I don't know if I trust my man to be faithful when we are far away from one another
Q. Hi everyone. I'm 25 living in Vietnam, and my ex bf is 27 in the US. My parents live in the US too. We used to planned to get engaged in the end of this year. But since he had got unemployed for almost a year, I decided to get break up because I ...
A. 19 August 2012: Don't. Men are - traditionally - dogs..... and they lead with their penises.... and have no loyalty, whatsoever....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Problems with my sister are making me feel like I never want to see or talk to her again!
Q. Hi Everyone, well its been a long time ... and what fun we are having... my life is back on track .. me and my partner are having a ball - we love being with one another ... its great couldn't fault it however, there's one thing that's niggling at ...
A. 19 August 2012: Siblings are funny creatures..... We want to be sure to stay close to them... because we share DNA with them... BUT, .... sometimes they can be SO IMPOSSIBLE!!!!
Give your sister a chance to correct the problem that she has visited upon you.... ... (read in full...)
I'm worried she will go back to her ex! How can I get through this?
Q. Hi I have now been living with my fiance but she was previous married with 3 kids and still going through her divorce. The problem is she sometimes goes into shut out mode and I know something's up so I ask. She tells me shes just thinking and ...
A. 19 August 2012: What you're "learning" is that you remain "number 2" in her heart...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I with "the One"?
Q. HI I want to know if im with the "One".I keep a diary and every day for the two years of our relations I rate my happiness with my partner.I am average 70% happy with my girl.i have asked my friends and the say they are like 90% happy with their ...
A. 18 August 2012: I agree with your friends.... A person has to be happy at LEAST 97.5% happy before they can claim that they are with "the One"...
If your rating is only 70%, then you need to work on increasing that. Can you take classes that will help you be h... (read in full...)
Help I'm afraid my man is too kinky for me!
Q. So let me begin by saying, that I am a very open minded and sexually liberated person, and I'm usually the one causing others to blush. The guy I am seeing now however... So I have begun dating this guy I met online, no where in his profile does...
A. 18 August 2012: Here's my 2 cents:
When two people seek to begin and continue in a "relationship" they must have several compatibilities. Some of these are: appearances, energy level, interests, activities, (there are still many more...) AND sexualit... (read in full...)
He picked his Mistress over me, but still wants to see me.
Q. we are married for three years total we were together was 7 years. recently he cheated on me and now she choose the mistress than us. but he wants to talk to me and see us and spend time with us more often. but i said no and he beg. my question is...
A. 18 August 2012: It's because we men never really want to "give up" ANY of those women who provide s*xual gratification to us....
You'll do yourself well to tell him that choosing to hang around with his mistress NECESSARILY "MEANS" that he doesn't get to spend AN... (read in full...)
What else can I do? Worried I might be infertile, but the Doctors have said come back later. Do not want to test me yet.
Q. Hi. I know this isn't a health forum but I have run out of solutions. I am worried about my fertility and the doctors won't do a thing until I am "trying" (which won't be for a good few more years!). By then it could surely be too late? I started ...
A. 17 August 2012: "sounds" to me like you need a better gynocologist. The one who you've dealt with sure doesn't sound like he/she is on your team.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I like her but have not said I love her. Should I go meet the parents if I'm feeling like this?
Q. Ive been dating my girlfriend coming up 6 months, she wants me to meet her parents, it is a big deal for her. She has told me she loves me, but I have not said it back. I am worried that by now I should feel something for her, I really like her ...
A. 17 August 2012: I bet that you and I BOTH know the real "answer" to your "question".....
IS she putting out for you? IF "yes," then it's understandable that you don't want to SAY "I love you"... since that MEANS that you really feel some sort of COMMITTM... (read in full...)
How do I date when I go out expecting the worst? Girls have hurt me in the past and laughed behind my back about my penis size.
Q. I am 23 years old so I know it wont grow anymore. I am so embarrassed to have sex or even to show myself to a girl when the time comes. I have 4 inch long and 4.5 inch girth penis when erect. I am afraid girls might laugh at me during or afterwards. ...
A. 17 August 2012: "Sounds" to me like you're prepared to scuttle any potential relationship long before you start it....
Most importantly, please be aware that most - if not all - women are far more concerned with whether or not you can lick your eyebrows, than (wi... (read in full...)
Texting etiquette? If I know her name do I use it in the text or just say hi? why does she never initate a text?
Q. Hello i want to send a good morning text message to a woman who already knows me . Should i include her first name in the message ? . Also it's always me who initiates the text messages, but when i do send a text message , i get a r...
A. 17 August 2012: Your submittal is ALL OVER the place..... 1. You ask about sending her a text message... but then tell us it's you who always initiates the messages (Implying that there have been exchanges of messages in the past...) 2. Should you include her... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a married man, what should I do?
Q. I have never dated a married man,. There is one man , he is 38 I am a youthful 50 year old female. I work out a lot and take good care of myself, I get a lot of attention from men. I really do not seek it out though. Anyways, I am in this man's ...
A. 17 August 2012: I suggest that you continue ONLY the activities in/of your social circle..... AND you ONLY watch this man from afar...
What he is positing ("my marriage is a shambles...." "My wife doesn't love me/we never have sex" etc....) is the routine ... (read in full...)
Is she being selfish and inconsiderate, or am I the jerk for feeling this way?
Q. My Gf of about 6 months is starting to get on my nerves..im so tired the relationship is like a full time job with no day off... i do whatever she ask from babysiting her young child to taking her to work and other places she needs to go.Movi...
A. 17 August 2012: Your "girlfriend' sounds like she has found a DREAM MAN (YOU!).... One who acts more like a butler/rich Uncle/Daddy.... and NOT AT ALL like a "boyfriend".....
(That's because "girlfriends" don't take advantage of "boyfriends"!!!!)
Sooooo,... (read in full...)
He's a monster who treated me horribly, will they have a happy ending? I feel sick!
Q. Dear everyone. I'm in bits. I have been with my ex for about 3.5 yrs(off and on) and for the past 2 months he had grown increasingly distant. I knew he had been working alot but he never had time to see me, yet he still said he loved me. I had seen...
A. 16 August 2012: You - and that other girl - are a player's worst nightmare: The two girls who he's playing meet up and confront him!!!!
Unfortunately, both of you are doomed to heartbreak... as long as ONE OF YOU (YOU!) succumbs to his player ways.... SHE gets... (read in full...)
Do I walk away? Why no 'I love you?' Why is he reluctant to share a life with me?
Q. For almost three years, I have been dating this man. Sometimes, I think there are no moments more perfect than the ones I've had with me. He cares for me deeply but on the flip side, he's reluctant to share a life with me or admit that he does love ...
A. 16 August 2012: My opinion is that this guy - who's age must be between 33 and 36 - has found a hot teenage girl who has fallen for him.... (and) he is uber-content to enjoy her favors (read: "s*x") for as long as he can... before she catches on that she is being ... (read in full...)
Is Gender Ambiguity considered a major block in the road towards marriage?
Q. Is Gender Ambiguity considered a major block in the road towards marriage? Is it something society is able to accept now? I have found a wonderful person to marry but I do not want to bring her a lifetime of meanness and hatred that some people...
A. 16 August 2012: Let's take your first two queries as the most important items in your submittal: Is Gender Ambiguity considered a major block in the road towards marriage? THIS is an issue between the two people who are considering marriage. NOBODY EL... (read in full...)
I've been with her for 6 years but how do you know if she's the one?
Q. HI Im wondering if i with the right person.Im with her a few years and we plan on getting married.Every day I have moments that i think she is not for me and other times im happy.I think im 65 to 70% happy with her.Is this enough to spend your life ...
A. 15 August 2012: If, after 6 years, you are not "certain" if this girl is "the one" for you.... then she is NOT (the one for you) and you will be doing her (and YOU!) a giant favor by breaking up with her.... so that she can find a decisive man who will share life ... (read in full...)
My husband of 27 years doesn't seem to care anymore.
Q. Hi, I guess I'm writing because I need to vent to some body who does not know my husband and I. I've been married now 27 years. My husband has not handled situation in our marriage when I've needed protection or support in a situation. He is a ...
A. 15 August 2012: Mrs Fine: The only "question" in your submittal is a question for YOU!!! i.e. HOW LONG are you going to put up with this dismal treatment??? then, put your foot down and say, "I've had enough of your shoddy treatment. So, why don't you move to a ... (read in full...)
I love him but he just wants to be friends.
Q. I have recently met a guy and we get on really well. We have spent a few weeks together on holiday and I love him. He tells me he loves me too but "not in that way" even though we have kissed and cuddled. He says I will always be his best friend ...
A. 15 August 2012: He's told you, pretty clearly, that the best you can do is be "Number 2" in his line-up of women friends....
The choice is strictly your's.... do you want to remain "number 2"??? Or, do you want to put some distance between you and this player..... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 15 August 2012: OP: You might be surprised that it's not 99% (or some other large portion) of the male population which is - like you - devoid of morals.....
I'm no Bible thumper.... (and) would be cited - in my life circles - as a pretty free-wheeling guy.... ... (read in full...)
So many years together. So how could my husband move on so quickly and easily to a new woman?
Q. why did my husband who i have been with for 21years leave me and then started seeing someone weeks later....
A. 15 August 2012: While it's possible - even likely - that hubby had "someone" waiting in the wings...... it's universally true that we guys think ONLY up to the next time that we can have s*x with a (some) woman..... so there is NO "grieving time" after a ... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 15 August 2012: This is just another classic, "young girl meets and gets enamoured with an older guy who is experiencing his mid-life crisis and is willing to take advantage of (and enjoy s*x with) her... whilest she doesn't understand that her "man" is STILL ... (read in full...)
Will it work out if we start all over again on a stronger footing where I am no longer his Booty Call?
Q. Well after one year of hanging out with him, I expressed that I didn't want to be a "booty-call/fwb/F-buddy", that after all this time my emotions were involved. Here is the exact text I sent him ... "After 1year of this with you my emotions...
A. 15 August 2012: Swtmoscato: How ironic.... from your submittal, you ALMOST got to where you needed to be (dumping this guy!).... but, it's like you hooked a fish, then dropped it as you were pulling it aboard.....
In your case, YOU said (to him) that you were... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: When I was your age, I was skinny and scrawny, and had girls ALL OVER ME. The secret?? ... well... I can't tell you here - in public.... but it's something that's available to EVERY young man....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I feel a little insecure about my boyfriend's past FWB, and could use some advice.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. Prior to meeting me he had a 'sex-only' relationship with another girl for around 2 weeks. When he met me, this relationship was ended. I was a little insecure about this previous 'fling' and freq...
A. 15 August 2012: If you like this guy enough to have been hanging around together for "almost a year"..... isn't it time for you to drop your concerns about what happened prior to his meeting you?.....
If you can't or won't (drop the matter) then you may, pla... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 15 August 2012: All three of you are adults.... and, thereby, each of you is responsible for the moral/ethical/medical aspects of your behaviour....
I think I detect that you would like validation of taking up with this man's wife.... on the "grounds" that HE ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask my boyfriend to pay the bills if he moves in and pay no rent?
Q. Would it be fair to ask for my boyfriend to pay all bills (electricity, gas and water) if he moved in with me? I have a house but have a mortgage. He is wanting us to live together but only gives me options of selling or renting mine out and get...
A. 14 August 2012: WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH 50/50, AS SERPICO SUGGESTS?????
Anything less reveals that this guy is a "player" and it's YOU he's playing.....
Can you spell, "budget"?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that b/f has stopped using pet names and just calls me by my name?
Q. Dear all, Would you be concerned if your boyfriend stopped calling you pet names and replaced with using your first name instead? I noticed my bf of 8 months as started doing this. For example instead of hello or goodnight my darling/ angel/ ...
A. 14 August 2012: When my ex- stopped calling me "Pooky boy" and started calling me "Sh*t-head"... I was pretty sure that the marriage was over........ (read in full...)
Can't deal with her past - should I leave now or keep trying to deal with my issue?
Q. I used to roll my eyes when people say they had issues dealing with their partner's past; however, now I am unexpectedly on the receiving end as my partner's past is a bit beyond what I am used to, and I am at my wits end trying to stop dwelling on ...
A. 14 August 2012: YOU CAN'T CHANGE HER PAST!!!!! Either, "man up" and decide that you like her as she is..... OR, let her go, so that she might find a less-judgemental man who will love her for WHO SHE IS..... NOT for who he wants his girl to be...
Good luck to ... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 14 August 2012: I'm sorry - but not surprised - to hear that you and he have parted ways....
I hope that YOU will keep your head and chin up and continue in your life, remembering that YOU are a special, warm and desireable woman....and that there really IS some ... (read in full...)
Sex every other day for 2 months, but I'm not pregnant yet!
Q. Hi! I'm almost 32, my hubby is almost 34. We've been trying to have a baby for 2 months now, having sex every other day. We're both healthy and in good shape, don't smoke and don't drink alcohol. Unfortunately, after two months, I'm not pregnant and ...
A. 14 August 2012: 1. It wouldn't hurt for BOTH of you to be checked for fertility details... IF you learn that there is/are problems, you can address them, (but, only) IF you learn what they are...
2. There's nothing wrong with sex every other day.... tho' you... (read in full...)
Does her sexual past matter? Would I prefer this new friend over my GF just because of my Gf's sexual past?
Q. I have never been the jealous type and I am not sure I would define what I feel as jealousy. My new girlfriend sexual past is really affecting me. I have had quite a few girlfriends in my life and never felt anything like this before. Not even c...
A. 14 August 2012: The entire content of your submittal is summed up in these two sentences: "No moral judgments, just not for me. They have always been a big red flag for me and I normally would just drop any idea of a relationship." As I see it.... YOU are q... (read in full...)
After many difficulties we broke up. Would I be right in suspecting he had this girl waiting in the wings all along?
Q. hi readers. so my boyfriend of three years and i have split up again. we went through this circle of breaking up and getting back. he was a bit too possessive over my internet life and would not stop spying on me blah blah blah. now he has met s...
A. 14 August 2012: It REALLY doesn't make much/any difference if he had this girl "waiting in the wings".....
HE has tipped his hand and dumped you... SOooooo, it's best (for you) to just consider that things are over with this guy.... and get on with your lif... (read in full...)
I'm angry that my partner was eyeing women in bikini's
Q. hi i want some advise bout something just want to know is it me over reacting or would you not be happy what it is myself and my partner took the kids swimming and i hate my body i am size 14-16 and i feel massive and feel like i look disgusting in ...
A. 14 August 2012: I would ask only ONE question... of YOU: "Were you this same size (14-16) when you started dating this man?"
If the answer is "Yes," then this man is a dog.
If the answer is "No. I was much smaller/lighter then..." then YOU need to decide h... (read in full...)
He has depression but is that any way to treat me? He's horrible and calls me nasty names.
Q. My partner is and has suffered from depression for years (way before i met him but i didnt know about it for a while after we met.) his temper lately has been awful and he swears at me and calls me horrible names. he has even told me he doesnt want ...
A. 13 August 2012: The only "question" that seems to need an answer is: How soon before you LEAVE this guy???????
DON'T try to validate some reason for sticking around. HE is not only mean to you - as you describe - but is DANGEROUS. WHY put/keep yourself... (read in full...)
We broke up last week. Now he's talking FWB. What does he really want?
Q. Heyy please help me out. I am confused and don't know what to do. A month ago me and my bf broke up. Didnot contact each other for like two weeks. And then became friends. Then we start seeing each other and he starts kissing me. I think we are back...
A. 13 August 2012: HE WANTS S*X!!!! THAT, and NOTHING ELSE!!!!!
You are putting yourself in the precarious position of allowing that s*x to go forward, whilest YOU delude yourself in to believing that this new arrangement is the prelude to him taking up with you... (read in full...)
Are guys immediate about pursuing a girl or do they go away to think it through before they make their first move?
Q. I am a very conscientious person and as a result I tend to over analyse and think my way out of things. when it comes to getting to know a guy I tend to hold back at first and observe his behaviour and actions rather than (like many women) pounce a...
A. 13 August 2012: Mens' interest spans - vis a vis cute girls - is measured in NANOSECONDS.....
We are NOT the most introspective of creatures.
What we look for is a sliver of interest on your part (for example, being within 50 feet of us constitutes "int... (read in full...)
Any ideas for gifts?
Q. Need some ideas and advice!! By girlfriends birthday is coming up and it's a big one. She'll be 30! I want to get her something special but have no idea what! We are already planning to go on a little glamping holiday and will have a nice dinner ...
A. 11 August 2012: I guy can NEVER GO WRONG by sending FLOWERS to a lady!!!
Good luck....
P.S. Regardless, the flowers, be SURE to send her (by MAIL!) a card....... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight but I cant afford the gym
Q. Me and my partner of six years have recently split up it was both our choice. And I knew the years I have been with him I had put on weight slowly but yesturday I stepped on the scales and the number I saw was shocking! 15 stone, I felt like crying. ...
A. 11 August 2012: The "formula" for weight loss is crystal clear (to EVERYBODY... if they'll simply pay attention!!!)... To wit:
Eat fewer calories (food) than the calories that you "burn".... Where's the need for a gym????? Do you have roads/tr... (read in full...)
Wanted to ask for her number but felt discouraged.
Q. There's this girl that I talk to from time to time. We have a few laughs here and there whenever I visit her department. I can really see myself getting into this girl. Yesterday morning while getting off from work, I saw her clocking in. I started ...
A. 11 August 2012: Some "buddy" you've got there......
Anyway.... this girl, for whom you have eyes, was placed under the gun.... and NOBODY likes that....
Give this issue a time to blow over.... and - when you can feel more comfortable - you can actually USE... (read in full...)
Should I write this letter to my ex? My friend says no. But I think he deserves it.
Q. I have so much to say to my ex... nothing bad. He was a gentleman til the very end and I wanted to thank him and tell him how sorry I am for not putting my all into the relationship. It will be a kind letter and let him know that maybe our pa...
A. 11 August 2012: Just "stay" broken up and don't bother revealing this part of you to him....... (read in full...)
What else could I have said or done when he was unable to perform? We'd been partying and he was drunk.
Q. I tried to hook up with this guy i've been seeing but he couldn't get it up. We'd been out partying, so it was pretty late and he was drunk. The foreplay went on for ages. I just want to know if there is anything I could do (if it happens agai...
A. 11 August 2012: Nope. There was nothing you could do. Alcohol pretty seriously supresses a guy's ability to perform - sexually - so you have to chalk this up to an unfortunate incident that DIDN'T happen.....
Talk to him... and decide that you will try this, ag... (read in full...)
Religious differences. Parental interference. I love him so much and I know he loves me too. What do I do!?
Q. I'm in love with my guy friend who has been brought up in one religion and me in another religion. I have started to question my beliefs about 2 years ago... now I identify as agnostic. A few months ago I told my parents about my love for my frie...
A. 28 July 2012: THIS is EXACTLY why having STRONG religious beliefs makes absolutely no sense.... Think of it.... "RELIGION" is some sort of arrangement wherein you "believe" you know about some imaginary "being" who has brought about the World... tho' no... (read in full...)
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