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26-29,
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writes:I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I have liked guys for all my life. I feel attracted to men and sometimes in a sexual attraction,but I was always uncomfortable with the idea of sex whenever it got to where me and a guy were alone. I'd get so uncomfortable I would push them off of me making most of the guys angry and I would go home. Just recently I slept over at a friends house, I haven't really known her personally for very long but she was always a grade ahead of me so I knew of her. We watched movies, cooked Mac 'n' Cheese with chicken, she'd hug me a lot and I really didn't pay it any attention. Soon after that we fell asleep and I woke up missing my tank top.( just to let everyone know I strip my tank top or shirt while sleeping if it is to hot in a house) So I sat up looking for my tanktop causing my friend to wake up questioning why I was awake so late. I explained to her about my disappearing shirt then I realize in the middle of talking she wasn't looking at my face she was looking right at my breast. She knew she got caught Burt didn't seem to care. She complemented my body and put her hands on my sides softly, it made me feel so a. To get to the point me and her had sex. Now everytime I see her I just want to be near her or hang out or to just tell her good morning. I'm attracted to everything she does. She admits she likes me a lot and that she liked me before I went to her house, she never expected it to happen so quickly. I am honestly more worried about hurting her than I am confused. Please can someone tell me if I am just Bi-curious or Bi-sexual. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 February 2014):
 Sexuality is fluid. It's a spectrum... there are folks that are axsexual meaning that no one or no thing makes them sexually aroused.
Some folks are only interested in members of the opposite sex totally and that's fine
some are only interested in members of the same sex and that should be fine too.
and then there are those of us that are more flexible and realize that "if you can't be with the one you love, honey love the one your with."
You may be bi-sexual. you may still be at the bi-curious stage. this may be a one time thing and you may never want to be with another girl again.
I think that you need to just relax and enjoy what you can and NOT put a label on it at this point.
NO NEED to define yourself at 16/17... you have plenty of time for that.
as for taking off your top in your sleep... I want to assure you that it's pretty normal. I used to take off my clothes and my jewelry in my sleep... and wake up and try to find all the stuff... annoying but better than sleep eating.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 February 2014):
 I'm not sure if I'm straight, or bi- or gay.... but every time I get my G/F to remove her clothes I believe I am zeroing in on the "answer" to that tri-lemma.....
Good luck....
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reader, E_Corbi8  +, writes (23 February 2014):
 Modern society tends to want us to be defined by a sexual category i.e. gay, straight, bi, etc. Everything is easier when it fits into a neat little package, right? Well that's true, it is easier. But easier doesn't mean that it's always correct.No one can ever tell you if you are bi-curious or bi-sexual. Your sexuality is entirely yours, and no one can ever tell you what you should be defined as. I like to think of sexuality as being fluid, changeable. It's like a spectrum wherein you have various degrees of different sexual desires. Human needs are individual and we can each lie anywhere on the spectrum.As for you worrying about hurting your friend, I would say to take things slowly with her. Asking her out on an actual date would be a good move because if you actually like her, it's better to get to know her and perhaps start dating her. The date could be as casual as a cup of coffee and a chat. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2014): But* not Burt and aroused* not a.
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