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writes:yesterday i went to my boyfriend of 3 years house. we were kissing in bed and he pulled out a open box of condom 3 pack.i was skeptic, as in why would that be open if its brand new? hes always suspicious of me having condoms at my house even if i opened them but that was way long ago whe we first lost our virginity i never onced did it again because it will raise questions. but now hes done it and ive question him and he ran to the door and say he had to pee and dont worry he bought that pack today, and i said but why did you open it? he said dont worry i swear i just wanted to look at it. it makes no sence, we always use that pack that has all types, purple green and yellow. so i quickly took all three condoms out and started to look for an expiration date. and the purple and green had the same exp.date 5/13 but the yellow had 4/16. i totally forgot to look the exp of the box, but it doesnt make sence why would a 3 pack condom have diff exp date when the box would tell you the accurate one which im pretty sure were the purple and green. please if anyone knows if a 3 pack can have diff date let me know. because im beginning to think he might of cheat on me. because he can easily get a condom as a replacement. i know him hes very cheap. he hates wasting money. and he lives with other guys. whenever he buys a pack he never opens it till we are about to have sex. please help
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 Well, maybe just ask yourself, is the condom the only reason you are suspicious of your bf or are there other reasons? If this is the only one, it is safe to say that you are just being paranoid. However, I still am not happy that he said he just opened the box "today" coz it seems unlikely that a newly opened box would have different dates of expiration. It seems odd to me, so there is a possibility that he is lying...although this doesn't mean right away that he cheated on you with another girl. So just relax.But if there are other clues, then it's a valid point..listen to your instinct. This happened to me before when my bf suddenly out of the blue told me that he found some old condoms from 3 years ago in his bag for us to use. But when I checked the expiry date, it was still 4 years to go (meaning it was new). I just let it go thinking I was just paranoid. Other clues came out later and in 3 months I found out he was sleeping with another girl :( He is my ex now.I understand how you feel but for now, don't panic yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): If they are three different types of condoms in one pack (that is supposed to have 3 different condoms) it IS possible that the manufacturer filled the box with 3 different condoms with different expiration dates.
Next, it is possible that one of the guys he lives with nicked a condom cuz he needed one immediately one night and then replaced it with another later after he bought more so your boyfriend wouldn't notice.
If you are really concerned, get a permanent marker, waterproof eyeliner, nailpolish...something permanent and make a small mark on the remaining condoms packaging somewhere inconspicuous and maybe put a tiny mark on the box as well. If the condoms left and the box aren't marked the next time you see him, you may want to have another chat with him.
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reader, Aphrodite.duh  +, writes (21 June 2012):
"I know him he's very cheap"
Okay, what the hell does that mean first of all?? Three years? With a guy you don't trust. I'm guessing this was your hypothesis BEFORE the condom issue at all.
Sounds to me that you Shouldnt even be with him! But sorry, I do jot know he answer to the question you asked.
Tip: you really want this relationship? Just read over your last 5-7 lines and think.
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reader, Candycane1234 +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I haven't had a three pack in years I rarely check the expiry date they are mainly new.
He might of had a posh w*nk (masturbated with a condom on) I'm a bit confused where would the other 2 from the pack that expires in 2016 be?
He must of had those 2013 condoms from years ago they run out next year, they last 4 years.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I can hardly imagine what a great time the two of you are going to have doing nik-nik in the next few minutes... with you stewing over this......
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 If this is the only indication you have that he might be cheating then you're crying wolf over nothing. I mean what happened to trusting the guy? He could have been masturbating and wanted to use one of the condoms. He could have had one of his friends ask him for a condom and given it to him.
If you already had a reason to NOT trust your boyfriend then yes, this might be another clue. However, when there is NO reason to NOT trust him, why would you suddenly not trust him? Why so suspicious? I think you're over-reacting here. You've been with him for 3 years, why suspicious exactly now? Why do you not trust him? Surely an open box of condoms is not what tipped you over the edge from trusting to distrusting.
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