I'm 26 weeks pregnant and completely exhausted!
Q. Hi all...im 26 weeks pregnant and exausted!! Im sleeping fine of a night and getting plenty of hours sleep. Im taking pregnancy vitimans and eating and drinking healthy. I have been tested for anemia, low iron ect but all come back clear. Proble...
A. 16 April 2014: Whenever I feel lethargic, I listen to my tape of the last couple of minutes of the 5th game of the NBA championship series between the Celtics and the Phoenix Suns. TALK ABOUT EXCITING!!!! There is NO BETTER sportscasting than Johnny Most ... (read in full...)
How to calm a negative partner?
Q. lately my partner of two years has been VERY negative... and i'm starting to get frustrated! i try to be the best partner possible, i don't know what to do, because lately my partner has been tossing out threats (simple verbal threats like "if you ...
A. 16 April 2014: You can't. Dump him and get a better boyfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my husband with a new set of rules?
Q. After 5 years of relationship and 10 years of marriage,which both work and I was happy with a lot of things,but in the middle of the marriage things started to happening. At the beginning of our marriage he would play a game like loosing his wall...
A. 15 April 2014: Let's go to this part of your submittal: "I am completely lost. I love my husband,but I dont know if I can go back to that life again,his life in a way.Should I go back to him with a set of new rules? Would he change?"
1. No, you shouldn'... (read in full...)
Do I dive off the cliff, hope for the best and ask her out or do I just leave it?
Q. I'm in college now. My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend. I know both of them and get along with them quite well. I really like her but I'm not sure wether or not I'm in the famous "friend zone" or wether she likes me too. We text daily ...
A. 15 April 2014: Think of yourself as a turtle. (and) Remember, a turtle can only get ahead when he sticks his neck out.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Will my mom get over me moving out with bf?
Q. I am moving in with my boyfriend of almost four years and my mom is upset. I made all the arrangements before telling her and she apparently feels that was disrespectful. If I had discussed it before hand I think that would have felt too much li...
A. 14 April 2014: Consider your Mother's point of view....
"Living together" - to her - constitutes "shacking up" and is frowned upon in her religion......
Sure she'll "get over it".... some long time in the future. Want to "help" her get over it NOW (tod... (read in full...)
6 months pregnant and my dog has started waking me up every few hours! Why is she doing this?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but i would like some advice if anyone can give it to me. My problem is my dog....shes 3 years old so not a puppy and we have had her for almost 2 years..so she is very settled in the house. No routines have cha...
A. 14 April 2014: Close your bedroom door, keeping the creature out in the other room... and don't give the issue another thought....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I left this woman to go back to my ex but I've never stopped thinking of her. Should I contact her?
Q. Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back ...
A. 14 April 2014: Take six months... see neither of them... try to grow up... and see how you feel on October 14th, 2014. "The answer" should be clear, by then....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I stay with him out of pity
Q. I want to split up with my boyfriend of four years. Our relationship hasn't been great for all this time because he expects me to do everything. I work long hours and he expects me to come home and clean, walk our dog and cook his meal. He doesn't ...
A. 14 April 2014: So you've got this "guy friend" who doesn't know how to pay his OWN way through life (never MIND you).... and you don't know what to do?????
Here's an idea: Say to him: "Hunchy-bunchy, this isn't Romper Room, with Miss Ann... this is the real... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I need to just be blunt, ask him his salary and then maybe nip it in the bud if it is too little money. Should I be honest?
Q. I'm in my early thirties, I have to think about starting a family. I barely make any money and would maybe prefer being a full time mom. I went out on one date with a sweet guy that seems interested. He told me his job.... I think he makes very ...
A. 14 April 2014: I think you need to be honest with YOURSELF!!!
Your submittal "tells" us that you are looking for a "wallet" to support you... and the/any children that you (and he) spawn..... Sooooooo.....
... why not just be honest, and say to any poten... (read in full...)
Does it seem like he's into me or not?
Q. I'm 18 and have been seeing a guy (21) for the past 3 months or so. He lives about 40 minutes away from me and he has 2 jobs. I really like him but I have my doubts that he is really interested in me. I just wanna say the positive and negative ...
A. 14 April 2014: Print out a copy of your submittal,... show it to him... and say: "Waddaya think???"
THAT should get you the answer to your question....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Which woman do I choose?
Q. Hey. I basically need a bit of help and guidance on which girl I should choose to have my future with. So the 1st girl I am in a relationship with, she is amazing. She is like the good wife, she is traditional and can love and look after her ...
A. 14 April 2014: Who to choose to go for?
Do you REALLY think that you should be asking this of "perfect strangers"????????
Grow up.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Unhappy in my marriage.
Q. I need advice about my marriage. My husband and I have only been married a year, but we've been together for going on 7 years in December. We have a 1 year old together. I feel like we are just coexisting and not even trying to work as a team. He...
A. 14 April 2014: You call this a "marriage"????? PLUS, it took you 7 years to get to this point??? .... and, only NOW, do you see where you are??????
It takes just a few minutes to tell him to "take a hike"... and start divorce proceedings... BECAUSE you failed t... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "emotionally invested"?
Q. If a man who is known for being extremely bad at expressing his emotions but who you think fancies you, blurts out that he is 'emotionally invested' in you/your future, what does that mean? That he cares as a friend? Or more?...
A. 14 April 2014: It means that he's OK with extending "emotional credit" to you, as long as you keep putting out....
Honestly, how izzit that guys get away with feeding you girls these obscure - but oh-so-obvious - lines... and you (girls) think that there's ... (read in full...)
His grown daughters are nasty toward me!
Q. My husband has three daughters, all grown adults with children. His wife died ten years ago. We married two years ago and all three girls took part in our wedding. Every March 22,(the date of her death) the girls rush to mention the date to us and ...
A. 14 April 2014: You move far, far away, and live with hubby and let nasty girls live their lives... far, far away....
Good luck....
P.S. Hope your hubby has grown testicles, in the meantime...... (read in full...)
I'm at a crossroads, do I work things out with my ex or stay with my new boyfriend?
Q. Hello! I am taking the time in advance for taking the time to read my agony and for any help you may provide. I also apologize for the lenghty paragraph. I am at a crossroads. I have an ex husband who I was with for 6 years and we have a...
A. 11 April 2014: May I edit your submittal to give it a bit more clarity???
You write: "I am at a crossroads...."
I suggest you write: "I find it impossible - or, at least stressful - to consider my life without a "man-friend" or "boyfriend".... ... (read in full...)
Could it be he prefers other girls but settles for me because I'm so eager to spend time with him?
Q. Hello. I have a complicated relationship with my best friend. We have known each other for two years now, and have spent a whole lot of time getting to know each other. In fact, we're together so much we are mistaken for a couple all of the time. ...
A. 11 April 2014: Here's a lesson in "guy-speak."
"Respecting my (your) space" means that he is going to avoid making himself available to you - sexually - until you have become so enchanted with him that you will do ANYTHING (short of serious, outright embarras... (read in full...)
Late life dilemma.
Q. I have a dilemma I hope somebody can help me with. My partner and are both 61. We've been together 4yrs and are now engaged. The problem is that we live 35 miles apart and I am the one who does all the travelling. This is due to the fact that my ...
A. 11 April 2014: I can't "see" any solution to your question.... EXCEPT for you to tell this nice guy: "I think you're a great guy.... BUT what remains of your past life is too much for me to blend in to mine.... such that you and I can make a life together.... ... (read in full...)
This incident made me question whether our core values are in sync
Q. I feel very disappointed in my girlfriend of almost 4 years yesterday, but I don't think she understands the core issue (or maybe it's not an issue). We are 29 and 28. We were in a car driving to a birthday event about an hour away with my gir...
A. 8 April 2014: I think it is often - almost ALWAYS - unnecessary, unfair, and controvertial to project our (own) standards on to someone else. That's really what you did to your G/F.
AND, to hold on to that projection.... and question if it's grounds to break... (read in full...)
Why is he pushing me to drink alcohol? Is there something weird about his actions?
Q. i have been seeing this guy for a little while now and we met at the club, and i was drinking a little and just being fun. ( no sexual stuff involved.) After that I've noticed that everytime we go out, and alcohol is present he pushes me to drink...
A. 8 April 2014: This guy obviously "knows" that one of the effects of alcohol is to lower a person's inhibitions...... AND, (so), apparently you've exhibited morals and standards that need a little lowering (for him to get you to put out!).... so he's generously ... (read in full...)
He seems to have a 'type' and I'm not it, should I be concerned?
Q. Ok quick question that needs some honest answers .... If a woman is with a man and he is often commenting in women he thinks are attractive and every single one of those seem like a similar type which happens to be nothing like her ... Does she have ...
A. 8 April 2014: I suggest that you re-focus... NOT on the "type" of woman that catches his eye/attention...... BUT on the fact that he DOES ogle and/or comment about other women when he's with you... THAT can - and often, should - be a deal-breaker. Your "man" ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my boyfriend and his gay friend and the facebook friends list!
Q. What is going on with my boyfriend?. He recently added a gay man that he knows. They haven't been in touch for a long time. This man was going to have an operation to become a woman (I'm not sure if he has had it). My boyfriend told me that his ...
A. 8 April 2014:
Except for the repeated drama, included in your submittal, I might have said: "So, your boyfriend has a buddy who is gay. So what? Big deal." BUT....
... the "drama" leads me to wonder ALL SORTS of things about your B/F..... not least of... (read in full...)
My wife told me about her past sex life and now I can't even look at her
Q. My wife told me of her sex life before, she would go on no strings attached websites and meet men ...3 sums , now I feel sick my wife was passed around groups and used as a sex toy and she loved it , now I can't even look at her, what should I do?...
A. 7 April 2014: Your submittal makes it clear that you have no intention of being with this woman.... since you find her past so offensive.....
Soooo, the "answer" to your question ("... what should I do?") is to simply break-up with her.... You needn't make a b... (read in full...)
Why do my relationships never work out but then with the next girl the guy dates they work out fine?
Q. Dear Cupid, I keep getting into relationships that burn out at around 6 months. Afterwards, the guy seems to move on quickly and find their ideal match, and is completely different with the new partner to how they were when we were dating.The ...
A. 7 April 2014: I think Maureen hit on what is probably THE MOST important detail: i.e. HOW soon (after meeting) did you first put out for the guy?
It's astounding how that one - seemingly innocuous - detail can either scuttle the budding "relatio... (read in full...)
Am I being horrible to ask him to get tested?
Q. What should I do? Why won't he get tested? Am I overreacting? So I haven't being with a guy sexually for 3years now and I've been dating this guy for almost a year now and I want us to start a sexual relationship. He says he hasn't been with any...
A. 6 April 2014: He wants you to "go with him"??!!!????.... What is he? some sort of CHILD who wants "Mommy" to be there, in case the "boo-boo" hurts him??????
I think you can plainly see that this is no MAN that you're dealing with, here....
Decide for yo... (read in full...)
I want to use this meeting to get closure
Q. Hi My question is next weekend I will meeting my ex to return his dvds. It’s been 3 months since our breakup and this will be the first time we’ll meet. I am dreading this meet up but another reason to meet up is to get closure. We were togethe...
A. 5 April 2014: Frankly, I'd avoid this "meet-up"..... wrap his DVDs in a package, mail it to him, and never see him again....
"Closure" is 'way overrated....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
You shouldn't hide anything in a relationship, right?
Q. Hey everyone, Me and my boyfriend been dating for like 2 weeks I know it's still short but he thinks it's disrespectful to look through his phone... I don't have a problem with him going through my phone but he claims he doesn't go through my messa...
A. 5 April 2014: Regardless how much time you have spent together... no matter how close and committed you (both) claim to be.... there's no reason for two people to snoop through one-another's belongings.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this a mind game, does she just want to be friends, what?
Q. Hello Cupid Well, I was dating a girl for about 4 months and I told her that I find her attractive in person and I really like her. We were talking a lot and having lots of fun together ! It was great until I told her.. Then suddenly, after...
A. 5 April 2014: "Sounds" like a game (her game) to me.... and I would suggest that you remain out of that game. It's not worth it...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want him back even though he's behaving like a complete prat
Q. Since my boyfriend left me 4 months ago I don't know who I am. I grew up with my mum my dad died when i was 4 (now 24) so we have always been quite close. My boyfriend of 4 years who I met at uni left me and has made me question myself complete...
A. 5 April 2014: I can't see any question in your submittal. You write: "...I think hes horrible (for blaming alot on me) but it still doesn't make me stop wanting him back..."
Based upon this (phrase), YOU have to do a bit of "homework" and figure out: 1. That... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend tell me he wants a baby when he doesn't even want to live with me?
Q. My boyfriend told me in January that he wants a baby. I was delighted and started eating a healthy diet and looking for a job in his area as I assumed we would of course be moving in together. I never discussed that stuff with him at the time tho...
A. 5 April 2014: OP: Since seeing yet another contribution to your submittal - by you - I can envision you, sitting at your computer monitor, shaking your head, and asking (yourself): "WHY won't these people (the Aunts and Uncles) SEE MY QUESTION more clearly (as I ... (read in full...)
Am I being horrible to ask him to get tested?
Q. What should I do? Why won't he get tested? Am I overreacting? So I haven't being with a guy sexually for 3years now and I've been dating this guy for almost a year now and I want us to start a sexual relationship. He says he hasn't been with any...
A. 4 April 2014: Nope. You're being sensible. If'n he won't agree to be tested for STD's (It's reasonable to "assume" that he has been sexually active, no?)..... then YOU can say, "Sorry, but no test, no fooling around,.... in fact, Good bye."
Stick to your gun... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend tell me he wants a baby when he doesn't even want to live with me?
Q. My boyfriend told me in January that he wants a baby. I was delighted and started eating a healthy diet and looking for a job in his area as I assumed we would of course be moving in together. I never discussed that stuff with him at the time tho...
A. 4 April 2014: This guy is "playing" you like a cheap Stradivarius... and YOU don't seem to understand what he's doing.....
.... AND, meanwhile, you stand to end up with a CHILD.... an 18 year contract, to be sure.... whilest HE gets to run away and act like... (read in full...)
How to deal with people that look you up and down and stare?
Q. I am a self conscious person, quieter at times, and hate confrontation. Whats the best way to deal with people who look you up and down and/or stare when they meet or see you? Yes, yes we all stare a little.. but you know those peop...
A. 3 April 2014: Because I am such a handsome guy, women (AND, some men) often/usually stare at me. I believe it's because they are Mesmerized by my handsomeness......
Rather than take offense, I am flattered. How delightful that they notice this well-cra... (read in full...)
He showed a lot of interest at first and now he's seemingly backed off. Why, and what should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago in a club. A foreigner, that moved to my country to play water polo for one of our clubs. He was staring at me all night, then he introduced himself, we started talking and found out that we have so much in common. ...
A. 3 April 2014: This guy is playing the "four-date" scheme SO BEAUTIFULLY, that, I predict, he will end up in the "Guy" Hall of Fame...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What do people think? I'm 21 and he's my 40 year old lecturer. I'm falling for him. What should I do?
Q. Ok, so i've some how developed a lot of strong feelings for my male lecturer. He's definitely hitting the 40's and I'm 21. There's something about him I love, we've talked a lot on a personal level too, we just ... click. I've pretty much fin...
A. 2 April 2014: There aren't many circumstances in which teacher/student "relationships" are appropriate... and your submittal doesn't give any indication that your's is any different from the "typical" ones.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I move to his state?
Q. Last year I went to visit my best friend in other state. We have been friends for 8 years. Last year until now, he has been asking me to move to the state he is in to be with. He says he love me and we are trying to take our friendship to the next ...
A. 2 April 2014: I can't imagine anything "good" coming from it if you move to be where he is.... What is your status where you are now (job, housing, family....)?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I try my best but he gets angry and irritated with me.
Q. Why is my boyfriend behaving this way? I'm really upset.? My boyfriend is really upsetting me. He's get angry and irritated with me and is making me really upset. I'm a good girl. I try my best with him. I go to gym regularly to keep fit lo...
A. 30 March 2014: I suggest that you STOP being a "good girl".... and START being a BITCH.... THEN, see how he likes having a BITCH for a G/F.....
IF'n he's content with that... then have at it, and make him your slave.....
If'n he catches on, and expects you ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over this offensive incident?
Q. I took a tennis class and this pretty woman walked up to me during the first one and said, "Hi Bob! I lost your e-mail address!" I replied that it was no big deal and I'd give it to her again. She then said to me, "Err, no, that's okay," etc. I wa...
A. 30 March 2014: "Sounds" to me, like she was trying to spiritually castrate you - in front of the others - and succeeded because YOU think that this exchange actually MEANS something... when it DOESN'T....
Do you know how to not give a hoot about stupid things t... (read in full...)
Why do guys string along lots of women at once?
Q. Hi, Why do guys string along lots of women at once? I know this middle aged guy who's about to get married (to his dying fiancé) and has kids, and he has loads of women adoring him at work and is sleeping with many women from work. He's n...
A. 30 March 2014: It's most interesting... how women "respond" to a man who has "equipment" which is quite in keeping with the tools that a miner uses to find gold, in a seam......
As one who so suffers, I can assure you that we (such men) try to accomoda... (read in full...)
Do you my find it appropriate for a woman to sit on your husband's lap?
Q. My husband and I were with friends last night. We were playing a party game and my husband drew a card which made him "Santa Claus." Two of our male friends sat on his lap as a joke and I also sat on my husband's lap. But then one of our friends ...
A. 30 March 2014: The key issue, in our submittal, is did your "Mister" have a stiffy when this woman sat on his lap........ (read in full...)
He was more supportive before the FWB started
Q. First I live in a foreign country and in a small town and luckily for the past five years I have had a male friend who I have spent a lot of time with. In the past I have helped him with many things and last year when my Mum was diagnosed with ...
A. 30 March 2014: It's because, earlier, he was able to get by with some superficial "oh, so sorries".... and NOW, you need some real, genuine concern....
What you've done, is change the dynamics... and, thereby, you've uncovered that he REALLY wasn't interest... (read in full...)
Will alcohol make you have sex with someone of the same gender?
Q. Will alcohol make you have sex with someone of the same gender? Will you completely forget or not realize it happened the next day? I feel guilty a tipsy friend came on to me hard. I had zero intentions of having sex with her but it happened. I felt ...
A. 30 March 2014: Let me tell you a story about alcohol/drugs and sex......
One time, when I was in the Virgin Islands, I was at a favorite watering hole of mine. A young couple came in... the lady was pretty as could be... the young man, clearly, a free spirit..... (read in full...)
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