Usually men like me but this one is not helping my self esteem.
Q. I have been seeing this man a long time now. He rejects me a lot, he insults my independence and he tells me that I will never have a boyfriend. I can t lie I have said some mean things to him before too. He told me I was not a normal girl and ...
A. 9 December 2013: He treats you this way - pretty crappy, in my opinion - because YOU ALLOW IT!!!!!
IF you don't like the way he acts toward and around you... then part ways with him and don't look back.....
You "sound" like a delightful and interesting woma... (read in full...)
I want him to make me his girlfriend but he still talks to other women on the dating site!
Q. I met this guy on a dating site a few weeks ago. We've had a few amazing dates and ended up fooling around just a little (no actual sex though). I really like him and we have so much in common, we're so compatible and look great together. The pr...
A. 9 December 2013: His "message" is in his behaviour. That message is, that he isn't sufficiently taken by you such that he will "make you" his girlfriend. What's wrong with that? The only discrepancy in this is YOUR wanting him to make YOU his G/F. What for, for ... (read in full...)
Can we find a way to communicate our needs better or are we just too different from one another to make this work?
Q. I'm not sure if anyone can help me with this. But my relationship is going downhill, and we don't know if there is anything we can do, or if we should break up. Things have been rough for a while now. We have a great time together, we laugh, we have ...
A. 9 December 2013: Your man is one SAAVY dude!!!! Suggesting that you post on this site is a stroke of genious! By doing so, he believed that he would divert your attention to the Aunts' and Uncles' replies.... and that that would obsfuscate matters sufficiently ... (read in full...)
Which is more important in a partner: being physically attractive, or being good in bed?
Q. I have a general question for everyone. Do you prefer a partner who is good looking but boring in bed, or a partner who is average looking but good in bed?...
A. 8 December 2013: I'm afraid that you've failed to "hit upon" THE MOST important aspect of a prospective partner.... and THAT, is his/her BANK BALANCE!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
They said I make them nervous and insecure ......
Q. The last two relationships, well I say relationships, they didn't get past the dating stage, failed because of the same reasons. Both said I make them feel a bit nervous and insecure. I'm a bit worried about this now that both give me the same ...
A. 7 December 2013: Tell us a whole lot more..... WHAT sort of details were you able to discern from what they told you? What details could you NOT figure?????
As well.... tell us something about the ladies involved. Were they Nuns from a local order? or, were... (read in full...)
He's going on a holiday without me after I've been asking him for a year!
Q. I need some advice regarding my boyfriend going on a snowboarding holiday. For a full year I have asked him if he wants to go on holiday with me, he says he does, but whenever I speak about holidays or point any out he always finds something ...
A. 6 December 2013: WiseOwl: I usually agree with your submittals.... but, for this one, you are agreeing about this guy (and "justifying" what he's up to) who is 'WAY off-base in what he is doing...... There were - or will be - ooodles of time(s) when he can exercise ... (read in full...)
What can I say to make things better with my fiancée, and why have I upset her so much?
Q. My fiancee is not speaking to me apart from to say she thinks we should break up. It all started the other day when we were going to a Sci Fi convention. She was ok to go with me but I could tell she was a bit bored. When we got home, I asked her if ...
A. 6 December 2013: You write: "....but I don’t see what is wrong with doing these things or why she is acting so upset and taking what I said about the convention so seriously."
Do the girl a favor, and postpone the wedding until you DO "see what is wrong...... (read in full...)
Does my Bf love me or is just using me? He refuses to stand up for me and he blames me when things go wrong.
Q. Dear Everybody, why is he behaving this way? Half year ago a guy fell in love with me. He fought extremly hard to get me be with him. He behaved as a gentleman, bought me flowers, surprised me all the time, always called me up - asked how I am, ...
A. 6 December 2013: A guy pursuing an attractive and sexy girl is much like a dog chasing a car.... We (both) LOVE "the chase"!!!!!!
But, much as the dog wouldn't know what to do with it, if he CAUGHT the car.... we guys don't know how to behave once we've "caught"... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go? Reunited with ex but got no closure over a women I dated while we were broken up.
Q. Hi, every body, well my EX and I got back together year an a half ago, broke up cause after 7 years she never told me she loved me, when we got back together she said it once, I have told her many times, she says she has a wall up. But after al...
A. 6 December 2013: SVC gave you a good, thorough answer. I would add, only, "When a woman doesn't tell you that she loves you, take her at her WORD." (Been there; done that.)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He's going on a holiday without me after I've been asking him for a year!
Q. I need some advice regarding my boyfriend going on a snowboarding holiday. For a full year I have asked him if he wants to go on holiday with me, he says he does, but whenever I speak about holidays or point any out he always finds something ...
A. 6 December 2013: Let's analyze this portion of your submittal:
"this guy is serious about me as we have been together for 3 years and he has suggested that we should move in together and we have now set a date to do so - but i feel so annoyed about this holiday ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship last with his friends and family hating me and blaming me for the problems we've had, when my B/f was clearly in the wrong?
Q. Is there any hope for our relationship? I had a wonderful relationship with my partner for the first 5 years, then in the fifth year I found out he'd been meeting up with an ex partner. They both swore nothing happened but they had met several ...
A. 5 December 2013: HE was "in the wrong"... YOU found out and undertook to get some semblance of control - and loyalty/faithfulness from him - and his "friends" are claiming that he should ignore you as a "control freak??"????
"Sounds" to me like your "B/F" ha... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but doesn't trust me to carry out his wishes!
Q. My son's father has been dating me now for 15 years. We have seen turbulent times. He left me after the birth of our son and started seeing a coworker of his. This relationship lasted about 4 years. He denied it was anything more than a casual ...
A. 5 December 2013: NOT ONLY are you NOT "over-reacting"..... BUT ALSO you have proven to be a fool for the last 15 years... and give indications, herein, that you intend to continue doing so. Is there ANYTHING this creature can do to convince you that he considers ... (read in full...)
I managed to get out of a toxic, abusive relationship but now my ex wants me back...
Q. I had been in a relationship for two years. From the moment we met our love was very passionate and intense. However, are fights were also very intense. From my opinion it appeared to me that he had a very bad temper. When we would get in fights he ...
A. 4 December 2013: We (guys) don't change that much... OR, that quickly.
What has happened, I assure you, is that he is going through a sexual "dry spell".... and he knows that you and he had great "make-up" sex whence you were poisoning one-another in that sham of ... (read in full...)
When I jokingly told my B/f that I'm going out on a hot date, he said "the only date you'll get is that homeless guy who sleeps in the bus shelter"! Ouch!!
Q. Hi. When I called my boyfriend last night, after not seeing him nor hearing from him for a few days, he said he's very busy. I jokingly said in that case I'm going out on a hot date. To which he replied: "the only date you'll get is that homeless...
A. 4 December 2013: You "guy" sounds like quite a jerk. I don't think you'll be "losing" much if you simply disappear from his life...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
People tell me she's fake because she had a nose job
Q. So I've started dating this girl who is so beautiful, funny and one of the sweetest girls i've met she's so down to earth and adorably innocent but daring if you understand that. She told me the other day on our second date she's had a nose job, ...
A. 4 December 2013: Suppose this woman had been in an accident, when she was a teenager, and one of her front teeth had been damaged, and she had a crown replacement. Do you suppose that your sister and best mate would tell you that she was, thereby, "fake?" ... and ... (read in full...)
How do I get him alone to steal a kiss?
Q. I'm going bowling with my sports group and I really like one of the boys (he suggested going in the first place), and I need some tips for how to get him alone so I can maybe kiss him (Christmas time). They'll be about 20 of us so it would be nice ...
A. 3 December 2013: I suggest that you wait until there is no one else in ear-shot, and you get close to him and say: "Hey, (his name here), I think your lips look like they might taste like sugar.... Any chance we could go someplace a little more private? ... and I ... (read in full...)
Why do many people find atheism offensive?
Q. Why do many people find atheism offensive? When I'm asked about my religion, I say that I'm not religious. When I'm asked further, I simply state that I'm atheist. If the asker is religious then they seem put off. Yet they asked. It's not something ...
A. 2 December 2013: Those of us who are considered pragmatists (you sound like one of us) do not subscribe to religious/faith dogma for whatever reason they (we) may have.... BUT there's no "right" or "wrong" in such a discussion....
Religion/faith, or "not rel... (read in full...)
Men: how often do you think about having sex?
Q. Men of all ages - roughly how often do you think about having sex? And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street? Do you ever feel guilty if you think about having sex with someone who isn'...
A. 1 December 2013: P.S. I just recalled.... I also don't think about sex when it's my serve, in a tennis match........ (read in full...)
Men: how often do you think about having sex?
Q. Men of all ages - roughly how often do you think about having sex? And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street? Do you ever feel guilty if you think about having sex with someone who isn'...
A. 1 December 2013: The only time(s) that I am not thinking about sex is when I am doing the "Sudoku" puzzle in my local newspaper....
AND... if that puzzle happens to be particularly easy (as it tends to be on Monday and Tuesday).... I can even think about sex whil... (read in full...)
My mom never lets my husband in the house, big deal or not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been married for about 6 months now, and my husband has never been to my parents home...ever. We all live in the same city, I've been to his mum's a ton, same with his other family. He's been around my family plenty, but my m...
A. 30 November 2013: You write: "....Or should I just stop caring as long as my husband has a decent relationship with them...cuz he does...."
CORRECTION: He DOESN'T have a decent "relationship" with your family.... at least, not with your MOTHER!!!!
You can... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him? Can we work through this or do I write off the last five years?
Q. Hey guys I really need some advice. So here goes ... I have been together with my boyfriend *dave ( not his real name) for about 5 and years and a half. We live together, we have a dog we have joint bank account I mean everything we are basically ...
A. 30 November 2013: When two people make a split.... then there is no "cheating" if/when they seek intimacy with whoever else, during that time. You described your's... and then.. when you learn that he did something similar... you claim that YOU were wronged, in some ... (read in full...)
Why is he so angry when he wanted it to end?
Q. Hi so this is definitely the last question about this particular man that I will ask! I'm just trying to get my head round this last development to be honest. So my ex and i were seeing each other for 5 months, it was mainly lovely, we went on...
A. 30 November 2013: WHO CARES???/ ... if and why he's "mad at" you??????
You're free of this jerk.... so consider that your "blessing".... count it.... and get on with your life...
There's nothing to be gained (by you) by keeping this drama alive.....
Go... (read in full...)
Sex life with fianceé is suffering. How important is sex to women in a relationship?
Q. I just want to know how important sex is to women in a relationship, and also if it is important to them to maintain a healthy relationship. My fiance and I just got engaged a few weeks ago and we've been together for a year and a half. The first ...
A. 30 November 2013: You say that this woman is your fiance..... so that means you are preparing to spend a LIFETIME in the conditions that you've posed here. Can you do that? If "no," than decide, now, that marriage is "on hold" until this matter can be ... (read in full...)
Can a woman orgasm too hard?
Q. Can a woman orgasm too hard? I really want to push my girlfriend to the limit but I don't want to hurt her, if I kept stimulating her past her usual limit will it give her more pleasure (more orgasms) or is there only so far a woman can go? ...
A. 27 November 2013: P.S. I'm thinking you may be on to something here... considering those several instances wherein furniture was damaged!!!!!... (read in full...)
Can a woman orgasm too hard?
Q. Can a woman orgasm too hard? I really want to push my girlfriend to the limit but I don't want to hurt her, if I kept stimulating her past her usual limit will it give her more pleasure (more orgasms) or is there only so far a woman can go? ...
A. 27 November 2013: When a woman is lucky enough to share conjugal pleasures with me, I believe that there is no limit to the ecstasy that she experiences..... HOWEVER.... if an effort to provide you some useful feedback on your query.....
..I'll ask a few of them ... (read in full...)
I can't remember all of the women I have slept with. Is this a problem?
Q. I was sitting here, alone in my basement feeling bad for myself, and decided I would write a list of all of the women I have slept with. I can't remember all of them that I have been with. Should this be concerning in my eyes? What is you all's ...
A. 27 November 2013: Wait 'til you get to my age.... and, by lunch time, you won't be able to remember what you had for breakfast!!!!
Do you really want us to treat this like a serious and legitimate inquiry????
P.S. I think that I have slept with a couple of wome... (read in full...)
Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 27 November 2013: You may break up with him whenever you darn well please...
AND, his "birthday and holidays" B/S is just that... PLUS it's his attempt to lay a little guilt trip on you....
Look at it logically... you want to break things off with him... do s... (read in full...)
Relationship lacks intimcy, fiance wont let me get close.
Q. Hi ladies and Gents, My fiance is 22 and i'm 26 in a couple of weeks. my relationship lacks intimacy, I am feeling frustrated and rejected by her. we have sex once a week, if that. the times between sex are becomming further and further ap...
A. 26 November 2013: Been there; done that.
Your story could have been written by me, two years ago. I didn't understand why things morphed in to what they became (just as you've described)... But, I made a few attempts to talk about the matter.... got nowhere.... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to allow me to close the door to my room when my boyfriend comes visiting? We need our privacy!!
Q. Hi all, I have been with my bf for a few months and recently I invited my bf to meet my parents. What irks me is that I am not allowed to close the door when I am alone with him in my room. We don't always on the airconditioner but sometimes we do. ...
A. 25 November 2013: He's a "sweet guy" so you MUST have the door closed...... RIiiiiggghhttt!!!! I'm with your parents....
Good luck... and, get a hotel room when you want to go to "second base"......... (read in full...)
I care about him, but not the way he wants. What are my options?
Q. Hi everyone, There is this guy I've been talking to and we have just been texting back and forth but we have never actually met. He has been coming on strong telling me that he is in love with me and that he wants me in his life. He wants to meet me ...
A. 24 November 2013: Finds someone else to communicate with. This character has 'way too many "red flags" in your's (and his) exchanges.....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Do you think he might be a player?
Q. Hi folks, I go to this club to sing and I have a lot of friends there and enjoy spending time with them. There are a few guys and women I talk to, all different ages and one girl there is my friend and she is much younger and has a new bo...
A. 24 November 2013: You say that he (and his girl) are much younger than you....
Maybe he has a "Mommy" fixation.... Ask him... better to flush it out now, than find out later that he just wants to accompany you whilest you sing....
Goood luck...... (read in full...)
So what's going on? Has she lost interest?
Q. I met this girl on a dating site. Well, a woman. She is 38. I am 39. We went out for drinks a week ago and ended up kissing. Before the date we'd been emailing every day, and after the date (Friday) I wasn't sure how long to wait, but I sent her a ...
A. 24 November 2013: I have a sure-fire method for finding out "where she is coming from".... but it's a little unorthodox. Are you willing to try it?? If "yes," then here it is:
You call her up and say: "Hi, it's (your name here)... it was nice to meet you, (he... (read in full...)
His questions are making me uncomfortable -- am I just being paranoid?
Q. Why do I feel this way about him? Am I being paranoid? I've been seeing this guy my friends husband set me up with. They say good things about him all the time and he seems nice so far. I starting a well paid job in a few months and h...
A. 24 November 2013: I can't comment on paranoia... but CAN confirm for you that you're posing a couple of questions that make no sense at this time.....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
He thinks of me as something that I'm not and I can't stand the thought of seeing disappointment on his face
Q. I have met a great guy and we have been dating for a while now. The next step on the cards for us is sex but im terrified of him seeing me naked. See I used to be extremely over weight and I lost it all naturally a few years ago but my body still ...
A. 24 November 2013: Once to lights go out... EVERY girl is blisterin' hot... and YOU are one of them.. ... WHAT is your question?????... (read in full...)
Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said she has changed, or should I stay with my new girlfriend of five months who I have a steady relationship with
Q. Hi guys, Anthony here, I am looking for some advice please as I ‘ve go myself into something of a dilemma! Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said...
A. 24 November 2013: Anthony: Please re-read your submittal a few times. It is self-answering... ... (read in full...)
Why do girls like jerks?
Q. Why do girls typically go for the douchebags, and typically grody asshoke frat boys that spend 5 days a week in the gym? To me it seems like the only difference between a jerk asking and any other guy is that the prick, because of his false sense of ...
A. 24 November 2013: At one time in my life... I could have posted this question.... THEN, I found out that the jerks who the girls fall for have outstanding s*x lives.... and so I converted and became one..... It's FANTASTIC!!!! I suggest that you try it.... and, if ... (read in full...)
Is she telling me have a hope of saving our marriage or is she just not going to bother whatever I try?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 9 years (6 years married) with my wife. We have five children in which the eldest was from another relationship before ours. We used to live in a three bedroom house which got too small for us to live in, so managed ...
A. 24 November 2013: I could hardly get through your submittal.... and it was just too much drama for me......
If'n I were in your predicament, I'd say to wifey: "It's been nice knowing you and spawning some offspring together... but I am just not prepared to endur... (read in full...)
Now that we're married I find he has habits I can't tolerate
Q. Hi everyone, I've been feeling so unsettled since I married two years ago. Didn't live together b4 and now some things annoy me terribly. He drinks every day. I didn't realise how anxious I'd be about this. He's the kind of guy who can't have a ...
A. 23 November 2013: Some responders, on here, may use your plight to tout the advantages of living together prior to marriage. HOWEVER, I will NOT give you that "pass".
How long did you and hubby date? ... and how distant were you from one-another that you never sa... (read in full...)
Questions on sex and HIV...
Q. I've just read the stats about HIV and I'm shocked as too how many people were diagnosed in 2012. I have a few questions.. 1. How does a man get HIV off a woman? It seems there wouldn't be enough fluid exchanging. 2. How common is it to ge...
A. 22 November 2013: Viruses are interesting little creatures.... and they show up - and move about - in and to places when you least expect it.......
It never hurts to get one more test to confirm that you haven't incurred ANY STI....
P.S. If you donate blood... (read in full...)
Mom found out I'm no longer a virgin and all hell has broken loose! I don't regard myself as a sl*t, but she now certainly makes me feel like one.
Q. I'm a 27yr female, a doctor in her fellowship in Mexico. I was virgin till I turned 25, I decided to have sex with my then 6month boyfriend who's still withe me (three years now). We are in a steady and serious relationship, even considering ...
A. 22 November 2013: Yes.... the next time - and all subsequent times - that your Mother launches in to her "you're a slut" speech.... listen politely, then say, "Thank you for your opinion, Mama...". Then,... promptly, forget that she ever talked to you.....
... (read in full...)
How can I help my son financially without it causing further tension?
Q. 21 November 2013: My 29 year old son has just got himself a good job but he is on 6 months probation before his position is confirmed. He needs a car to get to and from work and has no money to fund the purchase himself. He is unlikely to be able to ...
A. 21 November 2013: You are offering to GIVE a car to your no-good son???? ....and he is BITCHIN' that it doesn't meet his preferences????? The "answer" to this is simple: You say to him: "Sonny, I am (was) offering to GIVE you this car. IF'n you don't like ... (read in full...)
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