Should I really have to train my 27 year old boyfriend how to communicate?
Q. Hey, I'm not sure what to do or think. I have dated my boyfriend for a year. and he struggles with communication. I've tried to be very patient and let him be, and let him talk more when he is ready. However a lot of issues starting coming ab...
A. 17 July 2012: rosey: You are validating what I said. There ARE guys "out there" who are well aware of what YOU are "asking"... and it's not really too much to EXPECT a guy to do a little 'cott'n to you... ESPECIALLY when you've clobbered him over the head - ... (read in full...)
My husband is very critical of my friends, what should I do?
Q. My husband doesn't understand why I keep on being friends with some of my girlfriends. More, he developed an attitude of not liking them, because of their actions. He makes negative remarks about them all the time, and with some of them I agree bu...
A. 16 July 2012: Sounds like you've got a wonderful and accomodating hubby, there.....
Re-read your submittal and ask yourself (and him): wouldn't I be better off ignoring YOU (hubby) and spending more time with my FRIENDS, who seem to be a LOT more life-aff... (read in full...)
Should I really have to train my 27 year old boyfriend how to communicate?
Q. Hey, I'm not sure what to do or think. I have dated my boyfriend for a year. and he struggles with communication. I've tried to be very patient and let him be, and let him talk more when he is ready. However a lot of issues starting coming ab...
A. 16 July 2012: "Sounds" to me like there's not so much of a "communication" problem as there is that HE is not so very interested and energetic about your "relationship" as you are.....
Re-read your submittal and see if it isn't from a woman who has a disinter... (read in full...)
Have my wife and friend been intimate behind my back?
Q. A while ago I asked for advice about fulfilling my wifes mfm fantasy with my friend. A resounding 'bad idea' was what most people said,which is fair enough and we are not going to pursue it. However,some of u said that given what I'd said about our ...
A. 16 July 2012: Some "friend"..... He sounds like a creep.... and I can't help but wonder why you haven't yet put him out of your life......... (read in full...)
He wants to leave me because I'm not as smart as he is...
Q. I have a husband that wants to leave me because I'm not as smart as him and he said he's lonely and I feel bad but we have three kids. I'm not perfect I have made some bad mistakes such as I used to hit my partner because he would back me in a ...
A. 16 July 2012: Some people are, quite simply, "intelligence snobs." They think that - because they test high for IQ - that they are a "cut above" us commoners.....
Frankly, I would suggest that you modify your focus.... FROM yourself, TO him.... and spend al... (read in full...)
Why do I always find fault in him?
Q. Please help! I've recently started dating this guy that I dated previously (about 10 years ago). The only reason we stopped dating previously was because we had both been recently divorced and not really looking for anything serious. We stayed in ...
A. 16 July 2012: Clearly, you're trying to scuttle you "new" relationship before it gets any chance to succeed. YOU will have to determine why.....
HOWEVER, consider that it it quite common for one person in a relationship to believe that they can - and should -... (read in full...)
I want him to leave!
Q. i'm a 50 year old lady and i'm married, but i'm not in love with my husband. we have both told each other that we love one another, but we'll not in love with each other. we separate for four months' because he stole from me his attitude was bad he ...
A. 16 July 2012: IF you and hubby OWN your house, please be sure to get some legal advise before you leave that home. Because, by leaving ("abandoning") the house, you may give HIM additional - possibly insurmountable - leverage in getting the value of the house ... (read in full...)
Does this married older woman want to sleep with me?
Q. Ok im 21 and i work in an office with only one other male, all the rest are female. There is one woman in the office who is constantly flirting with me and complimenting me--and i mean outrageously. At a recent night out too she stayed with me all ...
A. 14 July 2012: From your description, it sounds like she is sending you all the "signals." However, rather than plunge forward and place your bet, you need to hold back - as your instincts are telling you. BE PATIENT. IF she's interested in being especially ... (read in full...)
I think I have a foot fetish. Why would I be like this?
Q. I am 18 and for a couple of years I've had this soft spot for a certain porn video. It is all about foot fetish. It's just licking and kissing etcetera and the people are kind of clothed but in real life I have a foot fobia and in any other video ...
A. 27 June 2012: It's really not important "why you are like this."
Having a fetish such as you describe is harmless... and to stifle it is probably more destructive than simply living with it... so let it be.....
Good luck...
"Harmless" means that... (read in full...)
I find boyfriend's friend hitting on me exciting!
Q. My bf is out of town for a couple months for a job. I'm working and going to school in a town where I really only know people I've met through him. Lately I've been spending time out and about with one of his friends here in town that I think is a ...
A. 27 June 2012: Yes. I was flattered and excited when my G/F's 20 Y.O. daughter flirted with me.... but after I experienced a 2-quart saucepan administered across the back of my head, I came to my senses.... and it wasn't nearly so flattered or excited after ... (read in full...)
I know she gave her number to a random guy so I want to go with her when the meet
Q. ok this is abit of a wierd question Just say ur gf gave her number out to some random dude on the internet and u found out, and they havent met yet, but u forced them to meet , woud it make the situation better or worse? say for isntance, i call...
A. 27 June 2012: If my G/F gave her number to a "random guy" under such circumstances, I'd conclude that:
1. I was in the process of being dumped, and,
2. She's an idiot to make such a "date".... , AND,
3. She probably wouldn't want me around for that "date."... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl?
Q. Hello everyone, I don't know if Im being paranoid by asking this question. Well, is it wrong for a guy to have slept with only one girl? Because when my friends talk or having conversations, they boast or brag about having sex with four or more ...
A. 27 June 2012: Yes.... any guy who hasn't had s*x with AT LEAST four (4) girls is sadly deficient in the "nik-nik" department.
He MUST guard/protect that detail of his life, lest women treat him as people behaved towards lepers, in the past!!!
This is a cut... (read in full...)
Should I tell my current boyfriend about the trouble with my ex?
Q. Hi everyone :) Please give some advice from an outside perspective as I am stressing out! I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years (mainly emotional, some physical). It was like a cycle and everytime I tried to leave he'd cry, promise...
A. 26 June 2012: I wouldn't say word one about the last "relationship" that you had - to this new B/F..... HE (or, SHE) has gotten me out of that past, Gawdawful, arrangement, and allowed me to meet a new B/F who is pretty good..... Don't screw things up, now... (read in full...)
We had sex on first date, deal breaker?
Q. I met a guy the other night through friends and he was fantastic. Great looking, well educated and smart. We are about the same number (attractiveness) and went to the same college. I asked him to do something towards the end of the night and he ...
A. 26 June 2012: Having s*x prematurely in the "relationship" scheme IS a deal breaker. NOT for HIM.... he has gotten what HE wanted...... but for YOU... because, NOW, you have compromised all your principles.... and made it 'way too easy for him.... AND given him ... (read in full...)
He lies about watching porn and its damaging our sex life
Q. Hi everyone, Ive been in a relationship for almost 2 years and i always make it clear at the start of a relationship i don't accept porn, reason being i don't feel its needed when you have a partner willing to please you, it just makes me feel una...
A. 26 June 2012: "Sounds" like the two of you are incompatible... AND you are a snoop.... WHY would you (two) even begin to think that there should be "anything" between you?????... (read in full...)
She doesn't get 'wet' before sex, is it me?
Q. I have been dating a girl and mostly things are fine but i have a bit of an issue with sex. The problem is that my girlfriend does not get 'wet' very easily. I usually initiate sex and we have it pretty regularly... 3 times a week. When using...
A. 26 June 2012: Yes. There are water-based lubricants which can "address" exactly the "problem" which you describe...... Take advantage of them (they're not very expensive!), and get on with your life...... (read in full...)
He dumps me with no reason but normally comes back, but this time it is different. How can I make everything normal again?
Q. he always dumps me but with no reason and after some time he always comes back, but now he does not want to talk to me and he is saying that he has to go outside for his studies thats why, but this reason he has told me before also what to do to ...
A. 26 June 2012: WHY would you continue to take part in a "relationship" wherein this childish behaviour is "normal?"........ (read in full...)
How do I know my online guy is for real?
Q. I have meet a guy in on a dating site , we only send mails with each other within a month and he tells me he loves me and wants to be his wife,i am confuse as of now if i'll believe him or not ,what will i dont know if his for real...
A. 26 June 2012: I think my Brother was very smart when he told me: "Believe none of what your hear... and only 1/2 of what you see..."
I believe that this applies here....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, I confronted him and he got mad, what do I do?
Q. I have been dating a new guy for about 4 months now. Our relationship moved pretty fast but we were both happy about it.He is a friend of my brothers, totally opposite of any guy I ever dated. I have a little boy who will be 2 in a few months and he ...
A. 26 June 2012: WHY would you waste even a MINUTE with this guys who has PROVEN that he is not a "nice" guy???? AND - incidentally - why would you expose your SON to this creep???
You say that "...he woudl move in with my son and I..." Well.... looka like THA... (read in full...)
How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back?
Q. Okay ladies, I have a question for you. How long does it take for your pubic hair to grow back? I tried shaving almost all of it off, thought I liked it at first, but now I can't stand it...the maintaining is too time consuming and I am startin...
A. 26 June 2012: You know.... we guys LIKE a well-tended playing field!!!!... (read in full...)
How can I make him jealous on Facebook?
Q. Im dating a guy and everything is going on well. The only problem is sometimes i don't feel like he loves me. So i have come up with a plan that is to make him jealous. I know it might sound silly but thats the only plan i can think of. He really ...
A. 26 June 2012: Why bother?????... (read in full...)
Will my ex go back to his ex wife? Can marriages work after such a long separation?
Q. I wrote before about my boyfriend being reluctant to divorce his wife that hes been seperate from for two and a half years. He was involved with me for the last ten months and she was involved and living with a guy for the whole duration of the ...
A. 23 June 2012: Turmoil, such as you have here, seems to feed on itself... and YOU are likely to live in tumultous circumstances until/unless you TAKE A BREAK from this situation that you describe.... and give it no less than six months to settle out.... and THEN ... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex with the hope that he really has changed?
Q. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. He felt we could work through what we had, but I was tired of him saying he would change and not seeing any attempts/difference. We were together for just over a year. The reason I broke it also is because ...
A. 23 June 2012: What do you do??? The answer is RIGHT HERE in your submittal. To wit: "...I was tired of him saying he would change and not seeing any attempts/difference..."
There are oodles of women (and men) who live in misery because they are STILL waiting ... (read in full...)
How can I get a bigger butt?
Q. Hi everyone. Im the slim type but my problem is i have a small butt, how can i get a bigger butt without applying any cream? What kind of exercises are suitable to get a bigger butt? Please your advice are welcome...
A. 23 June 2012: Your submittal - similar to others that we've seen asking, "Should I get breast augmentation?" - drive me crazy....
WHY do some young women believe that guys are shallow enough to actually BELIEVE that that B/S that YOU (young women) see in "beau... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 22 June 2012: You write: "He doesn't regard me as immature..." Have you ever read the book "I'm OK; You're OK"? If not, go get a copy and do so.... It's frustrating - and not healthy - to live in a "parent/child" relationship..... Good luck....... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time, but worried what my boyfriend will think of me naked!
Q. Hi everyone :) Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex for the first time this weekend, and im completely ready in every way except that im really insecure about my body. Im a bit chubby and im worried he'll be totally repulsed my me and not want ...
A. 21 June 2012: Let me assure you - with the wisdom of having sometimes gone MANY, MANY, MANY years without seeing a woman's body naked - that your B/F is going to LOVE seeing your naked body... and, in his euphoria, he will not see ANY of the "defects" that you ... (read in full...)
Lost virginity to two Malaysian hookers. Should I feel bad?
Q. I am in the navy and am 21 years old. When i was in Malaysia a couple years back, me and my friends were partying at a club in downtown Kuala Lumpur. We were all drinking and getting pretty drunk. Then late into the night, the club started to ...
A. 21 June 2012: Outside of the tests that you're going to have done - for STDs and HIV - I think this incident is nobody's business except YOUR's!!!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had an open box of condoms, and they had different expiry dates
Q. yesterday i went to my boyfriend of 3 years house. we were kissing in bed and he pulled out a open box of condom 3 pack.i was skeptic, as in why would that be open if its brand new? hes always suspicious of me having condoms at my house even if i ...
A. 21 June 2012: I can hardly imagine what a great time the two of you are going to have doing nik-nik in the next few minutes... with you stewing over this......... (read in full...)
Is it possible a girl might be willing to save me....
Q. Is is wrong...as a guy, to want to be "saved" by a girl? I guess I don't exactly know what I want from women but I do believe I want to be with them. Still, I've never been in a relationship with a girl...NEVER!! Girls just never seem to like ...
A. 21 June 2012: IF you've been hanging with girls who start in telling you how to "improve" yourself... then you need to find a different circle of "friends."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do I go or stay away? Even though she invited me? My Bf will be there.
Q. So my boyfriend's friend is having a cookout next Saturday me and That guy's wife and I don't mix too well together. If I go it will be the first time I've seen them in a year. I feel nervous to go like I'm not welcomed by her to be there, but at t...
A. 21 June 2012: SHE invited you????? Then GO... and be your politest, best.... and have a good time, whilest spending your precious time with your B/F.
I don't think there's a "question" in here, anywhere....
Have fun....... (read in full...)
No sex or affection from my husband, but he doesn't want a divorce either! What should I do?
Q. My husband is not affectionate with me, or want any sex with me. He is totally cold with me. But does not want to divorce. He says he loves me,and he has no idea what happened to him. This is the 7 th year like that. Started suddenly, and never ...
A. 21 June 2012: In order to start or continue a relationship/marriage two people must have several compatibilities.... and s*xual/sensual is one of them. What you've described is that you and hubby have gone afield as regards this compatibility....
You and he M... (read in full...)
My wife has been spending time with a younger man for years despite my protests, so should I start something with the younger woman interested in me?
Q. Hi thanks for your time, my wife of 30 years enjoys the company of a younger man she says nothing is going on. I halfway believe it but the pattern of disrepect is really getting to me. I tell her I don't want her going out with him and she laughs ...
A. 21 June 2012: I'm not going to tell you to dump the wife and take up with the babe.... Sorry....
What I AM going to suggest is that you and wifey reconcile just what is going on between the two of you.... and, are you (two) going to stay married, or should t... (read in full...)
I want to ensure my long term relationship will last. So what are your thoughts on my theories on what might work?
Q. this is a question going out to all the ladies out there who are in love with their partner. 1) do you prefer your partner to be more dominating/controlling in the relationship or 2) do you prefer them to be more distant and less controlling,...
A. 21 June 2012: Jay: Marriages and relationships seem to defy having a "recipe".... I hope you will read up on the way(s) to get along with EVERYBODY, and practice what you learn on the lucky girl who you'd like to have for a wife....... (read in full...)
How do I tell my brother and father I don't want to go into business with them?
Q. My father and brother are planning on starting a family business and they want me to be involve. The problem is that I do not want to be part of their business. What is the best way to tell them I do not want to go into business with them? I lo...
A. 21 June 2012: You say to them: "Dad, (brother's name), I love you both... and hope that your business venture is a big success.... but I don't wish to join you in it....."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why did he lie to me about wanting to get married?
Q. I'm a 30 year old female and I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I am devastated because I genuinely thought that we would be married. He said that we had a long future together, that we would never break up. When I asked him what was going on ...
A. 21 June 2012: This is an example of a guy saying just enough to keep his s*x partner interested.... but not so much that he can't reverse field and stay in a holding pattern....
You, OP, must decide if you are going to wait indefinitely for this guy to make a d... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and cares for me, but his actions say otherwise....
Q. Hi, I've been in a kinda long distance relationship we see one another between every and 4 weekly and on our2nd holiday we had our first dusagreement mostly steming from feelings.it come to ahead with me asking him if he wanted to split, he said n...
A. 21 June 2012: Note to (all) women: ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS.... judge a man by his ACTIONS and NOT HIS WORDS!!!!!!! (How much heartache could be avoided if you would just do this??????)
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I believe she still wants me, how do I find out her true feelings?
Q. How do I have her to open up? My girlfriend broke up with me because she said she wasn't happy with herself, and wanted to find herself. I freaked out, but eventually it happened. She doesn't want to talk to me, and if we do it's awkward. She has...
A. 21 June 2012: How about taking a break of, say, six months, from contact with this girl? That time will give BOTH of you a "clean slate" in life, allowing you (both) to step back from the pressure of the "relationship" that you (both) are not sure if you're ... (read in full...)
My husband always brings his daughter into our conversations, what should I do?
Q. I love my husband and my step-daughter. The problem I'm having is that when me and my husband get into adult conversations, he always feels the need to bring his daughter into the conversation to get her opinion, mainly when he is trying to prove ...
A. 21 June 2012: Some parents go overboard in trying to be a "friend" with their child.... Your hubby seems to be one of them....
Take him aside, when daughter isn't around, and calmly tell him that some of your (your's and his) conversations are between ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my partner or my family?
Q. hello, i love my partner dearly but he lives away from me and i am with my family at the moment. my partner has asked me to move with him but im torn. i love being with my family and i know i would miss them a lot, especially since i would not...
A. 21 June 2012: You write about your "partner".... but I don't see the word "hubby" in here.....
You are wise to stay with your family until YOU (and this guy) actually ARE a "family" (as evidenced by a MARRIAGE license)....
I'm not trying to be "preachy"....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is controlling! Help!
Q. my boyfriend is controlling! hi me and my boyfriend has been together for about 4months and so far so good/bad. he gives me a cut off time to talk to my guy friends. only at 6pm. he tells me when i may do anything. but when it comes to sex oh hes ...
A. 21 June 2012: Your submittal includes just about every bit of evidence of how a controller/abuser behaves...
WHY keep yourself within his sphere????? Dump him and get a nice boyfriend....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My husband has come out of prison after 4 years and is now angry all the time!
Q. my husband just got out of prison.he was in for four years. i was happy hes home but its like hes very angry and demanding now .he yells at me and tells me awful things that keep me up at night. he has not hit me idont think he will but i am ...
A. 21 June 2012: Who KNOWS what hubby endured during his prison experience?
BUT, you would be a great wife if you encouraged him to seek professional help in looking at and addressing this anger problem.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I have a little crush on my friend, but could never date him because he is overweight! How do I talk to him about his weight so he can be the perfect guy for me?
Q. Hi guys. I would really love some thoughts and opinions on my situation. First off i am 25 years old and after some horrible relationships iv finally found peace in being single and living life. I have joined volunteer work to void some of my ...
A. 21 June 2012: You write: "...i am never one to judge.." then proceed to tell us how you are JUDGING this guy.... Caught in a fib..
On the other hand... there are good reasons for people to NOT be overweight, as you know.... You can (and probably ought to... (read in full...)
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