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writes: Is is wrong...as a guy, to want to be "saved" by a girl?I guess I don't exactly know what I want from women but I do believe I want to be with them.Still, I've never been in a relationship with a girl...NEVER!! Girls just never seem to like me, ever since prep school. How come I can't just be myself and for once in my life attract a girl that I actually like without getting some big lecture that I need to pretty much change everything about me (attitude, clothes, habits, etc.)Yes, sometimes I get why they say these thing but most times I see it as incredibly unfair and even more hypocritical. I'm a pretty average guy, I don't see anything wrong with me so whats the big deal.Nowadays I just stay away from women. I don't make "attempts" anymore, I haven't in sometime, i always get my hopes and confidence up and then POWWWW!!!!.You have to understand never being in a relationship has a toll on me and also I've gotten so use to being alone, i sometimes feel it would be incredible weird if I did get into a relationship with someone. I'm starting to like being alone....i think.Its funny how I can be positive to everything else but this....it's like a struck nerve. I hate when people ask me "How come you don't have a girlfriend?" I think that's the main reason I've grown anti social, because in college everybody talks sex but I cant relate to these conversations so I just shy away.Why is it that we live in a society where we are always told to be ourselves, but when we do we don't gather the results we want. I'm harassed for being too nice or too mean, too soft or too rough as if nothing I do works. I have honestly lost all track of who I am, I don't know who I am anymore.I cant cope in a number ways anymore, is it possible a girl, just maybe, might be willing to save me without me having to be a "bad-ass".....I dunno, maybe I'm watching too many movies.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 You do not and should not need to change for anybody and always remember that, if a girl is asking you to change then it is obvious that girl is not the right one for you. You should not give up hope, not all girls are the same, and yes everybody gets rejected through there life, but do not give up hope. If you like being alone well that's good, at least you are happy being single for now. But don't be afraid to talk to girls and get to know them. There is no harm in having female friends and sometimes a friendship can turn in to so much more if you do not put pressure on yourself.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 IF you've been hanging with girls who start in telling you how to "improve" yourself... then you need to find a different circle of "friends."
Good luck....
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