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writes:Two weeks ago I met a widowed woman. she is so beautiful that I fell in love of her.after 3 or 4 times of meeting many sms's suddenly yesterday she asked me to separate. I don't know why? she just said we are from two different worlds.I had this problem before. I split up with some girls before by their asks. right now I feel not good. I think I've problems with making friendship with girls.I know there can be lots of issues that affect this problem but maybe I get some advice.
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reader, mehrq +, writes (4 January 2014):
mehrq is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys.
one of my big problem is i didn't meet enough with girls. these days i'm asking myself why? and i don't know why. maybe there are some skills about this, i didn't get them in my life.
i'm thinking about girls beauty but sometimes this is good reason to start a relationship . in this case that was like this.
i dont know what should i talk about when i'm with girls.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 January 2014):
 Slow down.
You met her 2 weeks ago and already claim to be in love. Love doesn't work that way. You might be ENAMORED by her and her looks but if you go FULL SPEED into thinking it's LOVE you might make her feel uncomfortable and pressured into feeling things she isn't ready to.
Also if she is NEWLY a widow, she might NOT be ready for a new man in her life.
You have a problem with girls alright. You think all they need is to be beautiful? Women wants to be loved for ALL of her. Her personality, her kindness, her humor, her generosity, you name it - we are a greedy sort when it comes to love. You can not LOVE a person JUST because they are pretty. That is lust, not love.
Learn to talk to a woman with respect. Find thing you two share and have in common. Like books, travelling, movies, food, art, you name it.
When you woo a woman it's NOT about CLAIMING HER - it's about getting to know HER and letting her know you. SMS's are not to be replaced by actual conversations. KEEP the romance and relationship talk on the back burner a little - don't force it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 January 2014):
I think you scare them off by coming on too strong and supposedly falling in love with them right away. As someone stated, you don't fall in love because someone's beautiful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): You say they break up with you? You have to have a relationship with a girl in order for them to break up with you.
I think you may be asking. why they don't stick around long enough for you to establish a relationship with you? Is that what you really mean?
You cannot say you're in-love with a person; because they are beautiful.
If you get carried away with a woman's looks and tell her you are in-love with her; they think you are a little crazy.
You have to care about the person; not how she looks. You can't be weird around women. It scares them. You have to calm down; and maybe see a therapist to find out if you have any mental issues, and if you need some counseling.
Falling in love too fast is not healthy. That means something might be wrong. That's needy and desperate.
If it is a woman's beauty that draws you to her; she will never take you seriously. She thinks you are only interested in her body and face, not who she is.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 January 2014):
 I think that THIS is key to your submittal:
"...she is so beautiful that I fell in love of her."
What I suspect is that you are enamored of a woman's beauty (looks), and, when it comes time to get to know her (and her to know you) that that is the primary - or only - plane upon which you live.....
Try to find - and spend time with - women who are not "so beautiful that I fell (fall) in love (with them)..."
Good luck....
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