Not sure if I'm bisexual or just bi-curious!
Q. I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I have liked guys for all my life. I feel attracted to men and sometimes in a sexual attraction,but I was always uncomfortable with the idea of sex whenever it got to where me and a guy were alone. ...
A. 23 February 2014: I'm not sure if I'm straight, or bi- or gay.... but every time I get my G/F to remove her clothes I believe I am zeroing in on the "answer" to that tri-lemma.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not responding..does he just not want to see me?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm hoping you can help me decide what to do here because I'm really worried but not sure if I should be more mad than upset. My boyfriend of 4.5 years was playing a gig with his band. He is the drummer and has to drive, so he tol...
A. 23 February 2014: You're stupid BOTH "to worry" AND "to wait."
This guy has you hooked and you're acting like a defenseless fish..... You can - and should - do better for yourself....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do I get in touch with my crush from a distance?
Q. I have a crush on a chap who has a travel agency, who my friend introduced to me at one party, but I left shortly after and even travelled somewhere else...now I am back and live in that new place...would it be OK to send his a business e-mail about ...
A. 23 February 2014: Do you REALLY think that you should chase around a guy who you THINK (but aren't sure) is interested in you???? There are OOODLES more guys in this world who aren't so distant and/or evasive that you have to do this much work to learn about ... (read in full...)
I thought the date went well but I've been getting mixed signals since
Q. Hi I've been talking to this guy for over a month now, we have skyped a lot, I feel like we know each other very well, we have met up once it was very good, everything went so well, we tried to meet up again and he pulled out at the last minute, ...
A. 23 February 2014: Don't spend much time and/or mental energy on a guy who keeps sending you "mixed signals."
You will find that guys who REALLY like you aren't like that....
Good luck...
P.S. Guys who want to keep you available for occasional sex ARE "like... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend talked terribly to me and now I think he's broken up with me
Q. Hello I am a 36 year old female in a long distance relationship with a 48 year olf man. I love him very much but, in the pass he has been very verbally abusive, calling me bitches and saying fuck you! I forgave him when he asked for forgiveness and ...
A. 23 February 2014: You write: ".....I love him very much but..."
Considering the "but".... I suggest that you count your Blessings and STAY broken up with this creep!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
3 month anniversary post on girlfriend's wall. What do I say?
Q. My three month anniversary with my girlfriend is today. She has asked me to post a long post on her wall. We have been through alot together and really are thinking about the future together. What do I say. Please help.. I need help fast I am ...
A. 23 February 2014: You write: "Me and (her name here) have been hanging around together for 90 days, now. Isn't that delightful?"
Really, MUST YOU respond to her silly, self-centered and insidious request???????
Ask her: "Hunchy-bunchy, what would you prefer... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend finds me attractive - help?
Q. We have been dating for about 5 months but we were good friends first. I really do believe he loves me and he tells me I'm pretty all the time but I just don't believe him when he say that. I feel like he says it just to make me happy, but he ...
A. 21 February 2014: XxIm: Before discontinuing this relationship.... I suggest that you and he sit down, sometime OTHER than when you are close and might consider it "romantic"... and open a frank and honest discussion about this matter. (Perhaps, you could even ... (read in full...)
I just met this guy a week ago and already we fight all the time!
Q. hi everyone. I just met this guy its been a week now, my problem I just don't understand him at all. we suppose to be happy but to my surprise we fight all the time. when we have to see each it must be on the street because where he stays he was ...
A. 17 February 2014: So.... you and he don't have much in-common. Why aren't you just deciding that you and he should go separate ways???? .... and don't contact him any more????... (read in full...)
I don't see my boyfriend as long term material and I wonder about my ex FWB. Any ideas what I should do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a month now. Actually, we have dated before, over a year ago and it lasted about 10 months back then. We remained really good friends while we were not together, even though I was dating someone else. Afte...
A. 17 February 2014: Kudos to Cerebus for a thorough and thoughtful reply. Read it twice and follow his guidance....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I am writing because I feel so low .............
Q. I'm writing this because I'm feeling so low, and maybe any answers might help. To cut it short, I met this guy many years back, we started off as friends, He lived away from me, but when we met up, it became more than friends. I then found out he w...
A. 17 February 2014: All this, for a guy who, clearly, doesn't give a darn about you???? ... and lives in (and - apparently - buys into) a culture/religion that will serve to treat you as chattel if you were "lucky" enough to "land" him?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Selfish in-laws and husband's a pushover with them. How can I speak to him about this?
Q. Thank you fir reading in advance. Sorry I know it is long. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have 2 children together, the youngest of which is 6 weeks. My partners family have not seen our youngest yet as they all live in...
A. 17 February 2014: The only peculiarity that I see in your submittal is that you seem to think that all your in-laws can't wait to see your newborn... and you are miffed because they have asked you (and hubby) to bring the baby to them....
Consider this: Nothing ... (read in full...)
Husband belittles me in front of friends and family. I want to leave him, but is there any way I can correct the situation?
Q. I became very resentfull toward my husband. The main reason is that he complains to people about me. He doesn't complain to everyone but certain people. Like this couple that we don't see very much often, may be every couple months. Usually ...
A. 16 February 2014: You man is displaying unacceptable disloyalty. How to handle it????
You sit him down and say: "Hunchy-Bunchy, you know we have been an item for a long time.... AND, I am very much in love with you.... BUT, I happen to know that you bring an... (read in full...)
I'm dating a man and love his personality but the spark is not there. I don't know how to proceed.
Q. Hi aunts, I've got a big dilemma! I've been seeing a guy that is not my type and I'm not really attracted to for the last 2 months. I was attracted to something about him initially when I first met him and wanted him to take me out. He did ask ...
A. 16 February 2014: Your's is that age-old question..... Why do dogs chase cars, when they don't know what to do with them (the cars) if/when they catch them?????
You need to be honest with YOURSELF, and look for a guy who turns you on in more, and better ways....... (read in full...)
Getting mixed signals from my ex.
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice! So my ex boyfriend and I are on and off, I haven't seen him in 2 weeks, I got the impression he was losing interest and distancing himself from me, so I left him alone. He sent me a text on valentines day n...
A. 16 February 2014: Here's the details that you need to know.....
When a guy has a spare girl.... who he pretty well knows will put out for him.... he is reluctant to put her off the team.... since... he may find himself needing her for a little sex, now and then....... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't believe in Valentines -- should I be hurt?
Q. My boyfriend of only a few month. Didnt see me on valentines day. And didnt get me a card or present. When i asked about it? He just said he didnt believe in all that none sense. I'm a little bit hurt about it but not sure whether i'm being over ...
A. 16 February 2014: For a "new" B/F (of "only a few months") to think that he could get away with the chintzy excuse that he ".. didn't believe in all that none sense.." is REALLY telling you that he is quite lackidasical about you.... and what you (and your potential ... (read in full...)
Do you have to hear the word love to be loved?
Q. Hi, well I said those magical words lastnite after watching the notebook, we been seeing each other for over eight years, I broke up with her couple of years ago, for a few months, cause she never says it back, but we got back together, she said it ...
A. 15 February 2014: I endured this (not saying "I love you" or some equivalent) for about 5 years..... Then, I figured it out!.... She didn't say it, BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T (love me).
Once that sunk in, I said (to myself): "Why live with, and love, a girl who doesn't ... (read in full...)
My mother is doing her best to come between me and my g/f
Q. I've been dating my gf for a little over a year now. Out of the that I was deployed for 8 months. From the moment my mom met my gf she said she was rude to her. My sister / friends all like her and thinks she is a great girl and I love her, While ...
A. 14 February 2014: You say to her: "Mom, I appreciate all the attention and concern that you exhibit to me. You've been good and supportive to me. How many guys my age would sell their soul to have a Mother like you?
BUT, I think you are not much enamored... (read in full...)
Is it strange when a man doesn't have a picture of you in his office at work?
Q. I've been engaged for a couple of years. My fiance is a department head and he works with all women and very few men. The girl he dated before, he had a picture of them together on his office desk and word love was on the picture frame. ...
A. 13 February 2014: It's NOT "all about you"!!!!! Try to convince yourself that this is no issue, at all.... except and unless YOU want to make it one.....
... (read in full...)
Should I tell him this hot sexy guy wants to take me out for Valentine's Day to make him stop being so cold?
Q. What should I do, boyfriend is breaking my heart.? My boyfriend and I usually argue about little things but this time I was really hurt and when we argued I was really angry and said he doesn't deserve me. I felt really bad and apologi...
A. 13 February 2014: I say go out with this "new" guy on Valentine's Day... and don't say anything about it to "boyfriend."
If/when he asks where you were, what you were doing... tell him you were busy... It's really none of HIS business... is it????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He keeps promising to spend more time with me but never does!
Q. This is kind of hard to explain. For the last month or so my boyfriend has been distant and doing his own thing. He's been hanging out more with friends and just spending more time by himself or doing other things. That's great and all except f...
A. 13 February 2014: You girls and your darn "womens' intuition"!!!! Your alarm is probably going off now... and rightly so... because your "intuition" is telling you that his "busy" is with his NEW lady-interest.
I predict that your intuition is correct.... (read in full...)
Is this normal for FWB?
Q. I got chatting to a guy online nearly 4 months now , at first he told me he was single but eventually he told me he wasn't and he has a daughter . I'm ok with this it's his life , he lives miles away from me but we decided to meet up . He drive over ...
A. 13 February 2014: FWBs (men) do whatever it takes to get a sure lay.....
It seems far more common that the woman in an FWB gets attached to the man... BUT, it's not unheard of that the guy would fall for the lady...
Enjoy what you have, as long as you have it a... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: Cerebus: Let's agree to disagree.
You seem to be saying it's OK to blurt out just what one feels like saying, regardless of the feelings/sensitivities of the person hearing it.... (I believe you've said that you would invite that in people w... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014: It's not. It's also not okay to criticize small boobs, large or small noses, ears, feet, shoulders or any other body part(s). Anyone who would do so is NOT advancing the human condition.... and is revealing, instead, just what a boor they are...... (read in full...)
For My Boyfriend: I need just a few words, but what would be the right words?
Q. Hey everyone, My boyfriend of 10 months is going to start post graduation soon,he is going to be a surgeon so I thought of gifting him a pen which he could write prescriptions in, but I'm not finding the right words to write,just few lines motivati...
A. 13 February 2014: I suggest a blank card, along with the beautiful silver pen, on which card you write:
"Dear, (his name here).... I'm so proud of your going on with your dream. Here's a pen you can use, in the future, to write prescriptions as you practice... (read in full...)
I'm affectionate when drunk but not so much when sober. Is this guy just confused by my behavior?
Q. Hey guys this guy I've been dating told me he is completely besotted by me. What does this mean? I feel like the next day he was distant and cold, he kept saying I clearly didn't want him there which I did. My friends think this all could be because ...
A. 13 February 2014: I'm guessing that you're rather shy or reserved, under "normal" circumstances.... and more open when you drink alcohol....
My suggestion is that you work on your "Jeckel-and-Hyde" aspects of sober versus drinking. After all, what kind of a "relat... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if the relationship has lost its magic
Q. I have been in this relationship for four years now and we have been like a married couple for years now. I am wondering if it has lost its magic now. He's extremely busy at work because he thinks he needs to work hard. He complains that he's poor ...
A. 12 February 2014: I read your submittal.... twice. Neither time did I come away understanding that you were describing a "relationship." If you think that's what you are "in," then I have some disappointing news for you.... You're not.
Good luck..... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell people my engagement ring is fake!
Q. I dont want to tell people my engagement ring is a fake "diamond". It's actually cubic zirconia. But apparently according to the jeweler who charged my fiance $700-800 USD , there are two levels of cz, the drug store $12-40.00 and the "better" tier. ...
A. 8 February 2014: So, OP, now you've come full-circle...
You asked your original question... and got plenty of support, based on the concept that it wasn't so much the cost/value of the ring that gives it meaning.... that meaning is intrinsic in your B/F/fian... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell people my engagement ring is fake!
Q. I dont want to tell people my engagement ring is a fake "diamond". It's actually cubic zirconia. But apparently according to the jeweler who charged my fiance $700-800 USD , there are two levels of cz, the drug store $12-40.00 and the "better" tier. ...
A. 7 February 2014: An engagement ring is a token shared between two people.... and need NOT be considered as "bling" to be displayed for "others."
IF you and he are in love... and plan to wed.... and want/need a symbol of that committment FOR YOURSELVES (!!!) it... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my girlfriend's ex, and their relationship. Help!
Q. Ok I'll try and keep this short as I don't want to bore anyone! Basically I have been in a lesbian relationship for around a year now with a woman who I love very dearly. She is my first true love and I can't believe how lucky I am to have found ...
A. 7 February 2014: If you can't "get over" this woman's past (relationship), then your's and her's relationship is doomed....
Allowing someone (her ex-) to dominate your thinking is like giving them free rent in your brain. Do you want to extend that (free rent) to... (read in full...)
My obsession with his ex is ruining our relationship
Q. My partner had a child with an ex who he was with for 7 years. When he met her she was actually living with a woman and left her husband of her two children for the woman. Then she moved on to my partner and they had a child together also. When...
A. 7 February 2014: Remember: As long as you ruminate about this woman, and her's and your B/F's past.... SHE gets free rent in your head. Do you want to extend that to her?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why would someone want to throw their future away?
Q. This isn't a problem as such, but its something i've been pondering on for a really long time and I wondered if maybe anyone here could give their own opinion on it. I live in a very small town, there isn't to...
A. 7 February 2014: There's absolutely NOTHING about these cretins you've described that has ANYTHING to do with you. Soooooooo....
.... WHAT is your question??????... (read in full...)
I don't like hanging out with my boyfriend's friends and a woman he has history with. How should we deal with this and move forwards?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We are both late twenties and I love him with all of my heart. I know he is the one for me and we both have expressed that. I get a little anxious with his friends though. One reason is ...
A. 6 February 2014: You ask: "Am I entirely wrong for feeling this way? What advice is there to deal with this? "
It's natural for you do feel as you do..... HOWEVER, it should result in two things:
1. You and B/F must decide if your feelings - and his behaviou... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 6 February 2014: Your's is the "Poster Board" query for asking: "Where can I, will I, meet my perfect mate (B/F or G/F)".
The "answer" is: Do those activity(ies) that you enjoy. Be around others who share that enjoyment, and you will INSTANTLY have somethin... (read in full...)
He threatened that tomorrow either she's gone or he's gone. Any advice would help!
Q. Hello and thanks I have been married 22 yrs. I got married young. Its been abit of a roller coaster at times but somehow I stayed. My husband can be very mean when he drinks. He calls me names points his finger in my face I tell him to stop. Whe...
A. 3 February 2014: I vote for "he's gone".... since, by opting for THAT, you will solve TWO problems with ONE choice....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I forgive again? Can I trust him again?
Q. I am trying to gain clarity on my relationship and figure out what to do... I have asked many friends for their advice, but realize that they all have some kind of biased opinions (they are, after all, close friends), so I need an objective and ...
A. 3 February 2014: I'll offer my "answers" to your questions, in the order that they appear in your submittal:
1. No, no, no.
2. No.
3. You can't. He's likely been doing even more. AND, you're being pretty dumb to give him a "pass" on any of it.
... (read in full...)
When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend?
Q. When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend? My bf and I have been together for 4 years, not living together. He pays maintenance for 2 children, I don't have kids. Over the past 3 years he has borrowed money almost every 2 to 3 months ...
A. 2 February 2014: You ask: "When is the time to stop lending money to a boyfriend?"
It's just before the FIRST time....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Does my coach like me or am I just being stupid?
Q. Hi im 17 years old, im very confused because of my Taekwondo coach behaviour towards me. Firstly I catch him staring quite a lot when im teaching someone or he sometimes stay near to me, and then help when I've done something wrong, this is no ...
A. 31 January 2014: IF your coach has sufficiently low morals that he/she will take advangage of you.... then there's not a darn thing that we (Aunts and Uncles) can do to change things....
YOU need to know that it's inappropriate for an older (adult) person to take ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this emotionally cheating?
Q. I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, ...
A. 31 January 2014: OP: Some women just can't keep their legs together, no matter how appropriate that might be... They LOVE to get a man to pleasure them.....
You can't prevent your friend from being a tart for this guy... so don't stress yourself for WHATEVER... (read in full...)
I feel I'll never attract someone of the same religion because of my looks and personality.
Q. hi... I am really a lost soul at the moment... I come from a Muslim family. My mom is moderate-liberal Muslim and my dad is relatively conservative. So I've been brought up with conflicting views... Anyways, so I'm at uni and I feel too conservat...
A. 30 January 2014: I love "religion" questions, because they give me an opportunity to get up on my soap-box and ask a question like this: IF your "religion" is making such a mess of your life... and causing such angst for you.... how much of a "religion" is ... (read in full...)
How young is too young when it comes to settling down and having children?
Q. Hello helpers! This is a relatively quick question, but one that i'd love some input for! I'm 18 years old, turning 19 this year. I'd say I was pretty mature for my age (alot of this coming from bad experiences in childhood). I'm currently dating...
A. 30 January 2014: Some people are "too young" when they are in their 30s, 40s, 50s and older.....
Unfortunately, the number of times you've been around the Sun is a fairly weak determiner of how successful you might be in a "..... now and forever... until de... (read in full...)
I can't seem to hit a girl's g spot
Q. i have 6.2 inch penis 4.5 inch straight and and around 2 inch slight down curve.. i had sex with thirteen different girl but i never get any negative comment but i still fell insecure because i think i m not able to satisfy and make girls orgasm in ...
A. 30 January 2014: Me neither; but I keep trying!!!!!!... (read in full...)
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