Will alcohol make you have sex with someone of the same gender?
Q. Will alcohol make you have sex with someone of the same gender? Will you completely forget or not realize it happened the next day? I feel guilty a tipsy friend came on to me hard. I had zero intentions of having sex with her but it happened. I felt ...
A. 30 March 2014: Let me tell you a story about alcohol/drugs and sex......
One time, when I was in the Virgin Islands, I was at a favorite watering hole of mine. A young couple came in... the lady was pretty as could be... the young man, clearly, a free spirit..... (read in full...)
Don't know if I want to date him or get back with my ex
Q. Is it ok to go to watch a show at the theatre with a man that isn't your boyfriend?. What do you think about that?. I don't know if I want to date this guy, and I don't know if he wants to date me. I'm also not sure whether I will get back with my ...
A. 29 March 2014: Then why don't you stick around with your "gal-pals", only, for the next six months. Then, come back to this site, bring up this submittal, and see if it hasn't answered itself for you?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I know if I talk to him I'll take him back ...
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for almost 4 years. We never really talked about marriage as he has some commitment issues. We had our ups and downs, but for past 2 months relationship is going downhill, he often talks about his boss (lady) with whom...
A. 29 March 2014: When I was much younger..... probably 16 Y.O. or younger .... I learned that, if I took a hammer to my toes, it would hurt. Armed with that information, I vowed to never again slam my toes with a hammer....
Is my story ("I know that if I smack ... (read in full...)
Never thought it would go on so long or get so serious, and now I can't live with the lies
Q. You guys have probably never gotten a problem like this before...what I'm about to say is completely disgusting but please bare with me. I randomly met a guy online about 1 year ago. It was all just fun and games at first and a few days into ta...
A. 29 March 2014: Sooooo, you've committed a collosal screw-up. Therefore, you are entitled make a collosal confession.... and expect a collosal "What the F**k were you doing, girl?" from this unfortunate guy....
The ironic thing is, that he - like you - was enam... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to break it off with him!
Q. Any one good at body language?? I think my boyfriend I had over a decade is trying to get me to dump him but I can't he started a fight today.. even during the fight he said I'm not breaking up with you, your gonna do it this time is what he said.. ...
A. 29 March 2014: Your submittal conjures up the episode of "Seinfeld" wherein the characters discussed the "... it's not you; it's me..." excuse for breaking up. B/F really DOES want to break off with you.... BUT, in his mind, he can't perceive himself as the ... (read in full...)
I feel he has been rewarded for leading me on!
Q. Dear Cupid, I was with my boyfriend for 9 months. The relationship ended because I pushed him to move in with me and he was clearly not sure. I was patient but then he decided to end it with no reason as to why. He never formally did this - just ...
A. 29 March 2014: Since you've learned what a creep this guy can be (is)... shouldn't you be jumping for joy that he is now out of your life?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is the problem with me or with the boys I choose?
Q. Hi everyone. ok its bit long but please do help me out. Im 28 years old. When i was 10 years old then my parents passed away and from then till to date m living with my elder brother. Im a reserve nature person...most of the time i spend alone in my ...
A. 28 March 2014: I have just ONE question for you....
Does "...I always treated my boyfriends well, tried my best to make them happy...." mean that you put out for these guys???? IF "yes," that I suggest that THAT is the basis of the problem(s) that you are expe... (read in full...)
Didn't know I was pregnant so missed out on the early pregnancy care
Q. ive just found out im pregnant. thing is, I could highly possibly be around 26 weeks gone. I say this as months ago I missed a couple of periods but then they came back, pretty normal so I didn't think anything of it. recently have been getting ...
A. 28 March 2014: Don't be too concerned. My Mother missed out on early-, mid- and late pregnancy care.... and I and my four siblings seemed to pop out OK..... I don't know what kind of fears you've been told to have.... but Mother Nature did NOT intend for ... (read in full...)
How can I turn my life around? What can I do about all of this?
Q. Hey everyone well I'm sorry that this is going to be a long complicated sob story but I'm in desperate need of advice and I know you all give great advice. I'm 21 years old. I'll start off by saying I was abused a lot by a lot of my family growin...
A. 28 March 2014: May I give my Fatherly-best reply?
You ask: "How can I turn my life around? What can I do about all of this?"
Answer: You can take control of your life... you, controlling YOUR OWN life. (And) Don't listen to, or believe this B/S:
- ... (read in full...)
I'm a good employee but my manager is giving me less & less shifts. How should I approach this?
Q. I work in a restaurant. After I came back from winter vacation abroad and back to school, I filled out my February schedule as available Weds/Thurs/Fri evenings. My manager scheduled me Thurs and Fri evenings which was perfect. For March, I filled ...
A. 28 March 2014: Are you a waitress??????
No sensible boss is going to short-shift a good/great waitress (waiter) since they are an important part of the business's success.
I suggest that you ASK YOUR BOSS why you are not being asked to work more (shifts). ... (read in full...)
Hpv in a long term relationship. Is cheating involved?
Q. I am a 36 year old woman. I have been with my husband for four years. I have had regular Pap smears my entire life. I have been tested for hpv every single year since I was 28. My hpv tests have always come back negative. Last month, I ...
A. 27 March 2014: Have you told Hubby of this positive-HPV result? If not, then do so, now.... If "yes," then ask Hubby to be tested, to see if he is so-infected. After all... you (both) need to know who's carrying what....
That said; if HE tests positive... (read in full...)
I'm worried I should have given it more time!
Q. I met a guy and we dated for 3 months and it was amazing in the beginning he chased me took me to places I met all his friends. The only thing was that he ended a relationship for 2 years and after 3 months she started to date his friend so that ...
A. 27 March 2014: May I add a detail that you won't see in your "dating rules" book?
Guys are like dogs who chase cars (we chase women). Once a dog catches a car, WHAT CAN HE DO WITH IT????? They can't drive it, because their hind legs aren't long enough to reach... (read in full...)
My wife disgusts me!
Q. Hello all! I am almost 41 years old and I have been with my wife since 2001. There are still some things that thrill me about her, but often I wonder what I ever saw in her. She is lazy, drinks too much liquor, has let her good looks go, and a...
A. 27 March 2014: I could have written this letter, 31 years ago.
Long story short; She wasn't going to revert to being the woman I'd married 15 years earlier... I was going to endure the woman she'd become.... so we went on our separate ways....
Good luck to ... (read in full...)
Should I have unprotected sex to please my guy?
Q. Please can you give me advice - my boyfriend and I have a great relationship, however he now wishes to make love without using condoms. I am not happy with this, as by his own admission he slept with a lot of women in the past . I just want our...
A. 27 March 2014: All of us guys like to go walking in the rain without the raincoat. We say that it's "...more natural.." and "... more intense...." (... both of which, it is...) BUT,....
When the rain includes polliwogs, the arithmetic is DIFFERENT for you.... (read in full...)
How do I decide whether or not the relationship is over?
Q. My partner of three years and I have recently been having some problems. Now I believe we are genuinely starting to work through them and he is happy in our relationship but I have been left with niggling doubts that all problems aside, we are just ...
A. 27 March 2014: The classic way to do this is to take a sheet of paper and make two columns....
In one column you list "Reasons why we should stay together,"; in the other, "Reasons why we should go our separate ways".....
Once those columns are filled in - ... (read in full...)
Can I never trust a guy after this?
Q. Please help me. In January I met a guy in Facebook and we both started chatting. After few days of chatting we both exchanged our contact number and he started calling me. After few weeks we decided to meet at one of his friends home. We both wer...
A. 27 March 2014: The issue is more this guy - and his friends' - perception of you. They believe that you are "easy"... and so one or another of them is ready, at-hand, to have $*x with you, as long as you are willing.
How to handle it? Get away - and stay awa... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but I don't want to come across as creepy
Q. Ok I need some thoughts on this, I have met a younger girl through my work, I own a small maintenance company and have met with her a good few times to discuss various repairs she needed in her home, she is attractive and around 25, I do know she ...
A. 26 March 2014: Here's a suggestion as to how you can "test the waters."....
Next time she contacts you for a project.... tell her that you will schedule it for the end of your day.... and the only "payment" you expect is for her to make you a delicious supper. ... (read in full...)
I ended it with my difficult BF and now he is being so sweet and I'm confused.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. Please advise!! I split with my BF of 3.5 years about two weeks ago. The relationship was volitile and difficult. I really loved him , but was not seeing him enough , and did not feel he was making enough effort to keep me in ...
A. 26 March 2014: You have asked the key question: To wit: "Do you think it is genuine? or just trying to get me back on board...."
The "answer" is "yes." You see, when we guys must go a while without our $ex... and the lady who partook of it with us... we can p... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I'm interested in a 16 year old
Q. I'm 21 years old, and I'm interested in this 16 year old girl. I've known her casually for a couple of weeks. We both work at the same workplace at the moment where she is part time waitressing and I'm full time on the bar. She's definitely inter...
A. 26 March 2014: To heck with your "1/2 +7" rule!!! SHE is still (really!) a child... and you are an adult. IN many states there are statutes (laws) that will make your contact with her ILLEGAL... and subject you to sanctions that you really don't want to learn ... (read in full...)
Don't have much of a life at college ---how do I meet friends?
Q. Hey I need some help. I'm a young woman who is in college. I know this is embarrassing but I don't really have any friends and not much of a life either. I guess my college isn't really the best place to meet people because nobody really interacts ...
A. 26 March 2014: You comment: "I guess my college isn't really the best place to meet people.." I "reply": ARE YOU CRAZY???? There is no better place than a college, university or other institution of learning for a girl - or a guy - to meet like-minded ... (read in full...)
His idea of a compliment left me troubled
Q. Hi. I would be grateful for some opinions please. My partner of ten years has never paid me many compliments but the other day, he said he had been watching me sleep and had made a decision. He said he thought to himself, "Yeah, she`ll do". He said ...
A. 26 March 2014: WHAT DOES IT TAKE to get a girl to see what wonderful guys we are???? .... and for us to get A LITTLE APPRECIATION???
Here, you have you boyfriend pretty-much GUSHING over you... and all you can do is question the veracity of his complime... (read in full...)
When do I know when he wants to become official? What are the signs?
Q. I need some help haha. I have been seeing a guy for some time now, we constantly text all the time, and we have also spent some time together. I asked a couple of weeks ago what was happening between us, he told me he wanted a relationship however ...
A. 26 March 2014: It becomes official when you say to him: "Say, (his name here), are we an ITEM, or WHAT????"
If he says, "Of course," then you are an item and it's official. If he says, "I'm sorry, do I know you?" then you know that it's not official... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to look at other women and come to the conclusion that some are better than my wife?
Q. Is it wrong to look at other women if you find yourself thinking they are better than your wife in some way? For example you see a woman who has long shapely legs, and you catch yourself thinking for a second she has nicer legs than your wife. I ...
A. 26 March 2014: Here's this man's point of view......
The minute you convince yourself that your wife (or SO or G/F) is not the most beautiful and enticing woman in YOUR LIFE..... then you are compromising.... and you need to consider if you deserve to have suc... (read in full...)
He slept with someone else right before our wedding was scheduled
Q. I have been married for 9 weeks and now my husband decides to tell me that he slept with a work colleague last year but thinks because its a one off that I should be able to move on and forgive him. Our wedding had to be pushed back due to the ...
A. 25 March 2014: This results from classic differences between men and women. Those differences works like this:
1. To a man, he has not indulged in an infidelity until he has landed his penis inside the lady; To a woman, the infidelity started when he agreed t... (read in full...)
How do you confront a liar cheating wife with the facts?
Q. . My wife does not know I know she's cheated. I have all the proof I need and it's causing me to distant my personal life from her. I see my wife stressing over me pulling away from her, she appears to not understand why I stopped showing her ...
A. 25 March 2014: You must decide if you want to leave and divorce this woman.... OR, if you want to have her discontinue the affair and continue in marriage with you....
If you opt for the former, then the discussion is brief. Ergo: "Sorry to advise you, (her nam... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 25 March 2014: IN any conversational exchange, it is chancy to ask a question which has an answer which can cut short the conversation. For example.... asking your wife: "May I buy a new Corvette?" versus, "What color Corvette do you think I should get?"
As fo... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of a long engagement?
Q. What are the pros and cons of a long engagement? I have a feeling he will propose in a few months but I am not sure what my feelings are about it. I mean I love him, and I want to marry him. But right now, we're both earning very little a...
A. 24 March 2014: You write: "...we're both earning very little and we will not be able to get married for at least 2 maybe 3 years..." Can you explain what that is so?
Getting married does not require high earning-power,... it is predicated upon two people l... (read in full...)
Do you think I've subconsciously been making female friends to fill the space that my girlfriend usually occupies?
Q. So me and my girlfriend recently started university at the same time but we are doing different degrees. I barely get to see her as her schedule is so busy which is tough as i used to see her basically every day at school. I've been making new ...
A. 24 March 2014: You sound like many/most guys who go to a college where there are oodles of new (and hot!) girls.... and are not above trying out a few of them....
Your G/F is still in the picture.... and if - following your ill-timed dalliances - you get her ... (read in full...)
Are we too different to have a future?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. Our relationship really is great. He's thoughtful, loving and great fun (who thought you could have all three?!) My problem is there is a certain aspect to his personality that I don't like. Now ...
A. 24 March 2014: You start with: " Our relationship really is great."... then continue with a submittal that subverts that statement... chipping away at it until we Aunts and Uncles can clearly see that your "boyfriend" is a man-child who has a mysogenistic ... (read in full...)
It's the perfect relationship, except I don't orgasm easily except with oral, and he just doesn't like it. What do I do?
Q. I am in a relationship with the perfect man. He is very respectful, sweet, caring, treats me like i am a queen. He is successful, has his head on straight, independent, and I trust him with my world. And of course I am extremely physically attracted ...
A. 24 March 2014: May I revert to my constant-in-the-past "take" on this?....
If two people wish to have a relationship..... BUT cannot discover and partake of sexual synchronicity...... then that relationship is doomed.....
You write: "I would never leave him ... (read in full...)
I feel like he can't see past our rocky previous relationship, but I want to move forward and start a new one with him
Q. Okay, I'll apologise in advance, because this may take a while. I met my partner when we first started university back in September. We got together in November and the relationship started off okay. There were a few things I felt uneasy about th...
A. 24 March 2014: At the risk of "sounding" like an old man.....
I hope that you are giving even a FRACTION of your mental energy to your studies as you are to this "relationship"... If so, you are sure to graduate Phi Beta Kappa.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
If he was really that into me would he be secretly messaging another girl?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for four years and I've never had a reason to not trust him. Recently things have been rough but we seem to of worked through it together and everything for the last month has been great. However we w...
A. 24 March 2014: For us guys - when we are in our 20's - as we go through the neighborhood of life, we are constantly on the lookout to see if anyone else's grass is greener than ours. That's what your "B/F" is doing..... Stand by...
Good luck...
P.S. I... (read in full...)
I don't like the engagement ring he gave me
Q. I'm disappointed with my engagement ring. I feel like a horrible person. I love my fiance to death, but he picked out a gorgeous ring, with a sapphire as the centerpiece stone. It really is a beautiful ring-but I am very traditionally mi...
A. 24 March 2014: I think that your reaction to the ring that this man chose tells US volumes about YOU..... as well as plenty about him... hence, my "advice" which is this:
Make a copy of this submittal. Show it to him, and tell him that you wrote it. Then, sa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I'm no longer included in our group vacation
Q. So I am with my boyfriend for over a year , and its your typical relationships with petty fights about jealousy and everything, but we do have a good relationship. Over the last few weeks, he has changed in some ways, like always saying before he...
A. 24 March 2014: Many guys do break-ups in a peculiar, indirect manner.... and that "sounds" like what your B/F is doing.....
In his head, the break-up has already occurred.... so he (believes) he doesn't need to even be nice to you... never mind that the holiday ... (read in full...)
I dreamt I slept with my boss. What does this mean?
Q. My boss is a little bit younger than I am. Before she was promoted we were peers. We get along very well at work and she leans on me heavily since she is a new manager and I am more experienced. I have always been attracted to her but I have kep...
A. 24 March 2014: I've found that, when I dream about doing nik-nik with some girl I know, it's a premonition.... and usually happens within a short time..... IF I play my cards correctly!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I am already pregnant. So how do my husband and I handle his parents who flipped about the pregnancy because my husband is disabled?
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with the things going on in my life at the moment. I Will tell u the back story. My husband and I were involved in an accident a few years ago and it left my husband significantly physically disabled and I'm now ...
A. 23 March 2014: I guess the best you and Hubby can do is recognize that his parents are idiots, and get on with your lives....
You may have to ignore them - and their stupidity - for a while.... but, who knows?, maybe they will wake up some day....
Good lu... (read in full...)
If you don't have dating/sexual experience do you fake it till you make it?
Q. If I don't have any sexual experience, how do I go about in my everyday life meeting girls, faking it til I make it? I see plenty of guts out in bars doing it all the time. It's about time I get in on the action while my junk still works!...
A. 23 March 2014: I am a 63-year-pld guy, and - believe me - I started "faking it" DECADES ago.... and I fake it, now.... and expect I will continue faking it until they plant me 6 feet down!!!!
You're in good company.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why won't he dance with me?
Q. My husband to be dance competitively in college - salsa, tango and ballroom with his ex wife for many years. We've been together 3 1/2 yrs and not once has he taken me dancing. Our wedding is this summer and I don't know how to deal with the first ...
A. 23 March 2014: IF he's got his ex- available to dance "salsa, tango and ballroom" ..... and YOU available to do the "horizontal Mambo"..... and he's gotten you to consent to MARRYING him... I don't think there are any more questions to be asked, relative to HIS ... (read in full...)
While we were apart, he slept with a lot of girls, including one night stands and gave me an STI when we reconciled. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi everybody any advice will be appreciated. Me and my boyfriend had been together four years when I got into a university in a different country to do medicine. It's a five year course and I would be living four hours away from home. After much...
A. 22 March 2014: I think you've learned that this guy is a boy-whore.... AND, thereby, you have to consider that any "relationship" that you want to have with him will, necessarily, be quite tenuous.... He's ready to bolt, at any time, to try some/any other ... (read in full...)
Fell pregnant after a holiday fling, now he wants to meet to discuss my choice!
Q. I fell pregnant after a holiday fling last year when my group of friend met a few guys at the same hotel. I decided to have an abortion because I wasn't in anyway ready for a child. Plus I couldn't see the child's father being supportive at all ...
A. 21 March 2014: The key ingredient to your submittal is this phrase:
".. and threatened to tell everyone I was a heartless bitch."
What he's "told" you is that HE is not only heartless... but he's also irresponsible, self-centered, and cares not-a-hoot about... (read in full...)
Can long term relationships can work when a woman who is substantially richer than the man?
Q. Dear Cupid, I wondered if you thought long term relationships can work when a woman who is substantially richer than the man? I am a very wealthy woman but I have not been able to find single guys to date who have the same level of wealth as...
A. 21 March 2014: I'll be watching/following this thread like a Great Dane watching a five-year-old with an ice cream cone on a hot July afternoon...... since I've been looking for this arrangement (myself) for the last 40-or-so years........ (read in full...)
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