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writes:Hello I am a 36 year old female in a long distance relationship with a 48 year olf man. I love him very much but, in the pass he has been very verbally abusive, calling me bitches and saying fuck you! I forgave him when he asked for forgiveness and we went on from there. But last night we were on Tango, a calling app that lets u see each other while u talk. We decided to have phone sex, during phone sex he asked me to put the camera by my vagina and please myself so he could watch! Ok I did and all was well until he got irritated when I didnt know the camera was turned the other way! He got mad and said to me "I notice you like to act stupid, as if you dont know what going on! I got upset and I told him, im not a child and youre not going to talk to me like that. Then he said f**k you, if you dont want to do it, f**k you. This really hurt my feelings, then he called me six times but I didnt answer. He sent me a text saying not to worry about him anymore, which is his way of breaking up. So I called him but he didnt answer. He sent a text and asked me what did I want, I told him that he wasnt gonna talk to me like im trash! He told me he was on the phone, which really bothered me because it was four in the morning and I wondered woth who? I also felt totally blown off! He sent me another text telling me to go moan in the dark or something. He sent another text at six in the morning saying youre gonna f**k around and get nexted, which means he'll leave me and be on to the next girl! Im really hurt because we had such a good time yesterday, he treats me like a queen and then he treats me like dirt! Sorry its so long, I need help! What should I do? Sincerely Hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2014): Life is too short to put up with people like him. Delete him from your life and move on with someone who really cares for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 February 2014):
 Ok so as long as he’s not breaking up with you it’s ok for him to call you names?
He calls you bitch.
He says “fuck you”
You are having phone and video sex with this man… Have YOU EVER MET HIM FACE TO FACE and spent any time with him?
How long have you been LDR? How did you meet… and what’s the plan to end the distance.
Since you are not going to listen to the wise aunts tell you to get out of this abusive relationship now, I’ll wait for your answers.
BUT I can tell you that when my husband and I were LDR and he would get these moods that he screamed and yelled at me I should have heeded the red flags then and there… He’s an alcoholic and his behavior is negatively affected by his drinking. I just did NOT pick up on the clues early enough and stupidly married him.
IF you can manage to realize that this is NOT a healthy relationship and end it, it would be better for you.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (23 February 2014):
 How does he treat you like a queen? I'd like to know.
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reader, methuselah +, writes (23 February 2014):
Hi,
Time to let him go and run in the opposite direction. This is terrible abuse. Stop all contact now and let him go. But, I believe once you go quiet on him, he will be back in touch. This is because he will feel ignored and need his fix to control you again. If I were you, I would block him and keep him blocked.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (23 February 2014):
 Forget him. The first time he called you a bitch or told you to fuck off should've been the last, as in no more opportunities.
You deserve better than an abusive idiot, and I think you should ask yourself why you've put up with any of this.
You are 36, it's not too late to learn healthy relationship habits. Starting with dumping this guy.
All the best.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 February 2014):
 You write: ".....I love him very much but..."
Considering the "but".... I suggest that you count your Blessings and STAY broken up with this creep!!!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 February 2014):
 What queen does he treat you like - Marie Antoinette ?... She ended badly you know... she was " nexted " too, and very brutally...
OP, seriously ?? You ask what you should do ?.... You should forget about this jerk and let him free to go insult and berate someone else, unless you are a glutton for punishment and enjoy letting men treat you with less respect than they show to the dirt under their nails.
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