Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 30 August 2012: P.S. ANYTHING ELSE that you do will just get you a place back in line for still some more heartache and dispair.
Remember this advice, from Smokey the Bear: "Only YOU can prevent heartache and dispair.."... (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 30 August 2012: You write: "....I don't know what to do, as I do not want to get hurt again.x..."
Here's "what to do"..... IGNORE HIM, for NOW and the-rest-of-your-life.....
Case closed....
... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 25 August 2012: OP: Do you think we should go to dinner some night? THAT could be our FIRST date....... XO... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who isn't my husband and think its time to walk away from my marriage
Q. I'm in love with someone other than my husband. What should I do?? My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and we have two children. We only dated a few months before I became pregnant with our first child. I don't believe we ever got a ...
A. 24 August 2012: The very first thing that you and Mr Lucky should do is cool your prospective ruinations of your marriages.... and wait 6 months before you (and he) do ANYTHING!!!!
If, on February 25, 2013, you can take a look at this submittal and say to yours... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who isn't my husband and think its time to walk away from my marriage
Q. I'm in love with someone other than my husband. What should I do?? My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and we have two children. We only dated a few months before I became pregnant with our first child. I don't believe we ever got a ...
A. 24 August 2012: The very firs thing that you and Mr Lucky should do is cool your prospective ruinations of your marriages.... and wait 6 months before you (and he) do ANYTHING!!!!
If, on February 25, 2013, you can take a look at this submittal and say to yourself... (read in full...)
Is he falling in love or is he just stringing me along?
Q. The married man i have been seeing for the last 7yrs we are both in our sixties,is suddenly telling me he can't do without me, misses me terribly,and that i'm more than just a friend i am a very special part of his life and he doesn't want to loose ...
A. 24 August 2012: When a single (or, married) woman is spending time with a MARRIED MAN all common-sense assessment about what is going on "between" them is out the window.... Affairs have a life - and rules - of their own...
His new plaints of love for you... v... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is a professional liar and cheat. How do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
Q. I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater... I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom...
A. 24 August 2012: I'd love to learn about how you had this "accidental" find...
Otherwise.... why not just let him be gone???? What purpose do you expect to serve by haunting around HIS life? How about just getting on with YOUR'S (life)????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been using casual hook up sex sites and I cant seem to get over this! Help!
Q. Dear all. Please help. I can't sleep as I found out my BF has been using casual sex websites to hook up with different girls for no strings sex. I feel sick. I have been very intimate with him and was deeply in love with him. We have had a rough ...
A. 24 August 2012: "Sounds" to me like you and your B/F have just about no compatibility.... and it's time for the two of you to go your separate ways....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He's so much taller than me, will this work?
Q. This guy i've met we get along really well as if we've known each other a lot longer than the past couple weeks, we like the same things so we have a fair amount in common. He's really sweet and fun to be around, and good thing is he's funny in such ...
A. 24 August 2012: This difference in height is of absolutely NO IMPORTANCE as to whether or not you and your guy-friend are compatible.....
Good luck.... ... (read in full...)
My husband has been sneaky lately and I found a flavored condom in his pocket that he blamed on our son!
Q. Lately, my husband of 9 yrs. has been a little sneaky. he talks to all kinds of women, first of all he's a photographer OK. Now it's one particular friend that he tells her he loves her. Just recently, while I was doing laundry,a flavored condom ...
A. 23 August 2012: Most guys will only plan to use chocolate-flavored condoms with their WIFE..... ONLY if you were to find a peppermint or Clove flavored condom do you need to be concerned....
P.S. IF the condom really WAS your son's... then it may be that he ... (read in full...)
Why am I starting to feel like this after being broken up 5 months?
Q. I don't really know what is going on with me, my ex and i have been broken up 5 months after being together 16 months we have a 1 year old. and he got married to a girl he was dating a month. anyway i've never felt this way EVER! yesterday i had ...
A. 23 August 2012: It's obvious, to me, that Karma is at work here....... (read in full...)
I'm having inappropriate sexual thoughts. How can I stop this?
Q. Currently I have been extremely turned on and have been craving oral sex. My boyfriend is the best I had ever had, but recently I have been having awful thoughts. For some reason I am craving being gone down on by someone with full lips and I ...
A. 23 August 2012: I would get in touch with a good tailor, locally, and ask him or her to make me an asbestos suit that you might wear following your demise.... since the thoughts that you are thinking will ASSURE that you will spend Eternity on the "river of fire" ... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 23 August 2012: In the "four-date" scheme, a guy acts like a GENTLEMAN through the first THREE dates..... and doesn't pressure the lady for s*x.
We (guys) KNOW that you girls EXPECT US to press for you to put out by the third date.... and so, if three dates pa... (read in full...)
Gents, is your 2nd erection/orgasm as good as 1st when in quick succession?
Q. Guys, When you have a 2nd session of intercourse in quick succession do you feel same/similar feelings? We often go for a 2nd round and though I enjoy it it's HERE near as good as the first round. Maybe it's to do with timing and I need a bigg...
A. 22 August 2012: It always seems to depend upon WHO are the girls who make themselves available..... Mom and three sisters is Uber-good.... Mom, Aunt and two sisters is exquisite... Three sisters and a not-very attractive or sexy nieighbor? Well... a guy's gotta ... (read in full...)
Women: Why do you stay with your man?
Q. how do you keep a woman? please im asking this advice to women who are married or have been with someone long term, why do you stay with your man? I am in a relationship with a girl i love very much, and yes we have our ups and downs but i alwa...
A. 22 August 2012: You can be certain that your lady will never stray if:
1. You take out - and operate - the vacuum cleaner now and again,.... and,
2. You make sure that she is satisfied at the end of the evening.... just before going to sleep.... and,
... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my aunt?
Q. Hey I'm 19 years old and I live with my aunt and she strict and mean. I am in college the only one in fact but she disapproves , I'm paying for school my self so it's no money out get pockets. And the problem is she never lets me do anything like u ...
A. 22 August 2012: Lovely-sounding Aunt you've got there....
Figure out how to get away from her.... and never look back...
Good luck.... Study hard!!!!... (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 22 August 2012: You and he are in the process of breaking up.....
For HIM, it was something instantaneous.... and he's playing his part...
For YOU, it is something that is lingering, and you disdain of letting go of whatever was going on between the two ... (read in full...)
I'm upset that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for my birthday
Q. I'm kind of bothered by the fact that my boyfriend didn't care to get me anything for my birthday. I'm not materialistic and I don't really want any specific item but like the saying goes, "It's the thought that counts" and I feel like he didn't p...
A. 22 August 2012: Wellll, perhaps by the time you get to your 30th birthday you will have learned that THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
If I can't orgasm while masturbating and thinking about my boyfriend, does it mean I'm not attracted to him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend, Henry, for three years, loved him for seven. He's currently away in Washington visiting his relatives for the summer. He won't be back until September 9th. I love Henry and I've always been attracted to him. My frien...
A. 22 August 2012:
One time, I was masturb**ing and fantasizing about my favorite girl, when a tree limb fell on my roof!!!! (It had been windy outside!)..... I wasn't able to "finish" the deed!
BUT, I understood that it was simply an aberration ... a one-time o... (read in full...)
I snooped. I didn't find evidence of cheating, but what I did find is really bothering me
Q. I snooped. He always has said I could go through phone, email, anything whenever I wanted because he has nothing to hide. Something he said the other day raised some suspicion so I snooped somewhere I've never looked before. I did not find evidence ...
A. 22 August 2012:
That card will be the "pebble in your shoe" for as long as you let it....
You can remove your shoe and shake out the pebble... OR, you can endure the pebble and let it bother you until those shoes are completely worn out (and you discard them... (read in full...)
Advice for the new girl at college needed!
Q. Hi! So I start at a new college in September and Im really nervous/scared. I dont know anyone on the course I'm starting, so it's like a fresh start. I have trouble starting a conversation, talking to new people and joining in with conversa...
A. 22 August 2012:
Remember that every fourth person you encounter is in your position....
Be yourself.... smile a lot... listen a lot....
Study hard....
Enjoy yourself...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Men: Why can't you just say "I'm not that into you?"
Q. Hello, I'm 48 and feel like I should have this relationship stuff all figured out, not the case at all. Also, it does not matter your age when you feel strongly about that special person-your heart still feels like a 16 y/o girl. I met this m...
A. 22 August 2012:
Here's your lesson on "Guy think", relative to not being in to a woman....
1. Our primary goal in life is to spread our seeds (have s*x - we justify it biologically!). NEVER overlook that....
2. Women who put out too soon after meeting r... (read in full...)
Why am I still pining for him three years later?
Q. I've been in love with my teacher for almost seven years now. Let's call him Peter. When we met, I was 14. Peter was 42. At the time, he'd been engaged so that was yet another reason why I didn't pursue him. During high school, we had spent a lot of ...
A. 22 August 2012:
You write: "I don't want to be in love with him for the rest of my life. I want to fall in love with someone else and get married and have children."
I suggest that you DO "be in love with him for the rest of (upir) life..." and chalk it up ... (read in full...)
Men: When you have sex, how often are you thinking of someone that you're not with?
Q. These questions are mostly for men but women can feel free to answer as well: 1. When you have sex with your gf or wife, how often do you picture another woman in your head while doing it? 2. Who are they? (friends, women you saw on the s...
A. 22 August 2012:
I always date women named "Shirley" so that, when I fantasize about Shirley MacLain during coitus I don't yell out a (the) wrong name....
Several years back,... I dated a girl who had trouble remembering my name from amongst her many conques... (read in full...)
B/f never wants to discuss the future! I know this isn't good!
Q. Ok, so here goes. My boyfriend and I are coming up on 4 years together and it's kind of got me thinking "where is our relationship going?" He is 27 and I'm 26. We have lived together for a little over a year now. We have a dog together. I am ...
A. 22 August 2012:
I would consider the job/career thing to be the smoke-screen that prevents you from addressing his REAL problem (relative to your's and his "relationship")..... i.e. HE has a G/F who panders to him - even to the extent of making his excuses for ... (read in full...)
I lost my mind and hurt someone I really love
Q. Thanks in advance for any help =) Ok, here is my situation. I just turned 30 and I had my share of pain in relationships and, because of that, I had a long period when I couldnt fall in love anymore. Until about 10 months ago I met my girlfrie...
A. 22 August 2012:
If the two of you are toxic to one-another, it's OK to admit that and go your separate ways....
That said.... the lead-in of your submittal reveals that BOTH OF YOU have an immature streak that could use addressing.... perhaps by confiding in... (read in full...)
He wants my panties
Q. So me and my boyfriend of two years were just snuggling in his bed when he suddenly asked me if I could give him a pair of my panties. He asked me with this big smile on his face like he was a bit nervous and at the same time excited. We haven't had ...
A. 22 August 2012: Many of us guys like to keep a pair of our lady's undies either under our pillow or in our pillow case. It makes the nights much better....... (read in full...)
I went snooping on my b/f. Now we are trying to get things back to normal but its strained! Help?
Q. I admit I was snooping and found lots of pictures of a my fiances exes that he said he had deleted. I was depressed about it and left it a few days before I spoke to him about it. When I did he went mad, first saying he thought he had deleted them ...
A. 22 August 2012:
I'd say the odds of you and him ever recovering from your snooping are about 50/50..... BUT, if you like one-another, keep trying (to reconcile and go on....)
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 22 August 2012: In your follow-up, you write: "He's not your run of the mill grope, shag and run or he surely would have pushed me to have sex with him - and he hasn't."
Have you ever heard of the "four date scheme"?... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.
Q. Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...
A. 22 August 2012: You write: "He told me, he wouldn't mind going out with me, but just not ready for it...."
Do you suppose he'll be more ready for it once he's carried out his plan to make you compromise your morals?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Does he need time or just being nice?
Q. He broke up with me in a nice way. I still feel a little confused though. He said he isn't ready for a commitment so thats why he ended things so okay with that but @ the end of the break up email he wrote and I quote- "Hope someone gives you ...
A. 22 August 2012: That's the little piece of bait that we (guys) include at the end of a break-up in hopes that it will trigger you making yourself available for s*x in the future....... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friend with benefits that we should be in a relationship again?
Q. I dated this guy for a year and a half. We've been through a lot. Then he dated my best friend and it killed me inside a little. After she dumped him I started talking to him again and started being friends. Then we started being Friends with ...
A. 22 August 2012: No right-thinking guy, who has a woman who will be his FWB (read; "convenient and available lay") is going to willfully want to change that....
Think twice........ (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 22 August 2012: Your submittal is a gallant attempt to justfy acting like a RAT.... but, unfortunately, most of us see it for just what it is....... (read in full...)
My marriage is over, I know this, but it is a good idea to contact one of the girls my husband has been cheating with?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to a serial cheater for 28 years. I have prayed, screamed, cried, stalked, snooped, anything I could do to make him see what he was doing. Honestly, even though I "knew" what he was doing, I never actually caught h...
A. 22 August 2012: Why bother?....... (read in full...)
I do everything he wants but I don't get anything in return.
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 2 yrs never have time for me nowadays. Never calls, never picks up the call. I always hv to apologies even for his mistakes, always takes me granted. I just want him to be nice to me, i do everything he wants but I don't get anyt...
A. 22 August 2012: The guy that you described sounds very self-centered... and as if he doesn't have time for a "girlfriend...."
Soooo, DON'T BE THE "GIRLFRIEND" THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 20 August 2012: It "sounds" to me like you're chasing him... and he's enjoying the pursuit (especially knowing that he can let you catch him any time!).....
Since his feedback is luke-warm, at best....Why would you bother?
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I am heartbroken by his lack of communication. What should I do?
Q. My husband and I have been separated for four years and are currently going through a divorce, which will be complete about a month from now. We were separated so long because I was waiting for him to turn 65. He was on my health insurance, and he ...
A. 20 August 2012: I can offer some help with how men think,... and what we think about....
When a man clams up and sez he has to "sort some things out".... he means that he is going to ignore you and retreat to his man-cave to see if he can come up with a sweeter ... (read in full...)
How do couples who don't live together develop deeper connections?
Q. How do couples who don't live together develop deeper connections? I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months. He does not own his own place and I myself am living with my parents. I find that we spend most of our time outside on dates and ...
A. 20 August 2012: I recently read an article in a national (and well-known) news magazine.... which article was about couples (even some who are married!) who keep separate addresses....
The long and short of it is that people will live in the arrangement that sui... (read in full...)
How not to be a nagging girlfriend
Q. I've realized I tend to look a lot at flaws in my boyfriend instead of looking and focusing in the good things. I remember that with my first boyfriend, everything was perfect (this was four years ago). After a very sad and painful breakup, I had ...
A. 20 August 2012: Perhaps you need to "learn" that you should NEVER take a man as a date/friend/B/F/partner with ANY inking that YOU are going to CHANGE him......
THAT ("changing" someone) is ALWAYS a recipe for relationship disaster.....
ALWAYS.... wh... (read in full...)
Too soon to share past sexual history? It scared me. Do ALL guys do this during online relationships?
Q. Is this a red flag?...I just started talking to someone I met online, and things were going great until he starts asking me about what is the most wildest and crazy thing I have done sexually. I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it ...
A. 20 August 2012: I would only comment on this phrase: "I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it is not something I want to reveal so early...."
Frankly, you need NEVER answer such a question..... YOUR PAST is none of HIS business!!! (... unless y... (read in full...)
Will the age difference come between us? I'm not feeling right about how this is going. Am I worrying too much?
Q. Hi readers. I met a guy a few weeks ago who works 3 weeks on 1 week off. We finished up going to bed the first night and I didn't expect to hear from him again. He has since contacted me and wants to catch up again. He asked me if I'd like to ge...
A. 20 August 2012: Go with your "gut feeling"....... (read in full...)
Is he uncertain about marriage? The indirect way he answers the question bothers me.
Q. Hi :) I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and now have been living with him for about 3 months. He is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, without a doubt. We both have two children from previous marriages. About 6 months ag...
A. 20 August 2012: You may take him EXACTLY "at his word."
He said, "IF (he) were EVER to marry again, (it would be to you)...."
Focus on "IF"......
HE's "got" all he wants.... YOU have to decide if YOU have all YOU want....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I still love her. We have a child together. How can I get over the fact that she has rejected me? It hurts.
Q. Hello all Last April my partner of 7 years suddenly broke off our relationship, saying she no longer felt happy. She had been going to see a therapist about her life in general, and ending our relationship seemed to be part of what she felt sh...
A. 19 August 2012: I love it when I learn that people have been able to put a label on their "conditions".....
Your G/F is now, officially "ADHD" so it doesn't make much sense to try to get her to act like an adult, because she has a "medical condition" which al... (read in full...)
Partner is abusive and keeps saying I'm cheating. Why is he suddenly acting this way?
Q. I have been in this relationship with this man for 9 years, and i really do love him, I have always been faithful to him and been there for him through all the good and bad. I overall consider myself a good woman and a great catch to a man who would ...
A. 19 August 2012: WHO cares... if it's "sudden" or otherwise..... It sounds like he is an A*S..... and you will be well rid of him...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I don't know if I trust my man to be faithful when we are far away from one another
Q. Hi everyone. I'm 25 living in Vietnam, and my ex bf is 27 in the US. My parents live in the US too. We used to planned to get engaged in the end of this year. But since he had got unemployed for almost a year, I decided to get break up because I ...
A. 19 August 2012: Don't. Men are - traditionally - dogs..... and they lead with their penises.... and have no loyalty, whatsoever....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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