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writes:Hi thanks for your time, my wife of 30 years enjoys the company of a younger man she says nothing is going on. I halfway believe it but the pattern of disrepect is really getting to me. I tell her I don't want her going out with him and she laughs and says I am being ridiculous. Well this has been going on for years and I have been ignoring it (problem coming) so I have been working out (im 52) and drawing attention of women, I kind of wanted to impress her but no luck still to fat etc.....I met the sweetest honduran woman recently ok she is younger--23. She really has the hots for me. Constant texting, calling, meeting, no objection from me -kind of really liking it. I hate to throw away everything but if she works out I would really really like it (shes also a model and gorgeous) she isn't after me for my money I really press her to find the attraction I think it is really geniune---but 29 years age difference that is a difference also a different culture. I would like honest thoughts from gals-I probably already know the guys response (dumb her and take the babe) thanks so much for your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012): Didn't you ever pay attention to the lessons you tell kids? Namely, that two wrongs don't make a right.
Just because your wife is showing you this kind of disrespect, it doesn't give you the right to do the same back. That is childish.
You two need to sit and talk, seriously about it all. And don't let her get away with laughing it off. Dismissing it. You need to tell her how it makes you feel and tell her that if she continues, then you don't think the marriage can work because she doesn't respect you enough to NOT get emotionally involved with someone else right infront of you.
Personally, I don't know why you two are even still together. Clearly you guys don't actually love each other anymore.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I find this kinda funny my man. You should have ended the relationship a long time ago. Use that instinct. If something is off it prob is. Dont drag crap out n create potential drama. End ur relationship n pursue this other woman. Next time dont wait to end a relationship youll feel better trust me. Good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 June 2012):
 sometimes we just need a push to be ready to leave a sad/bad situation.
IF you left your wife and this young woman (and 23 is a bit young even for me to approve of) did not work out (and in the end it probably would not) how would you feel?
would you be sad that your marriage is over or relieved?
are you looking for an out?
the fact that you think that the MEN would say "dump her and take the babe" tells me that your thought is purely sexual.
30 years.. are there kids? are there grandkids? do you really want to toss this all away...
if you tell your wife to give up her friend or you are leaving and she does, that says something... if she refuses, then leave... but are you PREPARED to be alone?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I'm not going to tell you to dump the wife and take up with the babe.... Sorry....
What I AM going to suggest is that you and wifey reconcile just what is going on between the two of you.... and, are you (two) going to stay married, or should the two of you go your separate ways?
Face it, you and wifey are ADULTS.... and can address the issues between you in and "adult" manner.... If you two should be/remain together, then patch up your rough spots and do so (stay together). IF you two cannot/will not patch things up... then go your separate ways, UNENCUMBERED with either a "secret" spouse or the guilt of infidelity....
Good luck....
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