How can I help my son financially without it causing further tension?
Q. 21 November 2013: My 29 year old son has just got himself a good job but he is on 6 months probation before his position is confirmed. He needs a car to get to and from work and has no money to fund the purchase himself. He is unlikely to be able to ...
A. 21 November 2013: You are offering to GIVE a car to your no-good son???? ....and he is BITCHIN' that it doesn't meet his preferences????? The "answer" to this is simple: You say to him: "Sonny, I am (was) offering to GIVE you this car. IF'n you don't like ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: Most any play EXCEPT where you've been looking in the past....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wouldn't be sending flowers to his ex girlfriend every year on that date, would he?
Q. I saw that my boyfriend has been forwarding himself an email about a reminder notice to send flowers the last couple of days . I had seen it quickly over his shoulder and then took a peek yesterday which I don't normally do! The flowers were ...
A. 20 November 2013: OP: You really want to wait a week? By then, he could be enjoying the pleasures of that girl who had the flowers delivered to her address!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Were you ugly as a teen then become a good looking adult?
Q. In high school were you ugly and then get good looking when you became an adult? I was a cute kid/preteen until I hit the age of 15. At 15 I got a weird facial structure, acne, dry frizzy hair, and am SO socially awkward. I'm 19 and still have all ...
A. 20 November 2013: Reply to both re-submittals from OP:
1. Puberty ends - and the hormones die down - when you are laid to rest in your grave...
2. How much can someone change????? Think "Howdy Doody"... then "Tom Sellick".... and that is me!!!!!
... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 20 November 2013: Is it so, that the submittal that starts "...Let met get this straight, everyone..." is from the original poster?
IF "yes," then you, Sir, have made it clear that you are not going to let go of this until you make it an issue in your marriage... (read in full...)
She says she's really in love with me, but I'm not quite there yet
Q. Hi guys, need some advice on the L WORD term My girlfriend and I have been together for just over a month and she told me she really likes me in the beginning which was great as I really liked her too. Now she has told me she is practically fall...
A. 20 November 2013: I love the way some guys "measure" how much in love with a girl that they are..... Let's be serious, here, for a moment....
WHEN a girl expresses any interest in us (guys) don't we INSTANTLY believe that we may be "in love" with her???? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend comes before coworker but how do I not hurt my coworker?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I love dearly. He's my best friend and I would do anything for him. We've been together for 2 years and have known each other for 3. He's the only one that I want. I have a coworker who has recently been acting different...
A. 20 November 2013: Here's a tidbit of information that you may file away... and call up whenever it is appropriate, in the future.
You write: "...He's been telling me about how he's having some issues with his long distance girlfriend and doesn't know if he wants to... (read in full...)
Went through boyfriends phone and found messages to other girls. Is this cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been going out for almost 7 months now. I've never gone through his stuff before but he left his phone behind today and I got curious. I honestly wasn't expecting anything, maybe just a couple messges from his girl-friends. Wha...
A. 20 November 2013: I wouldn't normally.... but - for you - I'll let you in on a couple of secrets about guys.
1. There is no such thing a "harmless flirting"... ALL flirting is undertaken with one (and ONLY one) thought in mind... that is, to get a girl to put out!... (read in full...)
How do I move on after a divorce which husband cheated and got married so quickly?
Q. I had been married 17 years when my (now ex) husband notified me of his intention to file for divorce through a solicitors email while I was overseas for a week. We had been having a bad time and I had tolerated emotional and some physical abuse ...
A. 20 November 2013: I suggest that you go to a "beauty parlor".... get a manicure, pedicure and a facial..... then, look in the mirror and say to yourself: "Well.... he WAS a total a$$hole... and I really AM lucky to be rid of the cretin...." Then, to on with your ... (read in full...)
Am I silly that I don't want to settle for a man I don't love/he doesn't love me but we get along well?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. hope can get your opinion or help with this problem. I am with my boyfriend for 8 years now, he is my first relationship, only man I've ever been with. I feel I stayed with him a few years too long. He is not from m...
A. 20 November 2013: You wrote this: "Anyhow our relationship has run its course, he told me he is not in love with me nor am I in love with him anymore...." so, now, let that guide you.
In a like vein....If you'd raised a turkey, and you'd cut his head off... a... (read in full...)
New man that is too protective? Or ex who left me?
Q. Please help,I have a child by my first boyfriend. He cheated and left me when I got pregnant. After a year, he came back and we got back together. After six months together,I left him for because he did not call me for weeks. I have a new boyfriend ...
A. 20 November 2013: On behalf of your family.... may I suggest that you change "....too protective..." to "controlling".... and let that "tell" you why they think that guy No 2 is a creep...
Meanwhile... guy No 1 as nothing to write home about, either.
Why don... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 20 November 2013: You know who knows ALL the details that you need to reconcile this? Your hubby.
Sit him down and show him a copy of this.... tell him you wrote it... and ask him to 'splain what you saw when you came in the house....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Were you ugly as a teen then become a good looking adult?
Q. In high school were you ugly and then get good looking when you became an adult? I was a cute kid/preteen until I hit the age of 15. At 15 I got a weird facial structure, acne, dry frizzy hair, and am SO socially awkward. I'm 19 and still have all ...
A. 20 November 2013: I was kind of clunky when I was a kid (teen)... but NOW!!!!
I am an Adonis!!!! (Want to see my pictures??????)
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied and cheated for over a year and got another woman pregnant. Should I dump him?
Q. Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year he was having sex with both ov us but I had no idea he was cheating neither did the other girl know about me. He told me cause I caught ...
A. 20 November 2013: Let me help you adjust the content of your submittal. To wit:
Instead of asking, "...Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year...."..... you SHOULD be asking: "....HOW... (read in full...)
I recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wife's privates on her phone!
Q. Hello everyone, i need your help...i recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wifes privates on her phone. we have been married for 9 years and she has never done anything like this. i checked the dates on the pics and they have been take...
A. 20 November 2013: I would give her the "benefit of the doubt"..... and ASSUME that she is doing it to advance her position at work, so that she can get a raise, and, thereby, get YOU a nicer present at Christmas... Just sayin'.....
Good luck. (You'll need it!... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating is mentoring a girl and I don't feel comfortable with it
Q. I have been talking to (and now dating) this guy since school started, and things are definitely moving forward. We hang out regularly but still engage in our own friends and interests. He shares a lot with me but there's one thing that has been ...
A. 20 November 2013: Sounds to me like you ought to keep any prospective "relationship" on the back burner until and unless you can reconcile this.... YOUR insecurity... and HIS doing something that triggers it....
The prospective questions that you posed.... the actu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wouldn't be sending flowers to his ex girlfriend every year on that date, would he?
Q. I saw that my boyfriend has been forwarding himself an email about a reminder notice to send flowers the last couple of days . I had seen it quickly over his shoulder and then took a peek yesterday which I don't normally do! The flowers were ...
A. 20 November 2013: To me, sounds wierd enough that you ought to ask him to 'splain what it's all about!!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I fix this big mess I caused?
Q. Please read this before you jump into conclusions that anyone is over reacting thank you http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-like-her-but-i-messed-up.html So I messed up again. I saw someone come down my street with what looked like he...
A. 20 November 2013: "Sounds" to me as if you've got a drama-filled mess going on.... and YOU aren't in any position to improve matters.
Best advice? Keep away from this girl, the Chief and this mess.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Looking for help with emotionally unavailable guy.
Q. I don't know if this is a long shot but I'm looking for some advice and help with dealings I have with a guy. He is emotionally unavailable, he is my fwb ( when he fancies it!!) and I'm not sure if you'd call him a player. Anyway so I'm hoping to...
A. 19 November 2013: Mocha: WHY would you want to "play him back"....???? since that is NOT ONLY NOT a "zero sum" game.... but is a stupid waste of your time and energy....
After all.... the guy who you describe doesn't give a damn if you "play" him... since he... (read in full...)
Slept with a married work colleague
Q. I have worked with this man for a year. We flirt all day everyday and for as long as I've known him iv been attracted to him, hes also attracted to me but hes married. On friday we had a work party and i stayed in his hotel room and we had sex. Ther ...
A. 19 November 2013: Lucky you! You've gotten to hear/listen to all the lies that cheating husbands will offer when they find some girl, other than their wifey, who will put out for them.... and they need to justify to themselves what they've DONE... AND they need to ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think it's silly that a lot of chicks still think they're virgins after giving bjs?
Q. I just think it's really silly. I mean, I guess they'd be technical virgins, but to say you're pure after having a d--k in your mouth is just absolutely ridiculous to me. But I've heard A LOT of girls say they're still virgins after. Am I the only ...
A. 19 November 2013: A girl really IS a virgin until and unless she has experienced that euphoric state that occurs when she has had one of us delightful males slip our manhood in to her.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Worried and confused -- why would he want to be in contact with this ex?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice and honest opinions. How do you feel about ex's keeping in touch with each other? What's the reason they feel the need to stay in touch? My boyfriend of 6 months still keeps in touch with his ex who he was wit...
A. 19 November 2013: When a guy has two girls who are putting out for him... he usually keeps his mouth shut... not speaking to either (girl) about the other.....
That is likely what you have here.... Do you want it to continue? If "yes," then proceed as you have... (read in full...)
Caught in the past and don't know how to break free
Q. I need help and I am not sure what more I can do. I have tried getting over an ex from my past but I cant seem to let go. It makes me depressed and I cut myself off from people. I have tried everything from counselling to dating other guys but its ...
A. 19 November 2013: I suggest that you commit this sentence to memory.... and repeat it as often as is necessary to get through this:
"I can't change the past; but I CAN make a better future."
After a while, this will sink in, and things will get better for you..... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me I'd look better if I lost weight then regrets it and tells me I look fine! What's going on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're in a really happy relationship except for one thing. On occasion he has told me that I'd look better if I lost half a stone. He also tells me frequently (in a jokey way but I see a serious ...
A. 19 November 2013: Here's an interesting detail about guys.....
When we find a girl who will put out for us....our brain goes haywire.... and we, sometimes, say things that we know, darn-well are stupid, and insulting, and should be grounds for that girl, who is p... (read in full...)
Should I uproot my child to be with this man?
Q. My dilemma is simple. I am a young single mother who has always lived in California. A year ago I met a man from Texas who was here on business but decided to let him have my number and things progressed. Because of business he was here quite a ...
A. 19 November 2013: I'm just chewing at the bit about this: "....And finally, yes he has told me marriage would happen...."
Please note: There is an ENORMOUS gap between "marriage WOULD HAPPEN" (some day... maybe) .... and "Marriage WILL happen(before you make thi... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 19 November 2013: To the OP: My comment... your comment... and the additional dialogue on here.... It "tells" me that you are looking for some sort of grief to have in your marriage... and we have uncovered that it is YOUR grief, not HER's...
.... AND, you can ... (read in full...)
Married 41 years. Any tips to spice up our sex lives please?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 41 years, i'm 65 and she's 64. We used to have a great sex life but we haven't had sex for a couple of years now and it can get frustrating. Has anyone got any tips to spice up our sex lives? Thanks...
A. 18 November 2013: I'm in your age group. A few years ago... and for several years.... I endured a "relationship" which saw not only the sex... but also the intimacy, evaporate. When it became clear that my "girlfriend" no longer had much interest in sex... OR ... (read in full...)
Please tell me it's possible -- genuine love and good sex together?
Q. So the kinkiest, hottest and most bullshit free sex I have ever had, is not in a a serious relationship. I am having it right now, but as I get past 10 years of monogamy (including 2 of marriage) in which sexstarted with co-ersion (as a teen) ...
A. 18 November 2013: Let's analyze this piece of your submittal: "is it truly possible to have some-one so handsome, so intelligent and such a good lover actually love me one day? Can I have love and good sex one day too? "
See.... the first sentence has absolute... (read in full...)
Sister-in-law propositioned me, and I'm tempted ...
Q. Hi I have a dilemma, I don't get on with my sister in law, she is an obnoxious self centred person, a habitual liar, thief and cannot be trusted even slightly. I have tried in the past to give her the benefit of the doubt but have always had my ...
A. 18 November 2013: This topic is covered in the "Book of Everything that guys ought to know"...... in a chapter titled, "What the H??? Woman think that we're all dogs... they tell us so all the time.... so, shouldn't we validate that for them? ... by being the worst ... (read in full...)
Should I uproot my child to be with this man?
Q. My dilemma is simple. I am a young single mother who has always lived in California. A year ago I met a man from Texas who was here on business but decided to let him have my number and things progressed. Because of business he was here quite a ...
A. 18 November 2013: I suggest that you and your son stay right where you are until/unless this Texan puts a ring on your finger and "takes the plunge."
We see so many submittals, on here, wherein a woman goes TO a man.... at which time HE acquires ALL the power in... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 18 November 2013: What happened before she met you is really none of your business.... except and unless SHE chooses to bring it up. I'd suggest that you find other things to occupy your mind. THIS (subject) can only be destructive to your marriage and ... (read in full...)
Can I have some tips please on how to talk to women and how I can better relate to women?
Q. i struggle with women!!!!!!!! i `am the shy type of guy i`m 24 years old and i never have much confidence when it comes to women i never know what to say or do when i`m with women. There are a few who like me, i think, but i don't know what to d...
A. 17 November 2013: The easiest - and most effective - way to "talk" with a girl is to ask her questions about things that you KNOW interest her (her work, her interests... etc.) then sit back and be interested in her answer(s).... You'll be amazed at how effective ... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship because my boyfriend called me another woman's name
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now but i now have a problem that has really upset me. While we were having sex and my boyfriend was about to cum he said "Michelle"...but that isn't my name...i got really upset but he said he ...
A. 17 November 2013: I think it was unnecessarily extreme for you to break up with your long-term B/F for this discretion.... but that is up to you.....
What you could have done (and can re-open with parted B/F if you wish).... is give B/F a "pass" for this....... (read in full...)
I always feel I'm annoying my FWB when I text him
Q. So, it started back in 2010 when I met this boy and we were just friends with benefits.. I started to really like him and he said he didn't want anything more and then he just randomly got a girlfriend with this girl I disliked at the time. So, ...
A. 17 November 2013: I guess you're not acquainted with "Textspeak"....
You see, "PAL" means "Penis At-Large".....
Hope this helps....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My girlfriend is still contacting her ex! It really hurts me!
Q. Dear agony aunts, Once again I need your advice. We've been in a relationship for 3 years, and as of July 2013, we live together. When we started dating, my girlfriend told me that her ex was calling her stuff and making threats. I took no part i...
A. 15 November 2013: She doesn't REALLY believe that YOU are her "one and only"... does she????
Your decision is easy..... dump her and get a REAL girlfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My marriage is old, and I need advice!
Q. I'm 53, hubby is 66! We have not spoke to each other for several days! Even though we live in the same house and sleep in the same bed!We have grown children and grandchildren. He has no care for his family but would do anything in his power for a ...
A. 14 November 2013: When two people are going through life with only the connection that they share the same address (and NOTHING else, as you described...), then it's time for one of them to "pull the trigger" and end the so-called marriage. I believe that you are ... (read in full...)
Should I risk humiliating myself by calling him after one night of sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I met this gorgeous guy online 6 months ago. We ended up meeting up and we had sex. We talked and laughed the night away after sex and it was great. He called me back the next day and then when I tried to call him back he did not ...
A. 14 November 2013: I'd forget the entire incident and get on with my life....
By-the-by, you humiliated yourself that fateful night... when you removed your underwear.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Married 4 years and she's unreliable. Over-spends. She lies to me. what can I do?
Q. So my wife and I have been married for four years and during that time we have had out ups and downs. We both work fultime and make close to the same amount. But my wife is very lazy around the house. Despite the fact I work longer hours I a...
A. 14 November 2013: You write that: "...she spent that 7500 on fast food and eating out over the last year and a half..." Are you gullible enough to believe that?????? That's $144 per week!!!! Whilest this detail, alone, is satisfactory evidence that you should part ... (read in full...)
Am I right to let go because of cultural and religious differences?
Q. I need some advise regarding a coming break-up that I am going to face. My bf and I have been together since 2010, starting off as friends. We both know we will not end together eventually as he is a Muslim and I am a Christian. At one point he ...
A. 14 November 2013: Of course, you are doing the "right thing"....
Compatibility of religion is one of the crucial compatibilities in a relationship or marriage.... IF two people can't reconcile that important part of their lives... then it's reasonable to believe ... (read in full...)
Why is divorce a problem for a liar cheater wife?
Q. My wife started cheating on me around the year 2000. I confronted her and she was extremely sorry, so she made me believe. A few years later she was cheating again and after all the wasted effort I put into salvaging our marriage I knew it was over. ...
A. 14 November 2013: When you wrote; "I just can't figure why she won't divorce me. I know I can do this by myself and am starting to get it going. I feel she is just using me for what ever she can get."... you answered your own question....
The only "questio... (read in full...)
We've been tested but my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms and it worries me!
Q. Hi,I'm a 23yr old female n my boyfriend is 26,we decided to go for an HIV test before we can ingage in sex n the results came back negative,we've been having unprotected sex ever since because even when I suggest we use a condom he tells me he ...
A. 14 November 2013: I understand his problem.... as I, too, can't find condoms large enough for my generous manhood..... (Why don't the manufacturers make them large enough for us "real men"???)
You might suggest that he do what I do.... and use those plastic ... (read in full...)
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