Should I still date him even though he is going to have a kid and a lot of drama?
Q. Alright so here is my story. About a month ago I met a guy who wasn't my type, and is 9 years older than me. He is 28 and i'm 19 almost 20. Despite me not thinking anything would happen between us we had good conversation. A coffee date turned into ...
A. 16 May 2012: Who KNOWS how many times it will happen... and how much heartbreak you will have to endure... until you figure out that guys who have wives and other girlfriends aren't very good "boyfriends????"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision to leave my cheating husband?
Q. I have been married for 6 yrs and for the rest of the six yrs my husband has never be faithful. He had atleast 7 affairs just in one yr - dont ask me how he does it but yrs to an extend he was dating 4 other women at a go. He has never just once sho...
A. 16 May 2012: Don't worry. You made a very good decision to get away from this lying, cheating DOG!!!!......... (read in full...)
Her mother has heard my wife is escorting, how should she discuss this her mother?
Q. my wife has been working as an escort since 2009 and is quite satisfied with what she does. it causes no problems in our marriage. we are financially stable now and invest 75 percent of everything she makes. she pays her taxes and even lists her ...
A. 16 May 2012: I think that THIS is the most critical phrase in your whole submittal: ".... so, my wife needs to talk to her mom about it..."
IF your wife was making doughnuts at a local Dunkin' Donuts, would you "say" the same thing????? IF not, then WHY do y... (read in full...)
How can I marry my fiance when he constantly ogles other women?
Q. How can I marry my fiance when he constantly ogles other women? he swears I am ALL he wants and needs...I do not feel that way because despite all his promises to stop this disrespectful act it continues... time after time!!!!...
A. 15 May 2012: If you choose not to continue seeing - or marrying - this guy.... then, I assure you that the favor is being done by YOU, for HIM!!!
I once dated a girl who may have been like you... and she "defined" any glance at ANY other woman as "ogling"... (read in full...)
His 13 year old son is keeping us from being together!
Q. I've been dating a man my age, who is divorced and has 2 kids. His daughter is 8, and we have no issues. His son is 13, and has issues... one of them being me. He has recently decided that he can't sleep at his mother's house where he lives anymore. ...
A. 14 May 2012: I suggest that you tell this "Dad" how you feel and point out to him how it makes you feel marginalized when he acquiesces to his son's (form of) blackmail..... This needn't be a confrontive talk..... just informative. Tell Dad that you underst... (read in full...)
As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?
Q. I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (havi...
A. 14 May 2012: I note that you've included this in your submittal: "....Other than the sex and appearance she is literally my dream girl." Sooooo Mr Smarty-pants, please tell me, what, besides sex and appearances, are the attributes of a dream girl?????....
... (read in full...)
Would you find a 42 year-old Virgin Dateable?
Q. Now to be honest, I have average looks and am average size being a tall, typical bodied white male. The issues exist that I suffer from social anxiety and other disorders, limiting my social skills, which might not attract women right off the ba...
A. 13 May 2012: You are 'WAY too far ahead of things if you think it's important that a woman - ANY WOMAN - should be aware that you are not sexually experienced......... (read in full...)
Why do men marry women that aren't anything like what they look at in porn?
Q. Well i have been confused about this for years. My husband dose this and other guys do this and i believe other girls do this. I have put on some weight through the years after i have had my kids and even before then i wasn't skinny but i was mu...
A. 12 May 2012: Porn is its own fairy tale... and only a pretty-dumb man (or woman) would believe that it (porn) has much connection with "real life."
Soooo, the "answer" to your question is that guys KNOW that porn is fairy-tales... and, despite that, we watch... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a SIGNIFICANTLY lower sex-drive than me
Q. I've been dating this woman for 3 years, and I love everything about her very much. All except one thing, she has an extremely low sex-drive. Where I would be content with 1-2 times a week at LEAST, we're currently having sex every 6-7 weeks, and ...
A. 12 May 2012: "Been there; done that"..... The only "alternatives" are two:
1. Decide to continue living your life in (sexual) frustration... until you DO burst and get away from her, or,
2. Decide, now, that your only alternative to leaving her now ... (read in full...)
He keeps breaking up with me every few weeks. Should I end things?
Q. I am in a relationship with this that used to be my late first ex boyfriend's best friend. Now this BF of he sounds like he is insecure I don't know, he likes breaking up with me for few days or weeks, he broke up with me two weeks back, but we ...
A. 12 May 2012: You've listed sufficient drama such that, the next time he "breaks up" with you, make it permanent.... It will save you the non-future that you can have with this guy...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do handle all this stress and stop making mistakes? Had a break up. Depressed Relocated.
Q. Hi, I don't know where to begin, I am really upset but I'll try to list the facts as brief as possible *Recently graduated from College in finance *Never had a full time job * Moved away from home (I thought it was a relief, until now) *Mo...
A. 12 May 2012: Welcome to the world of adulthood....
Now, (that you're here), take the time to think and act adult. That will include doing your work accurately and conscientiously....
All the other fluff that you included in your submittal is just that....... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my mother I broke up with my b/f
Q. How can I tell my mom I broke up with my now ex boyfriend? I had broken up with him once in the beginning of April because I had found him to clingy for me, I told my mom and she called me a lesbian because he was a sweet good looking boy and that I ...
A. 12 May 2012: I believe that you have a cloudy view of who does what, in life....
YOU are dating this guy. Your MOTHER is not. YOU have broken up with this guy. Your MOTHER has not....
You need to be sure that you don't let your Mother's attempts to vica... (read in full...)
I'm 64. Is it normal that I still want sex?
Q. i am a woman of 64 and widowed. i last saw a man in my bed 3,5 yrs ago. i still want love and sex. is this normal. please dont give me moral answers. i know we all need love to the end of our lives. i want sex too. and with love cos i tie sex with ...
A. 12 May 2012: We read in the media that STD's and HIV infections have gotten skewed to those in OUR age group.... so there's GOT to be SOME "fooling around" going on!!!!!
Of course it's normal to want to experience love/warmth/intimacy/even, SEX!!! The old ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much to be holding hands and kissing by now?
Q. hello i am in a relationship with a man for almost 6 months, i haven't been in a relationship for a few years and previously had mostly one night stands. He has told me that he hasn't had a serious relationship because he has a lot of one night ...
A. 12 May 2012: 6 months is adequate time for 180 one night stands. What is it with the two of you?
It could be that he is playing the "four date" scheme by taking things slowly... but this? ... this is begging even THAT!!!!!
Stay close and friendly with th... (read in full...)
We argue all the time and it always seems to be my fault! Should I postpone our wedding? How do I fix this without breaking up with him?
Q. Hi guys, I'm 20 years old and have been living with my boyfriend for a year. Everything was amazing up until a month or so ago, we have been arguing a lot and I'm finding my self taking the blame for every thing bad in our relationship as I am ...
A. 12 May 2012: I think you've included your answer... "..I constantly feel upset and find myself wishing I could talk to my boyfriend the way he was when he first moved in. I don't want to break up with him so please don't suggest that as I wont do it..." then ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his 1st official Gf. Should I consider it? Seeing as he's slept with 70 women in the past?
Q. Dear Advice Givers, Im 21 years old, currently involved with a 23 year old man for around 4 months. We are completely into each other, spent alot of time and did romantic things together, all peachy till he confessed his number...the num...
A. 12 May 2012: If you could see me as I'm typing this, you would note that I am bright, almost-neon green with envy at this guy you fancy.... Heck, here I am in my advanced years, and I don't think I've ever even TALKED to 70 women... and he (at just 23) has ... (read in full...)
I hate the hurtful feeling that my mom is always nicer to my younger sister!
Q. I'm two years older than my sister and my mom is always comparing us. She always says to look at my sister who has a slender face unlike my chubby one. She hints that my sister will be more successful. She says things like "Your sister is going to ...
A. 12 May 2012: "Favorite brother/sister" claims seem to take on a life of their own if the "unfavorite" brother/sister lets them....
I suggest that you peer in to the future.... say, 15 years from now.... You will be following your dreams; your sister, her's. ... (read in full...)
Should I contact this guy and say I'm interested in just casual sex?
Q. So there's this guy that I dated (we went out for a total of about 7 times). He stopped contacting me about a month and a half ago for some reason which I don't know why. I was really really attracted to him and since my last relationship of about ...
A. 12 May 2012: It's a fine idea if you are convinced that the "price" for s*x is your soul and self-esteem.....
"Casual sex"..... "FWB" arrangements almost always end with one of the participants (most often the woman, according to what I've seen on this sit... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 9 May 2012: I think it's charming (and "cute") that you feel this way about your Mother.
However, it's also unrealistic. SHE is the adult in your family.... and what she chooses to wear to the beach is really none of your business.....
I hope that y... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 9 May 2012: I think that women - who, unfortunately, don't have penises - will NEVER be able to understand the attraction of "FWB" to men.....
It has to do with making "Mr Happy" happy...... and NOT having to do anything (at all!!!) to incur that happines... (read in full...)
What are the chances my girlfriend still loves her ex?
Q. this is a question going out to the ladies out there, can you go from a 4 year relationship to a new relationship (say within 1 year) and love the new guy? To make the story short, I basically starting going out with a girl who got out of 4 year r...
A. 9 May 2012: Jay: "Sounds" to me like you are accurately on the path of scuttling any possibility of having a long-term, warm, affectionate and satisfying relationship with this - or ANY woman.....
Read your submittal again.... no, once isn't enough..... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and keeps asking me for naked pictures
Q. This guy I was talking to recently got out of a long term relationship and he has kids with this woman. A few months ago he decided to get back with her because he didn't want to pull his kids away from their mother. Since they got back together we ...
A. 7 May 2012: He's doing it because YOU allow it!!!!
From your description of this guy.... and what has gone on between the two of you.... you would do well to cease any contact with him. If you do (stop contact) then "the picture" question will go away....... (read in full...)
How to deal with a toxic mother?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I am in a situation, which I'm unsure how to deal with and wondered if anybody who has any experience of this, could offer any advice? It's very complicated and the details go back years, but I'll try to keep it to th...
A. 7 May 2012: You must love this woman because she is your Mother.
Beyond that, you don't have to have a darn thing to do with her......
You sound like you're trying, oh-so-hard, to do the "right" thing... that is the "right" thing as you believe others d... (read in full...)
I've been a fool and don't know how to right my wrongs
Q. I am a widow ,but I date and have friends,so I don't really feel lonely.A yr. ago i met a man online and we began a good friendship.He was still somewhat involved with his high school sweetheart.We talked about the relationship or should i say I did ...
A. 5 May 2012: yelarose: Why do you think that age (difference) has to be ANY issue with you and this man???????
STOP subverting yourself, and START having a good time with him... and let life, love, chemistry and whatever else take over.....
Good lu... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 5 May 2012: WOW!!! Talk of a submittal that is "buckshot" of bits and pieces and no clear question is included.... May I offer an opinion based on what I THINK you have written???? i.e.: You and hubby are planning to move "up north" and open a restauran... (read in full...)
Why are girls wearing clothes you can see their butts in?
Q. It is starting to get warm out now and why do a lot of the girls wear their shorts so short? I have seen sport shorts and cutoffs and they all seem to be extemely short, to the point that their cheeks are hanging out. I have also seen dresses that ...
A. 5 May 2012: My comments? YOU wear what you like and what you think looks good on you.... and.... whatever OTHER women are wearing is THEIR BUSINESS.... and whether or not they look good is none of YOUR business......
... (read in full...)
Looks like if I want to be with my boyfriend then I better not talk to any other guy for the rest of my life!
Q. My LDR boyfriend of 2 years always gets mad at me whenever he sees me talking to a guy even if it's just a normal conversation, no flirty talks, no hooking up whatsoever. He'll become so mad that he'll bring that into arguments for days. He even got ...
A. 5 May 2012: Let's focus on this phrase in your submittal: ".... gets mad at me whenever he sees me talking to a guy..."
This is classic abuser behaviour, wherein he is beginning to "cut" you off from your regular contacts with the (outside) world... so that ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a breadwinner about to buy a house?
Q. Hi every1. I'm 32 yrs an in a relationship bt not married. I'm a breadwinner at home. I'm about to buy a house with my boyfriend an move out at home. My problem is I'm not sure what's going to happen as I don't know what to do as ill have pay school ...
A. 5 May 2012: So what you're REALLY "saying" is: ".... I have a chance to make a REAL dunderheaded move and buy a house "with my boyfriend" (Are you REALLY going to put his name on the deed??????).... and I'm not sure if this action - which is kind of the ... (read in full...)
Are men put off by women who have given birth?
Q. question for the men on here.. Are men put off by women who have given birth? either because they watched their partner give birth which has put them off sex and can't get the image of their head of seeing partner being stretched and watching som...
A. 4 May 2012: Whether or not a woman has given birth is really not of much importance to guys. Whether or not she is a nice/warm/personable/loveable woman IS important.... Try to be one of the latter.... and don't give it a second thought if you are one of... (read in full...)
Is my boss attracted to me? If he is, how do I let him know I am attracted to him too?
Q. I am very much confused by a certain individual. He is much older than I am and he is my boss. He is not my immediate supervisor, but he is a higher up in the company and I work with him quite a lot. (I am aware that this is considered by most to be ...
A. 4 May 2012: I think the most important phrase in your submittal is this one: "... I would appreciate if this was not part of your answer. Thank you." By including it, you've pretty much acknowledged that you KNOW the "answer" to your question... but ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my friend from getting hurt? His fiance flirts with other guys right in front of him!
Q. Hi all, I want to see what others think of a friend of mine getting married in a couple of months and there's nothing anyone can do about it, not even his parents. He's in his late twenties. I feel so bad for the poor guy because she's got him blind ...
A. 4 May 2012: Sometimes.... you can see a friend heading for a fall - for a terrible mistake (as far as you can tell).... BUT, you're really got to just sit back and let them make that mistake!!!! ... (read in full...)
I want anal again but she refuses! What should I do? I want to go with a call girl just for revenge!
Q. We did it two times but she doesn't want it anymore, the first time was painful to her but the second one she enjoyed because i did it a soft way! Now i desire to have anal intercourse again with her but she doesn't want it, we've talked about th...
A. 4 May 2012: I love your submittal, Luke. Here you are, age 26-29 according to your submittal.... and you're asking us the kind of question that we might expect from a 12-year-old. Revenge sex???? Why not get your revenge by driving your car in to a brid... (read in full...)
Going to senior prom with my friend: is this a proper 'date' or just a 'friend-date'?
Q. Yes, I'm having one of those teen-cliche-romance issues. Senior Prom: the word says it all. So I need to know, is this a "date" or a friend-date? And should my friend be mad at me? My guy friend, D, and I have known eachother since the learning...
A. 4 May 2012: I recommend that you spend 'way less time DEFINING the terms - or "definition" - under which you are going to your prom.... and spend a LOT more time getting a great dress and hair coif.... and have a GREAT TIME at the prom. The morning after (t... (read in full...)
I never feel backed, protected, loved. I don't understand why I can't be enough, why the promises he made about wanting to get married and have a kid can't happen.
Q. I have lived with my boyfriend for around 3 years, we own a house together. His life very much involves his friends and he spends a great deal of time texting each day, I ran across a bill while cleaning and he sent 1700 texts in one month for ...
A. 4 May 2012: So, Renee.... you spent quite some time writing this submittal which details just exactly what an ASS is this "boyfriend" of your's..... Will it take more than a minute or two for you to realize just what a loser he is, and decide, then and ... (read in full...)
Why is it hard for me to initiate sex with my girlfriend?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. We usually would have sex once or twice a week for the first 6 months then it gradually decreased to where we haven't had sex in at least a couple of months. Now I am finding it hard to initiate ...
A. 3 May 2012: I have a couple of questions:
1. Since YOU don't/aren't initiating sex, IS SHE??????, and,
2. IF/when you DO initiate sex, does she respond enthusiastically, or does she respond half-heartedly, as if being intimate with you is a chore?
I... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been cheated out of a happily ever after
Q. I am a very devoted wife. I cook daily for my husband, try to have sex with him daily, I even surprise my husband with lingerie, or cleaning house in the nude, but he never takes interest. When my husband and I dated he was a totally different guy, ...
A. 3 May 2012: Give him one opportunity to 'fess up and revert to being the man who you married. IF he sez "no way...." (as you tell us he has, in the past), then tell him that you are leaving and will be looking for that elusive guy who is the one who HE ... (read in full...)
My B/f lied to me for 3 years telling me that we could be together, when he didn't mean any of it!
Q. So heres my story 4 years ago i started dating this guy who i left my husband for. We have known each other for about 10 years and he was my best friend. He just got out of a relationship and we started dating and i left my husband. I also hav...
A. 3 May 2012: Two phrases in your submittal stand out to me:
1. "....this guy who i left my husband for...." WHY would any woman leave her husband (and her marriage) "for" a guy who hasn't really indicated that he's going to be there to cushion the fall????... (read in full...)
He spent the night and had sex with me. Now nothing! How should I act when I see him next?
Q. I'll try to be brief : he was very interested came on strong said all the right things / I made him wait / so now that we spent a night together and sex // haven't heard anything from him !! It hurts and I need to know how to get past it and how ...
A. 3 May 2012: I would file this incident under "Typical male behaviour - TO BE AVOIDED"...... and hope that it's the only item in that file, now.... and that you don't have to put any more items in that file in the future....
Good luck.... and, P.S. on behal... (read in full...)
Would you learn a different language to be with someone?
Q. Here's the story. There's this girl that works with me. Before last week I never talked to her before. I would catch her looking at me from time to time. Always staring at me when she thought I wasn't looking. Most of the times I didn't know what to ...
A. 3 May 2012: I find Braille to be a pretty universal language....
It starts with handholding... but, after the lights go out, there is LOTS MORE that you can "communicate" to a woman by simple touch.... Study THAT, young man, and you will never "be at a loss f... (read in full...)
The lack of communication is driving me insane!
Q. I'm dating a 3rd year resident ophthalmologist long distance. When we're together everything makes sense. We love each other and he even admitted to being in love with me but the moment we we separate he only texts like once a week. sometimes he ...
A. 3 May 2012: I recommend that you write him a message that goes:
"I don't SEE what the heck you're doing. I think we have a relationship, but it's INVISIBLE to me...."
THAT should pique his curiosity....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
She lied to me!
Q. I am in a relationship with the person I love and wanted to be with. We have been in a relationship for a year now and decided to get married as we both are 28 years old and ready to settle down. We were honest to each other and very loving bu...
A. 2 May 2012: She never "lied" to you.... AND, if you are going to hold this bit of her past "against" her,..... then YOU, Sir, are going to lose out on a pretty good partner!!!! ... (read in full...)
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