Can long term relationships can work when a woman who is substantially richer than the man?
Q. Dear Cupid, I wondered if you thought long term relationships can work when a woman who is substantially richer than the man? I am a very wealthy woman but I have not been able to find single guys to date who have the same level of wealth as...
A. 21 March 2014: I'll be watching/following this thread like a Great Dane watching a five-year-old with an ice cream cone on a hot July afternoon...... since I've been looking for this arrangement (myself) for the last 40-or-so years........ (read in full...)
Facing the guy that hurt me, advice?
Q. Hi, I posted not long ago about my situation with a boyfriend who I met at my works meal and he was our waiter, he was very full on telling me that he loves me after 2 weeks and took me to meet his mum then dissappears on me and I never hear from ...
A. 21 March 2014: This is a perfect opportunity for YOU to exhibit that grace and poise that shows the world that you are a wonderful woman....
When you encounter "ex-" you simply look at him, smile, and acknowledge him. END OF PROGRAM....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm a woman and I dreamed I had a penis. What does it mean?
Q. Ok so this is really bugging me and just for reference I am a straight married female and I do not have any fantasies about other women at all. I know I'm more dominant than my husband in life but I don't want to be in bed. I had a crazy drea...
A. 19 March 2014: Not to worry. You - like ooodles of other women - are experiencing envy of what we guys are packing. For you, it happened to show up in a dream at night. Others may have that AND/OR spend much or all of their awake time enjoying the same dream, ... (read in full...)
Will she give me another chance after calling her bad names for going out with other guys
Q. we met on zoosk and it was fantasic we hit it off TOO WELL and talked for 5 hour a day she called me in the morning and at work and we talked all night. we wanted to wait to have sex but didn't so the 2nd date we ended up in bed... so i went home ...
A. 19 March 2014: If - or when - the two of you get past puberty, I'm sure you'll both have fine adult lives....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What could I do about office gossip if I start dating a man for than 10 years older than me?
Q. Hi all... I can't believe I'm even doing this but I don't know where else to turn. Just about everyone I work with are gossip kings and queens and I need to be able to handle this in a mature, respectful way as I plan on sticking around these parts ...
A. 19 March 2014: Before you do anything.... be sure to learn the Company policy about romances. Though supervisor/subordinate dating is universally frowned upon.... some Companies also insist that non-S/S romances are grounds for one of the parties to part the ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling like a fool after calling my ex again
Q. I was at work Saturday past and i was thinking of my ex so i decided to call him, we talked and then he started to bring up the past so it lead to arguing and now he says that he feels good that he made me mad. My question is y do he keeps bringing ...
A. 19 March 2014: He brings it up because YOU GIVE HIM THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO!!!!!
I promise, that, if you never call him again, he will never have a chance to bring up the past and make you upset... There is a clear "cause-and-effect" here... and YOU control ... (read in full...)
My relative may pass away in the near future. I want to date, but should I delay and wait until I have work through my grief after my parent passes?
Q. Dear Cupid, It's looking likely I will have a parent pass away in the next few months after what has been a pretty tough time helping support them through their decline. I am single and would love to meet someone. I have had short term...
A. 19 March 2014: Sometimes, I think we give too much "power" to death.....
After all, any one of us, a friend, relative or loved one could step in front of a bus, this afternoon, and be dead at sundown.....
Consider how YOU would feel about you, if YOU were... (read in full...)
How do I move on from an affair and a breakup?
Q. Hi, I posted before but for those who didn't read it... here is my story Late 2013 I moved abroad with my boyfriend. I had met him out there travelling and he came back with me to our home country(both from england), but we decided to move ...
A. 19 March 2014: AS I was reading your submittal, I kept hearing Gene Pitney in my head, singing "It Hurts to be in Love"... over and over.....
I think you know that the only sensible - and honorable - thing you can do is distance yourself from BOTH of these gu... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my parents' concerns about a joint mortgage with my partner?
Q. Hi guys Hope you can offer me some advice as I my head is in two minds. Basically, I have been gifted some money to get a mortgage and new home (Whoopie!). I have a lovely partner who I have been with for years. My parents want me to do ...
A. 19 March 2014: I have been in your situation (successfully) and can offer this advice:
Make the purchase of the home a PARTNERSHIP.... (NOT dependent upon your's and his being romantic partners!).
Draw up a Partnership agreement - with all the necessary te... (read in full...)
I feel like my marriage was a mistake
Q. I've only been married 5 months, but I feel like I made a mistake. There are a lot of "factors" to this story that I feel are important to really give you a perspective, so it might be a long, convoluted post, but I'll do my best to get the point ...
A. 18 March 2014: Your submittal triggers me to, once again, suggest that two people who have widely-varying needs for sex and/or intimacy CANNOT MAKE A LIFE TOGETHER.....
From your submittal, I believe I see that YOU thought that you could endure a life w/o sex/... (read in full...)
I bought concert tickets in a price range I could afford but am feeling guilty now that my girlfriend wants to pay for an upgrade herself!
Q. I bought concert tickets for my gf's favorite band to surprise her, but since I'm a student, and work, money is tight for me. I could only afford the cheaper, non great seats. I wish I could afford the best seats, but they were well out of my price ...
A. 18 March 2014: BULLSH*T!!!! You did what you could... within the responsibility of your finances. IF'n she wants to upgrade the seats.... at HER expense.... then let her have at it.... and go, and enjoy the show. DON'T second-guess yourself for being ... (read in full...)
I want my older sister and her kids to go back to her own home!
Q. Okay, so I have an older sister who is 34 years old!! and she really annoys the shit out of me. When she and her 3 kids come to visit my parents I avoid her and stay out of the way.But lately shes been coming over the weekends. Her kids are all ...
A. 18 March 2014: You can't (get rid of her)... so you have to "adult-up" and behave smarter than she does.....
Have you spoken of this with your folks? How do THEY react? After all, it's THEIR home, as well....
Don't let a dumb sister make your life misera... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made fun of me, says I dress to impress other men and then broke up with me!
Q. hello I am Iin desperate need of help! Last night me and my boyfriend got into an argument about him being very critical of everything I wear! He made jokes and basically called me a hoochie!I told him I didnt like Iit and he shouldnt call me that. ...
A. 18 March 2014: PLEASE... LISTEN to him when he sez: "...dont call (me) him no f**king more...."
He's not worth a whit of your time or attention....
Good luck.... ... (read in full...)
What kind of game is my ex playing? DId our kiss mean anything to hiim?
Q. So here's the story... meet my ex 4 years ago (2010), he broke up with me after 5 months (april to september) for his ex (who cheated on him before he met me) (Our relationship had everything one should have, trust, love, freedom etc) he then get...
A. 18 March 2014: WHY would you spend even one iota of your spiritual and mental energy on this a$$hole who has proven (more than once) what a jerk he is????
Forget him (He "offers" absolutely NOTHING positive to your life!), and get on with your life... with HIM... (read in full...)
Is he asking because he wants to scrounge or because he really wants to live with me?
Q. Why is my boyfriend pressuring me to live with him?. My boyfriend is going to be evicted from his house in a couple of months, if he hasn't found another place by then. he said either he will go and live with one of his friends, before the eviction ...
A. 17 March 2014: I think the situation is crystal-clear. You say that he is going to be evicted "in a couple of months." WHY???? Does he not pay his rent? Is his place being sold? Is he such a noisy/slobby/inconsiderate tenant that his landlord doesn't want him ... (read in full...)
Whenever things go wrong, my girlfriend always blames me and its my fault!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I have a problem here, the one I am not capable of resolving on my own. Me and my gf, we've been together for 3 years, living together for 7 months. Most of the time our relationship seems to work well, yet there are critica...
A. 17 March 2014: Why continue to stick with a bratty girl-child who has yet to complete puberty.... Dump her and get a mature, adult girlfriend. I'm sure you can't be any less-happy than you are now.... (AND, you won't have to train her to be an adult!!!)...
... (read in full...)
He saysI am too emotional and I find him to be a cold fish!
Q. I am not sure about my boyfriend. We have been together a year and see each other often. The next step is moving in. I do find that he's not very good with emotions. He thinks I'm too emotional and I find him cold and dismissive sometimes. I find ...
A. 16 March 2014: It's always tough to make a decision when you "...(We) have a good sex life and I find him attractive..."
Because, so many of us would trade any- and everything to have a great sex life... even if it was with an angry crocodile!!!!!!
Soooo..... (read in full...)
Is it better to date a person you really like, or a person who really likes you?
Q. Hello My question is more about experiences readers had about " dating a girl you like or date a girl who likes you" What's better/more fruitful? Details : You either persue a person if you have crush on them or you are perused by ...
A. 16 March 2014: Your's is a complex question, as written.... HOWEVER, I think that if you substitute the phrase "put out for" for "crush on" then the "answer" to your question becomes more evident....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Old me vs new me. He loves how I used to look. Should I stay with him, now that he's so critical?
Q. I have had a boyfriend since highschool six almost seven years. We have a daughter together, and in the first 5 years of our relationship I was in shape and fit and he was chunky. Now the tables have turned and he is the one in shape and im the ...
A. 16 March 2014: IF he kept his (big) mouth shut, and never told you how he felt... it's reasonable that you and he might have gone on indefinitely.... AND he would have found you less attractive (with your added pounds)... AND your sex/intimate life would have ... (read in full...)
Should I cut my losses now? My new Bf can't stop oggling women and commenting on them.
Q. I am 38 years old and look after myself and have good self esteem. I have been dating a man the same age for a month. I am finding that whenever we are out he quickly notices an attractive woman and either turns his head when we walk past or ...
A. 16 March 2014: Yes, cut your losses and break up now....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I am not allowed in his best friend's house and have to sit in the car!
Q. Hello everyone I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And we live together. But living together isn’t the problem. The problem is his mom and his best friend don’t like me at all. I’ve met the only once and ...
A. 15 March 2014: Are you crazy???? Sit in the car???... married, but with separate weddings????
There is NOTHING "right" about this "relationship" that you described.....
It's time for you to walk away from this man and NEVER (EVER!) look back. Let his N... (read in full...)
My husband throws temper tantrums every day!
Q. The problem I have is that my husband regularly has pointless, angry outbursts and I'm the only one around to hear them. In front of other people he's as quiet as a lamb. We love each other. He tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me e...
A. 14 March 2014: SVC has it just right. Next time that hubby launches in to one of his tirades, YOU say to him:
"Hey, (his name here), TIME OUT!!! This is the first and only time that I am going to say this to you..... Your behaviour - this tantrum - is str... (read in full...)
The love of my life but he blows hot and cold
Q. Iv been in a relationship for over a year and a half now and my boyfriend is a wonderful man,we both had a few bad relationships in the past and but really hurt,but the past few months he tells me he loves me and I have the whole of his heart but he ...
A. 14 March 2014: I couldn't help but think of "Dr Jeckel and Mr Hyde" when I read your submittal.... There are really TWO issues; One, which you control, and one which you don't.
First; ...is WHY does this man display such inconsistent behaviour?????? Is his p... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with what he calls his dry sense of humour
Q. I love my boyfriend who is 40 of 7 months but don't like aspects of his personality. He can be very sarcastic and make derogatory comments about my weight. I'm a size 12 Uk and run and ramble, bike on the Downs etc. He makes comments about women ...
A. 13 March 2014: The key to your submittals is in your own words. To wit:
"...Sometimes I don't think he's a very nice person at all. "
You are spot-on.... EXCEPT that you don't realize that he's ALWAYS "not a nice person." He keeps it under wraps, mostly...... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 11 March 2014: No... she DOESN'T ".... have a point"... What she "has" is a belief that she and B/F (TWO people) should live at your shared address at 1/2 price!!!!!
Rather than let the issue get any more provocative... just move elsewhere.
Incidentally,... (read in full...)
My crush invited me to her wedding!
Q. So I get emails from a girl who I used to hang out with a year ago (She knows I had feelings for her). I asked her whats new in her life since we had not been communicating for a while, and she says she is getting married and would like if I came ...
A. 11 March 2014: She was being unnecessarily polite and sympathetic....
What you do is say, "Thanks for asking me to your wedding, but I think I'd like to pass...."
Then you leave her alone... FOREVER!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating says he's not ready for a relationship
Q. I've been dating this man for over a month and I must say, it has been great. We got on really well and there is chemistry. But the problem is, last year he got out of a long term relationship and told me he's not ready to date (despite him tel...
A. 11 March 2014: You say to this Lothario:
"Ya know, (his name here), I think you are an interesting guy.... and I might even wish to date with you again, in the future..... BUT, I think I owe it to you to let you figure out who you are, where you are in life, an... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I don't feel like it's over
Q. I have recently been dumped my commitment phobic boyfriend. We were together for over 2 years, lived together, travelled a lot and I knew from day one he had a lot of emotional baggage. Now he's left me, but he still texts every morning and even...
A. 11 March 2014: You ask: "...I want to help him through this, but how?"
Here's "how": You STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Don't contact him, don't continue the texts, don't believe, for a minute, that YOU can overcome HIS problems....
Give it six months. Then, ... (read in full...)
Said that she loves me but isn't in love with me -- could this change?
Q. I feel in a strange place at the moment. My girlfriend left me and I honestly thought she was the one. She said she loves me but is not in love with me? DO you think this could change over time? I have agreed to give her time and space to think bu...
A. 11 March 2014: To the OP - and anyone else who would like to "listen":
When a potential partner/mate sez: "... she (he) loves me but is not in love with me?" that is obsfuscatory B/S for: "I'm about to dump you, but don't have the guts to say so....."... (read in full...)
My heart knows that I need to leave! But I don't want another failed relationship! Advice?
Q. I am engaged to a man that I have been dating for over 3 years. We have been engaged for 6 months and the wedding is fast approaching. I am finding myself very unhappy. We don't see each other very much because of his overly busy schedule and ...
A. 10 March 2014: Your submittal - with all its details about why your's and your B/F's "relationship" should NOT end up in marriage - is poignant, and telling....
YOU know that you and this guy are toxic.... You know that you and he should not marry. The only... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my desires?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 48 year old woman in a 4 year relationship with a man who does not like to have sex or affection. I love him and for this to work I need help as soon as possible. I desire him all the time. I could see him from across the room ...
A. 10 March 2014: Are you sure you're not looking at your plight in a mirror???
Your question is, more broadly, like asking: "What can I do (to, or by, myself) to accomodate my partner's incompatibilities with me?" I think it's reasonable to simply BE "who you... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend and I chat often, but he occasionally disappears randomly!
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I saw one another two months ago, and continued keeping contact ever since. We talk every day through text, but one time he did not respond to my message for three days. And then he responded as if nothing happened. I asked him ...
A. 10 March 2014: Here's the scoop on this guy..... He thinks you're interested in him...AND that he might have a chance to bed you, if he keeps up your interest....
BUT, his chasing other skirts - which are closer to him - are taking up so much of his time tha... (read in full...)
If I agree to marry him, can I make myself love him someday?
Q. Dear friends.. I am 26 yrs old now. I know its time for me to get married.. And there is a man 36 yrs old, single who loves me so much. And wants to marry with me. I knew him from May last year. He is so kind and always on my side whenever i need ...
A. 10 March 2014: You write: "...But the problem is i dont love him."
You'd have to be crazy to marry this guy... in the hope that somehow, some way, you MIGHT get to love him... OR, like him enough to make a partnership and marriage work...
That's like s... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to wish my ex-crush a happy birthday?
Q. I had (and am still trying to get over) a serious crush on guy for a while and end of last year decided to tell him. On facebook, as we hardly ever see each other. He was flattered but only liked me as a friend. He asked me about my plans for this ...
A. 10 March 2014: Nope. He's your "ex-".... let him remain so....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
None of his friends and family like me! Should I just end the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 2 months. Somce we've been together ive only met his mom once and his best friend once and neither one like me. His best friend and his girlfriend absolutely hate me and ive never met or talked t...
A. 10 March 2014: Of course you should end this "relationship".... since it really doesn't exist, after all.... does it???
You "boyfriend" keeps you around... for the $ex, I'm sure.... but chooses NOT to act like a "boyfriend"....
Do you see the incongruity in a... (read in full...)
He dropped the bombshell that he didn't know when and IF he wanted kids at all!
Q. Hi. I'm in a tricky situation and I don't know weather to go with my heart or my head. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years , we also live together which makes things harder. My boyfriend has known since day 1 that I would like ...
A. 8 March 2014: Ya know what should be your REAL concern????? ..... that you and he AREN'T MARRIED.... so you (both) have NO REAL "committment" to one-another..... AND, you're considering to bring children in to this world....
Do you NOT recognize this for the ... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 8 March 2014: Sure.. you can do nik-nik with her.
Then..... sit back and wait for the excrement to hit the fan..... and see just how much it can ruin your life.
If you're lucky, it will be a "speed bump" (almost harmless); ... but, more likely, you'll l... (read in full...)
Do I hang around and wait, or should I walk?
Q. I had been going with my girl friend for over 3 years, she 55 years old. and I'm 70. she got upset on valentine day because I didn't bring her flowers. She made feel like a fool that night. I reminded her, I alway brought her flowers every Monday ...
A. 8 March 2014: Those women who are still on the edges of being fertile are just the craziest to deal with.......
Give her ONE more chance to win you over... and, if she fails to "take the bait"... dump her and go on to the next one.....
After all..... we (old... (read in full...)
Why don't I receive much attention from men?
Q. Why do I not receive much attention from the general male population? Before you proceed to trash this email, thinking it comes from some innocent 22-year-old who is fishing for compliments to feed into her sky-high ego, I assure you I am fairly e...
A. 8 March 2014: My guess is that your problem is with your being unable to differentiate between adjectives (which modify nouns) and adverbs (which modify other parts of speech).
Specifically, I refer to that phrase at the end of your submittal, wherein you writ... (read in full...)
I can't handle a relationship and work at the same time
Q. Hi aunties. I am trying to start a small business. I am living with my boyfriend for two years. The business is slow going but I do pay my half of the bills to my boyfriend. When the economy went in the hole, I got laid off from my job that I ...
A. 7 March 2014: Like you, I was "work-a-holic" for some time... and used it to justify my destructive behaviour (which, ultimately, scuttled my marriage).
YOU need to make a decision.... are you going to be a "work-a-holic" believing that your (success... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't show affection or that she cares!
Q. Hey guys. Quick question. I'm a 30 year old male, dating a 24 year old female. We've been dating for 15 months. I don't really know what to do with our relationship. Every other woman I've ever dated has expressed her feelings in one wa...
A. 7 March 2014: When a girl doesn't tell you that she likes or loves you... or, values, you.... then, LISTEN TO HER!!!!! The message is deafening!!!!!!
I've "been there; done that".... and wasted 4 years believing that I just wasn't understanding what was goin... (read in full...)
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