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writes:Hey :)I met a guy a year ago, we "dated" briefly a month but nothing happened between us. Indeed, I want to build friendship with a guy before dating him.The consequence is that he thought I was disinterested so he faded away. Two weeks later I contacted him to ask for feedback. He said that he never met a girl like me before, and thought I wasn't interested in a relationship. Hours later he texted me "why did you wait until now ?". I understood that he was already romantically involved, so decided to not contact him anymore. He keeps texting me about twice a week to ask me how I was going. I thought he was kind of stringing me along (because not asking me out and not letting me forget about him). So I stand up for myself telling him that I don't want to be a back-up girl, and asked him to not contact me anymore - after that I deleted him from FB. He answered that I was wrong about his intentions but respect my decision. I didn't hear from him, since I made the mistake to send him a New Year message on FB. He answered quickly, and asked me how I was going, about my job, my hobbies, my insomnia, made jokes, and keeps the conversation going as he was the one who asked questions. He also said "your job seems pretty cool... there is nothing new in my life, except I have a job now :p" (because when i met him he was unemployed).A day after this conversation, he added me on FB. I found out he has a girlfriend because of a FB comment she made on his profile page. She said she loved him and he answered "do I know you :) ?". There's no pics with her so maybe she wants to make it official she's dating him. One year ago this girl "liked" all his FB pics, so he knows her before me. But after me, he dated an other girl, then her.Here's my questions :Why did he add me on FB ?Why didn't he mention his girlfriend ?Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): He's fishing for a girl on the side. He is probably casting out his net in different waters waiting for a catch.
I suggest you stop contacting him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I know it :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 January 2014):
 He added you.... and didn't mention his REAL G/F ... because he wants to keep you available as his "back up girl" (You already knew that, no?).
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe conversation is long, sorry I didn't mention it. She said "oh last time baby when you..."
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 January 2014):
 Maybe she is not his girlfriend, maybe she is one of those girls who tells everybody she loves them, maybe she would like to be his girlfriend, but you are making assumptions based on facebook?
Why don't you ask him who she is?
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