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writes:Alrighty then, a little backstory on me. I'm 19 and I've never even had my first kiss, let alone a date. It's not lack of opportunity, just no one I've been interested in that the opportunity came up with. So, anyways I've known a girl for about 6 years now. I've crushed on her for about 4 or so of them and she's aware of it. She's a decent amount older (23 or so), so that's what has always scared me off.So, she has never acted interested. She's been in some serious relationships for most of the time that I've known her (all have been over a year, once one ends she immediately goes to another within about a month). We have an odd relationship. Go from hanging out like everyday (normally around when she gets rocky with another guy) and then don't talk for quite a few months. Then rinse and repeat.She just started dating a new guy. Seems to be genuinely happy. She has never acted interested in me. I heard from her tonight and she was... A lot more talkative than usual. One of the messages was along the lines of her telling me the best way to get "girls" into bed. Then it got switched over to her and the next was how a someone could "make her panties drop"... So... Just from my experience, most guys don't hear that, so I got thrown for a loop. Opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2014): I posted this without logging in, so this is the OP again.
She actually doesn't know that I'm... shall we say "inexperienced". I've never said anything and she knows I don't care to talk about personal things if I'm not the one that brings them up, so she doesn't ask.
Anyways, I think I was just hoping a bit more than I should. All that really means is nothing changed, surprise surprise.
Anyways, thanks to all that answered.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 January 2014):
 I agree with FA - I thought "big sister" too. She is dating someone new and wants you to be as happy as she is with a girl of your own. She knows you haven't had a girlfriend yet and is giving you tips. She's happy with this new guy and wants you to find a girl to share in the happiness of a new relationship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 January 2014):
 If this girl works for IKEA.... I suspect that the next (thing) you will hear from her is when she presents you with pictorial instructions (requiring NO reading skills!) wherein she will "tell" you - in still greater detail - how to get her panties off!!!!
Sir.... this girl wants to experience you... soon. Don't disappoint her!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2014): That's normal, OP, I have plenty of close female friends and I know most of their sexual likes and dislikes from just being in a room with a group of them or talking to them in person, especially at the start of a new relationship.
You become a guy they just talk to about stuff they still don't feel comfortable talking to their new guy about.
It's not a sign of interest OP, it was more a discussion within the context of her new relationship. Basically it was just on her mind, and frankly it sounds like she was giving you advice on how to score your own woman.
Don't look too deeply into it, it was just talk. She knows you fancy her, but you're obviously never going to so anything about it because you're scared and would need her to make all the moves which with all due respect most girls don't want. No offence but a guy who is scared to make the move and prefers being friendzoned than hurt is not relationship material really.
My guess is she was trying to tell you how to fix that trait and actually see that getting women is easy as long as you have the balls to make the move and are not scared of anything.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 January 2014):
 It's just advice from a big sister. There is a small possibility that she wanted to scratch her itch, and was willing to use you, but more likely she got all the satisfaction she needed just by talking dirty.
BTW you are right most guys don't hear that kind of information. She was comfortable sharing it with you because she doesn't see you as a potential boyfriend.
FA
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (2 January 2014):
 Well I know what you want this to mean, that she wants to have sex with you, but sadly because you want it to be so doesnt necessarily make it so. In the context of the conversation you were having she could be using what turns her on as an example of the point she was making about girls in general, not inviting you to turn her on.
I think shes interested, but interested in having you around when the going gets rough for her, so she gives you just enough to keep you hanging on. This may make her interested enough to try sex with you at some point but probably not on balance because what she wants is your company and your attention because she knows your crushing on her.
My advice would be not to read too much into it. By all means keep her around as a friend and hang out with her etc etc but try not to get your hopes up and get sucked into thinking you have a shot - you may do but probably dont.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (2 January 2014):
She's telling you what turns her on. Maybe she was drunk.
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