I really like her but we come from two very different cultures. Is this worth pursuing?
Q. I'm not sure about pursuing a relationship with this girl. Hi. I'm from Pakistan and currently studying at a University in London. There I befriended a Tunisian girl. I became attracted to her because of her character. At first I was just merely ...
A. 29 December 2013: You've done a very complete job of describing just how your "culture"... and your FAMILY, incidentally, are going to dictate to you just how to live your life....
The only REAL question that I think you face is: "Am I going to let my family a... (read in full...)
I work with my ex-boyfriend's new fiancée and hearing about their perfect life together is painful for me
Q. Me and my teenage sweetheart were together for 5 years when he broke up with me by text. Although we have been apart 2 years i really miss him. To make matters worse i work with his new girlfriend on a daily basis and he has just asked her to marry...
A. 29 December 2013: You can spend the rest of your life looking backward - in time - and let this stress fester and, maybe, get worse...
OR,... you can look forward in time, and say to yourself, "Well, that sure wasn't meant to be.... and he's got this new b**ch to... (read in full...)
Why is it more acceptable for women to use sex toys than it is for men?
Q. just a tought. why is it totally acceptable for girls the use of vibrators / stimulators and when it comes to males, the use of them makes you be seen as a perv, weirdo, looser... etc, etc... im in a ldr and we see each other every 3 months. My gf ...
A. 29 December 2013: Who told you that there's any difference between men - and women - as far as using $ex toys? Whoever it was... they:
A. Are wrong, and,
B. Owe you the explanation that you seek, here....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I met a guy online and he kept on postponing because of back problems. Should I wait it out?
Q. Hi guys, I have come looking for advice, just slightly confused about a sitaution .So a while ago I decided to give online dating a go. I met this guy online. We hit it from the start.Its been five months and we speak everyday, skype text etc.....
A. 28 December 2013: You submit: "... But he was honest and opened up to me."..... THEN you write: ".... he TOLD me..." this, and that, and blah, blah, blah....
Short of meeting this guy.... and actually learning about him.... you have NOTHING to go on..... Don't f... (read in full...)
He promised to spend New Year's Eve with him but cancelled to be with his friend. Should I stick it out or move on?
Q. I've dated my boyfriend for a year and out of the blue the past January he broke up with me. He became easily influenced by his mates as they broke up with their gfs and were single and he was the only one attached at the time. We spend New Year's ...
A. 28 December 2013: You write: "What do you suggest?"
I "suggest" that you get away from this creature.... stay away from this creature.... and never have any contact with him again. How many times - and in how many different ways - are you going to let this cre... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair but the woman would not leave him alone.
Q. Please help. My hubby had an affair with this girl about 2 years ago and we resolved the issue. But now th ex refuses to let go. She calls my husband's phn daily, sometimes with different numbers, even up to more than 10 times each day and says sh ...
A. 28 December 2013: Any contact that takes place between this girl and your hubby IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR HUBBY!!!!! .... and, if he chooses NOT to discontinue it (the contact) THEN you know that the affair is NOT "over"......
In this day and age, there's ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like she feels more secure in long-distance relationships?
Q. I'm 51 she is 55. The other day, sitting on her couch Very close together side by side. I looked at her and told her for the first time I loved her. Without looking at me, looking forward she said I know.... I asked if she loved me... She turn ...
A. 27 December 2013: Been there; done that.....
I wouldn't waste another minute trying to figure out what is going on in your "girlfriend's" head....
She doesn't love you... has some sort of other goings-on going on.... so, where is there time/space/energ... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping me in his life?
Q. Merry Xmas to you all, and thank u in advance for reading this. I don't know if my situation is rectifiable or not, so if anybody can help me sort this one I will be truly grateful and if I'm being honest kind of surprised! I know there doesn't so...
A. 27 December 2013: It was validating to see a woman endure this predicament.... which is something that we guys find ourselves in, all the time.....
... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: I suggest you get a Brittany Spaniel or a Golden Retriever..... and report back in six months.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He wants sex all the time and I am starting to get really stressed!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years and I'm starting to get really stressed out by the fact he wants sex all the time. I used to love having sex with him, but now I feel like that's his main focus and it's putting me off doing it ...
A. 26 December 2013: I think I read in your submittal that this guy wants sex PRIMARILY as the function of your "relationship".... and you think that sex is amongst other/many aspects of a "relationship." You are correct, of course..... HOWEVER....
.... in defense ... (read in full...)
Did I leave it to long? Is she not interested anymore?
Q. Ok so I met a girl right before Christmas. We got on pretty well and by the end of the evening we were kissing. We were both with groups of friends so we exchanged numbers and parted ways. Next day I texted her telling her how nice it was to meet ...
A. 26 December 2013: I believe that you are over-thinking a "non-issue".....
Let Saturday happen.... and stay in touch with this girl.... and see what is in the future....
It's tempting to try to make sure that a budding "relationship" takes the course that we'd... (read in full...)
Is it better for me to forgive my ex or hate him?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years(including 2 years LDR). We're in different countries. We planned to meet after he graduated from graduate school and while we're dating, he gave me commitment and talked about getting married. He dumped me 6 months ago, ...
A. 25 December 2013: IF you should choose to hate him.... THEN you will be allowing him to live, rent-free, in your brain until/unless you decide to give up that arrangement.....
I think that the alternative (forget him) is 'way better.
Good luck......... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone anymore.
Q. If I'm trying to find my first g/f, or in general first date, etc... What places should I go, library, book store, when I'm at the park on a walk? I'm feeling out of options here, I just don't really want to be alone anymore. If anyone has anything ...
A. 24 December 2013: My suggestion is; If you want to find a "girlfriend"... then STOP LOOKING for her!!!!
That's right.... get on with your life.... do those things that you want to do, because they interest you and are the kind of activities that YOU LIKE....... (read in full...)
What if I wait and then he flakes out?
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend of 4.5 years says he wants to marry me 'one day' but I feel this is a bit too unspecific after this much time. Am I overreacting? I am 28, he is 26 and he says he can see marriage and kids at some point in the future but not f...
A. 23 December 2013: DON'T "move in" with him!!!! IF/when you do.... you give HIM all the trappings of "marriage".... without the committment (that you seek).... whilest YOU get not a darn thing (relative to the committment that you think should precede "living ... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me he is going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend kissed me when he was trying to break up with me yesterday. I found that to be confusing in itself. Then 15 minutes later he changed his mind and was all over me and said he wants to be with me and wants me to be his girlfriend!!! ...
A. 23 December 2013: Don't waste your time on this creature. He is a manipulator and - evidently - not much of a sincere boyfriend. You can do MUCH better......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Change of heart or just looking for sex?
Q. I was involved with someone casually for a few months and he finished it. But recently he got in contact again to ask how I was. I finished the conversation by making it clear I did not want to stay in contact. My question is how can i be sure I ...
A. 23 December 2013: You ask: "...My question is how can i be sure I did the right thing?..."
You've asked us (Aunts and Uncles).... and HERE is the answer: YES, you did the right thing.... and will continue doing the right thing if you ignore him....
This is... (read in full...)
If men can't be trusted why do we even try?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. I've been with many guys before him and I know this sounds dumb but nobody else gave me this feeling of satisfaction and love that I get from being with him. This relationship feels different from ...
A. 22 December 2013: When I was a kid, I had a paper route. I had always been told that Golden Retrievers were terrific, gentle and loving dogs.... so I didn't hesitate to try to pet one of my customer's Golden. And, the damn thing BIT ME!!!!
You can't always t... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my lack of sexual experience makes me a less than satisfactory lover
Q. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 4 months ago, he's 2 years older than me and I know he has had sex before so he knew what he was doing. Since then, we've been sexually active and have sex 4-5 times a week. However, I feel like I'm not ...
A. 22 December 2013: I assure you... if he didn't find you a good sexual partner, he'd dump you in a "New York minute"......
Stop worrying yourself about this..... and enjoy your relationship with this guy...
... (read in full...)
How do I inform my friends and family that I'm now a vegan?
Q. Basically I converted to veganism 2 months ago because i nolonger want to contribute to the violence towards animals, with the bonus of improving my health and being one step closer to saving the planet. Now i've keep this a secret from ever...
A. 22 December 2013: I think it's nobody else's business if you've decided to live your life as vegan, or Jewish, or lesbian.... so, why struggle - yourself - with it....
The only time I'd guess it needs to come in to play is if you are going to dinner at someone'... (read in full...)
He was still trying to see me while he has a girlfriend!
Q. I was dating my ex for 3 months, I broke it off with him. While I was being completely honest, faithful and trustworthy in the relationship he was not, he lied to me about not having social media sites and I basically caught him lying, not to ...
A. 21 December 2013: You've got all the information you need to know that this guy is a dog, and you don't want to spend any time/attention on him... sooooo
..... what do you expect you can accomplish by contacting him.... EXCEPT that you'll keep the door open to ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay to wish my ex Happy Christmas next week?
Q. I dated someone I was really keen on for a couple of months, however she broke up with me because I had to move away. She said an LDR was too hard and she wanted to be friends as she said I was still important to her. I got annoyed and we didn't end ...
A. 20 December 2013: No, it's NOT okay....
You finished the break-off and SHE said, "don't contact me again."
Where's there any question, here?????
Merry Christmas
P.S. If you DO go through with this contact, THAT will be sad and pathetic..... ... (read in full...)
If I sleep with him, am I just setting myself up to get hurt in the end?
Q. This guy I like has a girlfriend and two kids and so I thought I'd never have a chance with him. We text a lot, and he started asking me sexual questions. I'm a virgin, never done anything. Well he asked me to send him pictures, naked pictures to be ...
A. 20 December 2013: He has a G/F.... and kids... and he's flagrantly asking you to be a strumpet for him.... and you're CONSIDERING TO DO SO???????
Yes.... you are setting yourself up for a BIG hurt. Why bother??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Would you romantically date a co worker even if it was against employer policy?
Q. I work at a school where most of the teachers are female and many are single. As a single male I'm attracted to a few of them but I never show interest or do or say anything to alert them to my interest. 1 of these teachers has invited me to her h...
A. 19 December 2013: Yes... I would talk to her about your feelings toward her. AND, if her's are reciprocal, then you and she need to decide which of you will leave the employ of the school, and you and she can then become "an item" with no strings attached, and no ... (read in full...)
Should I get my boyfriend's mom a gift for Christmas?
Q. I've been dating my bf for 3 months we get along great. I have said hello/seen his mom several times on skype, since she lives overseas. For Christmas my bf will be going to see her, should I buy her Christmas gift?? Would this be a nice detail or ...
A. 19 December 2013: While "the thought" is charming (that you would like to make a gift to his Mother)..... I think it is premature in the time of your budding relationship...
Merry Christmas...... (read in full...)
Any sayings that make you feel better after a breakup?
Q. Hi, Has anyone got any good sayings that make you feel better and help forget, get over a relationship that is or hasn't worked out? For example, I saw a good one "If you are left wondering were you are stood, it's time to stop standing and sta...
A. 18 December 2013: My favorite.... applies in ANY situation:
"No matter where you go; there you are"........ (read in full...)
I feel so used -- he dropped me as soon as we slept together
Q. Hello, I understand this is probably a trivial and common question, but it is really getting me down as this has never happened to me before. I met this guy and we got talking, we had a in depth conversation and he was really sweet. We changed ...
A. 18 December 2013: I like Cindy's 'splanation: "rookie mistake"....
OP: THIS (what you experienced) is typical "modus operendi" for many men.... Be aware of it.... and don't fall for it again......
Learn that getting too close (read: "putting out") for a guy ... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed my boyfriend's thoughtless Christmas gift to me!
Q. I accidentally stumbled across the Christmas gift my boyfriend got me (it was addressed to me). It was a very wide, hot pink watch with a heart-shaped face, from a mid-range brand. I'm a little confused, because we have been together for 1 year and ...
A. 18 December 2013:
Well.... "sounds" to me like you've got it pretty certain that this guy is "yesterday's news".... because YOU need to dump him because he didn't read your mind and figure out that you were going to HATE the Xmas present that he spent his time, ener... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a man loving you unconditionally?
Q. I wanted to ask for an opinion of dating. I used to be in an abusive relationship for five years before enough was enough (called me fat when I was 128 and 5"3 - spit on me controlled me and I gave him everything) I walked away I hopes of finding a ...
A. 18 December 2013: The only portion of your submittal that "needs" a response is this phrase:
"....I feel so discouraged and worthless that I'm starting to believe that I need a man..."
THAT, Dear Lady, is the formula for guys to take advantage of you.... use y... (read in full...)
Found out about my boyfriend's sexual past and now I'm heartbroken and sick to my stomach
Q. I love my boyfriend more than anything and I know he loves me too. We are like perfect together and I trust him with all my heart which is really hard since I've been hurt really bad by my ex. We both agreed not to talk about his sexual past. I'm ...
A. 16 December 2013: Actual formula that you revealed:
1. Prospective B/F is a man-whore,
2. You are a virgin who wants to have a true-blue B/F,
3. Numbers 1 and 2 are irreconcilable.
4. "...bf said it was along time ago and he's a completely different... (read in full...)
He's accusing me of adultery, with him, because I'm not yet divorced. We have so many issues. Is this abusive situation resolvable?
Q. My issue is, I been together with my bf for over 2years now, but on and off. It's our first baby, i left him and get a new house where we can live with my baby. we have a big fight all the time,thats why i left . I gave him so many chances,...
A. 16 December 2013: Are you crazy? This man is a dog.... has no apparent worth to you... and, there's no chance that he's advancing the human condition on Earth......
The only thing that YOU can - and should - do, is get as far away from this man as you can... d... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl to give me a chance?
Q. I tried to send this in before, but it was rejected. I will try to shorten it up (it was long because I wanted to give as much detail as possible and try to present HER side of the story), and I will try to make it more clear. I am at my wit...
A. 16 December 2013: You write:
"I just want to know ...
1 how do I convince her to let me pay,
2 how to make her act grateful when I come to her work and give her presents and flowers
3. how to get her to give me a chance to please her with sex
4 to stop... (read in full...)
Help, how can I fulfill my sexual urges without losing my self respect?
Q. I don't know if you have heard of the relationship advice book 'the rules' but if you have you will understand when I say I'm a strict rules girl. I've been out of my healthy, good relationship for 5 months now, we split due to being busy building...
A. 16 December 2013: Stop being so hypocritical....
Your first paragraph "tells" us just how pure and pristine you "are" (claim to be)....
... then, your sixth paragraph "tells" us that you are willing to compromise those lofty principles..... but, ooops, don'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still friends with a woman he had sex with. Do I have the right to tell him not to stay friends?
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year woth my boyfriend and we just had a disagreement because he recently told me about a women he slept with and still friends with. He says that she has always been their for him and has been a good friend. ...
A. 16 December 2013: No... you do NOT have a "right" to tell him that he can't be friends with this woman....
That said,... I have an interesting question for you: Would you feel the same way - and want to make the same ultimatum - if you knew that he had NOT (eve... (read in full...)
Why does this get to me so much?
Q. I'm worried and don't know who to turn to for help. I am in love with a lovely, caring sensitive man. I think the world of him, he is everything I dreamed of yet there are these insistent doubts. I have suffered many abusive relationships, survived...
A. 16 December 2013: I think the entire content of your "question" is revealed in this sentence: "I just wanted a 'normal' fun loving man who loves me."
What you need to decide is WHAT you consider "normal." From your submittal, I detect that you think that this man... (read in full...)
She said they only marry their own ........
Q. Some of you have read part of my story but this is a continuation. I have dated my boyfriend for 7-1/2 years who is divorced with two grown up kids. I am 26 and he's 40. Furthermore we are not from the same culture he is Armenian and im hispanic. He ...
A. 16 December 2013: In my opinion, it's of little importance WHAT is this man's background/culture/religion. The REAL issue is a guy who spends 7-1/2 years with a woman... and continually balks at indicating that HE thinks that their "relationship" is never-ending.... ... (read in full...)
I feel like one in a long line of women!!
Q. Please help me I am screwing myself up and my relationship. I am 34 and boyfriend is 45. We have been together for a very happy 18 months and living together for one year. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had but I am so close to losing him ca...
A. 16 December 2013: This man sounds like a "serial monogomist".... and you have to consider that he (will) might, likely, continue that pattern in the future.
You can enjoy your time with him, if you wish.... but continue your (and his) relationship with the unde... (read in full...)
Is he just being stubborn or does he just want to remain friends?
Q. I was seeing a guy for a good two months and we were fab together. Always laughing, had loadz fun together, both felt the same, couldnt get enough of each other. I started to get really strong feelings for him to which he reciprocated by telling me ...
A. 16 December 2013: romantic: Your re-submittal is oh-so telling.... and makes me want to repeat to you, again and again,... in CAPITAL LETTERS.... THAT THIS GUY "SEES" YOU AS NOTHING MORE THAN A CONVENIENT SEX PARTNER....
Do NOT fool yourself with the likes of... (read in full...)
Why cant I leave this bad situation?
Q. Well I have been on and off with my boyfriend for five years! He has confessed to cheating on me, and Well there has been many times where he has been emotionally abusive, calling me names, even physically! But I would go back to him! Things have ...
A. 14 December 2013: You ask: "... But I won't leave. Why?"
Unfortunately, the "answer" is... because you are stupid.... and are allowing this guy to treat you like dirt.. and you haven't figured out that you DON'T HAVE TO ENDURE some A$$HOLE guy treating you this... (read in full...)
My husband makes twice what I do but wants to split our bills 50/50
Q. I live in an apartment with husband, Here is a break down of our expenses and earnings monthly Rent $920 inclusive of hydro. Tv phone and internet 102. Food around $300 - $330 Also we pay for apartment insurance. Food also includes a...
A. 14 December 2013: "Sounds" to me like your "marriage" is a business partnership... and thereby, YOU have to ante up 1/2 of what the partnership incurs, for expenses, each month.....
IF you want to have this some other way,.... I suggest taht you confront hubby an... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date someone who teaches at my college?
Q. Okay I'm currently 17 and turning18 in about 2 months, about April last year I was seeing this guy who was 21 but cause we were both busy we sorta drifted apart, he recently started to speaking to me again and were getting on really well, only thing ...
A. 14 December 2013: No...... (read in full...)
What is she hoping for here?
Q. My wife is doing something a bit "unusual" lately in bed and I am trying to figure it out. When I am on top, she holds 2 fingers together like a penis and starts sucking and licking them. (great so far :-)) Then she pulls my face down...
A. 14 December 2013: dannio: You're getting laid, regularly.... and you are asking questions on here????? Damn, Man... get a grip. There are oodles of us, on here, who have likely forgotten what our "Mr Happy" is even supposed to be used for. Count your ... (read in full...)
Is he just being stubborn or does he just want to remain friends?
Q. I was seeing a guy for a good two months and we were fab together. Always laughing, had loadz fun together, both felt the same, couldnt get enough of each other. I started to get really strong feelings for him to which he reciprocated by telling me ...
A. 14 December 2013: Here's the key phrase in your submittal: "....I begged and pleaded for him to reconsider and give me another chance...."
The moment you did that..... your were DUMPED. No man wants a girl who is so desperate that she will do that. We believe ... (read in full...)
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