and asks me what my name is and if i wanna dance. I say sure and he takes my hand and says "come here". So we dance and I'm a terrible dancer and I ...
A. 3 January 2014: It means that he STILL wants to "just get laid".... AND you aren't doing anything/enough to discourage him........ (read in full...)
Was he just trying to get laid, or did he like me?
Q. I went to a huge party at a hotel in the city last night and this guy comes up to me and my friend and asks me what my name is and if i wanna dance. I say sure and he takes my hand and says "come here". So we dance and I'm a terrible dancer and I ...
A. 2 January 2014: Q: "My questions are was he just trying to get laid?"
A: He was a man, wasn't he?????
Question; asked and answered....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can a scorned ex wait years to get you back just to use and dump you
Q. My ex have been communicating with me in getting back with me for over 6yrs. After 6yrs I began to notice the type of changes in him that I wanted back then. Now I traveled to go see him. We got tipsy first night and had sex. Well now I'm back hom...
A. 2 January 2014: One would need a very large calculator to determine how many times this has happened.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What problems could happen if we did become older parents
Q. Me and my husband both want children; we're young professionals, aged 29 and 32, and we've been married for 2 years now. We're middle-class, own a Citroen and a Lexus, and our own house, and are fairly wealthy by local standards. I'm Italian-English ...
A. 2 January 2014: You ask: "...What problems could happen if we did become older parents...?"
As a seasoned mechanic... I believe that you will find that the Lexus will serve you well, indefinitely... whilest the Citroen has proven to be a stubborn and oft-fail... (read in full...)
She told me how somebody 'could get her panties to drop!"
Q. Alrighty then, a little backstory on me. I'm 19 and I've never even had my first kiss, let alone a date. It's not lack of opportunity, just no one I've been interested in that the opportunity came up with. So, anyways I've known a girl for about 6 ...
A. 2 January 2014: If this girl works for IKEA.... I suspect that the next (thing) you will hear from her is when she presents you with pictorial instructions (requiring NO reading skills!) wherein she will "tell" you - in still greater detail - how to get her panties ... (read in full...)
I am ready to end this relationship! I'm tired of being alone!
Q. I am sitting here in tears as I type this.... my so called 'partner' has given me no time at all this Christmas and the final blow...he has just told me he is apparently going round to his mums tonight instead of spending it with me the way he usual...
A. 1 January 2014: I think your "partner" doesn't sound like much of a "partner," at all.... IF'n he's so averse to spending time with you... then I suggest that you get him a cat... (which can readily endure being left for long periods of time by itself!).... then ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: P.P.S. If I had a Sports Illustrated "swim suit" calendar posted in my bedroom.... I don't believe that I'd get a wink of sleep!!!!
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 1 January 2014: I agree with the several others who discuss the "goofiness" of this entire arrangement..... AND, I think that your reaction to what he and his Mum are up to as, perhaps, a bit intense.... HOWEVER.....
.... considering that you are this guy's G/... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret breaking the good guy's heart?
Q. Hello, why is it when men meet what it seems a nice women, they start to like they find out that their, exs treated them bad, abuse them, beat them , they say they want to be treated good, but when you do, they dump you an go back to the guy, who ...
A. 1 January 2014: If they do (regret it) then I can give you the names of more than a dozen who are experiencing regret, right now...
Good luck...
P.S. Do you suppose that women feel any differently from men who do the same thing?????... (read in full...)
Should I give up now or wait and hope?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm hoping someone can give me some guidance with a problem I have. I have been seeing my partner for a year now and I'd say it's a beautiful relationship. We get along fine and don't have any problems. We have little rows now and the...
A. 31 December 2013: If'n I were you,... I'd take his words to mean that he is going to Brazil with the intention of it being a "scouting mission"... wherein he can act as if he is single.... AND, by the way, see if he can re-kindle things with the "ex-"....
AND I... (read in full...)
Younger guys are attracted to me, but I would like to date an older guy!
Q. Just a simple question.... I hope :) I seem to attract all of the younger guys. It must be me. :/ Im only 23 and I just need an older, more mature man and I wanna know guys of age 25+ what do you find attractive in a woman? I can be childish...
A. 31 December 2013: One thing that most all guys like in a woman is that she doesn't start out by putting in iron-clad parameters - based on stereotypes and conjecture - for the details of whichever guy(s) she might like to spend her time with.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He says I wont have to wait long for him to pop the question!
Q. My boyfriend told me that he was thinking of asking me to marry him a couple of weeks ago. It would have been an impulsive ask. We were in a hotel for a couple of days and the weather was terrible so we spent the day in bed eating pizza and vegging ...
A. 31 December 2013: A "long time" is a most elusive concept.
If you are waiting for your dog to bring back the "Frisbee" that you threw, it can be just a few seconds. IF there is a small stream that goes past your house, and you expect to wait until it carves o... (read in full...)
Cheater Cheater!!!
Q. My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...
A. 31 December 2013: When my now-ex wife found such a receipt by me... she dumped a dirty kitty-litter box over my head. To this day, I can't keep a cat in the house........ (read in full...)
I got with this boy, now he is acting like it never happened!
Q. on friday i got with this boy and we have been friends for 4 years but lately we drifted apart! when everything was happening i kept saying 'that we dont do this' and h was like this should have happened ages ago. We were both drunk me more than ...
A. 31 December 2013: Consider yourself lucky that you got a preview of how MANY of the guys you meet are going to act... in the coming years.... Could'a been worse.
Good luck in the New Year....... (read in full...)
How can I cope with the pressure to marry?
Q. How can I become immune to the social pressure from family and friends to get married and 'settle down' already? I'm in my twenties, in a happy longterm relationship and still studying. We have a three year plan regarding starting a family. I ha...
A. 31 December 2013: Here's my suggestion:
Whenever the circumstances are such that you might feel the stress coming on.... you say to yourself: "Damn, I'm happy with my life, now; and the plans that I have for the future. I sure hope that this (whatever is causing ... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 31 December 2013: I can't BEGIN to tell you how many hours I have spent searching for my G/F's "G-spot".... apparently, without success.....
HOWEVER, just about every night, when we retire, she sez to me: "Hey, I'm feeling a little randy. Would you care to ... (read in full...)
I need to move on, how should I tell him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4yrs, yet, he hasn't talked to me about marrige. He knows that I would like to get married and have kIds but I'm 28 he's 29, and I feel like I'm getting to that point where I need to move on. How should I bring u...
A. 31 December 2013: I suggest that sometime, after a sumptious meal, at home, that the two of you prepared, you sit down with him and say something like this:
"You know, Hunchy-Bunchy, we've been together for 4 years now... and it's been dandy. AND (don't say "but... (read in full...)
Who should I choose?? my boyfriend or my mom
Q. Hii guys, i am a freshman in college. My mom found out that I was dating my friend for 4 months already. She got super pissed, and and she forced me to break up with him. She also forced me to promise her to never date him or be with him ever again. ...
A. 30 December 2013: Whose life are you living? .... Your's? ..... or your Mother's?
We have to TRY to respect our parents.... but, if - or, when - they get too outlandish... then we just have to ignore them and get on with our lives....
Good luck.... (and, ... (read in full...)
Was I just used for sex?
Q. Hiya i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now he was in a very unhappy relationship when we met he broke up with her but is still living with her as they have twin boys who are a year old we recently slept together for the first time we had ...
A. 30 December 2013: You write: "....he was in a very unhappy relationship when we met he broke up with her but is still living with her...."
Correction: It is not so that he WAS in an unhappy relationship...... he IS in an unhappy relationship.... AND, you are his ... (read in full...)
Finally reaching my breaking point in my relationship
Q. Hey everyone, I have reached my breaking point in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year in February. Here lately we have been fighting non stop! Today we have fought since last night! I am so tired of fighting but I ...
A. 30 December 2013: You say; ".....I am so tired of fighting but I dont wanna break up because I love him and when we're not fighting its great we get along perfect."
You will find the answer, on your own, when you determine that people who love one-another do not f... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: You ask: "Is it ok to have an affair when your single?"
I prefer to ask YOU: Is it OK to kick your dog because you are single?
Do you really believe that you can justify having an affair? If "yes," then you are a champion at deluding yoursel... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure because my boyfriend used to date a stripper
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a couple months already. He's great, he's very loving and I really trust him. He's very open about his past, though. That's great, because he's honest and it builds trust, and usually it doesn't bother me. But ...
A. 29 December 2013: I think you're making too much of nothing.....
For example: If he had dated an architect, would you feel insecure because you'd never designed a building? ... or, a professional figure skater; and you have trouble just standing up on your rol... (read in full...)
Found out my boyfriend was using me to cheat on his long-term partner and now my self-confidence is suffering!
Q. this sounds really pathetic but about 2months i found out the guy who was my boyfriend was actually cheating on his long term girlfriend with me and since then i have lost a lot of confidence. i contastly bodycheck all my fat (im 5'7'' and 140lbs- ...
A. 29 December 2013: Why would you let some jerk-ass, DOG of a "boyfriend" have so much impact on your life.... subsequent to your learning that he is a dip-shit creep who isn't worthy of your time and attention????......
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mother seemed to like me but has suddenly changed her mind
Q. Hi everyone. I have a dilemma that I need a little help with. I have been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for just over 7 months and we are both 20. I have stayed at her moms house (she still lives with her mom)a few times be...
A. 29 December 2013: I suggest a pow-wow of the three of you.... STARTING with a "warm up" meeting with your G/F to see if it's really necessary to include her Mother in a subsequent meeting...
Good luck....
P.S. If'n your's was a "girlfriend/boyf... (read in full...)
I really like her but we come from two very different cultures. Is this worth pursuing?
Q. I'm not sure about pursuing a relationship with this girl. Hi. I'm from Pakistan and currently studying at a University in London. There I befriended a Tunisian girl. I became attracted to her because of her character. At first I was just merely ...
A. 29 December 2013: You've done a very complete job of describing just how your "culture"... and your FAMILY, incidentally, are going to dictate to you just how to live your life....
The only REAL question that I think you face is: "Am I going to let my family a... (read in full...)
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