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writes:my husband just got out of prison.he was in for four years. i was happy hes home but its like hes very angry and demanding now .he yells at me and tells me awful things that keep me up at night. he has not hit me idont think he will but i am stressed out because he is always yelling and i never know when he will get upset. is this normal? what should i do to fix this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): Do not know the full detail of your marriage (relationship) but I'm sure you have spent a lot of time visiting him, putting money in his account, a lot of sleepless nights and footing the bills while he was in the the big house so he needs to be thankful. So who's footing the bills now that he's out? Does he have a job or looking for a job?
You could have dumped him as soon as the judge said four years in the big house but you waited patiently four years for the man you married. You are a good wife because I would sit his A$$ down, get into his head and see if he needs professional help and if he doesn't want help, I would tell him to sit his A$$ down and shut the hell up like he did when he was in the big house and now that he's out he wants to shift his weight around and raised his voice. Ask him did he do all this while in the big house, remind him how you stuck by him while he was locked up. I would let him know that if he doesn't get his $hit together he will be in divorce court.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): Well it depends what your interpretation of normal is. All I know is that a healthy relationship has to be equal and for both people to enjoy it. If your are not enjoying your relationship then it is unhealthy and what I have learnt you shouldn't be with someone if it is unhealthy.!But don't take it of us just answering your question across the Internet, I think you should ask you friends/ family. But that's just a suggestion. I really do hope this helps a lot :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): One word:
THERAPY!
He must go, because he has anger issues that need to be managed. Everything he experienced during those 4 years are coming out in anger. He can't take it out on you, the one who waited for him!!! He should thank his lucky stars you are there waiting for him!
If he strikes you, leave. If he won't listen to reason and go for therapy, theaten to leave as you don't have to live like that. You deserve better after waiting all this time for him.
Good Luck and look after yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): Sit down with him and ask him what's bothering him, because obviously something is. What are the nature of the horrible things he says to you? What typical situation would usually provoke him to snap? In what way is he demanding of you? Its hard to give an insight without details.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2012):
 Who KNOWS what hubby endured during his prison experience?
BUT, you would be a great wife if you encouraged him to seek professional help in looking at and addressing this anger problem.....
Good luck....
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