What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: "What shall I do to get rid of her!"... OH, you are "reading" this situation SO INCORRECTLY... AND you have the spotlight on the wrong player..... This is between you and your hubby. SHE (that other woman) has all she wants and needs.... and ... (read in full...)
Our marriage has hit a rough patch and his way of dealing with it is masturbating to pictures of naked girls. My feelings don't matter. Help?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years and for the second time we have hit a rough patch. When this happens he becomes glued to naked pictures of girls online. He even goes so far as to masterbate to them. We have recently talked and are ...
A. 13 June 2012: What you've REALLY described is an "arrangement" where YOU are second-fiddle in this man's life.... to PORN images...
You say you've made him aware of how it makes you feel... NOW you have to make it clear to him that being SECOND is somethin... (read in full...)
I'm over my ex but he now wants to "catch up". Should I?
Q. dear cupid and readers , my ex boyfriend messaged me that he missed me and how we should catch up. Should i.?? Our Realationship didnt work out he had jeleousy issues. So ive managed to push him away for a whole year, and being single at first ...
A. 13 June 2012: "Sounds" to me like he's got you tethered with a very thin string.... but that YOU aren't ready to break that tether and get on with your life.....
You've described a very clear choice, that you face.... but that decision is your's and your's o... (read in full...)
Did I just get too used to being single?
Q. TL;DR I'm a bitter emotional cripple dating, for all I know, a very sweet woman. So I've been dating this woman for about a month and a half now, and I'm curious if either what I'm feeling is normal or I've got a personality disorder and jus...
A. 13 June 2012: If you keep "working at it" it's almost a sure-bet that you can sabotage this budding relationship. BUT, since you've posted what you have, on here, it's clear that you KNOW you're doing the sabotage..... so now.... STOP IT!!! Orrrrr, decide that ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time with my bf watching porn!
Q. Hi! Before you reply with "get over it, he's a guy" just hear me out! I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. he's 20 i'm turning 19 in a few days. When we first started dating I was absolutely fine with him watching porn, we'd ...
A. 13 June 2012: Sounds like you started out accomodating his porn watching... but that it (watching) has now gone out of balance. You need to bring this up to HIM..... and tell him HOW YOU FEEL (DON'T "tell him" to stop watching!!!! That's a sure-fire way to ... (read in full...)
I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ?
Q. I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ? Why am I so unwanted ? It hurts.Can any one help me ? Thanks !...
A. 13 June 2012: I'd guess there's not a darn thing "wrong" with you.... simply, in the randomness of compatible people encountering one-another in life, you haven't had that encounter yet.... Be patient... and don't fall in to that trap of believing that YOU are ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like my small breasts
Q. Am 22.married last month.ive got small breasts. And my husband is'nt happy with. Which makes me sad and our sex incomplete. I really need make them little bigger to impress my husband.i need advice and solutions....
A. 13 June 2012: HOW can you have gotten this far in to a "relationship" (a MARRIAGE, fer cryin' out loud!!!!) and not noticed that this guy is an absolute JERK??????? You are who you are. Your breasts are the size that they are. He NEVER NOTICED YOUR BRE... (read in full...)
Will this guy tell everyone that I don't shave down there?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old. The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago. He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there. Th...
A. 13 June 2012: There's no reason that a guy should discuss ANY of what goes on between you and him with ANYBODY ELSE!!!!
IF he does, THEN you know that you have revealed yourself to a CREEP who isn't worth your time of day.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What goes around comes around!
Q. My ex is really suffering now but I don't know whether to feel sorry or avenged for how he has treated me in the past. He left me to marry somebody else. His marriage has now broken down even though he's been trying to get back with her but she...
A. 12 June 2012: Feel avenged.... AND don't give him another thought. WHY would you give this DOG another chance to make your life miserable???????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I unsay the hurtful words I said to my boyfriend during an argument?
Q. how can I undo, the hurt full words I said to my boyfriend, during a argument, It all started, when we went to cath a bus, to cash his check, and i woke him up from his little nap he was taking, and he got angrey about it. So while we were standing, ...
A. 12 June 2012: You can't "unring" a bell.... you can't "take back" hurtful words that have passed out over your lips....
You CAN apologize for the hurtful words.... and you CAN exhibit the remorsefulness that displays that you ARE sorry for those words...... (read in full...)
Do you have to be physically attracted to someone to have sex with them?
Q. I think I worded a question wrong the other day, but what I really wanted to know is do men sleep with women that they aren't physically attracted to, especially more than once. I think my suggested question title got changed and people basicall...
A. 11 June 2012: The answer to your question can be summed up in this tired, old cliche:
Women need a reason to have sex; Men only need a place....... (read in full...)
If it's so great there how come I can't go too?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida. However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my...
A. 11 June 2012: I'm with you. The '96 Intrepid is a FAR SUPERIOR car to the '06 Malibu. In fact, you may want to start court action to assure that she cannot take your Dodge in the future....
Good luck.... I drive an '05 Stratus..... and have a '67 Avanti i... (read in full...)
A wall? Am I crazy? She says I have just pushed her away
Q. I have a issue that i'm not sure how to handle. Long story short, my wife of 5 years recently took a much needed vacation to her parents house and i took some time off from work to take care of the kids so she could get a little breather. While ...
A. 11 June 2012: No.... you're not crazy.... but you ARE acting as if you are blind.....
Your wifey is laying the groundwork for an affair with her old squeeze.... and she is not being at all subtle about it...
Make your plans for how you are going to handle ... (read in full...)
My marriage is on the rocks. Why didn't my Bf say we are seeing each other or dating?
Q. Dear cupid i am separated from my husband ( he is ^^^^ and i hate him). I am seeing one of my office colleague, we were friends and then got attached. Me getting separated from my husband have nothing to do with my bf. my husband is impote...
A. 11 June 2012: I note this, in your submittal: ".... Office policy does allow dating colleague..."
Have you and your paramour friend decided which of you will leave your employment when H/R sez to you: " Office policy does allow dating colleague.... so ONE O... (read in full...)
I'm truly smitten but he wants to keep it a casual relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 41 and just came out of a 20+ year marriage. Met a guy online, met in real life, 'clicked' physically and (for me at least) emotionally. But he hasn't. THe sex is incredible - first person I have orgasmed with ever - and I am utterly smit...
A. 11 June 2012: You've accurately described a situation wherein HE enjoys s*x with you ... WITHOUT ANY EMOTIONS INVOLVED (on his part).... whilest YOU are falling for him......
The "end result" is easily predictable... HE will use you.... you will experien... (read in full...)
Trust issues! What help do I need to overcome my paranoia and fear of of being used by women?
Q. I'm at a very distressing time in my life and its because I'm so paranoid of Women. It started as I was little and in kindergarten. I always noticed how the girls in class would act towards guys. After each grade I would notice random things but i...
A. 11 June 2012: Wait'll you get to my age. You will pray, every day, that some woman - ANY woman - will "use" you...
Good luck......... (read in full...)
It's only on nights out when we drink we confess we love each other. Do drunken thoughts speak sober minds?
Q. I think I may be falling for my best friend (P) I have never felt like this about anyone. I'm scared of how I feel even P has said he is. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. P let me know about my ex cheating on me twice. But my ex denied...
A. 11 June 2012: Oh Yeah.... You're falling for him.....
What do you propose to do.... stay drunk, throughout your lives, so that you can tell each other that you love one-another??????
Try dealing with one-another when you are sober.... then, STAY SOBER and s... (read in full...)
Every little thing with my family turns into a huge argument and I can't move out!
Q. Hey guys I really need some help. So - over the years I've never easily got on with my family. We always end up arguing about everything and what starts as a very small thing soon gets blown into a huge issue. EG: being told off for Attitude...
A. 11 June 2012: I had a Brother like you, once.... and I've spent the rest of my life ignoring him.....
P.S. He ignores me.... so it's "a wash"......... (read in full...)
How to write a letter to your ex without pushing him away- Help! My brain hurts!
Q. I have had an ongoing saga with my ex for almost a year now. He broke up with me and was with someone else, all the while calling me to tell me he cared about me, missed me and was confused. They broke and he came into town and wanted to see me and ...
A. 11 June 2012: The smart thing to do.... the thing that will AVOID you having "brain hurt"... is to IGNORE this guy......
What would make you want to write to him??????... (read in full...)
Baggage from the break-up is getting in the way with new guys
Q. My boyfriend and i split up 8 months ago but he wont stop texting me abusive texts, leaving abusive messages (still after this long)etc. He calls me such horrible names and makes me feel like its my fault that he got depressed because i broke up ...
A. 9 June 2012: An abuser is only able to abuse someone who ALLOWS IT!!!!!
YOU, OP, are ALLOWING this idjit to have control over you.
Now.... pull on your "big girl" panties, take a deep breath, puff out your chest and say, (to him and yourself): "Eno... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to leave?
Q. Hey, thanks in advance for any answers. I live with my boyfriend, with a joint tenency but recently we've not been getting on well and we want to split up. He doesn't like living here and can't afford it on his own anyway. I, however, really ...
A. 9 June 2012: Whose name(s) is/are on the lease???? IF it's a "joint tenancy" (both of you are lessees), then you need to let that agreement (with the lessor) lapse, expire or be broken... and THEN you might be able to re-lease the place. As long a HIS NAME ... (read in full...)
He has been married twice before but wont marry me!
Q. I've been with my bf for about 4years now we have 9month babys and we have had are ups and dwns but now that we are good I want to get married to hem he's been married twice befor and he's half my age everytime I talk to hem about getting married he ...
A. 9 June 2012: You and he produced a BABY!!!!! AND, yet, you say that he "...he doesn't wwant to get married anymore he say its to much trouble to get a divorce..."
You were correct in your "Huh?" response.... but failed to "finish" that response... (read in full...)
How can I keep it a secret if I get involved with a married man?
Q. I posted a question earlier about a relationship with an older man who is married with children. I thought he was flirting with me and it turns out he was. We met to talk about the project we're both involved in and he drove me home (again!). I...
A. 5 June 2012: Your submittal makes it crystal clear that you KNOW how wrong it is, what you're doing.... Yet, you say you can't hold out, and will go on and do this, anyway....
Have you given any thought to what's "in this" for YOU?????(Clue: the answer i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps cheating on me, but I can't stop loving him. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and a half. We are together usually every night, I sleep over his place, his family loves me and we say I love you but in Feb I caught him with a girl over his house. One night stand type of thing, we split and ...
A. 4 June 2012: You have before you proof-positive that a man ("men") will say ANYTHING to get a woman to put out for him... and KEEP PUTTING OUT, if he likes the s*x.....
You've got all the evidence you need to conclude that this is such a guy,.... and that - u... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my fwb, who I'm sure doesn't feel the same. What should I do?
Q. Iv had sex with this girl who was a sort of friend 3 times now. It was only supposed to be no strings sex and it still is for her. problem is i'm falling for her and not sure what i should do. she said at the start that she didn't want a relation...
A. 4 June 2012: "FWB" often ends up as you have experienced.... with one of the participants "falling for" the other......
IF you and she cannot reconcile the mismatch of affections, then the FWB must fail... and you must find another girl to fool around with....... (read in full...)
Marriage of 20 years--I'm tired of looking the other way..I WANT OUT!
Q. Help... In 2 weeks I celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary. but after dealing with the fact that my "loving" husband cheated on me with a prostitute i want out. He also contacted old girl friend on computer and flirts all the time with other ...
A. 3 June 2012: YOu wish has given you great advice. YOU need to start to determine EXACTLY where you will pick up the pieces of this life that you've squandered.... AND, start the NEW life that you WILL HAVE that will be GREAT!!!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My partner has a nylon fetish and a weird swimsuit fetish, which involved HIM wearing a woman's swimsuit and not me!!
Q. I'm 32, my partner's 34, we've been together for 4 years now. Our sex life's been on the wane recently since my partner found a new fetish... nylon. He sits looking at pictures of it and people wearing it on the computer (doesn't matter who to him),...
A. 3 June 2012: I suggest that you and he sit down, sometime when things are not "hot and heavy".... and you show him a copy of this submittal....and ask him, "Hey, (his name here), I made this submittal, and I'd like to get your opinion of it. I like you... but ... (read in full...)
He confessed to like me. I don't like him. Should I not be around this group of friends now?
Q. A guy in a group of friends confessed to me and I rejected him. And because i really have no interest in me,i am feeling very disgusted with him and wish to avoid him. But recently he kept organising group outings,i really do not wish to attend as i ...
A. 2 June 2012: You don't need to kiss off your whole group of friends. Just be attentive to events and goings-on where this guy will be and avoid them......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is there any woman who would even consider dating a guy with his life in as big a mess as mine?
Q. So, this is my first time posting here, but I could really use some advice. I'm 24 years old, and still living with my father and sister. I've been looking for work for well over a year now, and recently got laid-off from the job I had. Making th...
A. 2 June 2012: Sounds" to me like you've got yourself convinced that your life is in the proverbial commode and there's no saving you....
The big question? Are you going to let THAT be "who you are"......????? or, are you going to grow up, learn about and focu... (read in full...)
Boyfriend would rather look at porn pictures than pictures of me
Q. Would this bother anyone else? It feels like my boyfriend didn't want pictures of me to use when i wasn't there because he prefers the porn models. I know he wouldn't ask me for pictures because he's too nice, but i'm concerned why he wouldn't ask ...
A. 2 June 2012: I think you're "overthinking" a matter that doesn't matter........ (read in full...)
My baby's daddy is giving me the cold shoulder
Q. Ill try to keep this short and sweet, my bf and i were together over 3 years we have a 2 year old together. he has a lot of stress and demons, drug addict, anxiety, can't hold a job, his dad just passed away, we never broke up but he seems to say we ...
A. 2 June 2012: You describe a pathetic excuse for a man, then say: 'i don't want to walk away from my family, we're all he has!"
For the life of me, I can't understand why you don't say: "Good riddance... at least NOW I - and OUR son - can get on with an almos... (read in full...)
I wish I hadn't asked my b/f if he would be interested in dating his friend if we broke up
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months and I enjoy discussing everything and posed the hypothetical question of "if we were to break up, would you be interested in pursuing any of your friends". Fyi, he has casual female friends whom he has dated briefly in the ...
A. 2 June 2012: My wife once asked me if I would re-marry if she died. I said that I wasn't certain. She said, "Well, I hope you do re-marry.... BUT, If you do...I hope you won't let her use my golf clubs."
I said, "Don't worry. She's left handed..... (read in full...)
Help me! My wife has become stupid!
Q. When I met my wife I was mesmerized by her beauty and brains. Somewhere over the last 20 years, although she is just as beautiful, she has lost all of her wits. She throws tantrums after not being able to figure out the most mundane things like pri...
A. 2 June 2012: What an enlightened guy, and a great partner!!! MOST of us guys, enduring what you've described, would walk away and never look back. YOU, on the other hand, are such a great guy that you are looking to determine what the heck is going on... and ... (read in full...)
After hooking up with my ex, now FWB he doesn't respond back!
Q. I know this is going to sound petty but I'm pretty upset so it means alot to me :) My ex and I ( dated 6 mos) recently ended things but care fir each other and decided to stay friends. Well, then we realized seeing each other would lead to mo...
A. 1 June 2012: "Sounds" to me like he's found some OTHER girl to put out for him.... so you have become "yesterday's newspaper..."
Look elsewhere and get on with your life.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 5 years and sometimes I think about cheating
Q. I'm a 60 yr.old male, married for nearly 33 yrs.My wife went thru"the change" a bit early I think(she's about 5 yrs.younger).We haven't had sex for over 5 yrs.now. Both of us were involved in an unusual accident 2 yrs.ago where she ended up having ...
A. 1 June 2012: P.S. I wasn't married... we were just "best friends..."... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 5 years and sometimes I think about cheating
Q. I'm a 60 yr.old male, married for nearly 33 yrs.My wife went thru"the change" a bit early I think(she's about 5 yrs.younger).We haven't had sex for over 5 yrs.now. Both of us were involved in an unusual accident 2 yrs.ago where she ended up having ...
A. 1 June 2012: IF you change "accident" to "medical condition" your's is EXACTLY my story......
I gave up, about a year ago, on hoping against hope that there was ever going to be a "sex-life" between us, again...
Since, I've found a lovely lady who is attr... (read in full...)
Where is the best placet to look for the type of women I want to meet?
Q. I'm currently at uni but feel held back by my lack of experience. I want to meet fun, attractive and intelligent women that are outside of my course. I have no idea where to look for women to start a relationship with... Any ideas or help would be...
A. 1 June 2012: I suggest that you hang around the library. I currently volunteer at my local library.... AND, if I knew - 25 years ago - how many HOT (and LITERATE!) women there are to be found at libraries, I would NEVER have spent so darn much $$$$ at my local ... (read in full...)
B/f had 3 year relationship with me a baby, then I find out he was seeing another woman for 6 years!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and 3 days before i gave birth to our now 2 month old son the 'other woman' knocked my door and i found out he was having a on and off again relationship with her for 6 years! Even though she found out ...
A. 1 June 2012: You have a "boyfriend" whose penis is OUT OF CONTROL... and YOU, dear lady, are NOT going to place any controls on it... I GUARANTEE IT!!!!!
Best solution: Get away from this creep and make a better life for yourself, WITHOUT HIM IN IT!!!!! ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be single and happy?
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for some advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation. I'm single and have been for a while, which does particulalry bother me, except a lot of my friends have recenently got into relationships and im starting to ...
A. 1 June 2012: You simply need to remind yourself that, in six months, those of your girlfriends who are dating guys are probably going to be submitting here, saying the likes of: "My boyfriend is a jerk,..." or, "My boyfriend is sleeping with my best ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is a bossy girl a massive turn off?
Q. Hey, i was talking to my friends the other day about guys we've hooked up with and now im a bit worried. When im with a guy i tend to sort of tell them what I want them to do...like if they're not turning me on, i'll say 'do this is me...'. But my ...
A. 1 June 2012: It depends upon what she's bossy about....
Consider: If she sez, "Hey there, stud..... get your clothes off and meet me in the bedroom in five minutes.." who'd have any problem with that..... BUT,
If she sed: "Hey, Wimp-boy, get the dishes d... (read in full...)
B/f helps support me financially but says he doesn't want me with him. What does that say about our future?
Q. I have been with my guy for 7 years he is in Canada for the year. I was living with my step father while I was preparing for my masters degree in occupational therapy and he kicked me out due to the fact I lost my job with the economy. I'm in a ...
A. 1 June 2012: I find it interesting that you refer to "my guy"... as if there really is some sort of "relationship" going on between the two of you........
For SEVEN years, you've persevered, in the belief that you and he have/had a "relatio... (read in full...)
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