What else could I have said or done when he was unable to perform? We'd been partying and he was drunk.
Q. I tried to hook up with this guy i've been seeing but he couldn't get it up. We'd been out partying, so it was pretty late and he was drunk. The foreplay went on for ages. I just want to know if there is anything I could do (if it happens agai...
A. 11 August 2012: Nope. There was nothing you could do. Alcohol pretty seriously supresses a guy's ability to perform - sexually - so you have to chalk this up to an unfortunate incident that DIDN'T happen.....
Talk to him... and decide that you will try this, ag... (read in full...)
I asked her out in 2010. She refused. Since then she will not speak to me. Is it now time to confront her on her Ostracism of me?
Q. My friend stopped talking to me after she rejected me, I'm not sure what to do My friend said no when I asked her out. It makes sense that she stopped talking to me too. I guess I expected it when it happened, but that was December 2010. I mean I d...
A. 11 August 2012: She "rejected" you... so you don't have to have anything to do with her.... so,.... why would you????... (read in full...)
Issues between the co-worker and I. So how do I avoid attending her birthday lunch being organised?
Q. My co-worker and I been working in the same dept. for a long time. We get along ok all these years and I consider her a friend at work. Few months ago, she made a "very offensive" comment about me to other colleague. I was very upset and offend...
A. 11 August 2012: You need to determine how much this get-together is a "work" event versus a "personal" event....
IF it's mostly the former, then put your hatchet in its holster, swallow hard and go along....
IF it's largely the latter... then find a convenien... (read in full...)
How can I stop my ex asking me for money?
Q. hi. my ex girlfriend keeps asking me for money for fags and food because i live at home and have no bills to pay and she has her own place with bills and rent but isnt working, she on benefits. she is an ex who i have never lived with and wasnt ...
A. 11 August 2012: If you don't come through with the cash, a few times, she might stop..... OF course, that means that you will already be a few bucks ahead.... AND you will get MORE bucks ahead as you refuse to give her cash more and more times!!!!
How difficul... (read in full...)
He says I scare the hell out of him!
Q. What does it mean when the man your interested in says to you, "you scare the hell out of me"?...
A. 11 August 2012: Thanks for the opportunity to translate this bit of "manspeak" for you....
"you scare the hell out of me" means that a guy has learned that he will not be able to make you one of "his girls"..... with the consequent availability of consensu... (read in full...)
Facebook messages have him convinced I'm cheating
Q. My boyfriend got into my facebook account and saw messages off other guys. I didn't reply to them but I also didn't tell them to go away or delete the people off my friends list. A few weeks after tha he asked to c my phone but my inbox and outbox ...
A. 9 August 2012: WHY??????? .... do you believe that you must ANSWER to this guy????? WHO is he, ..... to you???? Certainly, NOT YOUR FATHER!!!!!
I suggest that you recognize, now, that he is a jealous and controlling sort... and that your life will be better w... (read in full...)
Did he just use me for a booty-call?
Q. Hellow all, First of all, English is not my first language so please understand me ! Now I am in usa just to learn english but I am going back to my country soon. I met a guy from my cousin's b-day party. I liked him at first sight and w...
A. 9 August 2012: 1. IN this country, men try to have a booty call available to them, if they are able...
1A. IF your "friend" takes advantage of you, to have you be his booty call... he is NOT a friend, after all.....
2. YOU deserve to have a respectful and... (read in full...)
Which career choice should I go for?
Q. Hi. This isn't really about a relationship problem. Mainly a life problem. Anyways I'm currently in college for my AA and after that I'm going into the RN course! I know this is an amazing field to go into, but I sometimes don't feel that my heart ...
A. 9 August 2012: Go for the career that will have you doing something that you LOVE TO DO....
All the money in the world can't overcome dissatisfaction in (with) one's toils.....
Good luck....
... (read in full...)
Why am I always longing for more?
Q. So, what is going on? I am married, have a faithful wife, and I am still longing for more? What for? Not necessarily sex. I know that. Attention? Partly. I had a crush on a French girl for a long time; had to fix it, went to see her, confessed, ...
A. 9 August 2012: There's nothing out-of-the-ordinary in your submittal....
We guys are a rambunctious lot.... and love to look at our neighbors' lawns to see how much greener theirs are, compared to our's....
And we're willing to compromise - or give up - any... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sloppy, controlling, rough and forceful sometimes. Would that be the reason I have lost all desire for sex with him?
Q. I'm 18 and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. The problem is I have lost my desire to have sex with him or any overall need to be intimate. My boyfriend and I decided to lose our virginity to each other a month ago and ev...
A. 9 August 2012: You've described the classic scene.... HE is getting his s*x from you.... so, NOW, he believes (as ALL MEN DO!) that he can stop being nice to you.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
He says that I am all he wants in a partner and he wants to settle down with me. So why no planning to make it happen? Am I over anxious?
Q. Hi I would just like some advice on how to figure out if my boyfriend is really meaning it when he says I am all he wants as a partner and he wants to spend the rest of our lives together. He says this a lot but even more if he's had a few drinks (...
A. 9 August 2012: Any guy who has an arrangement (such as you described) with a woman.... is willing to pay lip-service to marriage and all the other trappings of a REAL relationship... as long as that advances his agenda of continuing to have you available for ... (read in full...)
Why do I shut my eyes from reality?
Q. i've been off an on with this guy for 8yrs now. i've never been so infactuated with someone like i was for him.turns out that he is controlling,manipulative and emotionally abusive.we break up atleast twice a year because he becomes very short and ...
A. 8 August 2012: Let's look at THIS phrase in your submittal: "i'm not sure how not to be attracted to him."
Try this. Stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself in that mirror, and say to yourself - repeat again and again - "He's a total a*shole, and isn'... (read in full...)
S this a normal male perspective please?
Q. Hi, this is a question for guys mainly... I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, and spending most of the last 6 months staying round at his house. My lease has come up on my own shared house and so I am moving into a new flat. He sa...
A. 8 August 2012: DON'T move in to an address.... and DON'T contribute money to a guy UNTIL he demonstrates his committment to you .... with a RING and a nuptials ceremony....
How many times... how many different ways.... can I tell you ladies this???? ANY MAN ... (read in full...)
Is he having a mid-life crisis? Is this not love?
Q. Because What would a man his age want with a woman like this? Ok well my Ex and I we are split up for about 5 months . We still tells me about his life , and for the past 3 months he is constantly talking about his friend he met for the first time ...
A. 8 August 2012: Lots of guys would like to have a fling with a hottie who's about the age of his daughter (or granddaughter).
There's no requirement that our desire for that fling comes from anything other than the limbic portion of our brain (the part that con... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to move interstate with him, which means quitting my job, selling my house, etc.
Q. My boyfriend of 3.5 years is considering applying for jobs interstate. He may be lucky to find a job where we currently are (his current one will be ending soon) but i would say it is 50/50. I know it isn't actually happening yet but we need to be ...
A. 8 August 2012: Here's my brotherly advice:
1. IF you are not MARRIED to this guy, then DON'T move to someplace else on HIS behalf. If HE wants you to "tag along" then HE has to be sufficiently COMMITTED to you to put a ring on your finger.... YOU are NOT his ... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 8 August 2012: (Following downtoearth's reply): It was good that you didn't call, text, or chat with her (today).... since - who knows? - you might have interrupted something ELSE important that she was doing......
Sorry to be glib.... but I hope you are doin... (read in full...)
Should I tell him he Isn't the father and risk losing him or keep it from him?
Q. Ok I hope this doesen't sound too shallow...I recently got pregnant with an ex who is a complete and utter ass as well as verbally abusive to me. Shortly after the break-up my best friend introduced me to a friend of her's who is the sweetest most ...
A. 7 August 2012: 1. Yes... it's "too shallow".... AND,
2. It's fraudulent.
HOW are you going to feel when "new boyfriend" learns that you bamboozled him????? ... and set him up for a life of committment based upon YOUR lie and fraud???? AND... when he gets... (read in full...)
Cell phone etiquette, She answers messages during intercourse!
Q. My girlfriend's idea of turning off the cell phone while having sex, is to just put it on vibrate. The noise totally takes me out of the moment and is getting extremely annoying. I ask her to please turn off the phone to allow us to have some ...
A. 7 August 2012: Consider yourself lucky. My Ex- used to READ HER MAIL while we were having intercourse.... and she would take out her checkbook and make payments.... and her courtesy cards and write notes to her college sorority sisters!!!!
My latest G/F is a... (read in full...)
I don't think he knows what empathy is!
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 2 years. I have to take an important exam and have been really stressing about it. So I called my bf, looking for some reassurance and support. But when I talk to him, he just tells me random things that don'...
A. 7 August 2012: The "problem" here is - quite clearly - that YOU are speaking in Martian, and HE is listening in Venusian.
You (two) need a translator!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it right to be jealous that they do more things together than he does with me?
Q. My bf of 2 years and never wants to go out and do things with me. All we do is sleep, really. Or hang out in his bedroom or mine, until we fall asleep. I can't remember the last time we went out and did something. I have mentioned that I would lik...
A. 7 August 2012: "Sounds" to me like you're "second fiddle" in his orchestra.... and are learning that this other girl - who is "first fiddle" - is getting all the maestro's attention.
How long will you stand for it, before you STAND UP for yourself and ask him:... (read in full...)
When he is not being distant he is being mean!
Q. well i been with my boyfriend for 6 years,for some reason he has been really distance and really mean about everything we never spend time together anymore i dont understand whats going on with him i just want it to me like used to be he treats me ...
A. 7 August 2012: What a great "partner"..... he's either DISTANT (non-communicative) or MEAN (nasty)....
Cripes.... why don't you ask: Is he an a*shole or an insufferable je*k???? Same question....
You can do better.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I found the perfect wedding dress, but it is white!
Q. Hello! I am getting married next spring. Excitment! The other day I went window shopping and I've seen the prettiest little (and very cheap) dress ever. But... it's white! I'm in my early 30s and I'm not a virgin anymore and all the people at my we...
A. 7 August 2012: You can always get the white dress, and dye brilliant red splotches on the front of it, to indicate that you are no longer a virgin!!!!
Geeeesh... has it come to this?????
Good luck... and congratulations on your nuptials...... (read in full...)
He verbally abuses me, we had a fist fight, I don't trust him but I love him!
Q. Hello Agonies. Let me get straight to it..I seem to can't let go and move on from my bf, no matter what he ever did or said to me, whom has cheated on me 5x's, he's very disrespectful, he wants to act like a stray dog and do what he wants to do. ...
A. 7 August 2012: The only phrase that makes any sense in your submittal is this one: "..The other day, we had a fist fight..."
ANY "MAN" who raises his fist to a woman (his "girlfriend???") is a DOG.... a BAD DOG... and is NOT WORTH ONE IOTA of your time, at... (read in full...)
Am I the one with the problem or does it sound like he's having second thoughts?
Q. I wrote a while ago about my boyfriend working in calgary and saying hed be home to stay in august but I wasn't so sure... He's not.. He's supposed to be home in december now. We are engaged now. Planning on our wedding to be next august. But the ...
A. 7 August 2012: What kind of work does he do?... (read in full...)
Why hasn't my boyfriend divorced his ex wife yet?
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship of about four months with a wonderful guy, and it's probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. We hardly have cause to fight, we don't live in each others' pockets or see too little of each other and we ...
A. 7 August 2012: 1. Risk the "black mark",
2. Learn what you ought to know about dissolving marriages in Finland,
3. Don't remove your clothes in the presence of this guy until you have the answers to Nos 1 and 2.
I'll give you great odds that you aren't ... (read in full...)
Am I a rebound? Is my boyfriend just using me to make his pregnant ex jealous?
Q. Well thank you for reading. Here it goes short version. I met a guy 3 days after his relationship ended. He has known her for 11 years, dated off and on. Now she is pregnant and broke up with him and we started dating three days after. He te...
A. 7 August 2012: WE can cut to the quick, here....
Yes, you ARE the "rebound" girl. Your delightful companion, there, MUST find a girl almost IMMEDIATELY after dumping Miss Eleven-years-and-pregnant in order to PROVE that he is a "manly MAN".... and YOU are the ... (read in full...)
If a girl tells a guy that she loves him and his reply is, "You, too," what does it mean?
Q. So, with this being a question regarding the male mind (the most confusing universe in existence), I'm really looking for opinions from some guys. However, if there are any girls who have performed miracles and managed to actually understand what ...
A. 7 August 2012: We men are of few words. We learned that in the John Wayne movies that we saw whilest growing up.....
His "....you too..." MEANS: "I love you, baby.... but, as you can see, I am a MAN, and we MEN aren't allowed more than a couple of words, e... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop the horrible comments and accusations of me cheating on him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps accusing me of cheating. I have never had a sexual relationship outside of our relationship. He is always saying that sometimes I am significantly tighter than others. I tell him that its because I am tightening my ...
A. 7 August 2012: You've got yourself a childish, immature and insecure guy for a partner..... and father for your child...
Unfortunately, IF HE doesn't grow up and figure out that that is destructive behaviour, then YOU will have to take control and do the only... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a much older man?
Q. I am a 22 year-old college student and I have always been attracted to older men (50+). My oldest crush was 56 but I have been fantasizing about one of my professors this year who is 65! Isn't that crazy? The funny thing is that he is not even ...
A. 6 August 2012: There's NOTHING "wrong" with you.... People of any/all sexes and any/all ages take up fantasies and enjoy them.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I setting myself up for hurt if I date him? I feel like I'm not good enough for him
Q. Back story: I met this guy last week. We were walking alone in the same direction so we decided to walk together. We had a pretty in-depth conversation. I wouldn't say we hit it off necessarily but we got along pretty well. When we got to where we ...
A. 6 August 2012: Drop the "He's too good for me" schtick and then reconsider if you want to see and spend time with him....
IF he lets you know that you're "not good enough for him" then you will know a lot about him.... i.e. That he's not worthy of your time and... (read in full...)
Should I cross this risky line?
Q. So three years ago, I met this co-worker that absolutely blew my mind. She was special in every shape and form. I spent countless days trying to summon the courage to ask her out. When I finally did find the will, I heard she had relocated to ...
A. 6 August 2012: You shouldn't ask her out UNLESS you are OK with ONE OF YOU having to leave his/her job. Most companies simply will not allow dating between bosses and subordinates...
You SHOULD ask her out if you are OK with one of you having to leave his/her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has stopped calling me by my pet name, should I be worried?
Q. Dear all, Would you be concerned if your boyfriend stopped calling you pet names and replaced with using your first name instead? I noticed my bf of 8 months as started doing this. Were in a ldr see each other alternative weekends and he still has...
A. 6 August 2012: Here's a bit of "guy information":
Guys stop using pet names with girls when we are confident that we have them "hooked" and can, therefore, stop being so darn nice to them.... as we were in the first place, in order to hook them...
This ca... (read in full...)
My first relationship: Am I dating him? Or was it just about sex? Nine years older than me and I don't know where I stand.
Q. Hey! I've got my self into this 'relationship' with a guy but I do not know where I stand anymore! So basically a guy, 9 years my elder, who I've known for 2 years or so started talking to me more often since early June. After that I've been '...
A. 6 August 2012: Some men who chase women are like dogs who chase cars. That is, if they should catch one, they don't know what to do with it....
This guy chased and caught you. HE thinks that having sex with you is the end of the chase... and he's fabricat... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with the married man I had an affair with, and he told me that he wishes I were dead! How could he say such hateful things to me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, he broke it off and it was not pretty. I told his wife...to make a long story short...I would send him cards every once in a while..I think I'm obsessed with him. We ride motorcycles and he is a member of a MC ...
A. 5 August 2012: He's trying to make the split that took place STICK.... and YOU'RE not staying broken up. Wake up and keep your distance from him.... let him get on with his life...
His methods are extreme... but his INTENT seems understandable....
Good lu... (read in full...)
Why am I cruel because I don't want to be this woman's baby daddy?
Q. I met her in my 20's, she worked with me, and is almost 14 years older than me. She had a reputation as the office slut (she worked as a prostitute before), and almost half of my colleagues slept with her after exchanging money to her.(She even ...
A. 5 August 2012: You're "supposed to" walk away from this childish charade... and STAY AWAY from this woman... AND take anything that you hear from your "friends" with an enormous grain of salt.... AND, then, get on with your life...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm a slut because I'm friendly!
Q. i am a friendly outgoing person and i love meeting new people even if it means talking to the person near me while waiting in pizza hut! my bf says its slutty and that i give off the wrong impression. but i chat with old young man women fat thin its ...
A. 5 August 2012: His REAL message is that he wants to micro-control what you do. THAT is the sign of a misuser/abuser....and you will probably get several responses herein that will tell you to not get close to this guy... and, in fact, you'd be wise to stay away ... (read in full...)
My 3 year old is stubborn and it's exhausting! what do I do?
Q. okay i aaam going crazy i got a 3 years old boy he is sooo stubborn never listens and if i say go wash your hands if you dont u il get sick he says okay i want to get sick, brush ur teeth if u dont your teeth well fall out he says i want my teeth ...
A. 5 August 2012: There's a man named John Rosemont who writes books about child-rearing. Get one of more of his books and read them and follow his advice and instructions. There's no reason that a 3-year-old should be controlling YOU (his parent) such as this ... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of revenge sex?
Q. He is the only person I have ever had sex with. At the beginning of the relationship, years ago, I was too. I am going to go out and have some fun with other people, just so that I can stop feeling like such a loser. Maybe then we can decide if we...
A. 5 August 2012: Revenge sex is absolutely FANTASTIC!!!! ..... until about 5 minutes afterwards.... when it sinks in, what you've really done....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
More than a friendship?
Q. This may seem a bit of an odd request for help here but I need some opinions other than mine on a situation. I have become very close to a girl at work and we have become, I think, good friends but I am concerned that I am being used by her. We w...
A. 5 August 2012: What you described is far more than a "friendship"... and, quite frankly, is how affairs start.... IF you're prepared to scuttle your marriage (and her's!) then continue what you're doing. All the "legitimate" questions that you posed here are, ... (read in full...)
My mother is putting me down because I chose school over getting married and having a family sooner!
Q. I am a 30 year old unmarried female who comes from a very strict Middle Eastern family. I moved away from home 8 years ago to pursue my education in Toronto which is a 2 hr drive from where I live. My parents were completely against this decision as ...
A. 5 August 2012: You are a poster-girl for why people should not be so committed to their religion(s) that they use them (religions) for making stupid life decisions....
Go to Toronto.... study hard.... make a good life for yourself.... and don't give a second t... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about going on holiday with my female friend!
Q. hi, i have been with my partner for five years we have just come back from vacation abroad (greece) i wanted to go on holiday in 5 weeks time to spain with my best girlfriend also. The thing is he's not happy about it and he says I'm being selfis...
A. 4 August 2012: REady Honeypie's reply - again and again - until you realize that that is the best advice you're going to get.
Then.... go on your holiday with your G/F ... and if B/F doesn't like it, too bad!!!!!... (read in full...)
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