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writes:The other day, my husband and I got together with a couple for dinner. I know the couple well enough, and my husband was meeting them officially for the first time. To make a long story short, I have shared a "look" with the husband of this other woman, and we've had a couple of nice conversations where I think we both hung up the phone feeling "something", although the conversation was not personal in any way. But you know when you just feel it? Anyway, to make a long story short, this guy kept offering my husband drink after drink, and kept insisting on him drinking more. He almost treated him like a good buddy of his even though they didn't really know each other. The other day, my husband teasingly told me, "why do you always talk about this guy like he's something....is that why he kept offering me drinks and was being extra nice to me"?Could my husband have sensed something was off...and was there something "off" because as far as I am concerned, neither this guy or myself even approached each other and in fact almost avoided eye contact that night. It felt awkward since we have previously been so comfortable talking whenever we were alone, discussing platonic things. Why did my husband say what he said? I tried avoiding this other man, but did my husband sense some weird vibe coming from both of us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): I think that so very confused is spot on here. And hence, I think that you're asking the wrong question.What you want to ask is 'hey folks, do you think this guy fancies me?' and 'do you think I could cheat without getting caught?'What you should actually be asking of yourself is 'why am I more interested in someone else's man that I am in my own husband?' I think the first step here is to decide IF you can ever be happy and satisfied in your own marriage and with your own husband only.If you can't make this work and consequently divorce this man, well... only then should you be considering your options with a new SINGLE man. The man you describe in your post belongs to someone else. And currently, you have 'promised' your heart to your husband. Don't expect others to help you to break that promise when the aunts see the fall out of cheating on the other partner. Cheating destroys lives.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 November 2013):
 the key is your hubby say "you always talk about this guy like he's something"
he's not picking up on a vibe... he's listening to what you are saying both in words and intent... YOU have a crush on someone and it's showing....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2013): He could be but my only concern is why did this guy try to get your husband pissed? You have to decide what to do here. What ever you may feel with this other guy could be real or it could just be a moment of lust which wont last for ever. You decide where you want this to go. My only question to you is what can this man do that your husband cannot and are you prepared for the consequences of your actions? Facts are simple over fifty percent of marriages do not last. If you love your husband and want to work and keep the marriage together and strong you can do that if not let the marriage crumble and it will the way you are going and you and your husband will just become another stat. Who knows you are almost at the age to be called a cougar, you could probably milk that for a few more years also. Remember you are not getting any younger either. Move on....
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reader, Stupid lady  +, writes (4 November 2013):
You should stop talking this guy, you might create problems in the future..you have a good responsible husband why should you make trouble .Be happy to your family especially be honest to your hubby.. Good luck.
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reader, anonymus2012  +, writes (3 November 2013):
I agree with sageoldguy1465 lets say that I would sense tge vibes too, btw I can sense them with my gf are her friend... be careful, I should minimize contact with this couple, you are going into seriously dangerous ground
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 November 2013):
 Hubby's "guy radar" picked up that this (other) guy wants to bed you... and YOU seem disturbingly interested in him.
What more could there be, to your "question"????
P.S. ARE YOU going to let this guy bed you?????
Good luck...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (3 November 2013):
 "Why do you always talk about this guy like he's something?" - do you often mention this man in conversation with your husband? I'd say that would be what he's picking up on rather than anything on the night. Unless your avoiding behaviour was so obvious that it became suspect in itself?
I'd advise you to minimise contact with this other man. Yes I do know what you mean about when you "just feel it", and that's dangerous territory to enter when you're both married.
p.s. No need to cut long stories short here on DearCupid - the more info you give, the better the advise you receive.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 November 2013):
 I think he sensed something was odd in the man's behavior. Not necessarily that you "shared" a moment with the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2013): Sounds like he did.
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