Should Pre-marital sex be avoided?
Q. What do you think of a culture which doesn't support pre-marital sex? I am from India. Here pre-marital sex is frowned upon. My first sexual experience was with my wife at the age of 32. Don't you think I lost some of the precious moments of life?...
A. 28 May 2012: I always disdain when I hear someone ask for a vote on the CULTURAL aspect of some PERSONAL issue.... MOREOVER, (relative to your question) WHO is taking part in premarital sex? .... YOU, or "the culture" Do you see my point... It (premarital ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this man's sudden interest?
Q. I am in the middle of a business venture, and I'm 16. While meeting with investors and some other people on a project, I met a man, married, who lives near me and wants to meet at some point. We talked briefly and he ended up driving me home. I ...
A. 24 May 2012: When a 40-something man gives inordinate attention to a cute, perky 16-something girl.... you can be quite certain that he isn't planning to be sure that you get adequate ice cream in your frappe, down at the local malt shop!!!!... (read in full...)
My married man said I cant have no one else but him
Q. I have been with a married man for going on 8 months now and it seems that we go well together, meaning the relationship between us just keeps going, we dont seem to have any problems, yeah sometimes i get mad at him when i cant be with him but he ...
A. 24 May 2012: Queen: You describe a situation which is all one-sided.... IN HIS FAVOR. What will it take for you to come to your senses and decide to get out of it?... (read in full...)
Since I was 5 months pregnant husband checked out emotionally
Q. My husband and I got married 9 months ago, I was 4 months pregnant. I'm 20 and he is 28. When we first met, we had a passionate loving relationship. Once I started showing he didn't seem interested in sex anymore, we only had sex about 5 times since ...
A. 23 May 2012: You'll probably be much happier when you dump this guy... He sounds a lot like a user....... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be stuck with somebody?
Q. is it possible to be stuck with somebody? is my question to you guys. ive been with a guy for 5 yrs and we are going no where in life. im getting my life together on my own i just recently got my GED and im 3 classes shy away from getting my a...
A. 23 May 2012: You really aren't "stuck" with a darn thing... EXCEPT if you ALLOW this creep MAKE YOU BE stuck ..... WITH HIM!!!!
It's usually easier to get out sooner, rather than later.... so I suggest you give that a go....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why is it ok to be a virgin at 18?
Q. If I'm a virgin at 18, why do people say it's okay? I know for a fact that all those numbers people come up with about how many people lie about having sex is complete crap. There are more people around me who either have kids that are 2 or 3, or ...
A. 23 May 2012: It's OK to be a virgin at age 18 for the very same reason that it's OK to be a virgin at age 30, or 40 or 90.... because you haven't found someone who makes you want to put out for them.....
What IS IT with you young people that you think there is... (read in full...)
How do you break up with least amount of pain?
Q. I've posted before e.g. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/maybe-i-do-lack-empathy-but-has-my.html I think the time has come to move on. My question is how do you break up in the least painful way possible? We share a house (mine), we share f...
A. 23 May 2012: Think of it like as if you have to jump in to a cold lake of water.....
The smart, quickest, easiest way to do it is to get up your courage, put on your "big boy" undies, hold your nose and jump in.... Be happy that you can, quickly, swim to ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to eat healthy and lose weight?
Q. Hello guys. I need some advice on talking to my girlfriend about her weight. I will first start off by saying i DO lover her and i will NOT leave her over this because she is just too special to me. I do however, think that she is not eating healthy ...
A. 23 May 2012: Been there; done that.... Don't waste your time. YOU are going to spend your time and mental energy trying to figure out how YOU can help her lose weight.... when - in reality - only SHE can do it for herself......
After a while... whilest ... (read in full...)
I want to end it with my BF but don't have the courage. Can he sense I'm detaching?
Q. Hi All, I have been with my BF for 16 months and am really close to breaking up with him, as I have found it hard, work, him secretive and I suspected him of cheating, although I cannot prove it. Can guys sense it when you are detaching? I have ...
A. 23 May 2012: Your submittal has all the information that YOU need to justify, for yourself, getting away from this guy and never looking back.....
Fact is... there really ARE some nice, decent guys "out there" who you can meet and spend time with.... THIS was... (read in full...)
After spending the weekend together he mysteriously disappeared! What happened?
Q. i've been dating my boyfriend exclusively for about a month now and since we started, we've talked pretty constantly by text all day every day when we're apart. this last weekend, i went and stayed with him and it was all normal. he was ...
A. 23 May 2012: His disappearance is no mystery to some of us (oldtimers!)...
He got what he wanted (You put out.... didn't you?)... so, now, he's under no obligation to be nice to you....
Chalk it up to a very hurtful lesson and don't repeat it...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't care about his education, what should I do?
Q. My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He initially told me he'd gotten his high school diploma but then told me the truth that he dropped out at 15. He's asked me for help which I try to do by asking every once and a while when he ...
A. 23 May 2012: Go with your last paragraph and part ways with this guy, now....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Whenever I have problems he calls them stupid. Is it wrong to want to talk?
Q. My boyfriend and I don't argue a lot, but when we do, it's BAD. And there is a routine to it that I've been having trouble dealing with. It goes a little something like this: 1) I tell him what I'm having a problem with/what I'm upset about 2...
A. 23 May 2012: You are describing the early stages of an abusive relationship (belittling one's partner's issues)... and can reasonably expect it to go downhill from here.
Why not get out early and avoid the heartbreak that this guy will - ultimately - visit ... (read in full...)
He left me for a younger woman but he still expects me to be kind to him.
Q. my husband left me for a girl that is 24 years younger than him.when i found out i was crushed, i saw no problems in our marriage. we both worked long hours, spent time together when we had days off. i cooked, cleaned, did yard work, layed his ...
A. 23 May 2012: He is clearly a dick-head... and YOU deserve better.....
Let him go.... AND, (ultimately) let him learn that he has screwed up, badly......
Maybe, he'll ever learn what an idjit he's been... and, maybe, he'll ever want to re-kindle that g... (read in full...)
She's a terrible travel partner, how can I avoid spending time with her?
Q. Last year I went on vacation with one of my best friends. It was a nightmare. I already knew she can be a bit self centered and runs on an ego-trip. I don't know why I thought going away would her could ever be a good idea. I bit my tongue during...
A. 23 May 2012: You needn't "spill the beans" to her. Just, simply, be unavailable for the time(s) (whenever it is) that she wants to travel with you.....
What's to be gained by telling her off?????... (read in full...)
Thing went well during a date but he doesn't initiate things.
Q. I've been dating this guy for a month, I felt chemistry between us the very first time we met and he asked for my number and I asked him out first. I felt nervous around him, I always do, so I was a bit hesitated to have physical contact. Anyway ...
A. 23 May 2012: As long as YOU initiate contact he will KNOW that he has you ON THE HOOK.... and it's only a small step from "on the hook" to "putting out for him...."
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Does he want to date me or just have sex?
Q. i am a lady and i am 28 years, i have a male friend that iam going out with. were are in to this relationship just 3weeks now and he is asking me of sex and he said he want me too be his wife but i dont known what too do, should i go on with him...
A. 23 May 2012: Guys will say ANYTHING to get a woman to put out!!!! YOU are on the receiving end of "anything" at the moment... and must determine if this guy is really sincere.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My ex didn't seem to care so why did he send a message after our breakup acting like he cared?
Q. Hello everyone! Last Sunday, I broke up with my "boyfriend" of 2 months. We are both on an exchange student programme in Europe, so we both live away from our countries (I come from Greece, he comes from Spain), me for 6 months, and he is here f...
A. 23 May 2012: He sent the message because we guys actually DO KNOW when we have a good thing with you girls.... AND we also know when (and HOW, incidentally!) we've screwed it up.... AND we want to get another chance to win you over.... SOOOooo, we send you notes ... (read in full...)
How important is relationship experience when choosing a partner?
Q. I wonder, how important is dating or relationship experience when choosing a partner? Does someone need to have relationship experience for you to consider them a viable partner? How do you view inexperience or someone with little relationship...
A. 23 May 2012: Little experience (read: "a virgin") is the Holy Grail of EVERY GUYS' search for a girl/woman!!!........ (read in full...)
Why couldn't I get Mr. Happy to be happy?
Q. Ok, so hopefully i won't get too much stick for this... I have been seeing my girlfriend for 5 weeks, she is smoking hot and we sleep together everyday, sometimes 2, 3 times a day. I have never had a problem getting turned on and she loves it how...
A. 23 May 2012: Tony, Tony, Tony.... sometimes, Mr Happy isn't quite paying enough attention to come to attention (pun, not intended!).... For example, you and this lady-friend were in the back seat when you "got busy." Well, had you ever been "busy" in the ... (read in full...)
How can I get my hunny to enjoy more sexcapades with me.
Q. I am a 46m and me and wifey have stayed at a few swanky hotels to enjoy each other and have long awaited sex sessions due to kids at home.But when we get there it never fails I get real horny and she just wants to cuddle, WTF! So I go down stairs ...
A. 19 May 2012: HOW LONG have you and wifey been going through this charade?????
YOU need to learn that "cuddling" is not a put-off... it's a come-on.... and the smart men amongst us take it to be the BEGINNING of some damn hot S*X....
IF you leave the ro... (read in full...)
Dealing with my g/f after she's been out with the girls drinking is like walking into a minefield!
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now. Most of it good, lately a lot of it bad. She is 43 and in the past year is when she really started getting bad with anger, mood swings and depression. One major issues is that she likes to ...
A. 19 May 2012: So, she's not an "alcoholic"... only a "binge drinker"... the title should be of little importance to you.... the facts are the same.....
WHEN someone behaves differently (badly, in this case) when they have indulged in alcohol, then THEY must "ma... (read in full...)
I get so crazy about his ex/past! Help!
Q. I know this is certainly an issue of insecurity and I so much hate this crappy feeling. Ok so I'm 18 and I got a boyfriend who's at the age of 31. We've been sailing smoothly for 2 years, age hasn't been a problem. I know that there's nothing ...
A. 19 May 2012: I suggest that you find and read the book "Passages." By doing so, you will learn just where he is, in his life; and compare that to where you are, in your life.
I suspect that you will find and see why people whose age difference is 13 years (t... (read in full...)
What game is my wife playing here?
Q. After 14 years of marriage and 2 kids, my wife wanted a divorce. We have been separated for 14 months. Now after all this time she calls me and says that it takes 2 people to get a divorce, that I should have stood up to her and made us go to ...
A. 19 May 2012: Yes, it "sounds" like reverse psychology.... and you will be wise to ignore it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: I find it interesting that you cannot see - crystal clearly - that this guy is a user.... YOU are someone he has used... and you have not a shred of a chance that you could be "somebody" in his life. Moreover,... WHY would you WANT to be ... (read in full...)
She's stopped talking to me. So should I break friendship with her or give her some time?
Q. There is a girl ,she is used to be very good friend of mine. we both are in same class.she is not committed and neither i am. we chat regularly on our mobile phones when we are at home and regularly in class.But few months earlier she suddenly...
A. 19 May 2012: Back when I married, I learned this... and I have never veered from it:
When a woman is not talking to you... DON'T INTERRUPT HER!!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why does my G/f contact her ex everytime we fight? What is he trying to prove by buying her a first class ticket? What does she still want from him?
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been together for a year. Before that she was with a guy for a year and lost her virginity to him. Which im a little jealous of but oh well. She broke up with him because she said she got bored with him and never ...
A. 19 May 2012: She's got a great, well-heeled rescuer, and you don't see the picture?????? YOU will go too far at some point... and HE will be the lucky prize winner, by having your girl come to him (for rescuing) once again... and, THIS TIME, he will get the ... (read in full...)
I fear my vagina isnt good enough for my boyfriend
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have sexual relations. He isnt my first, and well I feel ashamed to have sex with him for that reason... We were watching this t.v show, with Wesley Snipes(black guy) and he was married to an Asian woman, they showed a scene ...
A. 18 May 2012: That boyfriend of your's sounds like a real, dandy creature....
As for your real question: "how do I go about making him want me more?" I would suggest: Don't bother. Dump him...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How do I find a man for me?
Q. How do I find a man for me? I'm so sick of men coming in my face asking me for "sum"! It seems that they are all stupid!!sometimes i feel like falling for it just to see would it turn into a relationship and never do!I don't like dating websites i ...
A. 18 May 2012: My thoughts:
1. "Dating" or "matching" websites really CAN work. I have met many people who have made their first contact on-line,
2. IF you are meeting men who "come in my (your) face asking me for "sum".." then figure out who they are, an... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want a lady at work and she's playing hard to get!
Q. I am a married man and recently I found my self attracted to this beautiful lady at my workplace. She knows I am married and is playing hard to get, but I really want her badly. Please help me convince this lady to love me...
A. 18 May 2012:
Franco: You call it "playing hard to get;" I call it, "being smart."... (read in full...)
I can't trust a single word he says ever time he opens his mouth my thoughts are lie lie lie..
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about two years now but I am so mentally drained is my boyfriend a narsassistic psychological abuser and doesn't really love me? Or am I just over thinking our relationship and what has happened? Hear is alittle bit ...
A. 18 May 2012: So he's a liar, and you spent how much time writing how many words to tell us about it/him? "Sounds" to me like you'll be much happier after you dump him.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can being friends with benefits bring us back together? Or is it wishful thinking?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up several months ago after her mother was ill and passed away. At first I was there for her 1000% and we agreed to remain friends. After all she's my best friend. We were together for 6 years by the way. She told me a ...
A. 18 May 2012: Friends with benefits arrangements are fragile, at best....
Are you prepared to have this girl be available to you for s*x, and then part from you and carry on HER social life... which might also include s*x with another guy? If "yes," then, of... (read in full...)
Death in my husband's family will make them all drink and I don't want to be around it! What do I do?
Q. My husband has death in his family, and my heart goes out to the family but I really dont want to be around them cause all they do is drink, I mean really, if im in mourning I wouldnt be drinking and getting drunk, and he has the nerve to get mad at ...
A. 18 May 2012: It IS possible to attend an event where alcohol is being served, and NOT partake of that alcohol... and stay sober and keep your wits about you!!!!
Since it's a gathering to mourn a death, couldn't you just attend, share grief, and "look the othe... (read in full...)
What have been your experiences with bad partners.
Q. I'm terrible in the sack! But this wasn't always the case. As a matter of fact, the first girl that I lost it too always loved our "encounters". To this day she says I am still the best she's had. And at the time she was my first, but I was ...
A. 18 May 2012: Sometimes, I think people "overthink" sex.... I believe that "experts" will tell you that, when you approach sex like a game which will be judged, you pre-dispose yourself to focusing on the SCORE and not WHAT IS HAPPENING....
Thereby, you fail... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: Too much drama and intrigue here. You two are toxic to one-another and both of you will "win" when you go your separate ways........ (read in full...)
I don't feel good enough for my boyfriend after his comments about these models and how he wanted to give me 'the boot'....
Q. Hello, I really hope someone can give me some advice with my problem..here goes..! I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years and it has been a great relationship. Before we got together he had a reputation of being a flirt, e...
A. 17 May 2012: Let's review the "facts"....
1. You KNOW this guy tends to philandering, from his past behaviour....
2. Following his "boy's weekend" he publicized pictures and texts that made you angry and uncomfortable, and you told him so. He ignored ... (read in full...)
How do you ask to have sex?
Q. When you meet a girl and you hook up (for this example kissing) how do you go further past kissing?! For example I went to a concert and I was a little drunk when i was talking to this girl I met. We danced and then we started to make out. I ...
A. 17 May 2012: Like you... I feel a little uncomfortable being so blatant as to ask a girl: "So, do you want to have sex with me now?"
Sooooo, I usually couch my request, something like this: "So, I'm a bit horny. Would you like to join me in starting... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was ill on my birthday and I didnt get to see him, should I be mad at him for this?
Q. Do you think i should be mad at my boyfriend for this ?. He has been ill with flu for a few days, and it was my birthday yesterday, but he didn't meet up with me. I was supposed to go round to his house for a few hours. I wanted to go out somewhere ...
A. 17 May 2012: Let me see if I have this straight? Yesterday was your birthday, and you wanted to spend some time with your boyfriend on that special day.... He had been, and was still, in bed with something flu-like keeping him down.... and, in his effort to ... (read in full...)
He's going on the cruise we planned to go on together without me! Am I wrong to be upset with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. A few months into our relationship his sister invited him on a cruise because his nephew couldn't go at the last minute. At the same time he got laid off from his job so the getaway was good for ...
A. 17 May 2012: Your "boyfriend" sounds like just about the luckiest guy in the World when it comes to ocean cruise schedules and serendipitous results....
However, that has also given you a preview of just how strongly he feels about you.... and what are his ... (read in full...)
What are the pro's and con's of having a fake relationship with my gay friend to trick his mom?
Q. So, I've been really close friends with this guy since 6th grade, we're both now in 9th, and he's gay. He recently told his mother about himself. She was very angry about it and yelled at him about how he's never even experienced with a girl and ...
A. 17 May 2012: It's unfortunate that your guy-friend has a Mother who doesn't understand homosexuality. YOU are a terrific friend to consider what you've outlined..... However...
I think that the charade that you and he are considering is likely doomed t... (read in full...)
Why do I keep going back to my B/f even though he treats me like dirt?
Q. Dear Cupid my bf of 2 years is emotionally abusing me, always ignoring me, treats me like shit, never apologize and always finding one reason to another to stop spending time with me. Its been very long since we even talked for more than 5 mts....
A. 16 May 2012: You go back to him, and incur another round of his destroying you, because you haven't developed the self-esteem and self-respect to say (to yourself): "What the f**k is WRONG with me that I can't see how self-defeating and losing this is... what I ... (read in full...)
Should I still date him even though he is going to have a kid and a lot of drama?
Q. Alright so here is my story. About a month ago I met a guy who wasn't my type, and is 9 years older than me. He is 28 and i'm 19 almost 20. Despite me not thinking anything would happen between us we had good conversation. A coffee date turned into ...
A. 16 May 2012: Who KNOWS how many times it will happen... and how much heartbreak you will have to endure... until you figure out that guys who have wives and other girlfriends aren't very good "boyfriends????"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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