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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone,Ive been in a relationship for almost 2 years and i always make it clear at the start of a relationship i don't accept porn, reason being i don't feel its needed when you have a partner willing to please you, it just makes me feel unattractive and just not good enough for him. I don't live with my boyfriend but he has access to me 3 days a week and the other 4 over a webcam. At the start of my relationship my boyfriend told me he didn't watch porn but i moved in with him for a month 2 months ago and found a large amount in his browsing history (for the record, i was not snooping, i genuinely believed him from the start) i brought it up calmly even though he had lied to me and said i find it unacceptable.I went to his house last week and i found another lot of porn and yes, this time i was snooping and i just felt disgusted. I have offered countless times for him to film us having sex for his personal viewing and he would reply "Why?" like it was a stupid idea. Also when i went on webcam for him a few nights back because he was making some sexual comments like "Get your boobs out so i can have a w**k" so i did, and about 10 seconds into getting undressed on camera he told me to put myself away!!?Hes never made me orgasm and i haven't started pointing the finger because im more sympathetic and it looked like it actually bothered him about 6 months in, but now he doesn't even try to please me and sex doesn't last for more than a minute. Weve been having alot of problems lately more or less revolving around trust over a chat log i found on his facebook which he left open (but thats another story if anyone has time to answer a question about that privately please say). I'm starting to feel like i should get out before i get hurt, Am i being unreasonable?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 I have a ton of links on my profile that I think you will find helpful (just click on my name and it will take you there), but first check out this one:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
You're not being unreasonable at all, don't let anyone try to tell you that you are.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 June 2012):
 "Sounds" like the two of you are incompatible... AND you are a snoop.... WHY would you (two) even begin to think that there should be "anything" between you?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): i find it crazy that you're still with some one who makes you feel this way!
you need to stand up for yourself and get some practice walking away from people who treat you like this, or you could be looking at the same problems in future relationships.
leave him and dont look back.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 June 2012):
 If he doesn't try to please you
If sex lasts for a mere minute
if he's lying to you about his porn use
if he's using porn and it's a deal breaker...
and if you don't trust him,
i'd get out.
you are not being unreasonable at all.
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