I have a little crush on my friend, but could never date him because he is overweight! How do I talk to him about his weight so he can be the perfect guy for me?
Q. Hi guys. I would really love some thoughts and opinions on my situation. First off i am 25 years old and after some horrible relationships iv finally found peace in being single and living life. I have joined volunteer work to void some of my ...
A. 21 June 2012: You write: "...i am never one to judge.." then proceed to tell us how you are JUDGING this guy.... Caught in a fib..
On the other hand... there are good reasons for people to NOT be overweight, as you know.... You can (and probably ought to... (read in full...)
Why do people always judge a book by its cover? I want women to see me for who I really am, not just how young I look!
Q. It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me. I'm 39 I'm a straight male with beautiful blue eyes, but I look a lot younger than my age I look to be about 16 ish maybe 20 tops I ...
A. 21 June 2012: As it happens, the cover is the only part of the book that we can see without OPENING the darn thing!!!!!
Sooo, you might expose a few paragraphs of yourself - when the time is right - and see if you can find a woman who'd like to "read" you........ (read in full...)
It seems he is comitted to me, but the affection has gone! How do I confront him without losing him?
Q. Dear Cupid, It all started with a kiss last April, thus began the most intense, loving relationship I ever had. After dating an abusive, horrible man this was a welcome change. My new man told me he would one day make me his wife, and was so, so i...
A. 21 June 2012: I think the most important phrase in your entire submittal is this one: "...and I am scared I am going to lose him."
Consider to STOP reacting to FEAR and, instead, reconcile to yourself that it IS possible that you and he might (ever) go your ... (read in full...)
Irrational fear of my boyfriend masturbating
Q. Over 2 years ago I was sexually assaulted. A few months later I met my current boyfriend. After maybe 6 months of us being together, I found that he had looked at porn. I dont know what happened in my brain but I totally lost it and honestly it ...
A. 21 June 2012: Consdiering the intensity of your fear/reaction to what's happened, I suggest that you seek PROFESSIONAL counselling to see if you can come to grips with this past incident...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He is not looking for a relationship - should I go out with him anyway and hope it turns into something more? Could we end up as a happy couple?
Q. hi cupids I have this dilema and would like some advice were possible. I have over the past year had a crush on my bus driver ( I know pretty out there ) lol and one day I became a bit brave after a few dutch courage drinks and wrote my phone n...
A. 21 June 2012: IF you are looking for a relationship, and he is not... then you risk looking desperate and clingy if you pursue him....
THAT gives him (any guy) all the motivation he needs in order to take advantage of you (read: "have s*x with you")...... (read in full...)
Should women also carry condoms?
Q. Usually guys will have one or two hidden in their wallets just in case they get lucky. However, should women do the same? What are your thoughts?...
A. 20 June 2012: It's an EXCELLENT idea for a woman to carry condoms in her purse, in the event that she believes that she will be sexually active (some time).... AND, here's why it's so good: The latex or rubber from which condoms are made will deteriorate rath... (read in full...)
Maybe I shouldn't have allowed my sister and mother to have an opinion about him and the cross-dressing?
Q. Well what a few weeks its been having written about my ex on here, and saying i wasnt going to see him again... well i went on a date with another guy which ended in disaster well actually me telling the guy to go forth... as he made a remark about ...
A. 20 June 2012: Shelley: Things will get a LOT better if you will go and have your scissors sharpened.... and then use them to snip the apron strings by which you are tied to your Mother and Sister....
While you're at it.... get a pair of ear-plugs so that you... (read in full...)
Any of you ever had any success reforming a lifelong liar?
Q. My guy is a compulsive liar. Every time I catch him lying he promises he won't do it again but he's been doing it so long it's a way of life for him. I believe the phrase "three's the charm" because we all mess up and deserve a second chance but no ...
A. 20 June 2012: There's a reason for that old Irish saying: "once bitten; twice, shy...."
Good luck... (with your new, non-lying boyfriend)........ (read in full...)
We're fighting alot, starting college in the fall and I'm afraid he's going to find someone else
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to be starting college this August. We have been together for four months now.It seems like we are always fighting or I am always pissing him off. It seems like he only wants me for my body, although he claims this to be ...
A. 20 June 2012: You are oh-so-close to the "answer" to your query when you write: "...It seems like he only wants me for my body, ..."
Keep thinking about THAT phrase... and see if the "answer" doesn't, miraculously, appear in your mind. I KNOW, 'cuz I am a guy... (read in full...)
Can money keep a cheating marriage together?
Q. When there's cheating in a marriage what can hold it together? If man is cheating but there's fancy cars, house and baby will that keep family happy? ...
A. 20 June 2012: I suggest you paint the car, the house and the child on to a balloon. Inflate that balloon, then go out in a hail storm...... Consider THAT a microcosm of the marriage and your question....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do you wait to get over an ex completely before starting a new relationship?
Q. Is it normal to still have feelings for an ex while getting into the next relationship? And let the lingering feelings for the ex die completely as you get to know this new person? Does this happen a lot with people? Or is it better to comple...
A. 20 June 2012: If I were to "wait" to "get over" that lovely girl who dumped me in July, 1969, I'd STILL be in that "holding pattern" .... and waiting to start any "new" relationship with some other girl......... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 20 June 2012: I found it novel - and, perhaps a bit Freudian - that you wrote: "....Cupid I have been shot with the arrow through my heat, is there a cure?..." ....as I'm imagining you with an arrow through your p*nis..... which is where all the "heat" is ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to bring another girl on holiday with us, I have a bad feeling about this girl and don't want her to come, but I don't want to lose my friend either! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend, let’s call her Laura, who I have known since we were 4 years old. She is a lovely person, but is also a people pleaser to the extent that she lets others completely walk all over her on a regular basis. She lets people treat her ...
A. 20 June 2012: What a situation.... an "enabler" best friend who has found another (woman) who is clingy and needy..... A recipe for them to stew together whilest a "typical" woman - such as yourself - gets to view the stewing "from the outside, looking in."
... (read in full...)
He has never taken me out and now he wants to when we have no chance?
Q. DC, short problem today: Last nte I admitted to my flirt of 4 yrs that I like him..he replied he always knew..but he also said he has a girlfriend he loves, and will marry someday. I said fine....well sorry, I was wrong abt us. And just before I ...
A. 19 June 2012: We guys act "funny" when there is a girl (YOU!) who we think we can get to put out... but we haven't asked/done so with you in the past..... AND we've let our life proceed in such a manner (like having ANOTHER girlfriend that we intend to marry), ... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 19 June 2012: Let's get to the REAL crux of what he's saying....
He's saying... "Me and my friend(s) are going to have a last-fling, which might include me getting a little s*x... AND we're going to justify it as something that "bachelors" do at "stag parties"... (read in full...)
Does a cyber relationship has a possibility to become true in the real world?
Q. I am currently in an online relationship with a US Army in the middle east who is married. I don't really want to get myself into this kind of relationship that makes me the third party, and on the internet for that matter, but i just can't help ...
A. 19 June 2012: A guy can (and WILL!) say most anything on-line if he believes that he's located a girl who will, possibly, put out for him.....
Part of what we guys say is that our wife:
1. Is a bitch,
2. Never has sex with us,
3. Will soon be divorced f... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is stressed and acting like he wants nothing to do with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 10 months. 4 have been long distance because he got a real good job out of state and moved, and I stayed where I am for now. The last week and a half he has been real distant. He is trying to buy a house and ...
A. 19 June 2012: When a guy is separated from his G/F and sez he ".... wants/needs his space..." that is guy-talk for: "... you're not here, and I'm checking around to see if I can locate a girl, here, to be my "G/F" until/unless you call me on the matter...."
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Is he just insecure, or is there a side to him I don't know?
Q. HI all, this is my first time posting on a relationship site, so please bear with me if I am too unclear or longwinded. I have been dating someone for 2.5 years now, and for the most part, he is amazing and treats me really well. He is 3 years yo...
A. 19 June 2012: You might find it AMAZING.... what we guys can/will do in order to keep in-play a girl who is putting out for us, regularly.......... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about this guy, and move on?
Q. I have been with this guy for 7 years, i bought a house for us to live in which went great for the first 3 years, then his parents bought him a house which he eventually moved into his kids never speak to me , he spends all holidays with his family ...
A. 19 June 2012: Yes. Why waste your time with this guy???....... (read in full...)
With a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising?
Q. I don't know whether people would know the answer to this one or not, but with a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising? Because this number has called me a few times and i reckon it's the guy who i ...
A. 19 June 2012: Yes. It's also "possible" that, if you dial 10 numbers, at random, you'll get the White House.....
Possible, but not likely........ (read in full...)
He doesn't have much sex drive with me, but won't delete his porn?
Q. Would anyone else think this is strange, my boyfriend doesn't have that much of a sexual apetite for me but yet when I tried to get him to delete his porn he went mad. We did attempt to have sex and did sexual things everytime we met (me suggesting ...
A. 19 June 2012: Would this worry anyone?
Yes... it would worry me.... but, then, I'm not YOU!!!!!
This guy sounds quite like he isn't going to offer you very much. WHY bother with him?????.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll eventually snap out of it and want a normal relationship we once had back?
Q. Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I have had a rough two weeks. Basically long story short, he texted me 2 weeks ago saying he needed a break. After that text and asking him why; the contact had stopped. We didn't speak to each other until we f...
A. 19 June 2012: I suggest you put this guy on "HOLD" for about 5 years....
If, after that time, he has grown up to adulthood.... THEN you can consider spending any/more time with him...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Uncertain of ex's intentions!
Q. Uncertain of ex s intentions? I broke up with the father of my 2 kids in jan, we'd had a strained relationship for many yrs, due to the fact that he is immature and a bad boy. Although at 42 he would binge drink with mates at wk ends take drugs ...
A. 18 June 2012: What's going on in his head is that he has figured out that he can use the kids to lever you to be available to him for s*x........
You have described an untenable situation that you had with this guy.... and used the kids to justify why you SHOU... (read in full...)
Is he using me? I saw a text from him to her saying he was 'domesticated and miserable'!
Q. I've known a guy for a few years. We started off as just an every now and again fling. I knew he was coming around just to get what he wanted. He stopped talking to me completely for a few months because he thought I was talking about him. He is ...
A. 18 June 2012: This guy has the kind of arrangement that men DREAM about!!!.... He's got you convenient for s*x (you share the same address...), AND he doesn't have to do a darn thing to act respectful or responsible toward you....
The only question that I c... (read in full...)
I really want to set my boundaries, and let him know his actions HAVE consequences
Q. My boyfriend lied to me about his ex wife - said he hadn't seen her when he's been texting her all along. Based on this lie I left him a month ago and he cut it off with her. Now we're back together and he's going out of state to a family event ...
A. 18 June 2012: You're a little late at setting boundaries... but it costs nothing.... so go ahead and do so.....
I assume that you mean boundaries as in: "Hey (his name here), this is my home and YOU, Sir, are not welcome in it EVER AGAIN!!!!"
Did I underst... (read in full...)
My ex and I slept together, but now he's ignoring me!
Q. We have been really good friends since college. Then he proposed me after breaking up with his girlfriend. I accepted his proposal and remained his gf for 6 months. Then I broke up with him becoz I had just friendly feeling for him. Recently we met ...
A. 16 June 2012: This is the ages-old experience wherein YOU give him s*x, so HE can stop being nice to you.....
You will do well to simply forget this guy and find another (guy) who actually likes you.... and WAIT until you're sure he likes you OTHER THAN FOR... (read in full...)
I'm worried I like him more than he likes me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago when I visited my friend out of town. They are roommates. My friend has told me that he is a very nice guy etc. We hit it off really well, hung out a lot, got physical but didn't have sex. Until I met him I had ...
A. 16 June 2012: Note your excerpt: "...but he said he was broke (my friend confirmed this was true). I took this as him saying he didn't really care enough to find a way to see me. Cuz I've always felt that where there's a will there's a way."
You are projecti... (read in full...)
I want my new boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed. Should I say something?
Q. I love it when guys are really animalistic in bed, but my new boyfriend is really tame and romantic, which is lovely but doesn't get me fired up at all. Should i say/do something? Thanks x...
A. 16 June 2012: Of course you should speak up. We guys CAN'T read your (womens') minds...... Despite belief to the contrary...
Good luck..... and have fun!!!!........ (read in full...)
Why is this younger guy hitting on me? I just want to be friends
Q. I m in my 40 s with really young men hitting on me ALL THE TIME, Yes, I m pretty, in good shape, look younger, but aren't they afraid that if I say yes, they will have to see my naked not very young body and do things to it? I had children, breas...
A. 16 June 2012: Don't short-change yourself!!! You're probably a LOT more enticing (to young men... or ANY man!!!) than you believe!!
When I was younger, I had a terrible crush on a woman who my fellow office-mates labelled "Mrs Over-40".... She was BLISTERI... (read in full...)
I've been engaged for 13 years, don't see it going anywhere and have feelings for my friend!
Q. Hello, A while ago I put a couple of posts on here one about my relationship and one about loving my friend. I'm still struggling and just needed to tell someone. I've been in a relationship for 15 years, engaged for 13!? For a long time I've be...
A. 16 June 2012: You win the "Rip Van Winkle" award for someone who has been asleep the longest......
13 years???? .... and you still holding out hope that something - ANYTHING - is going to change?????
C'mon... now that you're awake, act like it.... and GET A... (read in full...)
Ex wants post-break-up sex, is it right or wrong?
Q. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago, I am 18, whilst she is 16. The UK allows legality of this relationship. So she's decided that she wants 'post break up' sex. She never understood my reasons for leaving, although they were as long as your arm. So I ...
A. 16 June 2012: The "answer" to your question is: That it's BOTH right AND wrong....
That is, it's RIGHT for those few minutes when you and she are doing nik-nik..... and it's WRONG the other 23 hours and 50 minutes every day....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why are straights more curious about whose gay than the gays?
Q. All "straight" and "gay" answers are appreciated. Why is it that my coworkers (females) are constantly asking me about my personal life? They're always curious to know whether the person I'm dating is male or female. In my head I'm like who the fuk ...
A. 16 June 2012: You've described one of those too-common situations wherein someone asks (you) a question that is inappropriate. The advice columnists, in my newspaper, advise that the way to "reply" to such queries is to REVERSE the question and ask, "Why do you ... (read in full...)
Unplanned pregnancy is striking fear into my heart even though we are to marry in 2 months!
Q. Hello everyone. Well, I'm 31 and I've just found out I am pregnant. I am getting married in two months with a great guy who keeps telling me "I can't wait to marry you" and loves me to bits. He made it clear right from the start he didn't want k...
A. 15 June 2012: Well... you're now going to see what your "future hubby" is made of......
BUT, before all else, you have to sit down with him and tell him that you and he are going to be parents.... and "isn't that nice... though unexpected..."????
I hope ... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with a fwb, now what?
Q. Hi everyone I know this is a common question but I really need help I have fallen completely in love with my fwb who said he didn't want a relationship which I thought I would be fine with he has just moved and I am absolutaly gutted have any of you ...
A. 15 June 2012: If you wish, you can tell him that you've evolved to become more attached to him than the FWB arrangement was supposed to be..... AND, you may ask him if his feelings toward you have changed any. IF he still feels as he did in the past..... and ... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 15 June 2012: Your B/F doesn't have it quite right.....
It's true that it is more difficult for a girl to get pregnant by a guy who smokes...but that is ONLY if the guy substitutes smoking for s*x..... Otherwise, all bets are "off."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I can't understand why my family has started to treat me with disrespect!
Q. I am a wife and mother of four young adults. Recently I can't help noticing the total disrespect with which my children and even husband speak to me at times. I don't feel im a doormat by any means nor am I a harsh person. I simply can't understa...
A. 14 June 2012: Was there some triggering incident?
It's not a good sign that you say BOTH your hubby AND your kids are partaking of this behaviour.... since those (two) will feed on one-another.... WHY would hubby behave like that?????... (read in full...)
Have you ever said "I'll love you forever" and then changed your mind?
Q. Hi this is a question going out to all you ladies out there Just wondering if you have ever said ' i love you forever' or ' i want to be with you forever ' or ' i will always be your girl ' to someone you have been in love with? andddd wait for ...
A. 14 June 2012: If I had a nickel for every time I've told a girl "I'll love you forever".... as a ploy to get her to compromise her principles with me..... I'D BE A VERY WELL-TO-DO MAN!!!... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 13 June 2012: Why would someone say like that ??
The person who said this is an unmitigated JERK!!! DON'T listen to him.... AND don't believe that he "loves" you...
Hold out for a nice B/F and you can be sure that you'll encounter one sooner than you ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for him but he's not ready for a relationship, just comes around for sex!
Q. Hi I was just wondering what I can do in this situation I met this man 16 months ago who wasn't really my type but I thought I would give it a go I said yes to a date he came round mine just for a drink as we lived very close we didn't sleep ...
A. 13 June 2012: This guy has a "dream" situation. He has YOU on the hook for s*x.... he's got you hoodwinked in to believing that he's "available", but "not ready for a relationship".... when, in fact, he has a whole 'nuther life..... likely with a wife and, ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me back, or not?
Q. Dear cupid I'm trying to figure out if my ex boyfriend wants me back because I'm getting mixed signals.After we broke up he said that he would never stop trying to win me back and he checks up on me all the time by calling or texting to see how I'm ...
A. 13 June 2012: Here's my "male" opinion.....
This immature guy has found a way to keep you interested in him.... EVEN IF THAT "INTEREST" IS NEGATIVE. (Better negative interest than no interest, at all.....). That way, he can hope that, if you happen to have ... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: "What shall I do to get rid of her!"... OH, you are "reading" this situation SO INCORRECTLY... AND you have the spotlight on the wrong player..... This is between you and your hubby. SHE (that other woman) has all she wants and needs.... and ... (read in full...)
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